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By (user no longer on site) OP 35 weeks ago
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To all the experienced fab members, interested in your view on people who will meet you, play, some more than once but not give a verification.
Thoughts? |
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"I’ve met someone about 5 times, they verify others but not me"
Is that through mutual agreement? Is that something you have discussed? I'm genuinely curious.
"I hide my verification for other’s privacy but I’ve stopped meeting them as it’s kinda rude"
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"To all the experienced fab members, interested in your view on people who will meet you, play, some more than once but not give a verification.
Thoughts? "
I recently met someone & left them a verification but they haven’t left me one does it mean they really didn’t like me but they seem to leave verifications for others 🧐 |
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"To all the experienced fab members, interested in your view on people who will meet you, play, some more than once but not give a verification.
Thoughts? "
I don't tend to leave veri's if it's a social meet unless its folk ive chatted to in a club, I always leave one for a play meet tho 😀 |
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"To all the experienced fab members, interested in your view on people who will meet you, play, some more than once but not give a verification.
Thoughts? "
Sometimes when you do leave a verification for someone the vultures and stalkers will suddenly pounce, they can’t see green cheese so sometimes it’s nice just to keep them to yourself till you get bored of them, then leave them a veri and it’s open season  |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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Constructive replys please.
My own view on verification, is nonsense, it is very much in the same vein as trip advisor. Nice spacious rooms
Boy was he hot
Hot to one guy means sfa to me.
So are verification valuable info, do they sway your decision. |
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I do not have any of my verifications on show. What I do and who with is private. I don't want or need the world to see what I am doing and with whom. I only actually ever leave a verification for someone with the agreement they do not post it |
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I think main thing is if they like you as a person and are always welcoming that counts most and pretty much as said some people can be forgetful or have less importance one them than it seems.
we try return them best we can but more so just to highlight them as a person but we try keep on top of the single guys veris more and help good ones stand out
Ps if your reading this check if you have veried us hahahaha |
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I don’t pay much attention to the verifications I only look at them to know the person/couple is genuine
I’ve not once seen a bad verification and I think the good ones are over the top and cringey.
I have a couple of verifications now to prove I’m genuine so I’m not really bothered if future meets leave me veris or not |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"Really not bothered if people verify me. Guess I was initially but not now."
I don’t think anyone would ever doubt your a genuine woman tho 😂 and I mean that in the nicest way possible possible way (mr) |
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Each to their own, I’ve never understood the same people leaving multiple verifications on a persons profile though.
Makes me wonder if they think if they check in often they’ll get a rewards bonus |
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"I do not have any of my verifications on show. What I do and who with is private. I don't want or need the world to see what I am doing and with whom. I only actually ever leave a verification for someone with the agreement they do not post it"
This the crude ones are the worst, most of the verifications I have and post are all social meets only, tbf it’s only socially I’m really meeting these days kind of out of meeting anyone these days as there’s very few men of substance to be found nowadays |
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"Each to their own, I’ve never understood the same people leaving multiple verifications on a persons profile though.
Makes me wonder if they think if they check in often they’ll get a rewards bonus "
I think it shows continuity that the person isn’t just a one off wonder, a fluke but actually someone who regularly shows up and is respectful they’re not a one shot cowboy, how many folk can act nice for that one verification and then turn out to be an asshole and folk like I thought they were going to be ok because you verified them, ok the day I met them they were nice and genuine and I did only meet them once !! It has happened on numerous occasions where people have met someone on the basis a trusted fab friend verified them in the past to them meet them and find out they’re a complete wanker !! As I tell all my friends just because I’ve verified them and he was decent conversation over coffee don’t assume anything |
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I am also going to say what others won't well because I'm an arsehole that way 😂 I will end up on the verification paper trail. And yes,if I see something that doesn't work for me then it will put me off meeting them. I don't understand why people are not more careful with this. It baffles me. Or maybe I just have levels that I stick to. Christ, I sound so far up my own f4cking arse! 😂 I'm no really, honestly!! 😂😂😂
"I do not have any of my verifications on show. What I do and who with is private. I don't want or need the world to see what I am doing and with whom. I only actually ever leave a verification for someone with the agreement they do not post it
This the crude ones are the worst, most of the verifications I have and post are all social meets only, tbf it’s only socially I’m really meeting these days kind of out of meeting anyone these days as there’s very few men of substance to be found nowadays "
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Oh Christ. This!! Met. Left a verification straight away only to realise as time went on that they were in fact absolute weapons. Learned that lesson years ago. I now wait for the after taste of the meet before I even decide if I am leaving a verification
"Each to their own, I’ve never understood the same people leaving multiple verifications on a persons profile though.
Makes me wonder if they think if they check in often they’ll get a rewards bonus
I think it shows continuity that the person isn’t just a one off wonder, a fluke but actually someone who regularly shows up and is respectful they’re not a one shot cowboy, how many folk can act nice for that one verification and then turn out to be an asshole and folk like I thought they were going to be ok because you verified them, ok the day I met them they were nice and genuine and I did only meet them once !! It has happened on numerous occasions where people have met someone on the basis a trusted fab friend verified them in the past to them meet them and find out they’re a complete wanker !! As I tell all my friends just because I’ve verified them and he was decent conversation over coffee don’t assume anything "
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We definitely heavily depend on single guys verifications when deciding if we will chat and arrange a social. I really like to see repeat verifications on a guys account because it shows that someone felt safe and happy enough to meet again and think it speaks alot for the person's character.
We don't pay alot of attention to couples verifications or single ladies as we tend to meet them together and at clubs so don't approach with the same caution. Its definitely just nice to leave one so people can show they are genuine should they want to display. I suppose it's probably unique to fab and good fab etiquette to leave one if you have had a positive experience xx |
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"I am also going to say what others won't well because I'm an arsehole that way 😂 I will end up on the verification paper trail. And yes,if I see something that doesn't work for me then it will put me off meeting them. I don't understand why people are not more careful with this. It baffles me. Or maybe I just have levels that I stick to. Christ, I sound so far up my own f4cking arse! 😂 I'm no really, honestly!! 😂😂😂
I do not have any of my verifications on show. What I do and who with is private. I don't want or need the world to see what I am doing and with whom. I only actually ever leave a verification for someone with the agreement they do not post it
This the crude ones are the worst, most of the verifications I have and post are all social meets only, tbf it’s only socially I’m really meeting these days kind of out of meeting anyone these days as there’s very few men of substance to be found nowadays "
Oh yes the verification trail !!
That was how I found out my ex husband was in fact sleeping with men as well as women and couples behind my back and meeting in parks in Aberdeen !! And here me try e bad one for a one night stand because he wasn’t showing me any attention for about 8 months !! I made one mistake and I’m the asshole to everyone, but lesson learned can’t trust anyone ! On the plus side the wedding was epic |
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"Really not bothered if people verify me. Guess I was initially but not now.
I don’t think anyone would ever doubt your a genuine woman tho 😂 and I mean that in the nicest way possible possible way (mr)"
Thank you.x |
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"To all the experienced fab members, interested in your view on people who will meet you, play, some more than once but not give a verification.
Thoughts? "
Personally, I think it is rude. I went through a longggggg period of time asking men not to verify me. (It's tantamount to a signed confession if caught!).
I think certainly men see verifications differently from women. Many seem to believe that getting that first green tick is going to open the floodgates and they'll be drowning in muff. Others use verifications as if leaving a 'menshie' - "I've shagged this!".
Ending on a positive note, you mentioned you have met them more than once.. perhaps they are holding back on verifying you until they're finished with you. I did once meet a guy and considered doing that. Hmmmmm...he was a hunny! LOL
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"To all the experienced fab members, interested in your view on people who will meet you, play, some more than once but not give a verification.
Thoughts? I recently met someone & left them a verification but they haven’t left me one does it mean they really didn’t like me but they seem to leave verifications for others 🧐"
Why do people get hung up about verification. What does it mean?
Oh genuine, I'm genuine, breathing and a pulse.
Does a verification show you up as a slag( all sexes)
Verification is it a bit like TripAdvisor? |
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Does a verification show you up as a slag( all sexes)
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Just because users have multiple verifications doesnt mean they have had sex with them , even so, kinda closed minded considering part of the ethos of swinging is about sexual liberation , but all too often degrogitory terms such as slag are banded about here all too easy . Shaming someone over there sexual exploits on here is defeating the purpose of here .
Also makes me laugh that people slate others over there sex life and practices while being on here themselves .
For a site thats based on sexual encounters and activities the judgement on here is laughable , what others choose to do on here is no others buisness , verifications are there as a way of giving potential meets the sense of who they are meeting should they choose to go forward ... everyone on here has choices , who they meet , what verifications they choose to show or write and how often they choose to do it , should be done without the judgement and outdated views that because someone enjoys sex in whatever terms they choose ,allows them to be branded a slag . |
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Does a verification show you up as a slag( all sexes)
Just because users have multiple verifications doesnt mean they have had sex with them , even so, kinda closed minded considering part of the ethos of swinging is about sexual liberation , but all too often degrogitory terms such as slag are banded about here all too easy . Shaming someone over there sexual exploits on here is defeating the purpose of here .
Also makes me laugh that people slate others over there sex life and practices while being on here themselves .
For a site thats based on sexual encounters and activities the judgement on here is laughable , what others choose to do on here is no others buisness , verifications are there as a way of giving potential meets the sense of who they are meeting should they choose to go forward ... everyone on here has choices , who they meet , what verifications they choose to show or write and how often they choose to do it , should be done without the judgement and outdated views that because someone enjoys sex in whatever terms they choose ,allows them to be branded a slag . "
I think i just got a girl crush reading this  well said xx N |
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By (user no longer on site) 22 weeks ago
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Does a verification show you up as a slag( all sexes)
Just because users have multiple verifications doesnt mean they have had sex with them , even so, kinda closed minded considering part of the ethos of swinging is about sexual liberation , but all too often degrogitory terms such as slag are banded about here all too easy . Shaming someone over there sexual exploits on here is defeating the purpose of here .
Also makes me laugh that people slate others over there sex life and practices while being on here themselves .
For a site thats based on sexual encounters and activities the judgement on here is laughable , what others choose to do on here is no others buisness , verifications are there as a way of giving potential meets the sense of who they are meeting should they choose to go forward ... everyone on here has choices , who they meet , what verifications they choose to show or write and how often they choose to do it , should be done without the judgement and outdated views that because someone enjoys sex in whatever terms they choose ,allows them to be branded a slag . "
You took apart of my post out of context.
Why |
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Does a verification show you up as a slag( all sexes)
Just because users have multiple verifications doesnt mean they have had sex with them , even so, kinda closed minded considering part of the ethos of swinging is about sexual liberation , but all too often degrogitory terms such as slag are banded about here all too easy . Shaming someone over there sexual exploits on here is defeating the purpose of here .
Also makes me laugh that people slate others over there sex life and practices while being on here themselves .
For a site thats based on sexual encounters and activities the judgement on here is laughable , what others choose to do on here is no others buisness , verifications are there as a way of giving potential meets the sense of who they are meeting should they choose to go forward ... everyone on here has choices , who they meet , what verifications they choose to show or write and how often they choose to do it , should be done without the judgement and outdated views that because someone enjoys sex in whatever terms they choose ,allows them to be branded a slag .
You took apart of my post out of context.
Why "
I'm not wrong , you asked if a "verification show you up as a slag" once again the word slag being all too easy banded about this place . |
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