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By (user no longer on site) OP 11 weeks ago
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So is it me or are people's manners going rapidly downhill these days?
I am a man who has two sisters and my best friend is a lesbian, in fact she's probably more blokey than me in terms of personality lol
So yes I spend time with them and yes we go for lunch, why is it some people take the hump assuming I'm on a meet with someone or full on go in a huff.
This is fab it isn't a dating site we don't belong to one another and men and women can be related and can be friends, what is going on with this place these days, think moving forward it'll be less drama meeting couples only or groups
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It's no ones buisness who you choose to spend your time with and in what capacity , too many folk think that if they've had a meet with someone then their entitled to have some control over who you meet or talk too . Do you , your choose who you spend your time with no one else , if anything the red flags serve a purpose , cut it off , life's far too short to be worrying who will take offence in whatever you chose to do x |
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Spend your time with people you love and get on well with.as life can be cut short.thats the matter with fab these days to many folks telling others what to do and what there doing wrong.come on people fab should be fun for everyone after all we are we all on fab for some fun and meet new and exciting people |
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"It's no ones buisness who you choose to spend your time with and in what capacity , too many folk think that if they've had a meet with someone then their entitled to have some control over who you meet or talk too . Do you , your choose who you spend your time with no one else , if anything the red flags serve a purpose , cut it off , life's far too short to be worrying who will take offence in whatever you chose to do x"
Exactly this. Some folk will get weirdly possessive or controlling after being intimate with someone, but that's their own issue to work on. Sex isn't a promise of anything, certainly not exclusivity. Spend time with whomever you like, you're not breaking any rules if you haven't agreed to any.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 11 weeks ago
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"It's no ones buisness who you choose to spend your time with and in what capacity , too many folk think that if they've had a meet with someone then their entitled to have some control over who you meet or talk too . Do you , your choose who you spend your time with no one else , if anything the red flags serve a purpose , cut it off , life's far too short to be worrying who will take offence in whatever you chose to do x
Exactly this. Some folk will get weirdly possessive or controlling after being intimate with someone, but that's their own issue to work on. Sex isn't a promise of anything, certainly not exclusivity. Spend time with whomever you like, you're not breaking any rules if you haven't agreed to any.
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Thank you, nice to see people that have the same outlook, yeah I don't need an abusive message from someone who wants to meet me on here, and I reiterate they're pursuing a meet with me, because they seen me in a restaurant with two women, calling them sluts..they're my sister's and we're having a family get together which is rare these days, meanwhile they've got a verification list like a TripAdvisor review board hahahaha |
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I would consider that being disrespectful.
If you meet someone what’s it got to do with someone you chatted or hooked up with.
If they thought you were meeting someone then it’s up to them to try harder.
I never understood the people who start arguing thinking it’s going to lead to sex
Just live your life man |
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"I don't feel that starting a thread to shame someone's behaviour is very mannerly "
I dont think its shaming , no names have been mention nor has any hint as to who it is he's meaning been disclosed .OP is merely stating his frustration in the situation , no different to what many others have done .
Im not picking a fight on the forums , genuinely interested if it was a woman posting that she was getting abuse would they be met with the same response , all too easy it is to single a man out for voicing their discontent in a situation as being something entirely different to what it is . |
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Just shows what turns one person on turns another off.
Personally I like knowing they're meeting others. Even though it was innocent in OP situation, neither would bother me at all. Like you said, this isn't dating. |
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"Manners are definetly rare on here. Though if anything just shows a red flag before meeting, so wouldn't meet. It's actually a positive. "
Totally agree—manners can be a great filter! It’s nice when people show their true colors early, saves everyone time. Definitely a positive way to look at it!
Plus, it’s always refreshing to come across someone who values respect and decency. It’s like finding a hidden gem in a sea of... well, let’s just say less polished personalities. Here’s to hoping there are still plenty of good ones out there! |
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"I don't feel that starting a thread to shame someone's behaviour is very mannerly
I dont think its shaming , no names have been mention nor has any hint as to who it is he's meaning been disclosed .OP is merely stating his frustration in the situation , no different to what many others have done .
Im not picking a fight on the forums , genuinely interested if it was a woman posting that she was getting abuse would they be met with the same response , all too easy it is to single a man out for voicing their discontent in a situation as being something entirely different to what it is ."
Yes, I'd think the same if a woman had posted the thread |
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"So is it me or are people's manners going rapidly downhill these days?
I am a man who has two sisters and my best friend is a lesbian, in fact she's probably more blokey than me in terms of personality lol
So yes I spend time with them and yes we go for lunch, why is it some people take the hump assuming I'm on a meet with someone or full on go in a huff.
This is fab it isn't a dating site we don't belong to one another and men and women can be related and can be friends, what is going on with this place these days, think moving forward it'll be less drama meeting couples only or groups
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I must be thick. I'm not seeing a manners issue, I'm seeing people thinking you're banging your sisters or butch best mate by assumption.
But in the main I actually agree that simple manners are being lost with generations. I consider myself exceptionally polite, gentlemanly and considerate to others.
Yet, if I go back a few generations gentlemen were ditching their caps, putting jackets in puddles and all sorts of weird and wonderfully polite shit. Fuck that. I've got a puffer jacket and when that gets wet it's a bugger. |
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By *enelope2UWoman 11 weeks ago
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"It's no ones buisness who you choose to spend your time with and in what capacity , too many folk think that if they've had a meet with someone then their entitled to have some control over who you meet or talk too . Do you , your choose who you spend your time with no one else , if anything the red flags serve a purpose , cut it off , life's far too short to be worrying who will take offence in whatever you chose to do x
Exactly this. Some folk will get weirdly possessive or controlling after being intimate with someone, but that's their own issue to work on. Sex isn't a promise of anything, certainly not exclusivity. Spend time with whomever you like, you're not breaking any rules if you haven't agreed to any.
Thank you, nice to see people that have the same outlook, yeah I don't need an abusive message from someone who wants to meet me on here, and I reiterate they're pursuing a meet with me, because they seen me in a restaurant with two women, calling them sluts..they're my sister's and we're having a family get together which is rare these days, meanwhile they've got a verification list like a TripAdvisor review board hahahaha"
So the verification list ...PRIOR..was irrelevant and now that you're angry it becomes.. relevant in what way?...
Maybe they were used to honesty from others and you being..."private or secretive" was their first experience in that situation. I wouldn't care if I saw a person I was fucking out with someone else because they'd communicate that or not be afraid to say hi.. this is a FRIEND I know..friend..these are my sister's... And I'd simply say hi sisters...good to see you Joe blow, enjoy your lunch...and carry on with my day.
You know, like ADULTS who communicate do.
If I hadn't approached him but he saw me then once I saw him again I don't think there's harm in him simply saying..hey I saw you Thursday. I was having lunch with my 2 sisters did you eat at the restaurant too? How was your week...
Again like "normal" humans would communicate. |
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I think your missing the point ,the way i took it is they went huffy and he suffered abuse assuming the females he was with was a meet .
I dont like fab life with strangers mixing into family life. The 2 should be seperate , just because someone knows the online version of you doesnt mean they actually know you .In the years Ive been here its always been an unwritten rule a nod or a smile of acknowledgement (should you be comfortable in doing so). No one has the right to force there presence on anyone out in the vanilla world , thats just scary thats deemed acceptable .
Users have that right to a private life staying private .
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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"I don't feel that starting a thread to shame someone's behaviour is very mannerly
I dont think its shaming , no names have been mention nor has any hint as to who it is he's meaning been disclosed .OP is merely stating his frustration in the situation , no different to what many others have done .
Im not picking a fight on the forums , genuinely interested if it was a woman posting that she was getting abuse would they be met with the same response , all too easy it is to single a man out for voicing their discontent in a situation as being something entirely different to what it is ."
You are better off ignoring her. She's just wants the reaction. |
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By *djojoTV/TS 11 weeks ago
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Unfortunately manners has been on the decline for some time, not just in here. But everywhere. The problem is that a great many in society, learned their moral compass from each other and sources that are a bit dodgy. In my generation our moral compass was taught to us by different religious groups from a very young age. And thus religion is no longer an active part of a young person growing up, so this has consequences. The other side to it is that a great many in society are becoming socially inept because of the overuse of technology. For me, i just carry on being the best that i can be and hope that it rubs off on people. |
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