Hi, I am very new to this world and was wondering what makes a good first message? I've sent a few "hiya fancy a chat" then it dawned on me it's a pretty crap way to meet people as unless I wanted a chat I probably wouldn't reply to a message like that. Xx |
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I generally pick up on something from their profile and send a message based on that. I wouldn't bother opening a message that said 'hi fancy a chat' cause you can read that without opening the message. Imagination and humour go a long way for me but I do generally look myself when I'm interested in meeting someone. It's very rare that someone will message me and I'm interested.  |
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"Thanks dirty girl. I'm so bad at this lol I really sit for ages trying to think of something to say but my mind just blanks. I've never really been good at speaking to people I don't know lol"
I'd be inclined to join in posting in the forums and that way you can pick up on humour and interests from people in your area. It makes it easier to approach people once you've shared a little banter.
It works differently for lots of people, you just need to find what you're comfortable with. There are lots of friendly souls here and I'm sure you'll have no problem finding people to chatter to.  |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
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"Thanks dirty girl. I'm so bad at this lol I really sit for ages trying to think of something to say but my mind just blanks. I've never really been good at speaking to people I don't know lol
I'd be inclined to join in posting in the forums and that way you can pick up on humour and interests from people in your area. It makes it easier to approach people once you've shared a little banter.
It works differently for lots of people, you just need to find what you're comfortable with. There are lots of friendly souls here and I'm sure you'll have no problem finding people to chatter to. "
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"Hi, I am very new to this world and was wondering what makes a good first message? I've sent a few "hiya fancy a chat" then it dawned on me it's a pretty crap way to meet people as unless I wanted a chat I probably wouldn't reply to a message like that. Xx"
Unblock single guys lol |
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Generally I think it's guys who have to send messages that have more effort than 'hi' to attract the attention of a Cpl/female. yes it's nice to receive a message which has effort put into it, but realistically a single female can put 'hi,do you fancy chatting' and they will get a response |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've tired many, many ways. From massive texts containing proof I've read their profiles to simple quick one liners. Nothing works for me but maybe I'm just shocking at this! Can't give up tho! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You'll get someone one day xx
I think it must be a lot harder for guys. I literally got hundreds of messages in just a few days that I gave up reading and blocking all obvious Pricks. "
Hopefully it a lot harder for guys cause I've had 2 replies and then they went silent! X |
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"Generally I think it's guys who have to send messages that have more effort than 'hi' to attract the attention of a Cpl/female. yes it's nice to receive a message which has effort put into it, but realistically a single female can put 'hi,do you fancy chatting' and they will get a response "
Spot on. Dont think a single female mailing a guy needs that many words though. |
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"Generally I think it's guys who have to send messages that have more effort than 'hi' to attract the attention of a Cpl/female. yes it's nice to receive a message which has effort put into it, but realistically a single female can put 'hi,do you fancy chatting' and they will get a response "
From a bloke perhaps. 
If I got that I'd assume it was a single bloke in a girls profile. |
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"Generally I think it's guys who have to send messages that have more effort than 'hi' to attract the attention of a Cpl/female. yes it's nice to receive a message which has effort put into it, but realistically a single female can put 'hi,do you fancy chatting' and they will get a response
From a bloke perhaps.
If I got that I'd assume it was a single bloke in a girls profile. "
You can tell when it's a guy pretending to be a female/couple when after 3 messages it turns to sex talk |
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We find a detailed rant in broken English about what we'd like to do to the girl / female half of a couple goes down really well. Especially if we pretend the male half doesn't exist.
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