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over a year ago
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"Have you discussed it with her, and have you mentioned the possibility of visiting anywhere? "
yes few times shes just bit nervous and im new to it too
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If she's not sure don't push her to your way of thinking. she likes the idea of going somewhere for a look 1st but can u do that "
And if she doesn't like it? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If she's not sure don't push her to your way of thinking. she likes the idea of going somewhere for a look 1st but can u do that
And if she doesn't like it?"
well its up2 her |
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over a year ago
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Get some random dick pics printed off the internet and post them to her house with the message 'Hi, howz u' scribbled below.
At least that would get her an introduction to here. |
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By *andsCouple
over a year ago
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"Get some random dick pics printed off the internet and post them to her house with the message 'Hi, howz u' scribbled below.
At least that would get her an introduction to here."
 that made me chortle but to be fair we never get dick pics sent maybe I’m doing something wrong |
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A meet at CJ's would be good. The rooms down stairs allow for good conversations, a laugh and even as a single female I have always felt safe and comfortable. Staff are welcoming, will show you around at the start of the night, when not much is happening upstairs. Avoid greedy girl nights, to much for a newbie, it would put her off forever. Remember you don't need to swing, you could just be with each other until you both feel like trying. |
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A club wouldnt be a good option imo its a decision a person needs to come to themselves and should never be coerced into it by any means.
mention its an intrest and let her decide herself in her own time |
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"Get some random dick pics printed off the internet and post them to her house with the message 'Hi, howz u' scribbled below.
At least that would get her an introduction to here."
That was class x
Cjs as a wee introduction to this side of life - you don’t need to play at all
Have a nosey and leave if it’s not for you
I think from what you are saying she’s keen but nervous ? So go and chat to some people but don’t put any pressure on yourselves
Just don’t take her to a gggb perhaps a couples night to start with  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Trying to get new gf into idea of swinging is there any clubs or meets we could go to just to take it slowly see what she thinks"
And does she know your on here and vetified from meeting. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Get some random dick pics printed off the internet and post them to her house with the message 'Hi, howz u' scribbled below.
At least that would get her an introduction to here."
hahaha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A meet at CJ's would be good. The rooms down stairs allow for good conversations, a laugh and even as a single female I have always felt safe and comfortable. Staff are welcoming, will show you around at the start of the night, when not much is happening upstairs. Avoid greedy girl nights, to much for a newbie, it would put her off forever. Remember you don't need to swing, you could just be with each other until you both feel like trying. "
ok thanks we wi look into cjs
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Trying to get new gf into idea of swinging is there any clubs or meets we could go to just to take it slowly see what she thinks
And does she know your on here and vetified from meeting. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Get some random dick pics printed off the internet and post them to her house with the message 'Hi, howz u' scribbled below.
At least that would get her an introduction to here.
That was class x
Cjs as a wee introduction to this side of life - you don’t need to play at all
Have a nosey and leave if it’s not for you
I think from what you are saying she’s keen but nervous ? So go and chat to some people but don’t put any pressure on yourselves
Just don’t take her to a gggb perhaps a couples night to start with "
yes she is keen but very nervous thank u |
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Clubs are a good option, you must keep telling her to have an open mind and not to judge anyone no matter what she sees. Assure her you are going for a look only and to chat to people and ask questions . Explain its just like a pub with a bit more sexily dressed patrons and prepare her for more forward conversations. You will be fine.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" you must keep telling her to have an open mind and not to judge anyone no matter what she sees. "
You've really no idea how manipulative that sounds, have you? |
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"Trying to get new gf into idea of swinging is there any clubs or meets we could go to just to take it slowly see what she thinks"
If you've brought up the subject and she doesn't appear into it then leave it. I fucking hate it when someone assumes they know what I need or want sexually. |
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"Trying to get new gf into idea of swinging is there any clubs or meets we could go to just to take it slowly see what she thinks
If you've brought up the subject and she doesn't appear into it then leave it. I fucking hate it when someone assumes they know what I need or want sexually. "
Sorry, just saw your message saying she likes the idea but not sure where to look. Let her set up her own profile on here then and get chatting, looking at socials, clubs, etc. |
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"If she's not sure don't push her to your way of thinking. she likes the idea of going somewhere for a look 1st but can u do that "
I went cjs just after Xmas really great place to go but I kinda what it.lol left before we had any fun, gf was laughing her head off.lol |
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" you must keep telling her to have an open mind and not to judge anyone no matter what she sees.
You've really no idea how manipulative that sounds, have you?"
I agree mainly because I judge everything and everyone I see |
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" you must keep telling her to have an open mind and not to judge anyone no matter what she sees.
You've really no idea how manipulative that sounds, have you?"
I take it the rest of my advice was great thats why you carefully edited my FULL post to serve your agenda. 
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By (user no longer on site)
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Now as she knows your already on here and she is ok with it why not introduce her to the couple you have meet and do some same room swapping and see if she is ok watching you with another woman and your ok watching her with a different man  |
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"Now as she knows your already on here and she is ok with it why not introduce her to the couple you have meet and do some same room swapping and see if she is ok watching you with another woman and your ok watching her with a different man "
shes not wanting to meet local to start with |
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Show her the CJ's site book in and take her, we went to CJ's before we knew anything about Fab met some lovely people who made us feel at ease and answered everything we had to ask or know, never played left had another discussion never looked back  |
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"Show her the CJ's site book in and take her, we went to CJ's before we knew anything about Fab met some lovely people who made us feel at ease and answered everything we had to ask or know, never played left had another discussion never looked back "
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