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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Good morning fabbers.
I was looking to my first social via Fab last night after a few messages back & forth on here in the early evening followed by a vid call on Kik an hour before meeting.
After getting ready and walking into town (in the rain), the couple were not in the bar they said they were going to be in only 15 mins prior and then have ghosted me on Fab and Kik since!
I would maybe expect this from a couple with no verifications, but they have multiple. Shame, as the woman was quite delightful. Has anyone experienced the same from a verified user?
Not a great first experience. I'll give Fab one more try...
P.S. Any women/couple available for a social this afternoon/evening? Sorry, had to get it in |
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I've been up here a number of months, and had more then one not turn up, sometime it's the thrill of meeting acting out fantasies, then not following through with the meet. It happens all over the country but going to socials /clubs proves your genuine to a lot of couples. Don't take to heart it's hard for a single guy to get started into the world of swing |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It's not just me then. At least have the decency to say you changed your mind or found an alternative..
Didn't even get a veri out of it for the vid call, and I know how many people only meet if a profile has that all important green tick. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Did you see both on your video chat?
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Yes, they were in their apartment ready to go out. Spoke for a good 15 mins and were into the same things etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ah pretty shitty thing to do then.
If they didn't want to take it further they should have txt rather than letting you go wait for them.
You can report the profile but nothing really gets done by doing so.
Rack it up to experience and move on. |
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I was chatting with a guy for a possible meet over here in Cyprus and without any arrangements
or getting to know us he started telling me how MSD would get his 'load' if we all met up , ehhh naw aint gonna happen mate ever, was the reply. Not saying this is the case in whats happened in your experience last night but it takes the slightest wrong word or any little thing to make people change their mind and because of it they wont even give an explanation. If they are well verified as you said then they dont sound like random timewasters to me. Nor does it sound like cold feet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's a pretty crap thing to do, especially as you saw them both in the video. It's their loss so put it down to experience and move on. All the best OP x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I was chatting with a guy for a possible meet over here in Cyprus and without any arrangements
or getting to know us he started telling me how MSD would get his 'load' if we all met up , ehhh naw aint gonna happen mate ever, was the reply. Not saying this is the case in whats happened in your experience last night but it takes the slightest wrong word or any little thing to make people change their mind and because of it they wont even give an explanation. If they are well verified as you said then they dont sound like random timewasters to me. Nor does it sound like cold feet. "
It was basically a case of them saying, we're in 'Soul' in the chat (they also had posted a status update saying they were there), then I replied see you shortly. They've read my messages and since posted further statuses on here so I'm putting it down to them thinking it's okay to mess someone about, probably because I'm a newbie. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was chatting with a guy for a possible meet over here in Cyprus and without any arrangements
or getting to know us he started telling me how MSD would get his 'load' if we all met up , ehhh naw aint gonna happen mate ever, was the reply. Not saying this is the case in whats happened in your experience last night but it takes the slightest wrong word or any little thing to make people change their mind and because of it they wont even give an explanation. If they are well verified as you said then they dont sound like random timewasters to me. Nor does it sound like cold feet. " but even if it was sometji g he said..they should have at least have the manners to say they changed their minds and not leave the poor fella standing looking like a dick. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That's a crap thing to do. Wish we could name and shame!
This xWell it wasnt us , we're showing 2300 miles + away. Thats narrowed it down a little . "
Just a tad x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"That's a crap thing to do. Wish we could name and shame!
This xWell it wasnt us , we're showing 2300 miles + away. Thats narrowed it down a little .
Just a tad x"
Might have to travel that far to get a meet from here. =)
Must have been a full moon last night and affected their brain cells. I enjoyed the walked in the rain, that made up for it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Happened a couple of times to me.. Doesn't take thirty seconds to send a wee message saying, "sorry. Somethings come up and we can't make it.. Or we aren't interested.."... Just chalk it up to experience op.. All you can do. |
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"I was chatting with a guy for a possible meet over here in Cyprus and without any arrangements
or getting to know us he started telling me how MSD would get his 'load' if we all met up , ehhh naw aint gonna happen mate ever, was the reply. Not saying this is the case in whats happened in your experience last night but it takes the slightest wrong word or any little thing to make people change their mind and because of it they wont even give an explanation. If they are well verified as you said then they dont sound like random timewasters to me. Nor does it sound like cold feet. but even if it was sometji g he said..they should have at least have the manners to say they changed their minds and not leave the poor fella standing looking like a dick."
No , i agree oldie. It is definitely a shitty thing to do, you know me though, i always try and see things from different angles and we do only have one side here . If it happened the way as described then totally out of order as you said , very easy to drop him a message and say you had changed your mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wouldn't worry about it to much OP. You look like an attractive guy so as long as you don't come across as a diddy when talking one on one with folk then I'm sure you won't be waiting long. |
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Sorry to hear that OP. As others have said it's a crap thing to do. Manners cost nothing, & it would have taken seconds to tell you it was all off. Just need to put it down to experience, & ditto to what Mrs Doggy has said.
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That's very annoying for you, especially so after the video call! You would think that would have made it more likely to go ahead. Weird they've kept reading your messages and not replying. We're not all like that, just keep trying to arrange something and you'll get there in the end. I feel for you though! x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Doggy, missnaughty, greeneyes thank you for your responses. Think I need to get myself to Scotland
Glasgow, not Scotland!Ok Ok he's a diddy
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Cheeky I've only been in Scotland for a few months so sometimes forget I'm living here |
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"Doggy, missnaughty, greeneyes thank you for your responses. Think I need to get myself to Scotland
Glasgow, not Scotland!Ok Ok he's a diddy
Cheeky I've only been in Scotland for a few months so sometimes forget I'm living here "
Unfortunately if you made that mistake last night, it doesn't take much to put people off. Still doesn't make an excuse for a no show without letting you know though.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I experienced this too, got ready had been keeping in touch got there and they were a no show. No explanation nothing.
Brush it off some people get cold feet and cant just simply say so. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Doggy, missnaughty, greeneyes thank you for your responses. Think I need to get myself to Scotland
Glasgow, not Scotland!Ok Ok he's a diddy
Cheeky I've only been in Scotland for a few months so sometimes forget I'm living here " did the weather not remind you? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Doggy, missnaughty, greeneyes thank you for your responses. Think I need to get myself to Scotland
Glasgow, not Scotland!Ok Ok he's a diddy
Cheeky I've only been in Scotland for a few months so sometimes forget I'm living here
Unfortunately if you made that mistake last night, it doesn't take much to put people off. Still doesn't make an excuse for a no show without letting you know though.
R "
No grammatical mistakes were made last night It's all on them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Doggy, missnaughty, greeneyes thank you for your responses. Think I need to get myself to Scotland
Glasgow, not Scotland!Ok Ok he's a diddy
Cheeky I've only been in Scotland for a few months so sometimes forget I'm living here did the weather not remind you? "
I need the sound of bagpipes to be ringing throughout the city, on top of the weather, to keep me reminded. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It happens up here on occasions do best to put it down to experience and block them and move on . There are other genuine people up here but it seems there not up for meeting as much these days . |
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By *tew008Man
over a year ago
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"It's not just me then. At least have the decency to say you changed your mind or found an alternative..
Didn't even get a veri out of it for the vid call, and I know how many people only meet if a profile has that all important green tick."
Had video calls and never gotten a veri either.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Aberdeen's a great night out though you know... .
Wait until you've been hear 5yrs "
It was my jokey attempt to get the women who have commented on this thread to spend a night or two in Aberdeen... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah unfortunately happens to everyone on here, males, fems and cpls. My last planned social was pretty much the same, left sitting in Costa for a while, the lady read my messages asking if all ok but never replied since but on all the time. Just shake it off and move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That's a crap thing to do. Wish we could name and shame!
This xWell it wasnt us , we're showing 2300 miles + away. Thats narrowed it down a little .
Just a tad x
Might have to travel that far to get a meet from here. =)
Must have been a full moon last night and affected their brain cells. I enjoyed the walked in the rain, that made up for it "
Rain would have cooled off your horn a wee bit anyway, lol |
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Lost count of the number of no shows I've had. Seems to come with fab unfortunately. Not an ego boost at all and have been tempted to quit fab a few times because of these arseholes and time wasters.
On the up side, I've met some amazing, genuine and fun people, some of then I've even come to see as friends. And they do make all of this worthwhile x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lost count of the number of no shows I've had. Seems to come with fab unfortunately. Not an ego boost at all and have been tempted to quit fab a few times because of these arseholes and time wasters.
On the up side, I've met some amazing, genuine and fun people, some of then I've even come to see as friends. And they do make all of this worthwhile x"
Here's hoping whenever meet 2 comes around, they're genuine and we have a great time.
Thanks for all your messages. It just so happens that most of you (sorry fellas) would be the people I would love to meet up with. Maybe our paths will cross someday. Kx |
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By *erberaWoman
over a year ago
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Sorry to hear this happened to you OP. Sadly it happens all too often on fab, I've had several no shows over the years which is why I don't often meet anyone new nowadays
Don't give up on Aberdeen yet tho, we aren't all bad |
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By *erberaWoman
over a year ago
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"Typical of Aberdeen area to be honest, loads of no shows from females and couples"
Plenty no shows from males too so don't just knock females and couples! They are all equally guilty of wasting folks time.
Its what happens all over on a site like this, they enjoy the chase and looking at the naughty pics and chat but when it comes to actually meeting they won't appear
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"Typical of Aberdeen area to be honest, loads of no shows from females and couples
Plenty no shows from males too so don't just knock females and couples! They are all equally guilty of wasting folks time.
Its what happens all over on a site like this, they enjoy the chase and looking at the naughty pics and chat but when it comes to actually meeting they won't appear
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The Aberdeen mentality of thinking everyone knows everyone and scared someone knows you are in a swinging site |
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"Typical of Aberdeen area to be honest, loads of no shows from females and couples
Plenty no shows from males too so don't just knock females and couples! They are all equally guilty of wasting folks time.
Its what happens all over on a site like this, they enjoy the chase and looking at the naughty pics and chat but when it comes to actually meeting they won't appear
The Aberdeen mentality of thinking everyone knows everyone and scared someone knows you are in a swinging site "
Not everyone in Aberdeen has that mentality.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Typical of Aberdeen area to be honest, loads of no shows from females and couples
Plenty no shows from males too so don't just knock females and couples! They are all equally guilty of wasting folks time.
Its what happens all over on a site like this, they enjoy the chase and looking at the naughty pics and chat but when it comes to actually meeting they won't appear
The Aberdeen mentality of thinking everyone knows everyone and scared someone knows you are in a swinging site "
Instead of feeling sorry for myself I put a few feelers out yesterday evening and ended up agreeing on meeting a woman in Stonehaven... and she showed! Haha. Had a great night into the very wee hours.
My question now is, what do you do when both users are unverified but you want to leave a veri?!
Seems one of us needs to meet with a verified user before we van verify each other? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Typical of Aberdeen area to be honest, loads of no shows from females and couples
Plenty no shows from males too so don't just knock females and couples! They are all equally guilty of wasting folks time.
Its what happens all over on a site like this, they enjoy the chase and looking at the naughty pics and chat but when it comes to actually meeting they won't appear
The Aberdeen mentality of thinking everyone knows everyone and scared someone knows you are in a swinging site
Instead of feeling sorry for myself I put a few feelers out yesterday evening and ended up agreeing on meeting a woman in Stonehaven... and she showed! Haha. Had a great night into the very wee hours.
My question now is, what do you do when both users are unverified but you want to leave a veri?!
Seems one of us needs to meet with a verified user before we van verify each other?"
One of you go on cam and ask some one to verify you.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh well done you!! Lol
Erm..Think that's right weirdly 2 unverified profiles can't leave veris for each other?
Your screwed again lol"
Thank you lol. All will be good in the end! |
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"Typical of Aberdeen area to be honest, loads of no shows from females and couples
Plenty no shows from males too so don't just knock females and couples! They are all equally guilty of wasting folks time.
Its what happens all over on a site like this, they enjoy the chase and looking at the naughty pics and chat but when it comes to actually meeting they won't appear
The Aberdeen mentality of thinking everyone knows everyone and scared someone knows you are in a swinging site
Instead of feeling sorry for myself I put a few feelers out yesterday evening and ended up agreeing on meeting a woman in Stonehaven... and she showed! Haha. Had a great night into the very wee hours.
My question now is, what do you do when both users are unverified but you want to leave a veri?!
Seems one of us needs to meet with a verified user before we van verify each other?
One of you go on cam and ask some one to verify you.. "
^^^^ this!!
Get yourself in one of the chat rooms. Good to hear your meet was a success x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Typical of Aberdeen area to be honest, loads of no shows from females and couples
Plenty no shows from males too so don't just knock females and couples! They are all equally guilty of wasting folks time.
Its what happens all over on a site like this, they enjoy the chase and looking at the naughty pics and chat but when it comes to actually meeting they won't appear
The Aberdeen mentality of thinking everyone knows everyone and scared someone knows you are in a swinging site
Instead of feeling sorry for myself I put a few feelers out yesterday evening and ended up agreeing on meeting a woman in Stonehaven... and she showed! Haha. Had a great night into the very wee hours.
My question now is, what do you do when both users are unverified but you want to leave a veri?!
Seems one of us needs to meet with a verified user before we van verify each other?"
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It seems to happen a lot. I have never let anyone down when I have arranged to meet but I have had a fair few let downs over the years.
I must say it is in my experience unusual that a couple don't show. |
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We got stood up by 2 couples who both were meet verified, one had 15 verifications. It really isn’t a guarantee that someone is reliable. They may have met 15 people but messed around 50.
It is difficult getting your first meet, not sure if that’s an Aberdeen thing or if it’s the same everywhere. As someone previously mentioned everyone here is scared of meeting someone they know or people knowing what they are up to. |
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"We got stood up by 2 couples who both were meet verified, one had 15 verifications. It really isn’t a guarantee that someone is reliable. They may have met 15 people but messed around 50.
It is difficult getting your first meet, not sure if that’s an Aberdeen thing or if it’s the same everywhere. As someone previously mentioned everyone here is scared of meeting someone they know or people knowing what they are up to. "
Yes so it's not just me that finds that most folk in Aberdeen area are scared they know people on here and folk find out they are on a swingers site, discretion is meant to be a rule that's stuck by in swinging so even if you do know someone on here it should be kept quiet and move on with no hassle |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Really wish you could name & shame, it’s so annoying when you’ve invested a lot of time chatting so someone & they’re a no show "
What happens if you name them?... |
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"Really wish you could name & shame, it’s so annoying when you’ve invested a lot of time chatting so someone & they’re a no show
What happens if you name them?..."
Haven’t actually tried it but your post is removed & you get banned from posting in the forum |
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"Really wish you could name & shame, it’s so annoying when you’ve invested a lot of time chatting so someone & they’re a no show
What happens if you name them?...
Haven’t actually tried it but your post is removed & you get banned from posting in the forum "
I don't believe it happens if you put it in a status update.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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only been on here just over a month and had a few who chat and say interested then stop chat or had a cple say on thurs we want to meant you,then Friday cant as hes working,like you didn't know |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I had a lady that chatted for few weeks and arranged a meet however on day of the meet family member taken to hospital so could not make I explained all this through moby number she gave me but point blankly refused to believe as the lady explained been let down with so many guys I even tried to re arrange but she said no! Was guttered! And a couple that chatted for ages and wanted to meet me then all went quite despite couple still on this I really should message but hate making myself sound desperate as I’m not |
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"I had a lady that chatted for few weeks and arranged a meet however on day of the meet family member taken to hospital so could not make I explained all this through moby number she gave me but point blankly refused to believe as the lady explained been let down with so many guys I even tried to re arrange but she said no! Was guttered! And a couple that chatted for ages and wanted to meet me then all went quite despite couple still on this I really should message but hate making myself sound desperate as I’m not "
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"I had a lady that chatted for few weeks and arranged a meet however on day of the meet family member taken to hospital so could not make I explained all this through moby number she gave me but point blankly refused to believe as the lady explained been let down with so many guys I even tried to re arrange but she said no! Was guttered! And a couple that chatted for ages and wanted to meet me then all went quite despite couple still on this I really should message but hate making myself sound desperate as I’m not " people are just full of shit honestly you'll find the right one eventually be pat6 |
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"Lost count of the number of no shows I've had. Seems to come with fab unfortunately. Not an ego boost at all and have been tempted to quit fab a few times because of these arseholes and time wasters.
On the up side, I've met some amazing, genuine and fun people, some of then I've even come to see as friends. And they do make all of this worthwhile x
Here's hoping whenever meet 2 comes around, they're genuine and we have a great time.
Thanks for all your messages. It just so happens that most of you (sorry fellas) would be the people I would love to meet up with. Maybe our paths will cross someday. Kx"
Hey OP, I'd really urge you to report them, repeat offenders catch the eye of admin and they can have their profile restricted.
It helps all of us if you report. |
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"I had a lady that chatted for few weeks and arranged a meet however on day of the meet family member taken to hospital so could not make I explained all this through moby number she gave me but point blankly refused to believe as the lady explained been let down with so many guys I even tried to re arrange but she said no! Was guttered! And a couple that chatted for ages and wanted to meet me then all went quite despite couple still on this I really should message but hate making myself sound desperate as I’m not "
I'm a sceptic as well With all the lies and bullshit I've heard I wouldn't believe it even if it was true. I'd never give you abuse for it mind, but odds are pretty slim of another attempt to meet up. Especially if you've missed the shower and shave deadline!! x |
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