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Etiquette on first meet.
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and ask the person or people we're meeting to do the same. That way when we do meet we cam have a relaxed drink all knowing more or less where the boundaries are and just enjoy getting to know one another with a spot of outrageous flirting  | |||
To be honest, we do play on the first meet but make it clear via messages that its not essential. To be honest, we feel that you get the right or wrong vibes and go with the flow. | |||
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"We find jumping on them as soon as we see then, tearing clothes off while singing " here we go again " is a good way to break the ice
To be honest, we do play on the first meet but make it clear via messages that its not essential. To be honest, we feel that you get the right or wrong vibes and go with the flow."Madashatters .... i can see where the name comes from.... | |||
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"We usually meet other couples socially first. It's soon clear if there's any kind of chemistry! We try to avoid couples who have rules about who can do what, as in the heat of the moment, someone could overstep and cause a 'situaton'. Our only rule is no separate room, as we're swingers, not wife-swappers " | |||
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"The best thing on entering a couples home is to go to the toilet quite quickly, take your clothes off and then come running out naked into their sitting room shouting 'WHOOOOOOO!' motioning to high five them with your junk flying about in their faces. "We'd like that
The only problem we've found is occasionally we've spent so long chatting it's become more of a social and then there's that awkward moment of seeing whether to move things on. What has helped has been to get the massage oils out - so far the actual massage has never lasted more than a couple of minutes but helps to break the ice.
Also be careful with red wine! | |||
"The best thing on entering a couples home is to go to the toilet quite quickly, take your clothes off and then come running out naked into their sitting room shouting 'WHOOOOOOO!' motioning to high five them with your junk flying about in their faces.
We'd like that
The only problem we've found is occasionally we've spent so long chatting it's become more of a social and then there's that awkward moment of seeing whether to move things on. What has helped has been to get the massage oils out - so far the actual massage has never lasted more than a couple of minutes but helps to break the ice.
Also be careful with red wine!"You massage with red wine? Interesting. I will try it tonight. | |||
"We find jumping on them as soon as we see then, tearing clothes off while singing " here we go again " is a good way to break the ice
To be honest, we do play on the first meet but make it clear via messages that its not essential. To be honest, we feel that you get the right or wrong vibes and go with the flow."Very much the same with us, chat, laughter, couple of glasses of wine and go for it. It's never let us down or others with this approach..... | |||
"The best thing on entering a couples home is to go to the toilet quite quickly, take your clothes off and then come running out naked into their sitting room shouting 'WHOOOOOOO!' motioning to high five them with your junk flying about in their faces.
We'd like that
The only problem we've found is occasionally we've spent so long chatting it's become more of a social and then there's that awkward moment of seeing whether to move things on. What has helped has been to get the massage oils out - so far the actual massage has never lasted more than a couple of minutes but helps to break the ice.
Also be careful with red wine!
You massage with red wine? Interesting. I will try it tonight. "I find dipping a man's cock in wine and giving it a good suck gets the juices flowing | |||
"I have met a few couples, for two of them it was their first MFM threesomes. Sort out between the two of you your own rules for the night, what you will and what you really WONT do. Stick to those because if you dont things can go wrong. Let the other people know what you want, either online on phone before, or when you meet up prior to playing. and from my experience .. rule number one BE HONEST.... if it dont feel to be working, and there is no 'spark' get out of it politely, and if that dont work... just get out however you can. and relax... easy to say and harder to do. remember you decide what you want to do and dont be pressured into doing something you are not comfortable with.. main thing though is HAVE FUN .... thats what we are all on fab for " Absolutely right! | |||
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"As a new couple we have had very few meets (two with the same coupe as a couple) and are a bit unsure as to what is expected on a first meet. What is the best way to broach the'so are we going to play' subject without making anyone feel awkward? Is kissing a given unless explicitly forbiden (that would put us off, we love kissing). Is it ok to be openly flirtatious with the opposite sex partner? We would loveto get insightinto these and any other points of etiquette people think are important. Kaz and Dyl" We like to meet socially first, that takes away the pressure of potential play on a first meet, but if everyone is feeling it then there is no reason we wont play. if we are inviting a person/couple over, then we will always let them make the first move, unless we can see they want to but are too shy, which has happened a couple of times, you kinda learn how to read people over time. if they have made the invite or made the suggestion of the meet, then we are happy to let them know how we feel and that we are happy to play on this or the next meet that way, if they aren't happy to play with you it gives them an option without them being afraid to offend you, they can just say, maybe next time, we just want to keep this social. or something similar. We are flirty people with people we find attractive, so far, no1 has had a problem with it, i kinda think its a bit to be expected on a meet. but i guess its a case of where does flirting become uncomfortable for the other person. and in reguards to kissing, nothing is ever a given in swinging, always find out what their do's and do not's are before even thinking about meeting, or if your just doing a social then find out on the meet. that way nobody can make a mistake and offend the other couple. Other than that, each couple is different, some like dinner, some like drinks and some just wanna get down to it. some wanna meet in public, others in their home, others in your home. swinging for us is about being flexible and accomodating without being pushed beyond our own personal boundaries as a couple, trying new things, meeting new people and having fun/relaxing while doing it! Best thing to do is to get yourself out there, meet some more of the lovely people on the site/at parties/clubs and find your own way of doing things! | |||
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"As a new couple we have had very few meets (two with the same coupe as a couple) and are a bit unsure as to what is expected on a first meet. What is the best way to broach the'so are we going to play' subject without making anyone feel awkward? Is kissing a given unless explicitly forbiden (that would put us off, we love kissing). Is it ok to be openly flirtatious with the opposite sex partner? We would loveto get insightinto these and any other points of etiquette people think are important. Kaz and Dyl" I see in my absence Perky has given you her twopennyworth! So I will try to give you a more serious answer..... some may say boring.....
First and foremost - BE YOURSELVES!!! You meet so many people who are trying to put on an act or play up to the image they think the other couple want to see and they blow it (or rather they don't get to 'blow it'!!)
Also, don't rely on booze to get you to relax - far better to go into the meet with NO expectations. Just treat it as a social and if fun happens, it's a bonus.
But when you have got to a point in the conversation where you KNOW you just want to rip the other couples kit off - then GO FOR IT!!!!
It's a bit like when you were a kid in class and the teacher has just shown something on the board and asks if everyone understood. No one puts their hand up..... BUT... you are all thinking 'wtf was that about???' - well it's the same in a meet - you are ALL wanting to get down to it. SO GET DOWN TO IT.
Perky now is usually the one who takes the lead - she just strips off and no one is under any illusion where things are going.
Also, we usually meet at my place and I have a pair of matching sofas - we always try to sit mixing the couples, so Perky sits on one with the the other guy and I sit with the lady. If you sit in your own couples, bear in mind you are placing an additional barrier to overcome in getting down to sexy fun - so don't put it there in the first place.
Hope this helps - along with everything all the other contribs have said.
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"I have met a few couples, for two of them it was their first MFM threesomes. Sort out between the two of you your own rules for the night, what you will and what you really WONT do. Stick to those because if you dont things can go wrong. Let the other people know what you want, either online on phone before, or when you meet up prior to playing. and from my experience .. rule number one BE HONEST.... if it dont feel to be working, and there is no 'spark' get out of it politely, and if that dont work... just get out however you can. and relax... easy to say and harder to do. remember you decide what you want to do and dont be pressured into doing something you are not comfortable with.. main thing though is HAVE FUN .... thats what we are all on fab for " 100% agree with this one. | |||
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" We like to meet socially first, that takes away the pressure of potential play on a first meet, but if everyone is feeling it then there is no reason we wont play. if we are inviting a person/couple over, then we will always let them make the first move, unless we can see they want to but are too shy, which has happened a couple of times, you kinda learn how to read people over time. if they have made the invite or made the suggestion of the meet, then we are happy to let them know how we feel and that we are happy to play on this or the next meet that way, if they aren't happy to play with you it gives them an option without them being afraid to offend you, they can just say, maybe next time, we just want to keep this social. or something similar. We are flirty people with people we find attractive, so far, no1 has had a problem with it, i kinda think its a bit to be expected on a meet. but i guess its a case of where does flirting become uncomfortable for the other person. and in reguards to kissing, nothing is ever a given in swinging, always find out what their do's and do not's are before even thinking about meeting, or if your just doing a social then find out on the meet. that way nobody can make a mistake and offend the other couple. Other than that, each couple is different, some like dinner, some like drinks and some just wanna get down to it. some wanna meet in public, others in their home, others in your home. swinging for us is about being flexible and accomodating without being pushed beyond our own personal boundaries as a couple, trying new things, meeting new people and having fun/relaxing while doing it! Best thing to do is to get yourself out there, meet some more of the lovely people on the site/at parties/clubs and find your own way of doing things! " Woww you two sound a great couple for someone to meet up with.....shame you're not any closer. | |||
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" Woww you two sound a great couple for someone to meet up with.....shame you're not any closer. " Thanks | |||
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"Great thread....have arranged our first meet, excited excited excited!! Shall try to not instantly pounce on anyone... "Pounce on me... I rather like being pounced on ! | |||
"Great thread....have arranged our first meet, excited excited excited!! Shall try to not instantly pounce on anyone...
Pounce on me... I rather like being pounced on !"There's no pouncy face... Shall flutter eyelashes instead | |||
