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By *aughtydante OP   Man 2 days ago

Near You

Im writing this as a single guy. So my view point might be different to yours...

But swinging lifestyle or a relationship? Which would you choose?

And to all the couples out there enjoying both. Us single guys can only hope lol.

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By *..FabaceousMan 2 days ago

Merseyside

At this time in my life, I am looking for a relationship.

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By *urrey Dave 69Man 2 days ago

Surrey

I think the vast majority of folks on this site would like to be in a solid loving swinging relationship. Easier said than done however. It’s difficult enough to find a partner that is a match on all the other criteria that makes a relationship a success before adding swinging to the mix. Although the lifestyle can be summed up in one word, “swinging” there are a multitude of sexual desires, sexual roles, jealousy, degrees of participation etc etc which makes compatibility even harder. Some couples manage it perfectly but anyone who thinks it’s easy is living in a fantasy land.

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By *orkshrCplCouple 2 days ago

Pontefract

What about ENM relationships?

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By *toC Thats MeWoman 2 days ago

Sheffield

A mix of both…a swinging relationship.

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By *ssex_butterflyWoman 2 days ago

Colchester


"Im writing this as a single guy. So my view point might be different to yours...

But swinging lifestyle or a relationship? Which would you choose?

And to all the couples out there enjoying both. Us single guys can only hope lol."

Both. A swinging relationship

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By *utsiderWoman 2 days ago

sfc

Just sex.

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By *otlovefun42Couple 2 days ago

Costa Blanca Spain..

We have a strong relationship and we swing when we want to. Sometimes often, sometimes not so often.

It's great to have both, but if it was a choice of one then I would take the relationship. (Mr)

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman 2 days ago

next door

Ideally I would like a relationship with someone in this lifestyle.

Until thar happens, it will be a fwb/fb

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By *urrey Dave 69Man 2 days ago

Surrey


"What about ENM relationships? "

Ethical non-monogamy and polyamory are both great scenarios if they can be achieved. The issue for many however is that once emotions are given the same or higher priority over physical pleasure when involving other individuals in a relationship it can get messy. Hats off to those that can achieve it successfully but I think I’d have more chance winning the lottery than having a long term ENM or polyamorous relationship.

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By *inphilMan 2 days ago

any place

Im lucky to have both, as im in a open relationship that allows me to have my cake and eat it, she joins in when she wants, if not shes happy to hear all about it at the end of the day its her that i head home to.

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By *RMRSJAECouple 2 days ago

chester

If I became single for any reason, I would prefer a relationship with someone likeminded.

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By *ooker and the puddleduckCouple 2 days ago

Leicester

We have both and we love it but the relationship is more important than the swinging.

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By *icecouple561Couple 2 days ago
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Hastings

Relationship, every time. Swinging is transitory, shallow and ultimately lacks real meaning.

I understand people not wanting a romantic relationship and using swinging as a way to get sex, obviously I understand people within a relationship using swinging as a way to get more or different sex but swinging isn't an alternative to a relationship.

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By *mma1973Woman 2 days ago

Here

I'm single and happy to stay single.

Every now and then i dio my toe in the dating pond, and instantly remember why i stopped dating

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By *his_Kitty_ScratchesWoman 2 days ago

WSM

Relationship first and foremost but if they are open to this lifestyle that would be great. It would be while till I felt secure enough in a relationship to add swinging to it though, once bitten and all that

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By *lower1000Woman 2 days ago

Cheltemham

I’m single, would prefer a relationship as being a fwb feels a bit empty.

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By *over of danceMan 2 days ago

Bedfont Feltham

A relationship with the possibility of swinging. But realise this isn't going to happen

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By *partharmonyCouple 2 days ago

Redhill

We would go for relationship first. We get to dabble in a bit of swinging. It's very enjoyable but it's a bonus. We would drop it all if it negatively affected our relationship

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By *over of danceMan 2 days ago

Bedfont Feltham


"I’m single, would prefer a relationship as being a fwb feels a bit empty."

Alas I an out of your age range

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By *icecouple561Couple 2 days ago
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Hastings


"I'm single and happy to stay single.

Every now and then i dio my toe in the dating pond, and instantly remember why i stopped dating "

From what I've read and seen lately I can well believe that!

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By *oxy n hubsCouple 2 days ago

taunton ish

?????? most of us couples do both ?? there alot of long term very together loving couples on here who have great relationships and swing at the same time ...

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By *oxy n hubsCouple 2 days ago

taunton ish

sorry see what you mean your asking from a single guy point of view ....

if i or hubs was single we both said it would always be relationship first after all for a couple swinging is nothing with out a rock solid relationship

i dont think fab is for finding relationships just my own personal view but then again you can fall in love anywhere but you'll only ever hear the success storys ... but i do believe fab needs a dating section for those who believe they can find a relationship

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By *osaint1971Couple 2 days ago

Near Taunton


"We would go for relationship first. We get to dabble in a bit of swinging. It's very enjoyable but it's a bonus. We would drop it all if it negatively affected our relationship "

Exactly this

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By *rettyflamingoWoman 2 days ago

Swansea


"Im writing this as a single guy. So my view point might be different to yours...

But swinging lifestyle or a relationship? Which would you choose?

And to all the couples out there enjoying both. Us single guys can only hope lol."

I’d love to meet someone special in this lifestyle so we could explore and have fun together

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By *itzi999Woman 2 days ago

Slough


"Im writing this as a single guy. So my view point might be different to yours...

But swinging lifestyle or a relationship? Which would you choose?

And to all the couples out there enjoying both. Us single guys can only hope lol."

I’m a unicorn - I’m single and swinging. However, if the right guy came along, I would ditch the swinging lifestyle and just have a relationship.

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By *o annaWoman 2 days ago

south

Swinging lifestyle I can't commit to anything else ATM

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By *atnipkittykatWoman 2 days ago

Reading

Not looking for a relationship,

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By *eelightful duoCouple 2 days ago

Cumbria

I’d love both. I want the cake and to eat it all in as many different flavours as possible but with someone who’s skipping on this journey hand in hand with me.

It’s not my reality as yet but that’s my aim.

You only get one life

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By *urrey Dave 69Man 2 days ago

Surrey


"I’d love both. I want the cake and to eat it all in as many different flavours as possible but with someone who’s skipping on this journey hand in hand with me.

It’s not my reality as yet but that’s my aim.

You only get one life "

Thats an interesting post to have been made from a couples account

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By *eelightful duoCouple 2 days ago

Cumbria


"I’d love both. I want the cake and to eat it all in as many different flavours as possible but with someone who’s skipping on this journey hand in hand with me.

It’s not my reality as yet but that’s my aim.

You only get one life

Thats an interesting post to have been made from a couples account "

My husband doesn’t swing so I have spanks my playmate who I happily skip along with but would love it if my husband did. It’s not his cup

of tea which is fine I live in hope

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By *en_Dover79Man 2 days ago

north west

relationships have never worked out for me.. and I think I would be bored with the same thing for the rest of my life now... stick with swinging its more exciting

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By *aughtycp1Couple 2 days ago

Leicestershire


"I think the vast majority of folks on this site would like to be in a solid loving swinging relationship. Easier said than done however. It’s difficult enough to find a partner that is a match on all the other criteria that makes a relationship a success before adding swinging to the mix. Although the lifestyle can be summed up in one word, “swinging” there are a multitude of sexual desires, sexual roles, jealousy, degrees of participation etc etc which makes compatibility even harder. Some couples manage it perfectly but anyone who thinks it’s easy is living in a fantasy land."

Exactly this. However we find it very easy. Swinging is a journey. You take it together and it can make you so so close. I adore my husband. Hes my world, and love the lifestyle we choose to live together x

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple 2 days ago

Coventry & Leicester

I think before asking either/or you need to ask yourself to what extent is sexual non-monogamy or the need to swing written into your core sexuality? Some can happily live without but for others to live a life of total sexual monogamy would be to live a life not being truly ourselves. There is a real danger in terms of the foundations of a relationship when you can not be fully open, truly yourself and loved and supported for all you are including your kinks and sexual outlook. Naturally I think we would all love to share these aspects with our partners but at the very least be able to be ourselves with our partners blessing. A relationship should not be a cage. It should be something where the both of you are free to be yourselves and grow.

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By *ecky and justCouple 2 days ago

Epsom

We have both.

We met in here and our relationship is way more than swinging could ever be on its own.

We have total trust and commitment but also the freedom to explore.

And we’ve just got engaged.

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By *asterandGenieCouple 2 days ago

Norfolk


"We have both.

We met in here and our relationship is way more than swinging could ever be on its own.

We have total trust and commitment but also the freedom to explore.

And we’ve just got engaged. "

Same with us we met on here and love sharing with other people couldn’t go back to a “normal” relationship now

M

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By *otKiss2022Woman 2 days ago

Oakham

Define relationship and define swinging… these things mean different things to different people

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By *cruffymooWoman 2 days ago

Skelmersdale


"I’m single, would prefer a relationship as being a fwb feels a bit empty."

Totally agree!

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By *ilthyRacersCouple 2 days ago

Coventry, West Midlands, Crewe

We have both.

We met here so the swinging part was/is a natural extension of what we both used to do.

The relationship is the centre of everything though. We’d both give up swinging if it was necessary to protect the relationship, ironically the time we feel like that is the time it not necessary.

J

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By *bwstarzWoman 2 days ago

south cheshire

Relationship everytime

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By *osmocoupleCouple 1 day ago

East Sussex

Looking for a relationship, but in my current situation, pre-divorce...i don't think it's going to happen

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By *ivAbsCouple 1 day ago

Bedford (mostly)

We’re lucky enough to have both but swinging will always come second to our relationship. It’s there to add to, not replace.

Viv

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By *aturefun63Man 1 day ago

Belper

Just out of a 19 year marriage so just looking for fun

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman 1 day ago

where unicorns eat fairy dust and fart rainbows

When I’m single I like to mingle and enjoy no strings sex but defo prefer having a regular fwb

I’d prefer a relationship and for me it would be monogamous because I know I have insecurities and trust issues I’ve gave trust too much and had it taken for granted

However anyone I met would have to understand that the friendships I’ve made and the clubs I visit would still very much play a part in my life because they are the places I feel good about myself and confident and my swinger friends are the ones who has supported me through the toughest times in my life where my vanilla friends have fallen far short !

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By *ydneyUniversityResearchMan 1 day ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Relationship. It is arduous work tryna get a shag.

I take it all back. I'll even sit and watch Love Island/Fifty Shades/Downton with you. You can park on double yellows all you want and I won't tell you off anymore.

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By *ithdelightWoman 1 day ago

Ilfracombe

I am not looking or want a relationship. I like living on my own far too much. I do enjoy sex so I will stick with swing thank you. X

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By *oupleOfFilthyWeirdosCouple 1 day ago

Merthyr Tydfil

My advice (as a previous singleton on fab), be honest from the offset. If their willing to listen and accept you might not have conformed with "norm", it's surprising how many conversations pop up

PR had always expressed an interest in exploring with another woman. Who was I to stop her?? Fast forward a year or so, and we've never looked back.

It takes a special connection, we are fortunate enough to be head over heels with eachother, while being able to enjoy exploring with others.

T

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By *rMandMrsNCouple 24 hours ago

Wakefield

We have both agreed that neither of us could be in a relationship where swinging wasn't a part but... Swinging doesn't wash the pots, swinging doesn't pay the mortgage, swinging doesn't help the kids with their homework. Or just cuddle you at night. Relationship definitely the priority. M

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By *alcon43Woman 24 hours ago

Paisley

I’ve been hurt too often to get seriously involved with anyone. I have Fab friends that I’ve known for years and when we meet up it can be deep and meaningful, it’s not just sex. We are good friends and often chat about many things.

I have great Fab friends that I socialise with as well. I don’t think I’d find a relationship out with the swinging scene.

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By *eviants In DefianceCouple 22 hours ago

Maidstone


"We have both agreed that neither of us could be in a relationship where swinging wasn't a part but... Swinging doesn't wash the pots, swinging doesn't pay the mortgage, swinging doesn't help the kids with their homework. Or just cuddle you at night. Relationship definitely the priority. M"

Love this

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