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Cuckold naivety?
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"ps op your not a cuck so why claim to be so lots of men call themselves cucks because of fantasies your not a cuck unless you really are a cuck theres no half in half out at best your a sub guy to be labeled a cuck you have to be a cuck to be a cuck you will be in a longterm relationship with a wife whos into cuckolding ... so clearly your not a cuck" I feel his name, 'Tentative Cuck'. Plus the thread title, 'cuckold naivety' answers your question. | |||
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" She said she has never felt that there is one person n this world that is destined for you to be with so she would be fine with it if she fancied the guy. She also said a guy wanting to have sex with you was always a great confidence boost and compliment lol" There are lots of questions you need to discuss and answer, and also what pleasure do you expect to get from her sleeping with other men? -Do you want to sit there an wank? -Do you want her to talk to you about it after, over dinner? -Do you want her to tell you how he satisfied her much more than you can, when you're inside her? -Do you want her to only sleep with each guy once, to avoid feeling developing? -How would you feel if she slept with an ex? -Do you want her to tell you before she sleeps with someone else? -Do you want to keep something sacred for just you to, Eg anal? For me, I get no pleasure from watching her with a guy, unless we're sucking someone together. For me, the pleasure comes from our sub/Domme relationship and that she has the freedom to do what she wants. From what you've said, it's a very simplistic fantasy to say "I want to watch my wife" but the reality is so much more detailed or complex. Without being able to have completely open and honest communication, this sort of play can turn into a relationship disaster. A key thing to discuss, is how do you stop. For example, you may find that her fucking someone once, satisfies your kink and desire, it's very likely it will give her a new lease of life and she may not be so happy with a one off. Good luck. I think you will need it. | |||
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"Have I been a bit dumb? I suspect I know the answer but I'm posting this as I'm a bit torn and confused. I finally got the courage to discuss my cuckolding fetish with my mrs. To my massive surprise she wasn't against the idea. But... she wanted more of a friends with benefits arrangement and definitely not me watching. However, I don't know if I could cope with giving my blessing to her essentially having a sanctioned affair. The idea of her dating a guy etc makes me uncomfortable. Possibly naively I had hoped it would just be sex. Not sure what to do next (I know I should discuss it with her and we do talk about it. I guess I'm posting here just to rationalize my thoughts)." same advice as all single guy profile, get her on your profile, let her ask the questions, find out what she wants not what you want | |||
"Have I been a bit dumb? I suspect I know the answer but I'm posting this as I'm a bit torn and confused. I finally got the courage to discuss my cuckolding fetish with my mrs. To my massive surprise she wasn't against the idea. But... she wanted more of a friends with benefits arrangement and definitely not me watching. However, I don't know if I could cope with giving my blessing to her essentially having a sanctioned affair. The idea of her dating a guy etc makes me uncomfortable. Possibly naively I had hoped it would just be sex. Not sure what to do next (I know I should discuss it with her and we do talk about it. I guess I'm posting here just to rationalize my thoughts)." Print this off. https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/1133578 Sign it Give it to her. Got out for an hour or two and let her think about it. Come home and talk about it. | |||
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"we have a great relationship otherwise " Are you sure? She seemed very quick to jump at the chance of spending time with someone who wasn't you. You seem to treat sex like a bonus of a relationship based in your comments. For most people that's not true. A lot won't openly admit it, but for the vast majority of couples, one or both aren't actually happy in their relationship if the sex life is broken. If you (both) go down this path, there's a huge chance she will realise what she's been missing all these years. Rather than sitting down and talking about fab and this, I think you need to sit down and talk about your relationship and if is something you both want to continue with. Good luck. | |||
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"It's good to rant sometimes. "Sorry x | |||
"The problem with cuckolding is that it's original meaning has been bastardise over the years to the point that it's almost a useless word. It's original meaning is purely as a medieval insult to a man whose wife has had sex with another man. The actual affair required no acceptance or even knowledge by the husband. It was purely used as an insult. Nowadays the word cuckold has taken on hundreds of meanings. All these different couples who partake in 'cuckold' sex with other guys have different criteria. Some say it involves a dominant submissive relationship, others that the husband can watch and then join in. Some say it must involve humiliation, others say different. Certain couples think being chucked requires a husband to be caged, while others don't. Same room fun is essential for some, for voyeuristic purposes whilst others insist that to cuck a husband the wife has to play on her own with the husband elsewhere. But technically every full swap couple on here has cuckold the husband, that is if somebody chose to insult the husband for this. The term is just an insult about the act of a wife fucking someone else. It is not a description of a life style. So don't worry about any labels, just work out what you would both like to do and give it a go. It may work out it may not but do it together or not at all. Just go and have fun, whatever that means to you. Rant over lol xxx" It was an insult but it was more to do with paternity fraud. A cuck is someone that is the victim of paternity fraud. It’s actually a horrible thing to do to a man and the kid but even though it happens at a rate higher than people like to admit the abusers get off Scott free | |||
"The problem with cuckolding is that it's original meaning has been bastardise over the years to the point that it's almost a useless word. It's original meaning is purely as a medieval insult to a man whose wife has had sex with another man. The actual affair required no acceptance or even knowledge by the husband. It was purely used as an insult. Nowadays the word cuckold has taken on hundreds of meanings. All these different couples who partake in 'cuckold' sex with other guys have different criteria. Some say it involves a dominant submissive relationship, others that the husband can watch and then join in. Some say it must involve humiliation, others say different. Certain couples think being chucked requires a husband to be caged, while others don't. Same room fun is essential for some, for voyeuristic purposes whilst others insist that to cuck a husband the wife has to play on her own with the husband elsewhere. But technically every full swap couple on here has cuckold the husband, that is if somebody chose to insult the husband for this. The term is just an insult about the act of a wife fucking someone else. It is not a description of a life style. So don't worry about any labels, just work out what you would both like to do and give it a go. It may work out it may not but do it together or not at all. Just go and have fun, whatever that means to you. Rant over lol xxx It was an insult but it was more to do with paternity fraud. A cuck is someone that is the victim of paternity fraud. It’s actually a horrible thing to do to a man and the kid but even though it happens at a rate higher than people like to admit the abusers get off Scott free" It was not to do with paternatity fraud its just an insult for a guy whose wife is having or has had see with another guy. Mentioned in Shakespeare and other literature. And is defined as such in major dictionaries x | |||
"The problem with cuckolding is that it's original meaning has been bastardise over the years to the point that it's almost a useless word. It's original meaning is purely as a medieval insult to a man whose wife has had sex with another man. The actual affair required no acceptance or even knowledge by the husband. It was purely used as an insult. Nowadays the word cuckold has taken on hundreds of meanings. All these different couples who partake in 'cuckold' sex with other guys have different criteria. Some say it involves a dominant submissive relationship, others that the husband can watch and then join in. Some say it must involve humiliation, others say different. Certain couples think being chucked requires a husband to be caged, while others don't. Same room fun is essential for some, for voyeuristic purposes whilst others insist that to cuck a husband the wife has to play on her own with the husband elsewhere. But technically every full swap couple on here has cuckold the husband, that is if somebody chose to insult the husband for this. The term is just an insult about the act of a wife fucking someone else. It is not a description of a life style. So don't worry about any labels, just work out what you would both like to do and give it a go. It may work out it may not but do it together or not at all. Just go and have fun, whatever that means to you. Rant over lol xxx It was an insult but it was more to do with paternity fraud. A cuck is someone that is the victim of paternity fraud. It’s actually a horrible thing to do to a man and the kid but even though it happens at a rate higher than people like to admit the abusers get off Scott free It was not to do with paternatity fraud its just an insult for a guy whose wife is having or has had see with another guy. Mentioned in Shakespeare and other literature. And is defined as such in major dictionaries x" Funny enough also depicted in a couple of classic art. | |||
"The problem with cuckolding is that it's original meaning has been bastardise over the years to the point that it's almost a useless word. It's original meaning is purely as a medieval insult to a man whose wife has had sex with another man. The actual affair required no acceptance or even knowledge by the husband. It was purely used as an insult. Nowadays the word cuckold has taken on hundreds of meanings. All these different couples who partake in 'cuckold' sex with other guys have different criteria. Some say it involves a dominant submissive relationship, others that the husband can watch and then join in. Some say it must involve humiliation, others say different. Certain couples think being chucked requires a husband to be caged, while others don't. Same room fun is essential for some, for voyeuristic purposes whilst others insist that to cuck a husband the wife has to play on her own with the husband elsewhere. But technically every full swap couple on here has cuckold the husband, that is if somebody chose to insult the husband for this. The term is just an insult about the act of a wife fucking someone else. It is not a description of a life style. So don't worry about any labels, just work out what you would both like to do and give it a go. It may work out it may not but do it together or not at all. Just go and have fun, whatever that means to you. Rant over lol xxx It was an insult but it was more to do with paternity fraud. A cuck is someone that is the victim of paternity fraud. It’s actually a horrible thing to do to a man and the kid but even though it happens at a rate higher than people like to admit the abusers get off Scott free It was not to do with paternatity fraud its just an insult for a guy whose wife is having or has had see with another guy. Mentioned in Shakespeare and other literature. And is defined as such in major dictionaries x" It is to do with paternity fraud, where do you think the name came from? | |||
"The problem with cuckolding is that it's original meaning has been bastardise over the years to the point that it's almost a useless word. It's original meaning is purely as a medieval insult to a man whose wife has had sex with another man. The actual affair required no acceptance or even knowledge by the husband. It was purely used as an insult. Nowadays the word cuckold has taken on hundreds of meanings. All these different couples who partake in 'cuckold' sex with other guys have different criteria. Some say it involves a dominant submissive relationship, others that the husband can watch and then join in. Some say it must involve humiliation, others say different. Certain couples think being chucked requires a husband to be caged, while others don't. Same room fun is essential for some, for voyeuristic purposes whilst others insist that to cuck a husband the wife has to play on her own with the husband elsewhere. But technically every full swap couple on here has cuckold the husband, that is if somebody chose to insult the husband for this. The term is just an insult about the act of a wife fucking someone else. It is not a description of a life style. So don't worry about any labels, just work out what you would both like to do and give it a go. It may work out it may not but do it together or not at all. Just go and have fun, whatever that means to you. Rant over lol xxx It was an insult but it was more to do with paternity fraud. A cuck is someone that is the victim of paternity fraud. It’s actually a horrible thing to do to a man and the kid but even though it happens at a rate higher than people like to admit the abusers get off Scott free It was not to do with paternatity fraud its just an insult for a guy whose wife is having or has had see with another guy. Mentioned in Shakespeare and other literature. And is defined as such in major dictionaries x It is to do with paternity fraud, where do you think the name came from? " Don't want to do this. The word stems from the old French word for the cuckoo bird, which is presumably why you think it's about paternalism fraud, given the practices of the said bird. However this has never been the case for the definition of the word. It simply meant an insult to a man whose wife slept with another man. Being cuckolded in the English language has never required a child of questionable paternity to result from a wife's affair. It has never even required pregnancy as a factor to complete an act of cuckoldery. Indeed, Collins Dictionary states that the word Cuckold may allude to the old French for Cuckoo but its not a certainty. What all the major dictionaries state is that a man is cuckold by an adulterous wife. Simply that, there doesn't have to be knowledge, consent, humiliation and certainly, absolutely, definitely does not require pregnancy and subsequent birth of a child. Don't listen to me though. Just look the definition up x | |||
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"Thanks for the great tip about the podcast. She has led a very vanilla sex life so far. I sent her articles on cuckolding from Esquire and cosmopolitan as I hoped the fact they were in mainstream media it might normalise it to her and be a gentle intro to someone so unaware of fetishes." I think things like that might actually put her off | |||
" I think things like that might actually put her off" Would you mind explaining why they might put her off? | |||
" I think things like that might actually put her off Would you mind explaining why they might put her off?" because media perception of cuckolding is not real life ..same goes for all these blogs around ...cuckolding is what one couple make it not what your told the only thing thats true is you have to be a couple to be cuckold and cuck the rest is down to you not written scripts from others | |||
