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Everyone prefers sex without condoms, but the sensible among us rubber up with the randoms   |
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"Everyone prefers sex without condoms, but the sensible among us rubber up with the randoms "
Regular testing is much more sensible.
Oral sex carries many STI risks but just about no-one even considers a condom for that.
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By *heelerMan
over a year ago
Northants |
Bareback absolutely hate condoms but for safety reasons have to use them. |
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Just the chance to do either would be nice !!!! |
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"Everyone prefers sex without condoms, but the sensible among us rubber up with the randoms
Regular testing is much more sensible.
Oral sex carries many STI risks but just about no-one even considers a condom for that.
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How is regular testing more sensible than condoms? Surely both? Regular testing won't help you if you've already contracted HIV... |
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I never insist on condoms which means I go raw most times. Tested often and thankfully never caught anything too serious.
Mrs L-C |
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over a year ago
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"Everyone prefers sex without condoms, but the sensible among us rubber up with the randoms "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Without a doubt bareback mmmm we love it  |
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Safety first and bareback is hands down the best.
Swinging is a risk assessment. In an ideal world we wouldn't need protection. It's all a matter of the level of risk your willing to take for your pleasure and that is a personal choice. No sex is 100% risk free. For use bareback is exclusively between the two of us. However we both are happy with oral unprotected as is by far the norm on the scene. It's not risk free but this is the ballance of risk and pleasure we're comfortable with. And we have in the passed still been tested to reduce that risk futher.
The idea of bareback is great. We often talk about the idea of Mrs and another woman bent over and me slipping in and out of them both of them seamlessly. But of course in reality this would not be practical unless it was someone we were comfortable with and trusted 100% to be safe with. I get there are circles of bareback swingers who test regularly and only bareback within that circle. However that is putting a lot of trust in other people and the bigger that circle gets the more liable it is to someone breaking that trust and risking everone. |
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
"Safety first and bareback is hands down the best.
Swinging is a risk assessment. In an ideal world we wouldn't need protection. It's all a matter of the level of risk your willing to take for your pleasure and that is a personal choice. No sex is 100% risk free. For use bareback is exclusively between the two of us. However we both are happy with oral unprotected as is by far the norm on the scene. It's not risk free but this is the ballance of risk and pleasure we're comfortable with. And we have in the passed still been tested to reduce that risk futher.
The idea of bareback is great. We often talk about the idea of Mrs and another woman bent over and me slipping in and out of them both of them seamlessly. But of course in reality this would not be practical unless it was someone we were comfortable with and trusted 100% to be safe with. I get there are circles of bareback swingers who test regularly and only bareback within that circle. However that is putting a lot of trust in other people and the bigger that circle gets the more liable it is to someone breaking that trust and risking everone."
You could make that happen with a female condom. #justsaying
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Always safe sex and no oral given for us...we enjoy our lifestyle but definitely not risking our health |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like bareback but got to be safe and use a condom |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Obviously bare feels a whole lot better and is more sexual, but can understand need for condoms, i always take them but generally dont insist on them being used |
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Never used a condom in our marriage but would never play with others without one...common sense really |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If fully tested, trusted and windows are all considered, then ... hehe |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Our view is an evening of unprotected pleasure really worth the stress & worry that you may have caught an incurable disease ? We would love to go unprotected but the risk v reward isn't worth it for us. |
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By *uckurcumMan
over a year ago
Bishop Auckland |
As nice as bareback is,unless in a regular stable situation it has to be safe..... |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
Maidstone |
"How is regular testing more sensible than condoms? Surely both? Regular testing won't help you if you've already contracted HIV..."
Because regular testing will catch any infections before it does long term damage. People who think condoms are 100% safe and don't get regular tests are ignorant of their status.
I used to be a sexual health outreach worker and the number of women who get infected by their partners because she believed he was monogamous.
I am on PrEP and get tested every 12 weeks without fail and I enjoy my bareback sex very much! |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
Maidstone |
Oh and also to add... I ALWAYS have a chat with a new shag about responsible sexual health. Even though I know I enjoy bareback, I'm allowing him the space to be responsible and to use condoms if that would make him feel safer and less anxious. Because I know he's cheating behind his partner's back, but it's not my place to judge him. |
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Prefer bareback but always use protection with new people. |
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Unfortunately I can't use condoms as the chemicals used always make my cock go soft, it's happened for years. I meet up with a local lady quite regularly, and her vaginal walls sting if a condom is used  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are bareback only |
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By *ayd100Man
over a year ago
clitheroe |
Cleaning up after she's been filled to the brim is the best bit, so has to be bb |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone prefers sex without condoms, but the sensible among us rubber up with the randoms
Regular testing is much more sensible.
Oral sex carries many STI risks but just about no-one even considers a condom for that.
How is regular testing more sensible than condoms? Surely both? Regular testing won't help you if you've already contracted HIV..."
you'll be surprised how many who use condoms that dont test or never have its safer sex not safe sex you can still catch stuff after all you dont just use your cock
id rather go with a barebacker who test regular than a safe sex person who never test ..
i test every 6 weeks im lucky tho as i do voluntary work for a safe sex charity so have easy access and apart from two exclusive regulars its all safer sex |
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"Everyone prefers sex without condoms, but the sensible among us rubber up with the randoms
Regular testing is much more sensible.
Oral sex carries many STI risks but just about no-one even considers a condom for that.
How is regular testing more sensible than condoms? Surely both? Regular testing won't help you if you've already contracted HIV...
you'll be surprised how many who use condoms that dont test or never have its safer sex not safe sex you can still catch stuff after all you dont just use your cock
id rather go with a barebacker who test regular than a safe sex person who never test ..
i test every 6 weeks im lucky tho as i do voluntary work for a safe sex charity so have easy access and apart from two exclusive regulars its all safer sex"
Very, very true.
I wish some people would do a little research or visit their local clinic/ charity and ask the professionals advice.
There is so much misinformation around. |
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"Everyone prefers sex without condoms, but the sensible among us rubber up with the randoms
Regular testing is much more sensible.
Oral sex carries many STI risks but just about no-one even considers a condom for that.
How is regular testing more sensible than condoms? Surely both? Regular testing won't help you if you've already contracted HIV..."
Regular testing will give you a very good chance of identifying an STI with no obvious symptoms and so could hopefully stop further unnecessary spread if it.
It could also help you get treatment and stop you being unwell or even stop infertility in some case.
As for HIV transmission then if that is the case, early recognition and a plan for treatment is advisable too.
It can stop the progression and control any other issues.
HIV is now a managed illness where people can live a long and normal life.
With good treatment and the education about that being available, we take away the stigma and fear so that everyone reslises that it is more like diabetes etc now.
The advances in medicine are huge in comparison to even 10/15 years ago |
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Bareback definitely preferred but also have to balance the safety of it all, decide jointly each at the time |
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By *ibryMan
over a year ago
STOCKPORT |
I could have already entered bareback before I realised that I had no condom on.mmmmmmmm |
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It's funny because we've had a guy say , oh he gets shy when he sees a condom as he goes limp
But the sight of a condom spurs Mr j on
It's like oh he's getting some , and it's not Mrs j |
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By *ilva69Man
over a year ago
stockport |
"It's funny because we've had a guy say , oh he gets shy when he sees a condom as he goes limp
But the sight of a condom spurs Mr j on
It's like oh he's getting some , and it's not Mrs j"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Looking at hot pics and pretty much most couples and women profiles safe sex has gone out the window! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had a vasectomy so bareback with trusted people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone prefers sex without condoms, but the sensible among us rubber up with the randoms
Regular testing is much more sensible.
Oral sex carries many STI risks but just about no-one even considers a condom for that.
How is regular testing more sensible than condoms? Surely both? Regular testing won't help you if you've already contracted HIV...
you'll be surprised how many who use condoms that dont test or never have its safer sex not safe sex you can still catch stuff after all you dont just use your cock
id rather go with a barebacker who test regular than a safe sex person who never test ..
i test every 6 weeks im lucky tho as i do voluntary work for a safe sex charity so have easy access and apart from two exclusive regulars its all safer sex"
Just had mine today. The girl knows me that much now as I come every quarter..should I chance it and ask her out. She my type |
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"Unfortunately I can't use condoms as the chemicals used always make my cock go soft, it's happened for years. I meet up with a local lady quite regularly, and her vaginal walls sting if a condom is used "
both of those issues can be worked around and not a good reason to go bare. |
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"Looking at hot pics and pretty much most couples and women profiles safe sex has gone out the window!"
or it's photos with their own partners
We do safer sex... test regularly...condoms for full sex no exceptions with others, but we do oral without |
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By *enfold75Man
over a year ago
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This day and age it has to be condoms. Unless with a regular.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We absolutely love a bareback fuck and I go seconds with his cum all over my cock mmmmmm |
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But to answer the question posed.. we prefer bare but that's just for each other |
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"Always safe sex and no oral given for us...we enjoy our lifestyle but definitely not risking our health"
You don’t give oral ? ……… what’s happening with “not Kev” in your second pic then ? Or have I misunderstood? |
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Bring back the 70s and 80s only used them then for birth control |
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"Bring back the 70s and 80s only used them then for birth control "
Prep seems to be swinging things back that way and I worry about the increase in STDs that will cause, and arguably already is..
As an aside, if you review academic research and the thoughts of practicing GUM physicians, oral sex is pretty close to safe sex. The transmission route is pretty ineffective for STDs and the amount of transmission vs the amount of acts of oral is very small. |
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Safe sex all the time .health comes first . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In our experience its difficult enough finding legitimate couples we click with and we don't swing often enough for this to be a primary concern. You take each meet as it comes but we certainly wouldn't go to something like a bareback gang bang or play bare in a club with folk we don't know.
When we fist met at a friends wedding we fucked without a condom that same night. We didn't die or get any disease, but we did end up married. |
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Neither of us like using condoms. Taking PreP and regular testing is working out well. So BB for us  |
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I highly doubt you are going to find anyone who actually prefers safe sex, but most will practice it.
For us, it's bare at home and safe elsewhere by and large. The playmates we have had for literally multiple years however, well there's a degree of trust there that can mean bare is possible if desired |
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Obviously BB is better but as a single girl, condoms all the way! Health is wealth.
My profile clearly says this but it still amazes me how many guys try it on and try to slip it in anyway. It makes me so angry and causes me no end of stress afterwards. |
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By *ayd100Man
over a year ago
clitheroe |
Depends if you want to breed |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
Condoms, unless with a regular FB and still get tests |
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By *olfieeTV/TS
over a year ago
Oldham, Manchester |
Always safe. I'm not trying to ruin 3 lives at once just to get a slightly better sensation. |
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Testing is like an MOT, only valid until you leave the testing centre. Say your all clear at the test, your next test is maybe 6 weeks away, that leaves 5 weeks 6 days to get an infection and pass it on to others.I started swinging with friends in the mid 70s, things were different then. But since starting again in the 90s it's always been with condoms, had some great experiences with lots of couples but none worth dying or risking my/our health for. The only bareback we do is between us. |
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Amazing how many people on here claim condoms only but when you talk to them or meet them they say they love bareback.
I play bare, I test regularly and I’m selective about who I meet. What I also find crazy is the people who will only have “safe sex” but don’t get tested. |
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Bareback, the sensation is amazing! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We prefer bare. |
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As a cuckold couple our preference has always been bareback. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bareback all the way xx |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
Maidstone |
If you may allow me to summarise the various views...
1. There is no such thing as "safe" sex, there is only "safer" sex. All sex is with some risk, even with condoms.
2. There are currently reports of a new strain of MPox and antibiotic resistant Gonnorroea. Be careful out there, folks.
3. Some people (like me) on PrEP who do enjoy BB with select people (eg they all on PrEP themselves) are still cautious. If you're going attend BB gangbangs several times a week, you're exposing yourself to much higher risks.
4. So a compromise could be get tested every 12 weeks, get on PeEP and enjoy BB selectively.
5. However, even if you use protection, it may still be wise to get checked occasionally (six monthly?) to ensure you are not carrying any symptomless infections that could do long term damage.
6. Finally, it is lovely to see couples who only BB with each other. That is real commitment, making BB sex special. |
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Cock says bareback .brain says safe ……… cock wins !! |
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Deffo safe till I know there disease free, then love bb. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What I prefer and what I’ll do are different things. Clearly babreback feels nice, less interruptions to play if not stopping to put one on. But would I be bareback with anyone - no - respect my health too much |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Here for recreation not procreation. Girl or boy condoms give my body the freedom to respond naturally to other's fuckability. |
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We prefer bareback and have done it with people we know well but play safe with anyone new |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bareback always |
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By *x cplCouple
over a year ago
North of Oxford |
We love bareback but with strangers it's always safe sex..the risk isn't worth it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We love bareback but with strangers it's always safe sex..the risk isn't worth it."
That’s why I’d love to find a long term couple |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely preferred but are careful |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always prefer bare. Much better, but understand if want safe, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always prefer bare. Much better, but understand if want safe, "
Likewise it just depends who it is 😈 |
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By *affle84Couple
over a year ago
Norwich |
Jess prefers bb so bf application’s taken |
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bareback with partner, condoms with others |
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Bb each other as we are long term partners any others safe no exceptions |
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"What do you like best"
Love bb, who doesn't |
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Bareback with hound, safe with anyone else, no exceptions |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Safe sex always and regular testing for me |
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I have never heard anyone say they prefer protected sex. Unfortunately it's something we have to do to help mitigate risks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Both |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone prefers sex without condoms, but the sensible among us rubber up with the randoms
Regular testing is much more sensible.
Oral sex carries many STI risks but just about no-one even considers a condom for that.
How is regular testing more sensible than condoms? Surely both? Regular testing won't help you if you've already contracted HIV...
you'll be surprised how many who use condoms that dont test or never have its safer sex not safe sex you can still catch stuff after all you dont just use your cock
id rather go with a barebacker who test regular than a safe sex person who never test ..
i test every 6 weeks im lucky tho as i do voluntary work for a safe sex charity so have easy access and apart from two exclusive regulars its all safer sex"
So how is testing regular regarded safe? It only has to be one person who has an std to have sex with you within them 6 weeks, you have sex with say 4 other people.. they have sec with 4 other people.. how fast an std can spread in 6 weeks and some people don’t show symptoms  |
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By *unnybunsWoman
over a year ago
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Sorry to be a bore but I am a theatre nurse and the rise in oral cancers caused by HPV really does scare the hell out of me. Mainly tonsils/ tongue and throat. I have seen an uprise in the last few years in my job - just a foot note to say if you feel like you have got something funky going on, change in swallowing, unusual white patches go and get it checked out.
Stay safe and happy people’s of Fab.   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always come to play safe.. if ever do bare I get a free sti test kit sent |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All fantasy of course but would love to see my wife fucked bareback 😊 |
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I have to admit I prefer bareback - see more and more people doing it. It is hotter and maybe we get off on the risk. I do get tested regularly amongst other things. |
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Like most, I prefer bb play, but reserve that for trusted responsible partners. I test regularly, & always test a couple of weeks after a meet. A clear test doesn't necessarily mean there's no nasties present, unless adequate time is given between your last meet and taking a test. I like going into a meet knowing I'm clear, which seems to be a far cry from how others go about things. Had a phone call with one local woman who's regularly looking for meets, as in most nights, yet her last test was sometime last year!
It's not just about protecting yourself, protecting those you play with is important too. So test, abstain, play, abstain, test, works for me. Bareback reserved for 1, maybe 2 trusted friends, condoms for others. |
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News report somewhere hiv is on the rise |
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As a blood donor I have to play safe. Having said that I would go with the flow everything in life a risk you just gotta do what you think is right really |
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We asp love bareback group swx with bi guys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I quite like wearing condoms.
I enjoy the thrill of rolling one down my hard cock and I enjoy the feeling whilst having sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry to be a bore but I am a theatre nurse and the rise in oral cancers caused by HPV really does scare the hell out of me. Mainly tonsils/ tongue and throat. I have seen an uprise in the last few years in my job - just a foot note to say if you feel like you have got something funky going on, change in swallowing, unusual white patches go and get it checked out.
Stay safe and happy people’s of Fab. "
Thank you; at last someone who knows what they are talking about. |
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"As a blood donor I have to play safe. Having said that I would go with the flow everything in life a risk you just gotta do what you think is right really "
Surely they check the blood before using it anyway |
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By *IG G77Man
over a year ago
GATLEY |
Bareback would be with a trusted regular fwb
Safe always |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Guys always want bb. I prefer it but have to be sure before doing it. 3cso far only but mmm |
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By *andydan69Man
over a year ago
south west m5 corridor bristol to past exeter |
Bare is best with trusted but bag up otherwise |
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Safe allways. Some things can’t be tested for |
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By *enfold75Man
over a year ago
hemel hempstead |
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By *enfold75Man
over a year ago
hemel hempstead |
Had a bb meet yesterday it's always the best way |
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"Safe allways. Some things can’t be tested for "
Which things cannot be tested for please? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry to be a bore but I am a theatre nurse and the rise in oral cancers caused by HPV really does scare the hell out of me. Mainly tonsils/ tongue and throat. I have seen an uprise in the last few years in my job - just a foot note to say if you feel like you have got something funky going on, change in swallowing, unusual white patches go and get it checked out.
Stay safe and happy people’s of Fab. "
Thanks 🙏 for raising this |
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By *ilva69Man
over a year ago
stockport |
Prefer bare with likeminded couples |
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Safe sex,
Don't want kids, or sti's
(Yes I know oral poses a risk) |
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"Safe sex,
Don't want kids, or sti's
(Yes I know oral poses a risk)"
Up the bum, no babies! |
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"Safe allways. Some things can’t be tested for
Which things cannot be tested for please?"
Intelligence |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes Linda
There are still people out there who think of it as contraception and that bothers me! Just shows how much consideration they take in to other things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Prefer bareback if it's with a woman I'm seeing exclusively otherwise it's condoms with other women I'm not familiar with |
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I have multiple partners so obviously I have a duty of care to each of them, so no bare backing for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Condoms are definitely a passion killer but a must sorry always safe for me |
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By *oodo69Man
over a year ago
London (visiting frequently) |
Definately prefer bareback, but only with females l know and see regularly. |
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"Safe allways. Some things can’t be tested for
Which things cannot be tested for please?"
Herpes & HPV
(Men) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Prefer bareback if it's with a woman I'm seeing exclusively otherwise it's condoms with other women I'm not familiar with "
Wrong thread my friend. You are looking for the one called "double standards. |
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I wonder how many people reply to these threads trying to say th " right thing" rather than what they love |
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The banana gets wrapped before it's dipped in the honey |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bare for us, have to be tested though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do prefer bare like everyone does but understand need to be safe |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bareback with eachother safe with everyone else |
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"I wonder how many people reply to these threads trying to say th " right thing" rather than what they love "
What do you think they should be saying?
Most, if not all, prefer bare, who doesn't? But they state they play 'safe'. Why isn't that a valid reply?
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A question to all my wife would only give oral to a stranger with flavoured condom , what are your thoughts ? Would you refuse ? |
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Condoms mean safety bareback means more feeling |
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By *dfabMan
over a year ago
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"A question to all my wife would only give oral to a stranger with flavoured condom , what are your thoughts ? Would you refuse ?"
Absolutely not. Safe sex is safe fun |
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By *ayd100Man
over a year ago
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But bareback can be safe with a screened partner |
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"A question to all my wife would only give oral to a stranger with flavoured condom , what are your thoughts ? Would you refuse ?"
we would refuse oral with a condom.
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Typical stereotypical
I have always preferred to use condoms mainly
Because putting one on is a clear precursor to the act which is then prolonged significantly
I do accept that some are sensitive to latex and some dislike the additional friction but the right lube is usually a good solution for both |
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Bareback just with Mr
Condoms with others
it’s about the whole experience and enjoying it with piece of mind |
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"What do you like best"
Bareback of course !, so much more feeling and closeness plus a few more kinks .
Yes condoms with strangers in clubs yet if one has something it will likely be passed by oral sex anyway. Bare with long term friends for sure yet they are almost impossible to find these days. |
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Bareback for me, love how I feel afterwards xx |
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Surely hiv did most damage to bareback |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately condoms are an evil necessity. I prefer not to wear one or have a male partner wear one. But always do with people I do not know well. |
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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago
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As much bareback as possible, hence finding the right partners |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As much bareback as possible, hence finding the right partners"
Agreed. Bare is always the preference |
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"Just the chance to do either would be nice !!!!"
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I prefer bare but I do safe sex because, well, it’s safe |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A question to all my wife would only give oral to a stranger with flavoured condom , what are your thoughts ? Would you refuse ?"
I think that she is wise; I do the same as your wife. |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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I only play bare, but get myself tested before playing and happy to share the results too, and I expect my play partners to do the same |
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Are we the only ones that get put off swinging by some of the replies on here ? |
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"Are we the only ones that get put off swinging by some of the replies on here ? "
Do you care to elaborate? |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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"Are we the only ones that get put off swinging by some of the replies on here ? "
Yes we know exactly what you mean |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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Off course bare backed, but, in this day and age covered because it is safer if not entirely safe. I have managed to last this long and would like to last a little longer. |
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"Are we the only ones that get put off swinging by some of the replies on here ?
Do you care to elaborate?"
The devil may care attitude that some people have to their own health and the health of others in their quest for an orgasm. |
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Condoms in clubs.
Bare with trusted friends.
We still test regularly regardless. |
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In a club you can't be sure who has done what with who that evening so default to condoms. You don't know if somebodies just shoved their salami up someone else's poop shoot.
Private meets we're happyto decide amongst ourselves with those we're meeting. Regular sti checks should go without saying, even if you always use condoms. |
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I mean I like bare better but that doesn’t mean I am not going to use condoms with anyone!
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I perfur bareback it a fantastic feeling but condom is better if you want to feel safe and everyone has there own right to feel safe |
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I can only handle bareback with one man that I trust at a time.
Everyone else uses condoms.
I currently have 7 regular male playmates/partners who swing. We use condoms for vaginal and anal sex but not oral. We test regularly and share test results. We've had 2 oral positives from 2 different STIs/STDs but not group-wide transmission. If someone in my polycule receives a positive test, we all go and get tested.
We try to be as cautious as possible because there are wives, girlfriends and children involved and we all play in clubs and at sex parties.
At clubs and sex parties, I'm reluctant to do unprotected oral sex but will kiss even though there is a transmission risk there.
One poor guy at uni got meningitis from kissing,and he was in hospital for 6 weeks. I was vaccinated for meningitis before my degree but I was a very good girl at uni. Now I'm a very bad woman with no children and no spouse with neurodivergent perimenopausal karen sexual rage! Lol!
I can't imagine what some of the infections and diseases would do to some of our older swingers. Most people are asymptomatic, which is why we do the testing for oral, anal and genital swabs plus bloods. |
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By *ypersoonMan 36 weeks ago
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As much I'm very open-minded to either, I'm always carrying protection cause likely everyone prefers condoms to avoid any STDs. Best to respect preferences of others & I always strive to 👍 |
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I personally wouldn't have sex with or without protection if I was with somebody that I wasn't in a full-time relationship with. |
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"Everyone prefers sex without condoms, but the sensible among us rubber up with the randoms
Regular testing is much more sensible.
Oral sex carries many STI risks but just about no-one even considers a condom for that.
How is regular testing more sensible than condoms? Surely both? Regular testing won't help you if you've already contracted HIV..."
I think, if someone, or a couple at least all prepared to get recent test done before meeting you and they’re generally the kind of people you can trust, to not be having unprotected sex in the pairing in between test and result, of course she can’t know for sure but it’s about minimising risks. You can’t completely get rid of risks. There is no such thing as hundred percent save sex.
it also depends how much sex you’re having the probability of catching a STI increases exponentially with your number of partners, because it includes all their partners, including the people that say they only have unprotected sex with their own partner, everyone is relying on everybody being honest which as we know doesn’t happen |
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"I can only handle bareback with one man that I trust at a time.
Everyone else uses condoms.
I currently have 7 regular male playmates/partners who swing. We use condoms for vaginal and anal sex but not oral. We test regularly and share test results. We've had 2 oral positives from 2 different STIs/STDs but not group-wide transmission. If someone in my polycule receives a positive test, we all go and get tested.
We try to be as cautious as possible because there are wives, girlfriends and children involved and we all play in clubs and at sex parties.
At clubs and sex parties, I'm reluctant to do unprotected oral sex but will kiss even though there is a transmission risk there.
One poor guy at uni got meningitis from kissing,and he was in hospital for 6 weeks. I was vaccinated for meningitis before my degree but I was a very good girl at uni. Now I'm a very bad woman with no children and no spouse with neurodivergent perimenopausal karen sexual rage! Lol!
I can't imagine what some of the infections and diseases would do to some of our older swingers. Most people are asymptomatic, which is why we do the testing for oral, anal and genital swabs plus bloods."
Those numbers scare the hell out of me the statistician in me is always thinking about things like this - numbers equals increased risk - doesn’t matter how safe anybody thinks they are being, there are always exceptions there are always people who are dishonest, single men particularly bi and TV / trans are just terrible many don’t care about condoms, (they will carry them in case ‘she’ requires them attitude) and are as prolific as they can be - I’ve seen enough of them at parties with complete strangers dicks hanging out of their bum holes without condoms on so you minimise the risk by selecting very very carefully and reducing the numbers |
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Although I prefer bareback, when meeting isn't stay safe. If its a partner then eventually we go bare. |
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By *eri24Woman 36 weeks ago
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Bare with my partner
Condoms with everyone else
Regular testing |
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Condoms unless we have met often.
Clubs always condoms. |
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Happy to do either but do like not using a rubber and put a big thick load in 💦 |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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Bareback preferred |
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"I can only handle bareback with one man that I trust at a time.
Everyone else uses condoms.
I currently have 7 regular male playmates/partners who swing. We use condoms for vaginal and anal sex but not oral. We test regularly and share test results. We've had 2 oral positives from 2 different STIs/STDs but not group-wide transmission. If someone in my polycule receives a positive test, we all go and get tested.
We try to be as cautious as possible because there are wives, girlfriends and children involved and we all play in clubs and at sex parties.
At clubs and sex parties, I'm reluctant to do unprotected oral sex but will kiss even though there is a transmission risk there.
One poor guy at uni got meningitis from kissing,and he was in hospital for 6 weeks. I was vaccinated for meningitis before my degree but I was a very good girl at uni. Now I'm a very bad woman with no children and no spouse with neurodivergent perimenopausal karen sexual rage! Lol!
I can't imagine what some of the infections and diseases would do to some of our older swingers. Most people are asymptomatic, which is why we do the testing for oral, anal and genital swabs plus bloods.
Those numbers scare the hell out of me the statistician in me is always thinking about things like this - numbers equals increased risk - doesn’t matter how safe anybody thinks they are being, there are always exceptions there are always people who are dishonest, single men particularly bi and TV / trans are just terrible many don’t care about condoms, (they will carry them in case ‘she’ requires them attitude) and are as prolific as they can be - I’ve seen enough of them at parties with complete strangers dicks hanging out of their bum holes without condoms on so you minimise the risk by selecting very very carefully and reducing the numbers"
I mean I can't comment on others as all the places I go mainly clubs 99% of people I've seen use condoms. I don't bareback anyone and I've only seen one of my partners bareback his wife.
I don't attend many private parties. I've been to one private party, and the organiser was very strict, vetting everyone, regardless of gender or non-gender identity.
There is no way around it. If you are a swinger, you have the risk profile second only to porn stars.
It only takes one partner to infect everyone, so I see common gangbangs, greedy girls/boys, bukkake and blowjob circles as extremely high risk.
I can't speak on single men as a single woman but for sure I know couples are not immune, especially couples with multiple play partners.
Some couples do take PEP and PREP but that doesn't cover every STI or STD and neither do condoms. |
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