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Best opening message and how to keep the conversation flowing
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Hi everyone, I’m a single guy struggling to open in good conversation with women and couples, how do you start a conversation that stands out from everyone else and keep the conversation flowing? I know I m probably a small fish in a massive pond, but any advice and pointers would be great. Thanks |
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By *harAndBryCouple 5 weeks ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
There's no "best" message. As has been said, prove you've read their profile and ask questions don't just make statements.
But if they don't fancy you (and most people don't fancy most people), then it doesn't matter anyway.
(Bry) |
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"I want to know people have read my profile and not just a cut and paste message. A face photo as well x"
This is the crux of it.
We get messages where people clearly haven't read our profile and they're binned immediately.
Good grammar, punctuation, why we interest you and a reason to reply is all we need. |
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Hi op,
Read profiles and only message those who you're genuinely interested in & who you'd be a good fit for.
Maybe write something that shows you've read their bio & how you may be what they'd be after. |
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Keeping a conversation flowing is the deal breaker for us. We try to ask open ended questions about things without getting to personal and expect the other person/people to keep their end of the conversation going by doing the same. |
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This worked for me recently with a very sexy woman on here: I have average looks, im 20 kilos overweight and I have a smaller than average penis - but I like to make people laugh (which is handy given all that) so wonfering if you fancied a chat?  |
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There is no "one size fits all" opening message. You've already been given loads of good advice, I'm going to add a few bits:
1) avoid text speak! If you can't be bothered to put full words together, are you going to bother to make sure we both have good time?
2) tell about yourself and why you think you'd be a good fit for them;
3) don't just say "hi", "hello", "how are you" or similar - those might be good as opening messages when you meet in person, but on here, they are totally pointless and most would not respond to those
However, even the best, most tailored opening message is going to be pointless if your profile is generic. |
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There is not perfect message, but like has been said read the profile and ask a question which fits the profile, or something you could add to the mix of what there are looking for. Also a nice clear body and face picture goes a long way not a face picture with sunglasses on or one take from a mile away with an old Nokia phone.
We try and answer most weather that be a polite no thanks or a yes let’s chat more. Also don’t remove photos if it’s a couple profile has if one opens it and then the photo get removed the other doesn’t see the photo. In our case it’s the female online so she can decide on the looks and if the single is a possibility, but if it’s the male of the couple and then she doesn’t see the photo it can mean you are pasted by.  |
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By *renzMan 5 weeks ago
Between Chichester and Havant |
Tailor your message to the profile, give out information about yourself, how you could be involved in their dynamic and what you are looking for yourself.
Everyone is different, no one message will fit everyone. Keeping conversation going can be difficult, I've had situations where I will ask a question or comment on something only to have a one word answer. Nothing to work with. I take it they're not really interested and leave the "conversation"! |
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