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Try to use them more.
I wear them when having sex with Liz. Don't wear them unless on a meet so tend to give them a whirl a week or so before visiting a club, party or holiday so I can get used to putting them on and having sex with them on.
Takes a bit of practice.  |
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"Hi guys or ladies,
Anyone got any tips on using condoms, but not loosing your erection as soon as it’s on?
D x"
It’s all psychological, so it’s something you need to address with yourself. As the post above says, buy a few and just pop them on when masturbating or having sex, if you’ve someone regular who understands why you’re doing it |
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"Try to use them more.
I wear them when having sex with Liz. Don't wear them unless on a meet so tend to give them a whirl a week or so before visiting a club, party or holiday so I can get used to putting them on and having sex with them on.
Takes a bit of practice. "
Thanks mate, happy to practice!! |
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"Hi guys or ladies,
Anyone got any tips on using condoms, but not loosing your erection as soon as it’s on?
D x
It’s all psychological, so it’s something you need to address with yourself. As the post above says, buy a few and just pop them on when masturbating or having sex, if you’ve someone regular who understands why you’re doing it"
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"Is it possibly a psychological issue? I don’t have any issues with them. Stay just as hard. Maybe don’t overthink things and just forget it is on?"
I think it is psychological now, someone has suggested bigger condoms as I’m quite girthy! |
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"Is it possibly a psychological issue? I don’t have any issues with them. Stay just as hard. Maybe don’t overthink things and just forget it is on?
I think it is psychological now, someone has suggested bigger condoms as I’m quite girthy!"
A decent fit is important. Pasante are a good choice if you need a bit of space. |
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"I used a female condom once with a playmate at a club and it was a completely different experience
Can you message me?"
Its easier on here, what would you like to know. My club playmate had used them before and asked if I'd like to try it. It felt amazing as your not wearing it because its placed in side her |
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"I used a female condom once with a playmate at a club and it was a completely different experience
Can you message me?
Its easier on here, what would you like to know. My club playmate had used them before and asked if I'd like to try it. It felt amazing as your not wearing it because its placed in side her "
So how did you get it in place? Did it stay while you are pumping away at her? |
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"I used a female condom once with a playmate at a club and it was a completely different experience
Can you message me?
Its easier on here, what would you like to know. My club playmate had used them before and asked if I'd like to try it. It felt amazing as your not wearing it because its placed in side her
So how did you get it in place? Did it stay while you are pumping away at her?"
Yes there abit fiddly to put in but once there in it stays there. |
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"I used a female condom once with a playmate at a club and it was a completely different experience
Can you message me?
Its easier on here, what would you like to know. My club playmate had used them before and asked if I'd like to try it. It felt amazing as your not wearing it because its placed in side her
So how did you get it in place? Did it stay while you are pumping away at her?
Yes there abit fiddly to put in but once there in it stays there. "
If it doesnt stay in place could you use a couple of paper clips? |
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"I used a female condom once with a playmate at a club and it was a completely different experience
Can you message me?
Its easier on here, what would you like to know. My club playmate had used them before and asked if I'd like to try it. It felt amazing as your not wearing it because its placed in side her
So how did you get it in place? Did it stay while you are pumping away at her?
Yes there abit fiddly to put in but once there in it stays there.
If it doesnt stay in place could you use a couple of paper clips? "
Have you used them? |
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"I used a female condom once with a playmate at a club and it was a completely different experience
Can you message me?
Its easier on here, what would you like to know. My club playmate had used them before and asked if I'd like to try it. It felt amazing as your not wearing it because its placed in side her
So how did you get it in place? Did it stay while you are pumping away at her?
Yes there abit fiddly to put in but once there in it stays there. "
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"Hi guys or ladies,
Anyone got any tips on using condoms, but not loosing your erection as soon as it’s on?
D x"
A good fit, water based lube and practice your technique so it becomes second nature and doesn't take up brain space so you have to think about it... |
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"Hi guys or ladies,
Anyone got any tips on using condoms, but not loosing your erection as soon as it’s on?
D x"
The advice I give any man that says a condom makes them lose an erection is to wear a condom for every wank. You will soon be able to wear them no problem. |
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Make sure you buy condoms the correct size for your cock, so they are comfortable when on. Not all cocks are the same size, and neither are all condoms! There’s a UK sizing guide you can find online very easily 👍
After that, you need to see the condom as your ‘gateway to pleasure’, not a barrier! As others have said, use them more often, even just for a wank, and it will get easier.
A good tip would be to have the condom opened, sat the right way up for when you’re ready to go, so it’s quick on you, and inside her 👍 |
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By *otstuff77Woman 6 weeks ago
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"I used a female condom once with a playmate at a club and it was a completely different experience
Can you message me?
Its easier on here, what would you like to know. My club playmate had used them before and asked if I'd like to try it. It felt amazing as your not wearing it because its placed in side her
So how did you get it in place? Did it stay while you are pumping away at her?
Yes there abit fiddly to put in but once there in it stays there.
If it doesnt stay in place could you use a couple of paper clips? "
I use a staple gun,just to be sure  |
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"I used a female condom once with a playmate at a club and it was a completely different experience
Can you message me?
Its easier on here, what would you like to know. My club playmate had used them before and asked if I'd like to try it. It felt amazing as your not wearing it because its placed in side her
So how did you get it in place? Did it stay while you are pumping away at her?
Yes there abit fiddly to put in but once there in it stays there.
If it doesnt stay in place could you use a couple of paper clips?
I use a staple gun,just to be sure "
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By *WB85Man 6 weeks ago
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A good tip would be to have the condom opened, sat the right way up for when you’re ready to go, so it’s quick on you, and inside her 👍"
I'm not sure why I've never done this.....its obvious really.
Saves any messing about whilst in the moment. |
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"Make sure you buy condoms the correct size for your cock, so they are comfortable when on. Not all cocks are the same size, and neither are all condoms! There’s a UK sizing guide you can find online very easily 👍
After that, you need to see the condom as your ‘gateway to pleasure’, not a barrier! As others have said, use them more often, even just for a wank, and it will get easier.
A good tip would be to have the condom opened, sat the right way up for when you’re ready to go, so it’s quick on you, and inside her 👍"
Good advice thanks |
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Get fitted for one.
So many, don’t know what nominal width they are and end up with Durex or similar, making it too snug and it collapses.
Get used to fucking in it, wank in it, fuck the Mrs in it. Make a positive connection of it with it on.
No one likes it when asking a man to put a condom on ends up feeling like asking a five year old to put a coat over their Spider-Man outfit. |
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"Make sure you buy condoms the correct size for your cock, so they are comfortable when on. Not all cocks are the same size, and neither are all condoms! There’s a UK sizing guide you can find online very easily 👍
After that, you need to see the condom as your ‘gateway to pleasure’, not a barrier! As others have said, use them more often, even just for a wank, and it will get easier.
A good tip would be to have the condom opened, sat the right way up for when you’re ready to go, so it’s quick on you, and inside her 👍
Good advice thanks "
A much nicer way to say it! Also, Skyns are amazing and have lube at the ready to get it ready to go in. |
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"Is it possibly a psychological issue? I don’t have any issues with them. Stay just as hard. Maybe don’t overthink things and just forget it is on?
I think it is psychological now, someone has suggested bigger condoms as I’m quite girthy!
A decent fit is important. Pasante are a good choice if you need a bit of space."
Gave their king size a try as others were a bit tight, preventing blood flow. Great fit. |
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A good tip would be to have the condom opened, sat the right way up for when you’re ready to go, so it’s quick on you, and inside her 👍
I'm not sure why I've never done this.....its obvious really.
Saves any messing about whilst in the moment. "
Absolutely! “I’ll just pop his hat on”………and away you go! 😎👍 |
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Use condoms when you watch porn / masturbate - that way when you use them for sex your brain is already associating the use of them with pleasure.
Also reduce the fumble - make sure you can open the packets easily, relax, put them on as a sexy show piece |
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I've found a little chemical assistance to ensure that erections aren't lost whilst using condoms. A side effect of this seems to be I last for ever - this may or may not be to an advantage depending on the play partners or scenario |
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By *WANDTGCouple 6 weeks ago
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I had this trouble, but did a little research, outcome was, to buy a larger size condom. It's more comfortable and not such a struggle to put on. Which was half the problem as I sort of lost interest and started going soft.
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a guy we used to meet about 5 yrs ago, had no problem ever, getting an erection, but once Sam asked him to put a condom on, he seemed to get harger and grow even bigger, which was always a bonus for her and him. |
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"Try and experiment with different condoms some are better than others. Also a drop of lube on the inside works wonders."
Lube inside is a good trick to make it feel more like being iside a pussy rather than inside a condom.
I remember an erstwhile Eureka stud who used to subscribe to this theory... |
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Try putting some lube on, before the condom, as it will give different sensations
There are people who only play bare but it restricts your choice. Better to be using them every time you're hard and playing, to adjust to the experience |
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"As others have said, get some the right size. I find that helps a lot. I use a brand called MY.SIZE and have found ones that fit well. It has made a big difference for me. "
The assumption is surely that the above firm caters for the extra large Hampton but do they also have snug fitting rubbers for miniscule winkles? |
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"If you’re girthy, try Skyns large they’re a much more comfortable fit, I can’t wear durex, they’re just to tight."
Pasante king size, and Skyns extra large are a great fit. Skyns large are still a little tight. |
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I wish we were in a world where everybody was clean and responsible then who would need condoms apart from pregnancy prevention (I have gone through the change lucky me!! )
I love the feeling of an exploding coco in me xx |
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By *olo_89Couple 5 weeks ago
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Tbh I used to feel the same and would ruin my election then I changed brand to skins and tbh they give a bit more room around the sides and no latex definently helped maybe try a few different brands. |
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Must be a psychological thing for you, don’t think I’ve ever lost an erection with one on, but I also don’t have sex without one since my last relationship so it’s already in my head that it goes on and it can go in |
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Two honest answer and I mean it with the absolute best of intentions
1. Get set up so it can go on and then in with the smallest possible gap
2. Don't be over proud and buy Viagra. Soooo many guys on here have lost it with us due to heat, bad day at work, drink, nerves, nerves, nerves, condoms etc etc. Viagra isn't saying your less of a dude. It's a tool for a solid weinering. Same as taking paracetamol for a head ache isn't being a softy.
I take one every time weather I need it or not as you never know.
Zero shame. It's just a tool. |
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Errections are largely psychological.
My biggest failure was with a stunningly beautiful French woman who had a perfect body, and was about 10 years younger than me.
It was in an orgy room, and as I was contemplating my failure, in came this woman with average looks and body, and about 10 years older than me. The difference was that we'd played together before, so within a few minutes I was deep inside her.
Not sure what the French woman thought of that...
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"Errections are largely psychological.
My biggest failure was with a stunningly beautiful French woman who had a perfect body, and was about 10 years younger than me.
It was in an orgy room, and as I was contemplating my failure, in came this woman with average looks and body, and about 10 years older than me. The difference was that we'd played together before, so within a few minutes I was deep inside her.
Not sure what the French woman thought of that...
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Was she (the French woman) a woman of letters? |
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