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I haven't tried myself but I have heard that out of every 10 men who sign up for a gangbang:
- Four like the idea as they have seen it in porn, but when it comes to the day they chicken out.
- Four get all excited, wank, cum and that's that.
- One of them has a genuine excuse and can't go.
Finally one shows up for the event.
So the moral of the story I think, is to invite a lot! |
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I know it's been said probably many times, but it's always best to meet potentials at a club, or an organised social, and maybe exchange information - you can get a good general idea of who's who and stuff, rather than taking chances with the wild wild west of fab |
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"I want to organise mmmmmf
By I keep reading on here then men don’t show. Is that your experience?"
My first threesome was supposed to be a gangbang for the wife of a couple, but the other two guys didn’t turn up.
That’s my one experience of guys not showing up? 🤷♂️
There are plenty of people in here hosting private gangbangs regularly, perhaps contact them directly, and ask their advice?
Many will steer you towards the club scene, which does have some advantages, but you are always limited to who is there on the night, and they may not be to your taste…..👍 |
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Sadly, yes. Even with verified guys only 10-30% will show up. Clubs are better, but still not 100%. Get 10 guys in a playroom and there are always a few who ‘just want to watch’.
There are established groups and party organisers on here who can provide reliable guys to meet your needs.
Have fun! |
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I find it hard to believe a well veriied guy (not just 1 or 2, or by cam verification) would not show up without a valid reason. I will always tell the person I am about to meet if there might be an issue days in advance. But I do show up every time if I give them my word. Mulitple verifications lets me know they are real and they meet at the least. |
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In my experience, speaking to couples who have organised them, most guys will not show up to a gangbang. The world is full of keyboard gigalos who love the idea but on the day they will find something else to be doing.
I would suggest that you consider inviting at least twice as many as you think you need. Even then most probably won’t show. Also make sure that the people you are inviting have attended one before. Don’t take their word for it, look for the veris that prove it. These guys are much less likely to be scared off. |
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I like the fantasy of gangbangs, but it's not something I'm attracted to in real life - there have been times at a club where I could have joined in, but standing in line to fuck someone who saw me as just another cock wasn't that appealing.
I doubt I'm that unusual in that. But at least I'm never going to pretend that I'll turn up when I'm just fantasising. |
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By *ykiesxMan 5 weeks ago
Eastbourne |
"If I agree to meet I'd definitely turn up. I hate the thought of letting people down."
This is so me too. I am very upfront, if i wont come, i'ld let you know if i say i will show up, expect me to.
I dont have much time for fun anyway, so im not wasting it for nothing. |
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Only had one experience of this arrangement were made for 3 guys we chatted by phone sent address and time spoke with them the day before then on the night only one turned up but we still had fun blocked the other 2 guys |
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"I want to organise mmmmmf
By I keep reading on here then men don’t show. Is that your experience?"
60-70% of our single guys meets don't turn up, or go radio silent a few days before a meet.
We tried to arrange a gang bang once - invited 32 people, got ten confirmed to attend, three actually turned up. One was someone we asked to come a bit early to help out, one came, got a sick, shot and left within minutes, one was on a half hour excuse from a wedding so didn't hang around. Definitely NOT a gangbang. |
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Sadly this is all too common and gives guys a bad reputation generally, which is a real shame. It has happened to us a few times so now if we are looking for group fun we will usually go to a club. If we are doing something more privately, we invite a couple of guys we know quite well who we know will turn up as well as a couple of potential dreamers. That way we are guaranteed the evening won’t be wasted. However, it cuts both ways. It’s not just guys who don’t show. We stumbled across a lovely young man once after a club night who had been waiting outside the hotel for 40minutes having arranged with a lady to meet after she left the club. She wasn’t even in the club that night! Poor guy. But we didn’t let his evening go to waste! |
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By *arand25Couple 5 weeks ago
Crowborough |
We've had our share of timewasters on here, so many have bailed at the last minute. We think they're married or attached & like the excitement of messaging, then bottle it when it comes to meeting. |
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It's not something I've ever wanted to do before, so I'm talking from a position of some ignorance here. But I've seen MM couple profiles on here that claim to be proficient in organising gangbangs. They often have veris from people who have used their 'services' in the past. It might be an idea to contact one of those profiles and meet up with them to talk about what you're after and get an idea of how reliable their contacts are. It also takes all the hassle of organising it if you leave it to them! |
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By *b03Man 4 weeks ago
Exeter |
The more people involved, the more likely it is that things will work out, unfortunately. Any groups stuff is more likely to attract the fantasists or time wasters as it's an easy in for them. |
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"It's not something I've ever wanted to do before, so I'm talking from a position of some ignorance here. But I've seen MM couple profiles on here that claim to be proficient in organising gangbangs. They often have veris from people who have used their 'services' in the past. It might be an idea to contact one of those profiles and meet up with them to talk about what you're after and get an idea of how reliable their contacts are. It also takes all the hassle of organising it if you leave it to them! "
To be fair, considering the OP initial requirements this is a great suggestion to get the numbers required. Just got to hope when they turn up she is comfortable and attracted to the chosen ones. But a good suggestion which guarantees the guys are experienced in these situation too. |
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"I want to organise mmmmmf
By I keep reading on here then men don’t show. Is that your experience?"
Apparently roughly 50% of men invited will be a no show. So if you want 5 men invite 10, if you want 10 men invite 20, etc. |
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"I haven't tried myself but I have heard that out of every 10 men who sign up for a gangbang:
- Four like the idea as they have seen it in porn, but when it comes to the day they chicken out.
- Four get all excited, wank, cum and that's that.
- One of them has a genuine excuse and can't go.
Finally one shows up for the event.
So the moral of the story I think, is to invite a lot!"
100% this!
Not only for gangbang meets but meets in general. Many (not all obviously) use sites like this as wank fodder and chicken out after they blow a load. It looked good on porn or in their head, but when it comes to delivery, they fall up short.
Clubs are a better way, but then that can be random too. Verified folks in private meets also, but string this up is always a difficult task.
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"...It looked good on porn or in their head, but when it comes to delivery, they fall up short.
Clubs are a better way, but then that can be random too. Verified folks in private meets also, but string this up is always a difficult task.
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On the porn thing, I sometimes meet a guy who works doing these things, and he says they are really not a turn-on and its a real effort to stay hard while you wait about. Also they will often break and restart as no-one is ready. I don't think some guys realise that! |
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"...It looked good on porn or in their head, but when it comes to delivery, they fall up short.
Clubs are a better way, but then that can be random too. Verified folks in private meets also, but string this up is always a difficult task.
On the porn thing, I sometimes meet a guy who works doing these things, and he says they are really not a turn-on and its a real effort to stay hard while you wait about. Also they will often break and restart as no-one is ready. I don't think some guys realise that! "
Very true, it's not all blowjobs and threesomes 😂 |
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By *Xtriple7Couple 4 weeks ago
N Peterborough. |
We’ve been messed around with no shows for a gb.
However we have managed to have one where everyone turned up, so it can happen.
Got to be in it to win it, whether it’s worth the time and money commitment is another matter.
These days it's not worth it for us. |
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Having organised similar stuff in past ny advise is any bloke i ask i need to trust as the lady's well being and safety is paramount.
If they are not prepared to swap numbers with me they have no chance.I am lucky I have a few who I have know a few yr.
Always trust your instincts. |
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"I find it hard to believe a well veriied guy (not just 1 or 2, or by cam verification) would not show up without a valid reason. I will always tell the person I am about to meet if there might be an issue days in advance. But I do show up every time if I give them my word. Mulitple verifications lets me know they are real and they meet at the least."
The AA does a roaring trade whenever we arrange a gangbang. I start with 20, reconfirm on the day expecting a 3/4 drop out rate, invite another 10. Last time… 2 showed up.
We provide all the information, offer video calls to make sure they know they aren’t being stitched up, a pdf of parking, the front door and contact details. We have a hard 15 minute arrival window which puts many off. If they’re going to be late it’s not going to happen. We’ve had far too many come late hoping for a 1 on 1 rather than the group that is discussed. Also, keep having to go to the door and let people in which disrupts the flow of things.
Organised gb teams or clubs on GG nights are far easier!! |
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"The AA does a roaring trade whenever we arrange a gangbang. I start with 20, reconfirm on the day expecting a 3/4 drop out rate, invite another 10. Last time… 2 showed
Organised gb teams or clubs on GG nights are far easier!! "
That’s exactly my experience too.
For many years ‘arranged a meet, did not turn up’ has been a category on Fab’s profile reporting form. Does anyone use it? |
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" For many years ‘arranged a meet, did not turn up’ has been a category on Fab’s profile reporting form. Does anyone use it?"
We do. And that's exactly why we keep all correspondence and arrangements in Fab messaging. Take it easy from the site and admin can't see the conversations leading up to a no-show. |
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In our experience having posted meets since November had a play meet since even though posting every other weekend lol today we have free house and will only meet at their time and schedule ect so going forward we will only be doing clubs parties 99% guys on here just dream away while wanking and the guys where meet verified too !! |
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We've had a few gangbangs and we tend to expect about a 75% timewaster rate.
Its best to have a social meet in a pub a few weeks beforehand.
If the guys can't be bothered showing up for a social drink there is no chance of them turning up to a gangbang.
As folks have said, a club is probably best, or contact an already established group.
It can be done but takes time and lots of effort.
Good luck. |
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"You just need to invite men with recent verifications, contact those people who left them, arrange a meet, invite the aforesaid men plus more for those who will inevitably drop out. "
🤣 no way! Is that the key to getting people to turn up? If only we thought of that! Thank you for the advice.
(For the avoidance of doubt, we used to only invite those verified and those that respond to meets with the it availablity. This makes little difference. Those without veris are, more recently, more reliable than those with veris as I suspect they need the veri). |
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This site is now a sea of timewasters, cheats and pic collectors so even organising a social with suitable singles and couples has become almost impossible  . So we tried clubs. Last couple completely messed us around and clearly lied, previous couple completely lied about everything (sexualities, safe sex, what they wanted) and we only found out when invited to theirs a week or so later  . Yes we immediately left. |
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By *arand25Couple 3 weeks ago
Crowborough |
Yet another single guy bailed on us at the last minute today, was supposedly meeting tomorrow. Had lots of excuses from other guys before but this one seems genuine, but as we don't know him of course we don't know for sure.
Frustrating though, that's the fifth or sixth time this has happened to us now. |
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By *WB85Man 3 weeks ago
Staffordshire |
"Yet another single guy bailed on us at the last minute today, was supposedly meeting tomorrow. Had lots of excuses from other guys before but this one seems genuine, but as we don't know him of course we don't know for sure.
Frustrating though, that's the fifth or sixth time this has happened to us now."
Sorry to hear that guys.
It is incredibly difficult to find genuine people, we've had similar issues with our couples profile.
I hope you find what you're looking for. |
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By *igT-SharedShowerSoNiceMan 2 weeks ago
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"No shows have been a disadvantage for a lot of singles on here, men and women. There are a lot of fantasists! "
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Sadly 100% correct and it spoils it for us real nice genuine, reliable ones who never fail. |
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By *igT-SharedShowerSoNiceMan 2 weeks ago
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"Idiots I’ve let any one down by not showing up dreamers all of them
So you let a lot of people down then? "
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Come on be nice fabbers, we all really know it was a slight mistype  |
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By *igT-SharedShowerSoNiceMan 2 weeks ago
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"Yeah...some of them turn up with no shoes 🤣🤣🤣.
One day FAB will figure out how to edit posts"
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I agree
Fab should allow 1 edit or delete .
Not just delete.
We all have fat finger silly moments.
Even me and I'm PERFACT  |
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It is a shame how men dont turn up. They spoil it for us genuine ones, as we now find it harder to sort meets due to people being let down. A lot of good replies on here. I hope you getwhat your after soon. |
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"I want to organise mmmmmf
By I keep reading on here then men don’t show. Is that your experience?
Do it at a club it will be easy "
Agree, a club is best. We only meet new guys at clubs, there are too many fakers, and they end up spoiling any plans. |
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