Hi.
I have had several messages read but, not replied to.
Or deleted...
Being wired differently, subtle signs and ambiguity drive me nuts.
What can I take from this?...
They're not interested...
Interested but observing...
Potential meet...
One profile does even say she will delete messages if they lack intelligence... 🤣
Apologies for the naivety.
Any feedback/advice would be greatly appreciated.
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OP, the best way to avoid any ambiguity here is to delete all messages from your "sent" folder. That way, you're not obsessing over the subtle signs and if any reply does come, that would be a surprise. |
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I tend to adopt a “send and forget” approach, and if I get a reply then that’s a lovely surprise.
The FAQ here says “no reply is a reply”, which I get, but if the message is deleted I know for certain that they’re not interested, and block so as not to bother them again.
What I struggle with is why, if you receive a nice message with face photos ( dick pics should be by request only) and you’re not interested then why would you not delete it? Surely a tidy inbox is better? |
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"Hi.
I have had several messages read but, not replied to.
Or deleted...
Being wired differently, subtle signs and ambiguity drive me nuts.
What can I take from this?...
They're not interested...
Interested but observing...
Potential meet...
One profile does even say she will delete messages if they lack intelligence... 🤣
Apologies for the naivety.
Any feedback/advice would be greatly appreciated.
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I would take it that they have no interest and anyone who was interested would respond, or message you first.
Not every person will have the curtesy to respond, we try to respond to every message we get, even if we’re not interested, but we can’t respond to all of them and if we don’t it’s because we have no interest |
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"I tend to adopt a “send and forget” approach, and if I get a reply then that’s a lovely surprise.
The FAQ here says “no reply is a reply”, which I get, but if the message is deleted I know for certain that they’re not interested, and block so as not to bother them again.
What I struggle with is why, if you receive a nice message with face photos ( dick pics should be by request only) and you’re not interested then why would you not delete it? Surely a tidy inbox is better?"
Sometimes as a couple, if one of us reads a message we might leave it there so the other can read it at a later date |
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I would take it that they have no interest and anyone who was interested would respond, or message you first.
Not every person will have the curtesy to respond, we try to respond to every message we get, even if we’re not interested, but we can’t respond to all of them and if we don’t it’s because we have no interest "
Thank you for replying.
It was singles, not couples I'd sent messages to.
I understand what you're saying about no interest. Thats a good and fair point.... my argument is, if you know you're not interested after reading a decent message, with face pic, then why not delete it or, reply "not what im looking for/not interested, happy Fabbin'"...
Clean, quick, unambiguous. Bosh.
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I would take it that they have no interest and anyone who was interested would respond, or message you first.
Not every person will have the curtesy to respond, we try to respond to every message we get, even if we’re not interested, but we can’t respond to all of them and if we don’t it’s because we have no interest
Thank you for replying.
It was singles, not couples I'd sent messages to.
I understand what you're saying about no interest. Thats a good and fair point.... my argument is, if you know you're not interested after reading a decent message, with face pic, then why not delete it or, reply "not what im looking for/not interested, happy Fabbin'"...
Clean, quick, unambiguous. Bosh.
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Some people don’t respond because when you engage, some men then bombard you with questions as to why you’re not interested, or what are you looking for, or what can they do to make you interested.
I would take the advice in the thread just delete your sent messages because then it won’t play on your mind |
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You’re single person (no couple profile) and you receive a decent message with a face photo. You’ve opened and read the message, and viewed the photo. If you’ve no interest in engaging with the sender, why would you NOT delete the message?
It’s not about no reply, it’s about why you would retain a message from a profile you’ve no interest in. |
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"You’re single person (no couple profile) and you receive a decent message with a face photo. You’ve opened and read the message, and viewed the photo. If you’ve no interest in engaging with the sender, why would you NOT delete the message?
It’s not about no reply, it’s about why you would retain a message from a profile you’ve no interest in."
Maybe they are reading it on a quick break, maybe they got distracted, maybe their inbox organisation is something that doesn’t bother them. The clear thing is that no response, is a response.
Maybe they get dozens of messages a day and they are keeping all the messages they want to respond to in their inbox, so that when they have some time to engage, they respond. |
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Maybe they are reading it on a quick break, maybe they got distracted, maybe their inbox organisation is something that doesn’t bother them. The clear thing is that no response, is a response.
Maybe they get dozens of messages a day and they are keeping all the messages they want to respond to in their inbox, so that when they have some time to engage, they respond. "
Fair points.
I would like to say, I'm not some obsessive creep neurotically sat waiting for a message to be read. I respect women and boundaries, I don't send multiple messages, I don't send abusive or coercive messages.
If I dont get a reply, such is life. I'm not gods gift.... if I do get a reply, great.
My confusion and seeking of clarity is because the profile said "messages will be deleted" if not interested or they lacked a modicom of intelligence... she read mine, but didnt delete. 🤷♂️
Anyway, thank you to all for the replies, input and , guidance.
It is much appreciated.
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