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Women, what do u look for when viewing a profile?
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I want to know something about the person, what makes them different. A hint of their personality in the text. (While I'm not suggesting you adopt my style - in fact, I suggest you don't - if you were to read my profile, you'd get a flavour of my character from it).
Try answering these questions in your text. What kind of person am I? (Essentially "who am I", but be a bit less literal about it for anonymity reasons) What am I looking for? Why should you be interested in me?
Photos - a variety of body shots. Cropping head is preferable to adding emojis or smudges to hide the face. Prop up your phone, use the self timer, pose - expect to delete 90-95% as horrible bloopers. (If I were a man, I might have up to one penis shot visible in public, among no less than ten images that are not graphic. Some women like them. Many do not. That'd be how I tried to please everyone) |
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"Just thought I'd show I like to travel, maybe show something interesting first before I message someone"
That's not what pictures on Fab are for, in practice.
Say something about it in your profile. Maybe a picture of you standing (head cropped) with something from your travels in the background, if you want to go that route. |
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By *ullrun OP Man 1 week ago
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"Just thought I'd show I like to travel, maybe show something interesting first before I message someone
That's not what pictures on Fab are for, in practice.
Say something about it in your profile. Maybe a picture of you standing (head cropped) with something from your travels in the background, if you want to go that route."
Thank u, so what would u rate my profile out of 10? |
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"Just thought I'd show I like to travel, maybe show something interesting first before I message someone
That's not what pictures on Fab are for, in practice.
Say something about it in your profile. Maybe a picture of you standing (head cropped) with something from your travels in the background, if you want to go that route.
Thank u, so what would u rate my profile out of 10?"
4. It's not dire, but it's generic and not terribly informative. Squarely middle of the pack, where you want to be closer to a 9. |
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By *ullrun OP Man 1 week ago
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"Just thought I'd show I like to travel, maybe show something interesting first before I message someone
That's not what pictures on Fab are for, in practice.
Say something about it in your profile. Maybe a picture of you standing (head cropped) with something from your travels in the background, if you want to go that route.
Thank u, so what would u rate my profile out of 10?
4. It's not dire, but it's generic and not terribly informative. Squarely middle of the pack, where you want to be closer to a 9."
So besides the pictures what would u improve in my bio? Or is pics the main problem? |
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"Just thought I'd show I like to travel, maybe show something interesting first before I message someone
That's not what pictures on Fab are for, in practice.
Say something about it in your profile. Maybe a picture of you standing (head cropped) with something from your travels in the background, if you want to go that route.
Thank u, so what would u rate my profile out of 10?
4. It's not dire, but it's generic and not terribly informative. Squarely middle of the pack, where you want to be closer to a 9.
So besides the pictures what would u improve in my bio? Or is pics the main problem?"
See what I wrote above the reply you replied to. |
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Sam here lady from the couple. I would like to hear more about why you’re on a swinging site as you’re too young to go to swinging clubs right now.
I would also like some background about why you’re not meeting ladies from school and college and if you have a network of friends.
The pics of your travels would be better if your face was in them. What reason do you have to be anonymous at 20 years of age?
Are you working or at uni, what’s you’re availability all these kinds of things.
Thanks
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The pics of your travels would be better if your face was in them. What reason do you have to be anonymous at 20 years of age?
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I think privacy is important regardless of age, and would never judge someone for not having a face picture in public. |
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By *ullrun OP Man 1 week ago
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"Sam here lady from the couple. I would like to hear more about why you’re on a swinging site as you’re too young to go to swinging clubs right now.
I would also like some background about why you’re not meeting ladies from school and college and if you have a network of friends.
The pics of your travels would be better if your face was in them. What reason do you have to be anonymous at 20 years of age?
Are you working or at uni, what’s you’re availability all these kinds of things.
Thanks
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Thank u for the feedback. In regards to why I hide my face is mainly due to not wanting ppl to find out that I'm on here. Mainly because I'm Muslim and it's taboo for this type of stuff. |
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The pics of your travels would be better if your face was in them. What reason do you have to be anonymous at 20 years of age?
I think privacy is important regardless of age, and would never judge someone for not having a face picture in public."
Fair enough xx |
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By *ullrun OP Man 1 week ago
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"Trying to improve my profile.
Maybe don’t put up statuses like the one you currently have for starters. What exactly is “weird”
about desiring a black woman? 🤔"
I meant as in random should've said that tbh |
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By *ullrun OP Man 1 week ago
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"I want to know something about the person, what makes them different. A hint of their personality in the text. (While I'm not suggesting you adopt my style - in fact, I suggest you don't - if you were to read my profile, you'd get a flavour of my character from it).
Try answering these questions in your text. What kind of person am I? (Essentially "who am I", but be a bit less literal about it for anonymity reasons) What am I looking for? Why should you be interested in me?
Photos - a variety of body shots. Cropping head is preferable to adding emojis or smudges to hide the face. Prop up your phone, use the self timer, pose - expect to delete 90-95% as horrible bloopers. (If I were a man, I might have up to one penis shot visible in public, among no less than ten images that are not graphic. Some women like them. Many do not. That'd be how I tried to please everyone)"
Just a question about the penis shot, u think it would be better to show like an outline of it instead of fully showing it. Rather send it to ppl i know who's interested rather than have it on my profile? |
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"I want to know something about the person, what makes them different. A hint of their personality in the text. (While I'm not suggesting you adopt my style - in fact, I suggest you don't - if you were to read my profile, you'd get a flavour of my character from it).
Try answering these questions in your text. What kind of person am I? (Essentially "who am I", but be a bit less literal about it for anonymity reasons) What am I looking for? Why should you be interested in me?
Photos - a variety of body shots. Cropping head is preferable to adding emojis or smudges to hide the face. Prop up your phone, use the self timer, pose - expect to delete 90-95% as horrible bloopers. (If I were a man, I might have up to one penis shot visible in public, among no less than ten images that are not graphic. Some women like them. Many do not. That'd be how I tried to please everyone)
Just a question about the penis shot, u think it would be better to show like an outline of it instead of fully showing it. Rather send it to ppl i know who's interested rather than have it on my profile?"
That's up to you.
The feedback guys tend to get is a) most women don't like graphic cock shots (but some do) and b) if a majority of pictures are cock shots, it's doubly off-putting. That's why I would post one out of ten or more. A bulge rather than a cock shot would work, or none at all. But less is more. |
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By *ullrun OP Man 1 week ago
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"I want to know something about the person, what makes them different. A hint of their personality in the text. (While I'm not suggesting you adopt my style - in fact, I suggest you don't - if you were to read my profile, you'd get a flavour of my character from it).
Try answering these questions in your text. What kind of person am I? (Essentially "who am I", but be a bit less literal about it for anonymity reasons) What am I looking for? Why should you be interested in me?
Photos - a variety of body shots. Cropping head is preferable to adding emojis or smudges to hide the face. Prop up your phone, use the self timer, pose - expect to delete 90-95% as horrible bloopers. (If I were a man, I might have up to one penis shot visible in public, among no less than ten images that are not graphic. Some women like them. Many do not. That'd be how I tried to please everyone)
Just a question about the penis shot, u think it would be better to show like an outline of it instead of fully showing it. Rather send it to ppl i know who's interested rather than have it on my profile?
That's up to you.
The feedback guys tend to get is a) most women don't like graphic cock shots (but some do) and b) if a majority of pictures are cock shots, it's doubly off-putting. That's why I would post one out of ten or more. A bulge rather than a cock shot would work, or none at all. But less is more. "
Thank you honestly. It's been hard to find a meet and I'm hoping this will help.  |
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"I want to know something about the person, what makes them different. A hint of their personality in the text. (While I'm not suggesting you adopt my style - in fact, I suggest you don't - if you were to read my profile, you'd get a flavour of my character from it).
Try answering these questions in your text. What kind of person am I? (Essentially "who am I", but be a bit less literal about it for anonymity reasons) What am I looking for? Why should you be interested in me?
Photos - a variety of body shots. Cropping head is preferable to adding emojis or smudges to hide the face. Prop up your phone, use the self timer, pose - expect to delete 90-95% as horrible bloopers. (If I were a man, I might have up to one penis shot visible in public, among no less than ten images that are not graphic. Some women like them. Many do not. That'd be how I tried to please everyone)
Just a question about the penis shot, u think it would be better to show like an outline of it instead of fully showing it. Rather send it to ppl i know who's interested rather than have it on my profile?
That's up to you.
The feedback guys tend to get is a) most women don't like graphic cock shots (but some do) and b) if a majority of pictures are cock shots, it's doubly off-putting. That's why I would post one out of ten or more. A bulge rather than a cock shot would work, or none at all. But less is more.
Thank you honestly. It's been hard to find a meet and I'm hoping this will help. "
It should help. It may also continue to be hard - it's hard for guys here, and it's harder for guys who are both older and younger (the sweet spot is probably 30-50, my guess is). |
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By *ullrun OP Man 1 week ago
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"I want to know something about the person, what makes them different. A hint of their personality in the text. (While I'm not suggesting you adopt my style - in fact, I suggest you don't - if you were to read my profile, you'd get a flavour of my character from it).
Try answering these questions in your text. What kind of person am I? (Essentially "who am I", but be a bit less literal about it for anonymity reasons) What am I looking for? Why should you be interested in me?
Photos - a variety of body shots. Cropping head is preferable to adding emojis or smudges to hide the face. Prop up your phone, use the self timer, pose - expect to delete 90-95% as horrible bloopers. (If I were a man, I might have up to one penis shot visible in public, among no less than ten images that are not graphic. Some women like them. Many do not. That'd be how I tried to please everyone)
Just a question about the penis shot, u think it would be better to show like an outline of it instead of fully showing it. Rather send it to ppl i know who's interested rather than have it on my profile?
That's up to you.
The feedback guys tend to get is a) most women don't like graphic cock shots (but some do) and b) if a majority of pictures are cock shots, it's doubly off-putting. That's why I would post one out of ten or more. A bulge rather than a cock shot would work, or none at all. But less is more.
Thank you honestly. It's been hard to find a meet and I'm hoping this will help.
It should help. It may also continue to be hard - it's hard for guys here, and it's harder for guys who are both older and younger (the sweet spot is probably 30-50, my guess is)."
Could I ask when someone messages u what r u looking for in that message? |
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Could I ask when someone messages u what r u looking for in that message?"
This is answering for me, not everyone.
This will be necessary but not sufficient (I won't answer a message that doesn't have all of these, but it's not enough - there has to be something more)
1. I can tell they've read my profile. (Saying "I have read your profile" is a lie. Talk about something in the profile text)
2. The person indicates why we might have something in common
3. The person indicates why they're interested in me, rather than anyone else with an orifice within 100 miles.
4. The person respects my wishes. (So, for example, I say don't send me penis pictures. The otherwise perfect guy who sends me a penis picture... It's not just a no, it's a never)
I also have to find them interesting and attractive, but that's hard to define or improve. |
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By *ullrun OP Man 1 week ago
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Could I ask when someone messages u what r u looking for in that message?
This is answering for me, not everyone.
This will be necessary but not sufficient (I won't answer a message that doesn't have all of these, but it's not enough - there has to be something more)
1. I can tell they've read my profile. (Saying "I have read your profile" is a lie. Talk about something in the profile text)
2. The person indicates why we might have something in common
3. The person indicates why they're interested in me, rather than anyone else with an orifice within 100 miles.
4. The person respects my wishes. (So, for example, I say don't send me penis pictures. The otherwise perfect guy who sends me a penis picture... It's not just a no, it's a never)
I also have to find them interesting and attractive, but that's hard to define or improve."
This actually helps cause I try to say what's right but I can now use this as a guide in my messages going forward. Thanks |
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Could I ask when someone messages u what r u looking for in that message?
This is answering for me, not everyone.
This will be necessary but not sufficient (I won't answer a message that doesn't have all of these, but it's not enough - there has to be something more)
1. I can tell they've read my profile. (Saying "I have read your profile" is a lie. Talk about something in the profile text)
2. The person indicates why we might have something in common
3. The person indicates why they're interested in me, rather than anyone else with an orifice within 100 miles.
4. The person respects my wishes. (So, for example, I say don't send me penis pictures. The otherwise perfect guy who sends me a penis picture... It's not just a no, it's a never)
I also have to find them interesting and attractive, but that's hard to define or improve.
This actually helps cause I try to say what's right but I can now use this as a guide in my messages going forward. Thanks"
Remember you're connecting to a person. Use their profile to work out what kind of person they are, and write accordingly. |
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By *ullrun OP Man 1 week ago
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Could I ask when someone messages u what r u looking for in that message?
This is answering for me, not everyone.
This will be necessary but not sufficient (I won't answer a message that doesn't have all of these, but it's not enough - there has to be something more)
1. I can tell they've read my profile. (Saying "I have read your profile" is a lie. Talk about something in the profile text)
2. The person indicates why we might have something in common
3. The person indicates why they're interested in me, rather than anyone else with an orifice within 100 miles.
4. The person respects my wishes. (So, for example, I say don't send me penis pictures. The otherwise perfect guy who sends me a penis picture... It's not just a no, it's a never)
I also have to find them interesting and attractive, but that's hard to define or improve.
This actually helps cause I try to say what's right but I can now use this as a guide in my messages going forward. Thanks
Remember you're connecting to a person. Use their profile to work out what kind of person they are, and write accordingly."
Will do just last question, what the flip is ur profile pic |
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Will do just last question, what the flip is ur profile pic"
Parsnip. I pulled it out of a vegetable box. It looks a bit like cock and legs and I'm secretly twelve. (It is my hand, so it's in the rules... Obviously I'm not posting it to attract people. I just think it's funny) |
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Will do just last question, what the flip is ur profile pic
Parsnip. I pulled it out of a vegetable box. It looks a bit like cock and legs and I'm secretly twelve. (It is my hand, so it's in the rules... Obviously I'm not posting it to attract people. I just think it's funny)"
Ohhhhhhhhhhh fairs, I thought no way it's a vegetable lol |
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