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I'm having issues getting responses and meets.
I've tried to make my profile a bit more than the average "meet now, here's a pic of my cock" but seem to be getting ignored.
A few back and forth chats have happened but gone nowhere. I know having no verifications isn't great but I was just wondering how others got their start?
If anyone is kind enough to offer some advice I'll gladly take it on board. Thanks |
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It doesn't jump out from the thousands that say the same thing.
Only be pic....use your phone timer or a good selection of different pics.
Age range...really a 99 year old?.
What makes you an experienced lover? It's a bold statement.
Take a look at the forums and the men that post with humour and they're profiles are more likely entertaining to read.
Sorry to be harsh, apologies if your offended but a profile that just talks about sex is a pass for a fair amount of people.
I hope you have nicer comments after me lol I'm a moody cow |
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"It doesn't jump out from the thousands that say the same thing.
Only be pic....use your phone timer or a good selection of different pics.
Age range...really a 99 year old?.
What makes you an experienced lover? It's a bold statement.
Take a look at the forums and the men that post with humour and they're profiles are more likely entertaining to read.
Sorry to be harsh, apologies if your offended but a profile that just talks about sex is a pass for a fair amount of people.
I hope you have nicer comments after me lol I'm a moody cow"
I get that it doesn't jump out I just don't find myself to be that exciting haha.
I've seen countless other profiles that don't stick out and they seem to be having success, must have better banter in the messages but most of mine go ignored anyway.
I hadn't noticed the age range I'll change that now, thanks.
As far as the picture goes. I'm just not comfortable or open enough to have a face pic on my profile. I've got one that I'll attach to any message.
Honestly it's fine, a moody reply is better than no reply
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You have one photo which is very dark and partially shows you.
You're opening line is looking for NSA, it's just bland.
You say you're not another blank profile, but it's only one step above blank if I'm honest.
Also you are saying you have little experience (which is fine) but most people aren't looking to teach men.
Have a look around at successful guys profiles and see what works.
Ultimately there are thousands of guys and your profile is your only chance to get chatting with someone so it needs to stand out.
Think who you're actually looking for and tailor it to them. Basic marketing I'm afraid!
So in short, add more, better photos
Don't sound so inexperienced
Make it clear what you want
Make it clear what you offer
You'll still have limited success but maybe a bit more.
Good luck! |
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"You have one photo which is very dark and partially shows you.
You're opening line is looking for NSA, it's just bland.
You say you're not another blank profile, but it's only one step above blank if I'm honest.
Also you are saying you have little experience (which is fine) but most people aren't looking to teach men.
Have a look around at successful guys profiles and see what works.
Ultimately there are thousands of guys and your profile is your only chance to get chatting with someone so it needs to stand out.
Think who you're actually looking for and tailor it to them. Basic marketing I'm afraid!
So in short, add more, better photos
Don't sound so inexperienced
Make it clear what you want
Make it clear what you offer
You'll still have limited success but maybe a bit more.
Good luck!"
Thanks. I'll have a think and edit the profile a bit |
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By *erdyguy45Man 4 days ago
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There's a few threads very similar and will find loads of advice on those.
Personally I always recommend attending a few social events . They are a great way to meet people and express your personality better.
Doesn't mean you'll get a meet but at the least a few verifications from real people that make a difference.
Also attending clubs is a big win, be genuine, engage in conversation with others there and sometimes it leads to more (but not guaranteed of course).
Good luck |
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Single male, been on here for a while
My profile has a long description of who I am , what I want and hopefully entertaining enough to persuade people to read to the end.
Though a lot of people don’t and still message
I still don’t know why sometimes I’m popular and other times I’m not
My best time was when I wasn’t a single male. I had a straight male friend and we set up a MM account to meet women and couples who wanted to have two extra men. We were getting two or three meets a week, for a while.
Maybe you can find a wingman and try that? |
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"As far as the picture goes. I'm just not comfortable or open enough to have a face pic on my profile. I've got one that I'll attach to any message."
Why does every single guy respond with "I can't put face pics up". No-ones saying you have to, but no-one can make much out on the one pic you do have, and people look very different from one pic to the next.
Maybe more headless shots showing a clothed, part clothed, naked body? There's nothing wrong with pics that include dicks, just avoid pics OF dicks. |
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"As far as the picture goes. I'm just not comfortable or open enough to have a face pic on my profile. I've got one that I'll attach to any message.
Why does every single guy respond with "I can't put face pics up". No-ones saying you have to, but no-one can make much out on the one pic you do have, and people look very different from one pic to the next.
Maybe more headless shots showing a clothed, part clothed, naked body? There's nothing wrong with pics that include dicks, just avoid pics OF dicks."
Ok thanks. I'll upload some clearer shots now |
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"Single male, been on here for a while
My profile has a long description of who I am , what I want and hopefully entertaining enough to persuade people to read to the end.
Though a lot of people don’t and still message
I still don’t know why sometimes I’m popular and other times I’m not
My best time was when I wasn’t a single male. I had a straight male friend and we set up a MM account to meet women and couples who wanted to have two extra men. We were getting two or three meets a week, for a while.
Maybe you can find a wingman and try that?"
Might a bit bit too much of a dive straight into the deep end at the moment, but it's something I will consider once I've got a bit more experience. Thanks |
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"There's a few threads very similar and will find loads of advice on those.
Personally I always recommend attending a few social events . They are a great way to meet people and express your personality better.
Doesn't mean you'll get a meet but at the least a few verifications from real people that make a difference.
Also attending clubs is a big win, be genuine, engage in conversation with others there and sometimes it leads to more (but not guaranteed of course).
Good luck"
Sorry I missed your reply when I responded to the others. Clubs are definitely the goal and I've seen a few socials organised locally so maybe I'll try them. Thanks |
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"It doesn't jump out from the thousands that say the same thing.
Only be pic....use your phone timer or a good selection of different pics.
Age range...really a 99 year old?.
What makes you an experienced lover? It's a bold statement.
Take a look at the forums and the men that post with humour and they're profiles are more likely entertaining to read.
Sorry to be harsh, apologies if your offended but a profile that just talks about sex is a pass for a fair amount of people.
I hope you have nicer comments after me lol I'm a moody cow
I get that it doesn't jump out I just don't find myself to be that exciting haha.
I've seen countless other profiles that don't stick out and they seem to be having success, must have better banter in the messages but most of mine go ignored anyway.
I hadn't noticed the age range I'll change that now, thanks.
As far as the picture goes. I'm just not comfortable or open enough to have a face pic on my profile. I've got one that I'll attach to any message.
Honestly it's fine, a moody reply is better than no reply
"
You mention other profiles do not stand out but have success.
From my perspective and no offence intended but you come across bit needy, myself and others that have some success had to work at it and got plenty of folk not interested I always thank them for responding.
Do not try to fit into what say a couple are looking for being yourself is key for me |
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"It doesn't jump out from the thousands that say the same thing.
Only be pic....use your phone timer or a good selection of different pics.
Age range...really a 99 year old?.
What makes you an experienced lover? It's a bold statement.
Take a look at the forums and the men that post with humour and they're profiles are more likely entertaining to read.
Sorry to be harsh, apologies if your offended but a profile that just talks about sex is a pass for a fair amount of people.
I hope you have nicer comments after me lol I'm a moody cow
I get that it doesn't jump out I just don't find myself to be that exciting haha.
I've seen countless other profiles that don't stick out and they seem to be having success, must have better banter in the messages but most of mine go ignored anyway.
I hadn't noticed the age range I'll change that now, thanks.
As far as the picture goes. I'm just not comfortable or open enough to have a face pic on my profile. I've got one that I'll attach to any message.
Honestly it's fine, a moody reply is better than no reply
You mention other profiles do not stand out but have success.
From my perspective and no offence intended but you come across bit needy, myself and others that have some success had to work at it and got plenty of folk not interested I always thank them for responding.
Do not try to fit into what say a couple are looking for being yourself is key for me"
Thanks for replying.
I understand that the profiles that have success must put the work in with messages and socials. I'm always grateful for the responses I get but I'd say about 95% of my messages just get ignored. I'm sure it's a completely different experience being a female profile on here, I can only imagine the amount of messages they must receive so I'm not expecting replies all the time. But I'm also not the person to be sending multiple messages to the same people over a number of weeks, or is that what I'm doing wrong? Is that acceptable. Thanks
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"My best time was when I wasn’t a single male. I had a straight male friend and we set up a MM account to meet women and couples who wanted to have two extra men. We were getting two or three meets a week, for a while.
Maybe you can find a wingman and try that?
Might a bit bit too much of a dive straight into the deep end at the moment, but it's something I will consider once I've got a bit more experience. Thanks"
Your profile says you are looking for MF couples and DP, amongst other things.
Getting a wingman might open a lot of doors, including single women who want the same thing. And as a MM partnership, not only are you going to be rare, but it will look like you are "real swingers", rather than a single make just after a shag (not my opinion, just how many single men are perceived),
You will still have to put the work in, but on the plus side, you would have more to offer, and the only way to get experience is to get out there and do it. |
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"It doesn't jump out from the thousands that say the same thing.
Only be pic....use your phone timer or a good selection of different pics.
Age range...really a 99 year old?.
What makes you an experienced lover? It's a bold statement.
Take a look at the forums and the men that post with humour and they're profiles are more likely entertaining to read.
Sorry to be harsh, apologies if your offended but a profile that just talks about sex is a pass for a fair amount of people.
I hope you have nicer comments after me lol I'm a moody cow
I get that it doesn't jump out I just don't find myself to be that exciting haha.
I've seen countless other profiles that don't stick out and they seem to be having success, must have better banter in the messages but most of mine go ignored anyway.
I hadn't noticed the age range I'll change that now, thanks.
As far as the picture goes. I'm just not comfortable or open enough to have a face pic on my profile. I've got one that I'll attach to any message.
Honestly it's fine, a moody reply is better than no reply
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At the end of the day there's no guaranteed formula to success..if you tick this box and cross that T the floodgates will open (I appreciate that's not particularly what you're looking), someone's interest or disinterest won't be the same for everybody and enthusiasm for people who interest you might wane from one day to the next.
It may have been said already but I still feel the club scene is better for men (who present themselves properly and responsibly). |
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"It doesn't jump out from the thousands that say the same thing.
Only be pic....use your phone timer or a good selection of different pics.
Age range...really a 99 year old?.
What makes you an experienced lover? It's a bold statement.
Take a look at the forums and the men that post with humour and they're profiles are more likely entertaining to read.
Sorry to be harsh, apologies if your offended but a profile that just talks about sex is a pass for a fair amount of people.
I hope you have nicer comments after me lol I'm a moody cow
I get that it doesn't jump out I just don't find myself to be that exciting haha.
I've seen countless other profiles that don't stick out and they seem to be having success, must have better banter in the messages but most of mine go ignored anyway.
I hadn't noticed the age range I'll change that now, thanks.
As far as the picture goes. I'm just not comfortable or open enough to have a face pic on my profile. I've got one that I'll attach to any message.
Honestly it's fine, a moody reply is better than no reply
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At the end of the day there's no guaranteed formula to success..if you tick this box and cross that T the floodgates will open (I appreciate that's not particularly what you're looking), someone's interest or disinterest won't be the same for everybody and enthusiasm for people who interest you might wane from one day to the next.
It may have been said already but I still feel the club scene is better for men (who present themselves properly and responsibly)."
* the floodgates wont open  |
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