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"Hey someone please help me are show me in right direction on this site. I just cant get a meet. I either get ignored are blocked. Whats going on???? Other get them easy im begging xxz" Begging??????? Jeez lad, you can't be that desperate | |||
"Hey someone please help me are show me in right direction on this site. I just cant get a meet. I either get ignored are blocked. Whats going on???? Other get them easy im begging xxz" C'mon, how many 45 year old mums are out shopping at this time of night? Really. | |||
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"Hey someone please help me are show me in right direction on this site. I just cant get a meet. I either get ignored are blocked. Whats going on???? Other get them easy im begging xxz" . The 1's who get the easy meets and tons of verifications aint to fussy hun don't be fooled  | |||
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"Hey someone please help me are show me in right direction on this site. I just cant get a meet. I either get ignored are blocked. Whats going on???? Other get them easy im begging xxz" Right direction? Try mums on their Big Shop day. | |||
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"Hey someone please help me are show me in right direction on this site. I just cant get a meet. I either get ignored are blocked. Whats going on???? Other get them easy im begging xxz. The 1's who get the easy meets and tons of verifications aint to fussy hun don't be fooled "very true thanks xx | |||
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"Hey someone please help me are show me in right direction on this site. I just cant get a meet. I either get ignored are blocked. Whats going on???? Other get them easy im begging xxz. The 1's who get the easy meets and tons of verifications aint to fussy hun don't be fooled "Ain't too fussy ? So those with lots of veri's and easy meets aren't fooling you huh ? Well heres some news for you , they are too busy having fun to care what you think | |||
"Hey someone please help me are show me in right direction on this site. I just cant get a meet. I either get ignored are blocked. Whats going on???? Other get them easy im begging xxz" Look at me! Look at me!! Look at me!!!!! 'Yawn' | |||
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"Hey someone please help me are show me in right direction on this site. I just cant get a meet. I either get ignored are blocked. Whats going on???? Other get them easy im begging xxz. The 1's who get the easy meets and tons of verifications aint to fussy hun don't be fooled
Ain't too fussy ?
So those with lots of veri's and easy meets aren't fooling you huh ?
Well heres some news for you , they are too busy having fun to care what you think ". Ouch taken 2 heart a little there love calm down  | |||
"All major supermarkets are open 24 hours. Baked bean section at midnight. "Oh no what do you know about the beans lol | |||
"Hey someone please help me are show me in right direction on this site. I just cant get a meet. I either get ignored are blocked. Whats going on???? Other get them easy im begging xxz" Competition, charmers, body builders and manipulators are but a few you have to compete with on here. There are a few who are very successful, there are many more who pretend to be and there are the frustrated too. As they say nothing comes easily and the best way to get noticed is to stand out and doing that is a personal individual things so no nicking my red paint theme mate. Good luck though and chill its easier if you don't stress. | |||
"Hey someone please help me are show me in right direction on this site. I just cant get a meet. I either get ignored are blocked. Whats going on???? Other get them easy im begging xxz. The 1's who get the easy meets and tons of verifications aint to fussy hun don't be fooled
Ain't too fussy ?
So those with lots of veri's and easy meets aren't fooling you huh ?
Well heres some news for you , they are too busy having fun to care what you think . Ouch taken 2 heart a little there love calm down "Perfectly calm here , just one of my pet hates , the holier than thou attitude from those who feel somewhat superior . It's a swinging site , and some enjoy lots of different meets , others a select few . The intimation that more means the standards drop , and the swinger isn't fussy , is a rude generalisation . The green smiley doesn't make it funny , you swing your way and others will swing theirs - judgement isn't necessary  | |||
"Hey someone please help me are show me in right direction on this site. I just cant get a meet. I either get ignored are blocked. Whats going on???? Other get them easy im begging xxz. The 1's who get the easy meets and tons of verifications aint to fussy hun don't be fooled
Ain't too fussy ?
So those with lots of veri's and easy meets aren't fooling you huh ?
Well heres some news for you , they are too busy having fun to care what you think . Ouch taken 2 heart a little there love calm down "we'll see ur profile return.....again lol... I think the taken to heart thing really does come from what u are looking for on the site, ur not really looking for people who have lots of meets...I suppose there may be a way of not coming over all dismissive and judgmental..u however arent... just the facts, from a disgruntled swinger who likes shagging many people | |||
"Hey someone please help me are show me in right direction on this site. I just cant get a meet. I either get ignored are blocked. Whats going on???? Other get them easy im begging xxz Look at me! Look at me!! Look at me!!!!! 'Yawn'" why? You're only yawning | |||
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"A glib self promotional thread in my humble opinion. The OP loved the oxygen of the morrison's mum, and now that hubbub has quietened it's a pity me can't get a meet thread. It's bollocks. ( that's my opinion / just like you each have your own) X" how many look at me freds have you got? | |||
"A glib self promotional thread in my humble opinion. The OP loved the oxygen of the morrison's mum, and now that hubbub has quietened it's a pity me can't get a meet thread. It's bollocks. ( that's my opinion / just like you each have your own) X how many look at me freds have you got? "About getting a meet, poor poor me? Zero | |||
"Hey someone please help me are show me in right direction on this site. I just cant get a meet. I either get ignored are blocked. Whats going on???? Other get them easy im begging xxz" Were you saying on another post that you'd just been shaggin your mate's 45 yr old mum outside Morrisons? | |||
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"A glib self promotional thread in my humble opinion. The OP loved the oxygen of the morrison's mum, and now that hubbub has quietened it's a pity me can't get a meet thread. It's bollocks. ( that's my opinion / just like you each have your own) X how many look at me freds have you got?
About getting a meet, poor poor me?
Zero"How about I've been blocked, poor, poor me threads? | |||
"Basically, your profile is a bit rubbish to be honest, you have made no effort whatsoever with either pics or text. What do you expect? You get out of this site what you put in I'm afraid, and at the moment it doesn't look like you have put much in! "At least he's got pics of something other than his knob. That gets a point for effort from me | |||
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"A glib self promotional thread in my humble opinion. The OP loved the oxygen of the morrison's mum, and now that hubbub has quietened it's a pity me can't get a meet thread. It's bollocks. ( that's my opinion / just like you each have your own) X" Have to agree, I thought the same when I saw this. | |||
"A glib self promotional thread in my humble opinion. The OP loved the oxygen of the morrison's mum, and now that hubbub has quietened it's a pity me can't get a meet thread. It's bollocks. ( that's my opinion / just like you each have your own) X Have to agree, I thought the same when I saw this." 
Indeed. And this topic makes the Morrison's incident sound like a load of tosh too. If people think you are disingenuous then you won't get anywhere either in here or in life | |||
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"Can I just say I don't shop at Morrisons - thank god! "Nice profile | |||
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"If you can't be bothered to put any effort into your profile, then what's the sex going to be like? The only time I bother with single males is when I've read a profile and it blows me away. Effort in = effort out." thanks. Il get onto my profile asap. Please check back and see what you think . Cheers all!!! | |||
"Can I just say I don't shop at Morrisons - thank god! "I've got a co-op across the road. | |||
"Hey someone please help me are show me in right direction on this site. I just cant get a meet. I either get ignored are blocked. Whats going on???? Other get them easy im begging xxz" After posting that you should probably take this bit out of your profile..."Ill be as honest as i can. Im here to chat, im in no rush to meet if that even happens" | |||
"Hey someone please help me are show me in right direction on this site. I just cant get a meet. I either get ignored are blocked. Whats going on???? Other get them easy im begging xxz" I wish more people would put what car they drive can be a useful filter when deciding to meet | |||
"Hey someone please help me are show me in right direction on this site. I just cant get a meet. I either get ignored are blocked. Whats going on???? Other get them easy im begging xxz" try spelling words properly, it's "or" not "are" | |||
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"The ratio is 400 men to 1 woman, the supply demand aint there for men, women and couple gets most lucky lol." So guys who get meets are just lucky? | |||
"The ratio is 400 men to 1 woman, the supply demand aint there for men, women and couple gets most lucky lol. So guys who get meets are just lucky? " Well depends as well were you live in that case  | |||
"The ratio is 400 men to 1 woman, the supply demand aint there for men, women and couple gets most lucky lol." 400:1? Jeez I knew it was high but surely not that high? I never found it that hard tbh. Poor lad ain't got a chance then... Perhaps sorting out a decent profile would help tho | |||
"Hey someone please help me are show me in right direction on this site. I just cant get a meet. I either get ignored are blocked. Whats going on???? Other get them easy im begging xxz I wish more people would put what car they drive can be a useful filter when deciding to meet "Bit shallow isn't it? So You'd meet someone with a Jag, but not a Kia? | |||
"The ratio is 400 men to 1 woman, the supply demand aint there for men, women and couple gets most lucky lol. 400:1? Jeez I knew it was high but surely not that high? I never found it that hard tbh. Poor lad ain't got a chance then... Perhaps sorting out a decent profile would help tho" lol its ok well maibe 100 men to 1 woman,I like my profile its straight to point | |||
"The ratio is 400 men to 1 woman, the supply demand aint there for men, women and couple gets most lucky lol. 400:1? Jeez I knew it was high but surely not that high? I never found it that hard tbh. Poor lad ain't got a chance then... Perhaps sorting out a decent profile would help tholol its ok well maibe 100 men to 1 woman,I like my profile its straight to point "just wondering how "lucky" I must be to have all the meets I've had then? Or do I just make a bit more effort than the OP rather than joining whingers united? | |||
"The ratio is 400 men to 1 woman, the supply demand aint there for men, women and couple gets most lucky lol. 400:1? Jeez I knew it was high but surely not that high? I never found it that hard tbh. Poor lad ain't got a chance then... Perhaps sorting out a decent profile would help tholol its ok well maibe 100 men to 1 woman,I like my profile its straight to point
just wondering how "lucky" I must be to have all the meets I've had then? Or do I just make a bit more effort than the OP rather than joining whingers united?"I am not here to argue, like you, I just stated that the ratio was more men than women lol. | |||
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"Hey someone please help me are show me in right direction on this site. I just cant get a meet. I either get ignored are blocked. Whats going on???? Other get them easy im begging xxz. The 1's who get the easy meets and tons of verifications aint to fussy hun don't be fooled "Excuse me . I have had a few meets and I am very fussy | |||
". .just a wee bit of friendly advice . . .somethin my dad told me many years ago . . .son if they can fool you once but more fool them if fool you twice because if they fool you twice shame on you. . . .or somethin like that " OMG, you're George Dubya Bush's son?? | |||
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"Hey someone please help me are show me in right direction on this site. I just cant get a meet. I either get ignored are blocked. Whats going on???? Other get them easy im begging xxz. The 1's who get the easy meets and tons of verifications aint to fussy hun don't be fooled Excuse me . I have had a few meets and I am very fussy "I'm one of his meets and I can verify that.......plus that implies I'm rough and easy and desperate......I'm none of them I can assure you  | |||
"Hey someone please help me are show me in right direction on this site. I just cant get a meet. I either get ignored are blocked. Whats going on???? Other get them easy im begging xxz I wish more people would put what car they drive can be a useful filter when deciding to meet
Bit shallow isn't it? So You'd meet someone with a Jag, but not a Kia?"'twas a joke | |||
"The ratio is 400 men to 1 woman, the supply demand aint there for men, women and couple gets most lucky lol. 400:1? Jeez I knew it was high but surely not that high? I never found it that hard tbh. Poor lad ain't got a chance then... Perhaps sorting out a decent profile would help tholol its ok well maibe 100 men to 1 woman,I like my profile its straight to point
just wondering how "lucky" I must be to have all the meets I've had then? Or do I just make a bit more effort than the OP rather than joining whingers united?I am not here to argue, like you, I just stated that the ratio was more men than women lol."And you would be correct ~ lots of men for us women to get our teeth into!  | |||
"Take a look at your own profile and ask yourself the following questions! Is it doing you any justice? Does it say enough about you? Does it stand out in the crowd? " Got nothing to do with those, there just too many single males on the site and couples and females can afford to be choosy.  | |||
"Take a look at your own profile and ask yourself the following questions! Is it doing you any justice? Does it say enough about you? Does it stand out in the crowd? Got nothing to do with those, there just too many single males on the site and couples and females can afford to be choosy. "Sorry I disagree! A bad profile will never get a response from me and frankly his profile is bad! Put the effort in, it isn't rocket science! | |||
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"Take a look at your own profile and ask yourself the following questions! Is it doing you any justice? Does it say enough about you? Does it stand out in the crowd? Got nothing to do with those, there just too many single males on the site and couples and females can afford to be choosy. "So if they can afford to be choosey you give them reasons to choose you rather than reasons not to. Eh? | |||
(joke).
Some of the rest isn't a joke, it's going to be slightly brutal because this kind of site brings the modern, particularly younger (porn reading and porn web watching ) males into contact with hard reality.
That reality is simply this: a lot (but not all) women are now freer in their attiude and desire for sex fun but in most cases (excusing the rubbish-on-a-plate ladette stuff served up by the psuedo-porn reality TV progs) they're not going to just lie down in anticipation because somebody said “Fancy a shg? No? Well would you just lie there while I, king-of-the-bedroom, have one?”
On this site single guys outnumber fems and couples vastly, and that’s not including that some “fems” are guys pretending and some couples are also guys pretending. Most couples/fems are snowed-under in messages, esp as many of them don’t get on here every night so end up with even bigger backlogs. They can’t answer them all, so they simply delete the messages that are just a waste of time e.g. “Hi” or “Meet?” or “Fancy a fuck” as it simply marks the poster as possibly lazy, immature, inexperienced or even just a time-waster. Take a look at our profile and see the points right at the beginning that “answer” 98% of the messages we receive and delete.
The same goes for one-liner or one-paragraph profiles. “Message me for more details” is lazy and arrogant given that the fems/couples hold the aces (unless they are part of the small group of very sub players who love to be ordered around from the off). So if you’re going to even get a reply your initial message has to be good enough to invite further conversation. They’ll check your profile before replying. If it’s crap then you just blew it.
Let’s take a bit of a look at your current profile:
Headline: “Gagging for it tonight ladies”..means you’re desperate, you’re begging and you’ll shag anything that still has a pulse if that’s all that’s on offer. DON’T GO THERE!
Main profile:
It’s a one paragraph job and it’s contradictory: you said you were up for chat and meeting wasn’t really important (if it happened). Then you complain you aren’t getting any meets!
You say you are a good lover and know what you are doing in the bedroom yet complain of no meets for sex. Presumably you have gained experience somewhere but the general gist of what you are saying implies not.
No couples are going to follow up on that when they get much better offers/messages. Give them some idea of why they should consider you. Don’t play the “Well they can ask me” card.......in most cases they’ll mark you as lazy and just move on. The TBC tag at the end of your profile said the same: do you really think they are hanging on waiting for the next instalment?
If you’re getting blocked are you sending repeat messages when they haven’t replied to the first one? Are you reading their profile and making sure you’re somewhat close to what they want? If it says no single guys, no guys under 35 they usually mean it and will often block you if you message.
Finally: pics: The 2 in your public profile are simply crap, esp the first one. You are selling a product: You! You may, like us, want discretion, so don’t show your face, but for heaven’s sake get at least a handful of good body pics on there (and when you do get better pics remember to avoid any messy, cluttered background or trousers grubbily down at half-mast as too many posters do on here).
Go and read other people’s profiles and try to spot what makes a good one, then model yours on the same lines.
E.g. here is a “sort of” rewrite vaguely around your current profile, you need to build more into it:
Ready and available tonight, ladies.
Honest, clean, well-groomed and showered 30 year old male, can accommodate or can travel as have own transport. Not available during the day as I’m employed full-time. Comfortable in the bedroom and love to please the lady first and foremost. Into most fun things except scat, pain and watersports. Particularly enjoy meeting (insert your own fav types of lady here, e.g. MILF, GILF, Cougar, curvy, busty, slim, tall, dark, blonde).
Happy to play solo or MFM etc provided no bi action required.
Several enjoyable experiences with the ladies before joining but FAB is proving a bit disappointing as getting meets is pretty hard. Try BOGOFF ladies...I’m a repeater......Bed Once Get One Free Fuck as well!
Here’s an example of a message we just got:
Subject:
If carlsberg did couples
Date:
50 minutes ago
This message has pictures attached (see end of message)
Hi. I'm NNNNNNN. Love your profile and pics.
I'm easy going clean and discreet. Always act with manners and respect.
The Carlberg opening line got my attention and he said he’d read the profile.
However on his profile it says “bi” and we specifically put NO BIs. Normally I would just delete him, but since he put a bit of effort into his opening line I sent him a “Thanks, but no thanks” message and reminded him we’re not into bi. At least he did enough to get a reply.
So it’s up to you: stop bitching and start working for it. | |||
"This is one very long post, but you asked for advice, and your complaint/problem is common to many on here. OK, let's begin by getting some background straight: As so many posters have said "It's all about the profile Stupid" (joke).
that's a very long post lol
Some of the rest isn't a joke, it's going to be slightly brutal because this kind of site brings the modern, particularly younger (porn reading and porn web watching ) males into contact with hard reality.
That reality is simply this: a lot (but not all) women are now freer in their attiude and desire for sex fun but in most cases (excusing the rubbish-on-a-plate ladette stuff served up by the psuedo-porn reality TV progs) they're not going to just lie down in anticipation because somebody said “Fancy a shg? No? Well would you just lie there while I, king-of-the-bedroom, have one?”
On this site single guys outnumber fems and couples vastly, and that’s not including that some “fems” are guys pretending and some couples are also guys pretending. Most couples/fems are snowed-under in messages, esp as many of them don’t get on here every night so end up with even bigger backlogs. They can’t answer them all, so they simply delete the messages that are just a waste of time e.g. “Hi” or “Meet?” or “Fancy a fuck” as it simply marks the poster as possibly lazy, immature, inexperienced or even just a time-waster. Take a look at our profile and see the points right at the beginning that “answer” 98% of the messages we receive and delete.
The same goes for one-liner or one-paragraph profiles. “Message me for more details” is lazy and arrogant given that the fems/couples hold the aces (unless they are part of the small group of very sub players who love to be ordered around from the off). So if you’re going to even get a reply your initial message has to be good enough to invite further conversation. They’ll check your profile before replying. If it’s crap then you just blew it.
Let’s take a bit of a look at your current profile:
Headline: “Gagging for it tonight ladies”..means you’re desperate, you’re begging and you’ll shag anything that still has a pulse if that’s all that’s on offer. DON’T GO THERE!
Main profile:
It’s a one paragraph job and it’s contradictory: you said you were up for chat and meeting wasn’t really important (if it happened). Then you complain you aren’t getting any meets!
You say you are a good lover and know what you are doing in the bedroom yet complain of no meets for sex. Presumably you have gained experience somewhere but the general gist of what you are saying implies not.
No couples are going to follow up on that when they get much better offers/messages. Give them some idea of why they should consider you. Don’t play the “Well they can ask me” card.......in most cases they’ll mark you as lazy and just move on. The TBC tag at the end of your profile said the same: do you really think they are hanging on waiting for the next instalment?
If you’re getting blocked are you sending repeat messages when they haven’t replied to the first one? Are you reading their profile and making sure you’re somewhat close to what they want? If it says no single guys, no guys under 35 they usually mean it and will often block you if you message.
Finally: pics: The 2 in your public profile are simply crap, esp the first one. You are selling a product: You! You may, like us, want discretion, so don’t show your face, but for heaven’s sake get at least a handful of good body pics on there (and when you do get better pics remember to avoid any messy, cluttered background or trousers grubbily down at half-mast as too many posters do on here).
Go and read other people’s profiles and try to spot what makes a good one, then model yours on the same lines.
E.g. here is a “sort of” rewrite vaguely around your current profile, you need to build more into it:
Ready and available tonight, ladies.
Honest, clean, well-groomed and showered 30 year old male, can accommodate or can travel as have own transport. Not available during the day as I’m employed full-time. Comfortable in the bedroom and love to please the lady first and foremost. Into most fun things except scat, pain and watersports. Particularly enjoy meeting (insert your own fav types of lady here, e.g. MILF, GILF, Cougar, curvy, busty, slim, tall, dark, blonde).
Happy to play solo or MFM etc provided no bi action required.
Several enjoyable experiences with the ladies before joining but FAB is proving a bit disappointing as getting meets is pretty hard. Try BOGOFF ladies...I’m a repeater......Bed Once Get One Free Fuck as well!
Here’s an example of a message we just got:
Subject:
If carlsberg did couples
Date:
50 minutes ago
This message has pictures attached (see end of message)
Hi. I'm NNNNNNN. Love your profile and pics.
I'm easy going clean and discreet. Always act with manners and respect.
The Carlberg opening line got my attention and he said he’d read the profile.
However on his profile it says “bi” and we specifically put NO BIs. Normally I would just delete him, but since he put a bit of effort into his opening line I sent him a “Thanks, but no thanks” message and reminded him we’re not into bi. At least he did enough to get a reply.
So it’s up to you: stop bitching and start working for it." | |||
"Hey someone please help me are show me in right direction on this site. I just cant get a meet. I either get ignored are blocked. Whats going on???? Other get them easy im begging xxz" Perhaps the bit on your profile that says your here to chat and no rush to meet on your profile is putting people off? If you sent is a message and we read your profile we wouldn't reply and would probably block as we are on here to meet, we don't have the time for endless chat x | |||
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"There sure are profiles I see where I think, lordy I would never want to meet you." och...hits floppy  | |||
"Hey someone please help me are show me in right direction on this site. I just cant get a meet. I either get ignored are blocked. Whats going on???? Other get them easy im begging xxz. The 1's who get the easy meets and tons of verifications aint to fussy hun don't be fooled
very true thanks xx"you agree this is very true, but how do you know? i have looked at a few guys profiles and have rejected them out of hand because of the high quality of meets they have had, rather than the fact they have just seemingly shagged anything with a pulse. yes, a few will just poke a whole in a fence, but then, so will many women who just want any cock, and couples. | |||
"Hey someone please help me are show me in right direction on this site. I just cant get a meet. I either get ignored are blocked. Whats going on???? Other get them easy im begging xxz Begging??????? Jeez lad, you can't be that desperate " Begging and desperate I am sure that's not a quality women find sexually attractive | |||
