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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all
As a single guy I am always very concious to be be very selective in my mailings (what's the point in me mailing someone who won't meet smokers, for example) and try not to 'pester' the people that I mail with endless mails.
My question is, what sort of time should i leave it before mailing someone who has read a message but not replied (or deleted it).
I go on the assumption that a delete means not interested but too busy (or not arsed) to reply saying no thanks.
Thanks in advance for any helpfull comentry. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do people really keep checking there sent mail folder to see the status of their sent messages, that doesn't sound like much fun, prefer to consentrate on our inbox and the replies we do get and forget about the sent items folder. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you've mailed them once then they have your message and if they're interested they will reply. No need to send any more than that, what will it achieve? (except maybe reducing your chances!)
I did once send a message to a couple, and got a reply about 2 months later! Extreme example, but just to show you it does happen. If I'd mailed them again, I doubt very much that they'd have got back to me at all. |
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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago
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Hi
We get winks once or twice a month from someone that has wink or messaged us a month or so ago.
I hate it when you writeback to them after they have winked at you and do not get a reply, even thou they messaged / wink to you first.
Again most liekly they did not like what you wrote.
But i fin it hard to write when all you got is a wink or a one liner.
Sue
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all
Thanks for the feedback
Check my inbox? I should be so lucky! I never write one liners Sue, I wouldn't expect to get a reply from those. Make a comment about a profile, or a joke etc, just to get things rolling.
My meets have mostly been through the chat rooms, but due to a change in circumstances I am reduced to staying local and not many locals seem to use chat.
Well, just keep plugging away I spose. Cheers |
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By *b430Man
over a year ago
Tayside |
"Hi all
Thanks for the feedback
Check my inbox? I should be so lucky! I never write one liners Sue, I wouldn't expect to get a reply from those. Make a comment about a profile, or a joke etc, just to get things rolling.
My meets have mostly been through the chat rooms, but due to a change in circumstances I am reduced to staying local and not many locals seem to use chat.
Well, just keep plugging away I spose. Cheers"
Or NOT plugging away as the case may be! 
If they haven't replied then it looks like they don't want to, so if it was me then I wouldn't mail them again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do people really keep checking there sent mail folder to see the status of their sent messages, that doesn't sound like much fun, prefer to consentrate on our inbox and the replies we do get and forget about the sent items folder. "
That was my first thought!!  |
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
THE STICKS |
"Hi all
As a single guy I am always very concious to be be very selective in my mailings (what's the point in me mailing someone who won't meet smokers, for example) and try not to 'pester' the people that I mail with endless mails.
My question is, what sort of time should i leave it before mailing someone who has read a message but not replied (or deleted it).
I go on the assumption that a delete means not interested but too busy (or not arsed) to reply saying no thanks.
Thanks in advance for any helpfull comentry."
I dont agree that a lack of a reply is any indication of lack of interest - there could be any number of reasons why someone does not reply to a particular message at any moment in time - and not interested is only one of them.
I have experienced several occasions where a well crafted message that ticks all the boxes of someone's profile has been ignored, only to either have that person mail me at a later date, or have a much more positive response to message sent a few months later.
So if someone chooses not to reply, in turn I choose not to strike them off my list until such a time that they do.
So in answer to the OP - it depends on the nature of the message - if its an introduction email, I would leave it a minimum of 6 weeks to 2 months - if its someone you are already chatting to and the conversation appears to have faltered a little, without any clear reason or obvious conflict of interest / lack of attraction, then give it about a week before a "where were we?" type of message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd agree with you there. I often come online and have a quick read through my messages but don't have enough time to message back. But if I like the person, I'll leave it sitting in my inbox then have a big replying session when I'm less busy |
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"Do people really keep checking there sent mail folder to see the status of their sent messages, that doesn't sound like much fun, prefer to consentrate on our inbox and the replies we do get and forget about the sent items folder. "
Sadly you need content in your inbox... so checking your sent folder is the only messaging excitement some of have...  |
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