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Have you had success on here?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have on other sites, but not on here yet.
I think it's time to up my game....what do you classify as success for you?"
Made friends, dated, got laid. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How will you up your game?
Will you write a profile?
Go to a club?
Are you asking for help or just making a statement of your failure so far and your intentions? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"you have been here 4 weeks OP..
some people have been here 4 years and still not had a meet  "
How do you know, is this statement from your own experiance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By the law of statistics there are a hell of a lot of men who won't get any success. There must be about 50 guys for every female (including ladies on couples profiles). Unless every woman using this site plays with 50 men. Actually now there's a thought.... |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"By the law of statistics there are a hell of a lot of men who won't get any success. There must be about 50 guys for every female (including ladies on couples profiles). Unless every woman using this site plays with 50 men. Actually now there's a thought...."
1 a week, doable |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm doing very well. I've managed to attract the men I like to have sex with, without flashing my tits or kebab, or having loads of pics of myself in lingerie.
My fluffy slippers are going down a storm 
All in all, I'd say I've been very successful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"By the law of statistics there are a hell of a lot of men who won't get any success. There must be about 50 guys for every female (including ladies on couples profiles). Unless every woman using this site plays with 50 men. Actually now there's a thought...."
The numbers thing, I think is a cop-out, where men are concerned. I would happily play with someone every night of the week if I thought there were enough men locally worth meeting.
Sadly, there aren't.
It's easy to stand out on here but most are happy to put zero effort in, expecting instant results. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"By the law of statistics there are a hell of a lot of men who won't get any success. There must be about 50 guys for every female (including ladies on couples profiles). Unless every woman using this site plays with 50 men. Actually now there's a thought....1 a week, doable "
Ooh the pressure! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"you have been here 4 weeks OP..
some people have been here 4 years and still not had a meet
How do you know, is this statement from your own experiance."
hardly...I have had lots of experience but no experiance  |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
"By the law of statistics there are a hell of a lot of men who won't get any success. There must be about 50 guys for every female (including ladies on couples profiles). Unless every woman using this site plays with 50 men. Actually now there's a thought....1 a week, doable
Ooh the pressure!"
the number of drop outs would make it about 1 a month..getting them to form a n orderly queue would be the hard bit..i think ill stick to clubs |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
"By the law of statistics there are a hell of a lot of men who won't get any success. There must be about 50 guys for every female (including ladies on couples profiles). Unless every woman using this site plays with 50 men. Actually now there's a thought....
The numbers thing, I think is a cop-out, where men are concerned. I would happily play with someone every night of the week if I thought there were enough men locally worth meeting.
Sadly, there aren't.
It's easy to stand out on here but most are happy to put zero effort in, expecting instant results. "
I've often said if none are what you're seeking the numbers in anyone's favour mean nothing.. any gender has the "any holes a goal"r mentality then you might have success on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not on here every day but I always think that when I put some effort in I tend to get results, my veris speak for themselves so I'd guess I'd say I've had some success here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have been on here for quite a few years and we have not met that many people over that time but that doesn't mean we are not successfully using the site. Swinging is a lifestyle choice or in our case a way of mixing it up a little when we are in the mood. If you are looking for 3/4 meets per week and think that it's important to have met someone within your first month on the site then I would guess you are not a "swinger" and are really just looking for an easy hook up. Isn't that what tinder is for???
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"By the law of statistics there are a hell of a lot of men who won't get any success. There must be about 50 guys for every female (including ladies on couples profiles). Unless every woman using this site plays with 50 men. Actually now there's a thought...."
I've certainly played with more than 50 women.....so why not? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We were on another site and while we were successful in so far as we met a couple of people it was a horrible site to use, we got more stupid messages from guys well outside our stated age range and ultimately we deleted our account in favour of Fab. I think you get out what you put in... |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
my success is that, i have two gorgeous fwb's, one with a couple profile, a couple of couples, i would see any time, a few ladies, who are stunning inside and out, and a circle of friends and acquaintances i am very happy to chat and spend time with. i classify myself as successful, but then i put in the effort...fab, the forums and the scene, have been very good to me x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have on other sites, but not on here yet.
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You've been here 4 weeks. What were you expecting? This is not Instashag you know. You should give it at least another 5 months - as that's about the normal amount of time it takes for guys to get their first meet on here.
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I think it's time to up my game...."
After taking a quick glimpse at your profile, yes, I would agree. |
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To be honest you have to be in to up your game, after looking at your profile your on the sidelines, well in the sidelines. As you probley hear single guys have it hard enough to get anywhere on here but you have no information on there and only being on four weeks, sorry but if you expect women to fall at your feet your in the wrong place, especially to already be moaning about lack of success.
Do something about your profile (like actually having some information on you) and give it time! Aint gonna happen overnight! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been extremely successful in getting meets,tho I think that's working against me now...  "
I know a single guy who has started a new profile because some couples don't approve of the number of verifications he has. He is displaying 12, 2 of which are from me and 2 from another single lady, I didn't check if there were any other duplications but if there wasn't that means he's met 10 people in the 'over a year' he's been on site....I've told him they aren't worth meeting if they judge like that but it seems SOME couples are able to dictate everything |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"By the law of statistics there are a hell of a lot of men who won't get any success. There must be about 50 guys for every female (including ladies on couples profiles). Unless every woman using this site plays with 50 men. Actually now there's a thought....
I've certainly played with more than 50 women.....so why not?"
Well that's the irony.Even though there are too many men for women to know what do with, there are a select few that take the monopoly on women available, making it even more bleak for the guys left. I share all my men with other couples and single ladies (and am very happy to do so). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm lucky I guess; to be honest I didn't expect much. I've met 4 couples and played with 2 so far and will with the others when our schedules allow. I've also had meetc with some really great women on here as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've just come back to the site and yes we got lucky a bit before but this time are taking it a bit more laid back and a little less to get laid. Of course it's harder for single fellas (no pun intended) but we've made some great friends along the way so reckon we're winning @ fab |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
"We've just come back to the site and yes we got lucky a bit before but this time are taking it a bit more laid back and a little less to get laid. Of course it's harder for single fellas (no pun intended) but we've made some great friends along the way so reckon we're winning @ fab "
is it you..she said excitedly? are you back? xxxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been extremely successful in getting meets,tho I think that's working against me now...
I know a single guy who has started a new profile because some couples don't approve of the number of verifications he has. He is displaying 12, 2 of which are from me and 2 from another single lady, I didn't check if there were any other duplications but if there wasn't that means he's met 10 people in the 'over a year' he's been on site....I've told him they aren't worth meeting if they judge like that but it seems SOME couples are able to dictate everything "
I had one couple wanting to meet,then changed their mind when they checked someone who had verified me,and said that they had too many verifications 
I've not had a meet for a few months,tho admittedly I've not been overly active,so i'm giving it til my next pass runs out.If I have no luck,I'll come off for a bit... |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
"I've been extremely successful in getting meets,tho I think that's working against me now...
I know a single guy who has started a new profile because some couples don't approve of the number of verifications he has. He is displaying 12, 2 of which are from me and 2 from another single lady, I didn't check if there were any other duplications but if there wasn't that means he's met 10 people in the 'over a year' he's been on site....I've told him they aren't worth meeting if they judge like that but it seems SOME couples are able to dictate everything
I had one couple wanting to meet,then changed their mind when they checked someone who had verified me,and said that they had too many verifications
I've not had a meet for a few months,tho admittedly I've not been overly active,so i'm giving it til my next pass runs out.If I have no luck,I'll come off for a bit..."
why are you affected by what one couple says? i don't understand.. some people think i have too many veris, i just shrug and go oh well and move on..its an excuse that they dont want to meet you, doesnt mean its the truth of why they wont meet you..go have fun and quit worrying x |
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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago
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I finally had my first meet arranged through this site and I`ve been here for 5-6 years. Admittedly, I don`t really chase meets and indeed the meet I had I was the one who was chased! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is very difficult to get trusted on here as a guy, then even when you do get some verifications you will still not please everyone with what you do or don't do, who you do or don't meet. Then real life also gets in the way sometimes and causes it to be difficult too.
So I wouldn't put pressure on yourself to be "successful", just go with the flow and try to treat people how you want to be treated as best you can & see what happens. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
"I have on other sites, but not on here yet.
I think it's time to up my game...."
Try smiling in your photo.
Try altering the fact that you are happy to meet people of any age ....makes you look desperate.
Try writing a profile.
Then come back and moan in another 4 weeks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've just come back to the site and yes we got lucky a bit before but this time are taking it a bit more laid back and a little less to get laid. Of course it's harder for single fellas (no pun intended) but we've made some great friends along the way so reckon we're winning @ fab is it you..she said excitedly? are you back? xxxxxx"
Hi Suzy 
Yup, it's us and we're back. Done things a bit different this time round (hence no pics yet so we couldn't send you a friends invite). Feel free to come shake your kinky ass over here and say hi xxx |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
"We've just come back to the site and yes we got lucky a bit before but this time are taking it a bit more laid back and a little less to get laid. Of course it's harder for single fellas (no pun intended) but we've made some great friends along the way so reckon we're winning @ fab is it you..she said excitedly? are you back? xxxxxx
Hi Suzy
Yup, it's us and we're back. Done things a bit different this time round (hence no pics yet so we couldn't send you a friends invite). Feel free to come shake your kinky ass over here and say hi xxx"
shake it, shake it baby |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have on other sites, but not on here yet.
I think it's time to up my game...."
'Up' isn't very high on here I've come to realise.
Learning how to get what you want in the real world, rather than queueing for your 'turn' on here, is upping your game. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
"I have on other sites, but not on here yet.
I think it's time to up my game....
'Up' isn't very high on here I've come to realise.
Learning how to get what you want in the real world, rather than queueing for your 'turn' on here, is upping your game."
just thought youd be too busy xx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been extremely successful in getting meets,tho I think that's working against me now...
I know a single guy who has started a new profile because some couples don't approve of the number of verifications he has. He is displaying 12, 2 of which are from me and 2 from another single lady, I didn't check if there were any other duplications but if there wasn't that means he's met 10 people in the 'over a year' he's been on site....I've told him they aren't worth meeting if they judge like that but it seems SOME couples are able to dictate everything
I had one couple wanting to meet,then changed their mind when they checked someone who had verified me,and said that they had too many verifications
I've not had a meet for a few months,tho admittedly I've not been overly active,so i'm giving it til my next pass runs out.If I have no luck,I'll come off for a bit...why are you affected by what one couple says? i don't understand.. some people think i have too many veris, i just shrug and go oh well and move on..its an excuse that they dont want to meet you, doesnt mean its the truth of why they wont meet you..go have fun and quit worrying x"
I'm not affected by them at all,but things have slowed down for me lately.
It may do me good to have a rest for a while...
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"I have on other sites, but not on here yet.
I think it's time to up my game...."
Five words in your profile, and they are redundant.
Most people on "here" are "looking for fun"
You also say "hi". With such a good advert, you should be inundated with messages.
On other sites, the pretty picture may make the ladies swipe right. But this site is not just for a man and a woman to hook up.
And when you look at how many guys are searching for a few women, you need to have a better pitch than yours. First impressions and all that.
And also it seems to quieten down at this time of year, as people have other things to do, such as see family and works Xmas parties
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, though I've not had much opportunity to meet over the last 12 months - and trying to arrange a spontaneous 'last minute' meet is virtually impossible, if you're a single male. The forums are good fun and I've made a few 'friends'. So, that's a success. |
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"By the law of statistics there are a hell of a lot of men who won't get any success. There must be about 50 guys for every female (including ladies on couples profiles). Unless every woman using this site plays with 50 men. Actually now there's a thought....1 a week, doable "
WTF are you talking about. 50 a week? They should be doing 50 a Day. That way I will get a least 5 fucks a week including rejections. |
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I've not had much luck at all. I've been to quest with a fb but that's about all. As a single male profile its hard to stand out. You've only got to click new photos to see how many men drown the choice. I've done a lot of re-editing of my profile changed pics and many things I guess patience is key.
I will say its shit when you can message say 15 women or couples a week and not get a single reply its a real kick in the confidence but you've got to knock take it personally I guess. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've not had much luck at all. I've been to quest with a fb but that's about all. As a single male profile its hard to stand out. You've only got to click new photos to see how many men drown the choice. I've done a lot of re-editing of my profile changed pics and many things I guess patience is key.
I will say its shit when you can message say 15 women or couples a week and not get a single reply its a real kick in the confidence but you've got to knock take it personally I guess."
l think it's the opposite for women here, l think some use it as an ego boost. You can be a 2/10 on the street and get 100 messages a day so don't take it personally. Men are just much more likely to be visual and unpicky. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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l've had okay success.,l've has lots of near meets or times l could have had a meet but decided not to for a number of reasons. l haven't put much effort into finding a meet for quite a while and l'm not too fussed atm. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've not had much luck at all. I've been to quest with a fb but that's about all. As a single male profile its hard to stand out. You've only got to click new photos to see how many men drown the choice. I've done a lot of re-editing of my profile changed pics and many things I guess patience is key.
I will say its shit when you can message say 15 women or couples a week and not get a single reply its a real kick in the confidence but you've got to knock take it personally I guess."
I would say that i'm a "successful" male on here,but almost 99% of my messages still get deleted.
What you have to remember is that a lot of women and couples have very specific wants and fantasies,and can pick and choose exactly what they want.
Be patient and don't take anything personally and you'll be fine... |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"I've not had much luck at all. I've been to quest with a fb but that's about all. As a single male profile its hard to stand out. You've only got to click new photos to see how many men drown the choice. I've done a lot of re-editing of my profile changed pics and many things I guess patience is key.
I will say its shit when you can message say 15 women or couples a week and not get a single reply its a real kick in the confidence but you've got to knock take it personally I guess.
l think it's the opposite for women here, l think some use it as an ego boost. You can be a 2/10 on the street and get 100 messages a day so don't take it personally. Men are just much more likely to be visual and unpicky."
Same goes for men
In the real world, I wouldn't give a second glance to most of the men here. Most really need to invest in a:
Mirror
Scales
Tape measure
Shower gel
Personal trainer
Schooling leading to further education
Don't take it personally, though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've not had much luck at all. I've been to quest with a fb but that's about all. As a single male profile its hard to stand out. You've only got to click new photos to see how many men drown the choice. I've done a lot of re-editing of my profile changed pics and many things I guess patience is key.
I will say its shit when you can message say 15 women or couples a week and not get a single reply its a real kick in the confidence but you've got to knock take it personally I guess.
l think it's the opposite for women here, l think some use it as an ego boost. You can be a 2/10 on the street and get 100 messages a day so don't take it personally. Men are just much more likely to be visual and unpicky.
Same goes for men
In the real world, I wouldn't give a second glance to most of the men here. Most really need to invest in a:
Mirror
Scales
Tape measure
Shower gel
Personal trainer
Schooling leading to further education
Don't take it personally, though"
You're brutal |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
I'll know it when I find it. |
I've been very successful on here - I've met fantastic people and some I still continue to see, I've got a few good potential meets lined up for the not too distant future and I've avoided meeting any knobs so far (although a few close calls!).
I actually find I have more interest in real life than on here but I like the freedom and opportunity this site gives me so remain on it. |
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"I've been very successful on here - I've met fantastic people and some I still continue to see, I've got a few good potential meets lined up for the not too distant future and I've avoided meeting any knobs so far (although a few close calls!).
I actually find I have more interest in real life than on here but I like the freedom and opportunity this site gives me so remain on it."
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"I've been very successful on here - I've met fantastic people and some I still continue to see, I've got a few good potential meets lined up for the not too distant future and I've avoided meeting any knobs so far (although a few close calls!).
I actually find I have more interest in real life than on here but I like the freedom and opportunity this site gives me so remain on it.
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why hello..nice to see you around x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After two months of solid searching, vetting and filtering, I've just had the best meet ever! (Yes, I'm gloating)
I stay on fab as the good ones make it all worthwhile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel I've been successful on here. I met a couple men on my old profile too. I get plenty of messages and offers from men but those I've met have been the best of the bunch. As a female on here you can be quite picky so don't need to meet those who don't put any effort in or those who aren't genuinely nice people as well as hot to look at 
This site has given me more confidence, more variety and more sex so very successful I'd say |
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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago
The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales |
"I have on other sites, but not on here yet.
I think it's time to up my game...."
If by success you mean meets, yes. I've met for socials, taking photos/videos (for others), sex and occasionally I'll pop out for a drink and bump into past meets and chat in the pub.
Most are from here or FG's but I also have a few rodent and chix friends too. A lot of people quite rightly complain about timewasters and even though I have been letdown myself I find Fab, both Swingers and Guys the best sites by far. |
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