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Fab’s soul destroying...

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi all.

I’ve been here a few months now, have adjusted my profile a few times and added pics, but nearly all my messages are either deleted (majority) or read with no response.

The few replies I’ve had have come to nothing.

I’m guessing you need to be 6 foot with the body of a male model and the good looks of an A list celeb.

It’s really starting to get to me.

Does anybody here actually talk to a normal (half decent looking, relatively fit) guy like me?

All the messages I send are unique - no copy and paste.

Is it worth persisting with this site?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Even if you are exactly what someone is looking for, on paper, if they are not attracted to you then that is the end of that. The need to be 6ft with a 6 pack and huge dick is bollocks tho, the same as, if women struggled on here they would assume they needed to be slim and pouty with big boobs, of sumin equally as silly... We all like something different but can't be attractive or attracted to everyone that crosses our paths.

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By *esires of HertsCouple over a year ago

Herts and London Borders

Dont take it personally...its just the numbers odds are stacked against you as a single guy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Get yourself to some socials, clubs etc...

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By *otlovefun42Couple over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

The problem is (as is with many others on here) that you are expecting far too much from just a profile on a website.

We've replied to many threads on a similar subject and always give the same advice.

Treat FAB as just another tool in your box but like with most jobs you need a full box of tools to complete it.

Socials, clubs Etc. Are the other tools that you need.

You will never unscrew a bolt with just a screwdriver.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi all.

I’ve been here a few months now, have adjusted my profile a few times and added pics, but nearly all my messages are either deleted (majority) or read with no response.

The few replies I’ve had have come to nothing.

I’m guessing you need to be 6 foot with the body of a male model and the good looks of an A list celeb.

It’s really starting to get to me.

Does anybody here actually talk to a normal (half decent looking, relatively fit) guy like me?

All the messages I send are unique - no copy and paste.

Is it worth persisting with this site?"
after months of no success I'd say no either that or improve what you're doing

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By *litterbabeWoman over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

If it's getting you down and I don't think you should persevere because it might make you feel bad about yourself and after all it's just a website.

If you stay... get yourself as many others have said clubs and social. I find that's where I make friends and get to know people.

Your profile and pictures seem fine to me. But it's in person that it's much more important than what inside cyberspace to me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

After a long day at work when you’re not feeling horny, it’s easy to pass someone over from a few words on a screen.

When you’re in a club in the right frame of mind with a guy stood in front of you being himself, things are more likely to happen!

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By *ickyRoosterMan over a year ago

Uppendown

Great advice from Mabel, Hotlove and Glitterbabe. And it really does work. It has for me and I'm no oil painting, believe me. Your profile and pics are simply one dimension. Going to socials and clubs allows people to see you from all angles.....literally if you're lucky

. Try and join in on the forums too. I've met Forumites at clubs and it can be a good 'ice breaker'. Be patient but don't let it get to you. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks everyone for the advice.

Think I’ll get myself along to La Boudoir and make some new friends

Appreciate the help - feel a bit better now.

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By *iscean MaleMan over a year ago

Darlaston

Chin up mucka.. it is not generally easy for single males on here, its nothing personal to you. Keep your soul healthy

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By *andKBCouple over a year ago

Plymouth

We have the same. Winks replied to but they delete a message we send or whatever.

We have no clubs down here at all they're all 60 ish miles away.

It's not easy and we're a couple the odds are definitely against single men.

We find most single men send vulgar rude messages!!

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By *yx_InannaWoman over a year ago

Burslem

Use the chatrooms, engage with women as if they are human beings. Flirt and have conversations about anything.

Don't be a cock cam, have your face on cam since people can't make a connection with a cock. Humans make connection through body language and facial expressions. Without these you're more likely to be ignored.

No one ever takes a cock cam seriously.

When in the chatrooms and you have interests in a woman don't go overboard with the compliments better yet start with a conversation than a compliment.

Stand out from the crowd. That crowd on the chatroom is the guys who compliment great tits etc, then few comments later ask you to show them.... Yet they wonder why no one wants to meet them.

Maintain the engagement of conversation. Many men think 2 mins of chit chat they are entitled to being flashed or meet. If you're really interested in the women don't expect to meet straight away. Chat to them when you see them online. Many just move on to the prettiest one in the room this way you've got zero chance of meeting because the women feel undesired unless there's no one else which is a shitty feeling to say the least. If you can't maintain this then you really aren't that interested in the woman. So they won't choose to meet.

Everything takes effort here when you make the effort things happen.

Making excuses not to have your face on cam like - I'm in a public job, don't want to get recognised blah blah blah.

We are all here with sex in mind one way or another. If you get recognised oh well they are on here too what difference does it make?

Engage with everyone even if it's just friendly chat. You'll be noticed whether it's at a swingers social, club meet or online in the chatroom. Make yourself approachable and people will take you seriously.

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By *ischief ManagedCouple over a year ago

manchester

"Get yourself to some socials, clubs etc..."

that's the best advise!

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"Hi all.

I’ve been here a few months now, have adjusted my profile a few times and added pics, but nearly all my messages are either deleted (majority) or read with no response.

The few replies I’ve had have come to nothing.

I’m guessing you need to be 6 foot with the body of a male model and the good looks of an A list celeb.

It’s really starting to get to me.

Does anybody here actually talk to a normal (half decent looking, relatively fit) guy like me?

All the messages I send are unique - no copy and paste.

Is it worth persisting with this site?"

Can you pull women in the real world ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi all.

I’ve been here a few months now, have adjusted my profile a few times and added pics, but nearly all my messages are either deleted (majority) or read with no response.

The few replies I’ve had have come to nothing.

I’m guessing you need to be 6 foot with the body of a male model and the good looks of an A list celeb.

It’s really starting to get to me.

Does anybody here actually talk to a normal (half decent looking, relatively fit) guy like me?

All the messages I send are unique - no copy and paste.

Is it worth persisting with this site?"

erotic fiction, lets hear some!

Yes, maybe you have been messaging the wrong people who are purely not interested.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi all.

I’ve been here a few months now, have adjusted my profile a few times and added pics, but nearly all my messages are either deleted (majority) or read with no response.

The few replies I’ve had have come to nothing.

I’m guessing you need to be 6 foot with the body of a male model and the good looks of an A list celeb.

It’s really starting to get to me.

Does anybody here actually talk to a normal (half decent looking, relatively fit) guy like me?

All the messages I send are unique - no copy and paste.

Is it worth persisting with this site?"

again some people here have their preferences to what type of person they meet.

I have to feel a connection first and an attraction if it is not there I do not pursue!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This site is just a window shopping.

Don't base your self esteem on your success on here.

Personally in 2 years I have got 3 women from here and other 7 in real life

Use this place as a plus, nothing more. Real life easier and better

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By *lan157Man over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

However good your profile and messages are they are going to be lost in a sea of messages and profiles . I have seen the inboxes of playmates and it's an eye opener. Get yourself to social events and socialise. It's easier than clubs and your not at any disadvantage and you can make your first impression in a social setting. It's easier after making those contacts .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm 6foot 2, a 38inch waist, a 46inch chest and 19 stone yet I don't struggle.... Throws your post out the window.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for advice everyone. I’m really grateful.

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By *arkb73Man over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"I'm 6foot 2, a 38inch waist, a 46inch chest and 19 stone yet I don't struggle.... Throws your post out the window. "

So what’s your secret?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm 6foot 2, a 38inch waist, a 46inch chest and 19 stone yet I don't struggle.... Throws your post out the window.

So what’s your secret? "

I'm just me. No secret.

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By *partharmonyCouple over a year ago

Ruislip

It's only soul-destroying if you set too much hope and desire in it. See it as the only tool for opening up enjoyable options in your life and most men are going to be disappointed. Consider it as something that might pay off if you're lucky but get on with enjoying your life and you'll be a lot better off.

There are way more men looking for sex on here than women. That's just life. You can't let it get you down. There's nothing you can do about it.

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By *arkb73Man over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"I'm 6foot 2, a 38inch waist, a 46inch chest and 19 stone yet I don't struggle.... Throws your post out the window.

So what’s your secret?

I'm just me. No secret."

Lol - very illuminating

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm 6foot 2, a 38inch waist, a 46inch chest and 19 stone yet I don't struggle.... Throws your post out the window.

So what’s your secret?

I'm just me. No secret.

Lol - very illuminating "

Nothing more to it. I'm not special.

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By *arkb73Man over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"I'm 6foot 2, a 38inch waist, a 46inch chest and 19 stone yet I don't struggle.... Throws your post out the window.

So what’s your secret?

I'm just me. No secret.

Lol - very illuminating

Nothing more to it. I'm not special. "

Clearly you are squire

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For men I think your right soul destroying,join a dating site where you will do well

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman over a year ago

Pontypridd

"I'm 6foot 2, a 38inch waist, a 46inch chest and 19 stone yet I don't struggle.... Throws your post out the window.

So what’s your secret? "

I’d say he has a decent profile and some pics. That’s honestly all we’re looking for. A profile that gives us enough information to know if we will click, and some pics so we know we fancy someone.

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By *arkb73Man over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"I'm 6foot 2, a 38inch waist, a 46inch chest and 19 stone yet I don't struggle.... Throws your post out the window.

So what’s your secret?

Ah, if only that were true

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By *arkb73Man over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"I'm 6foot 2, a 38inch waist, a 46inch chest and 19 stone yet I don't struggle.... Throws your post out the window.

So what’s your secret?

Hilarious - I’ll say no more

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By *wingfellowMan over a year ago

my own little sanctuary

I’d say almost all of my meets have been off the back of either an articulate response to a forum thread or my humour whilst sending that initial private message. Body is average, face isn’t upto much and the dangly bit is average too. Just be yourself and don’t expect anything, suggesting it’s not worth your time on a forum post probably isn’t supporting that :/

It’s one of those things. Just do you and either invest the time or don’t, I don’t want to sound harsh although there’s really no other way to say that patience is a virtue.

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By *arkb73Man over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

It is soul destroying OP - and not a very pleasant place to be sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm 6foot 2, a 38inch waist, a 46inch chest and 19 stone yet I don't struggle.... Throws your post out the window.

So what’s your secret?

Cheers

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By *wingfellowMan over a year ago

my own little sanctuary

Alternatively get down to a club, it’s proper daunting at first but well worth taking that step. Once you become known for being a decent person you’ll find things just tend to flow a lot better even on here.

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By *ack DanielMan over a year ago

London

I get that clubbing isn't for everyone and some, in spite of swinging still love the one on one meet.

Regretfully, time was when you would get that on Fab but those days are over as Fab population grows.

Bottom line if you dont do clubs you may want to consider Fab just a plCe to browse, chat and just hope.....

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By *partharmonyCouple over a year ago

Ruislip

My experience when I (Luke) was single is that I got almost nowhere into my 30s. In my late 30s something changed. I worked out how to talk to women. I learned how to create opportunities. Every now and again I would find somebody with whom the magic happened. I'm pretty ordinary IMHO but I'm a decent, respectful guy. Occasionally it clicks so well with somebody that they find me devastatingly attractive. I've found it often enough to not have to go without for years, and now I have even found the love of my life without us even looking for each other.

It could be it's just not your time. I suggest you keep learning about women. Listen to them, respect them and try to understand them and what they want. It is possible to stumble across somebody who thinks you are the business. It takes time, practice and creating opportunities.

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By *yx_InannaWoman over a year ago

Burslem

"My experience when I (Luke) was single is that I got almost nowhere into my 30s. In my late 30s something changed. I worked out how to talk to women. I learned how to create opportunities. Every now and again I would find somebody with whom the magic happened. I'm pretty ordinary IMHO but I'm a decent, respectful guy. Occasionally it clicks so well with somebody that they find me devastatingly attractive. I've found it often enough to not have to go without for years, and now I have even found the love of my life without us even looking for each other.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What makes me laugh are the profiles with 5 paragraphs of requirements and hoops to jump through ..... (yeah yeah preference, choice yada yada)

But the punchline comes when you actually see the state of the people demanding this. Outside of cyber space they be lucky to get any kind of attention! Unreal but amusing at the same time.

OP keep your head up ..... who said this site was supposed to be fun ehh lol

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By *wingfellowMan over a year ago

my own little sanctuary

I can tell you have a way with words Luke. Hit the nail right on the head there.

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By *arkb73Man over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"What makes me laugh are the profiles with 5 paragraphs of requirements and hoops to jump through ..... (yeah yeah preference, choice yada yada)

But the punchline comes when you actually see the state of the people demanding this. Outside of cyber space they be lucky to get any kind of attention! Unreal but amusing at the same time.

OP keep your head up ..... who said this site was supposed to be fun ehh lol"

So true - Fab is like some weird looking glass where hideous people demand perfection.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"What makes me laugh are the profiles with 5 paragraphs of requirements and hoops to jump through ..... (yeah yeah preference, choice yada yada)

But the punchline comes when you actually see the state of the people demanding this. Outside of cyber space they be lucky to get any kind of attention! Unreal but amusing at the same time.

OP keep your head up ..... who said this site was supposed to be fun ehh lol

So true - Fab is like some weird looking glass where hideous people demand perfection. "

Actually, I see it as a fun place with some very nice people on it, shame you are so negative. Lighten up lol.

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By *arkb73Man over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"What makes me laugh are the profiles with 5 paragraphs of requirements and hoops to jump through ..... (yeah yeah preference, choice yada yada)

But the punchline comes when you actually see the state of the people demanding this. Outside of cyber space they be lucky to get any kind of attention! Unreal but amusing at the same time.

OP keep your head up ..... who said this site was supposed to be fun ehh lol

So true - Fab is like some weird looking glass where hideous people demand perfection.

Actually, I see it as a fun place with some very nice people on it, shame you are so negative. Lighten up lol.

Yeah, it’s a shame

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Aww bless. Gotta love the people that rely on this site for their fun.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman over a year ago

London

"What makes me laugh are the profiles with 5 paragraphs of requirements and hoops to jump through ..... (yeah yeah preference, choice yada yada)

But the punchline comes when you actually see the state of the people demanding this. Outside of cyber space they be lucky to get any kind of attention! Unreal but amusing at the same time.

OP keep your head up ..... who said this site was supposed to be fun ehh lol"

Yes, imagine that. Women who do not drop their knickers for just anyone male with a pulse.

I always wonder what men who post this kind of messages hope to achieve.

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

"Thanks everyone for the advice.

Think I’ll get myself along to La Boudoir and make some new friends

Appreciate the help - feel a bit better now."
. If you are a member of Le Boudior then yes get yourself down there.Also looking at your location on your profile there is a club in Clacton which may not be too far if you drive.Also there are socials in the Croydon , St Paul’s , Heathrow area check the London forum once 3-4 days and just say you will be interested in going to the social.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Thanks everyone for the advice.

Think I’ll get myself along to La Boudoir and make some new friends

Appreciate the help - feel a bit better now.. If you are a member of Le Boudior then yes get yourself down there.Also looking at your location on your profile there is a club in Clacton which may not be too far if you drive.Also there are socials in the Croydon , St Paul’s , Heathrow area check the London forum once 3-4 days and just say you will be interested in going to the social."

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By *eteforprincesssMan over a year ago

up a monkeys butt!

Fab is actually awesome for just chatting on... I've not met anyone yet... but wow... some women do want just a semi erotic chat... or not to be fucked so hard there teeth rattle free and if they want that... not for me.. talk to them....like a person..not your next unload... I'm actually finding the whole experience very enlightening. And maybe my first meet will be the better for it.

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"What makes me laugh are the profiles with 5 paragraphs of requirements and hoops to jump through ..... (yeah yeah preference, choice yada yada)

But the punchline comes when you actually see the state of the people demanding this. Outside of cyber space they be lucky to get any kind of attention! Unreal but amusing at the same time.

OP keep your head up ..... who said this site was supposed to be fun ehh lol"

I treat fab as a two way street, we all have the same choices

Yes please or no thanks,

if folk demand and others are willing to jump to those demands whos at fault.

We all can say no thanks .

Op. My 2p's worth.. If its not fun reconsider what it is you want.. myself I expect nothing that way everything is a bonus.

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By *heorgasmaddictMan over a year ago

Liverpool

Do you think if single men had to pay to be a member of the site then it would cut down on the huge amount of crude/vulgar/downright weird single guys?

I do occasionally get messages from men for bi fun which I would be interested in, but some of the messages are horrendous!!

"Let's suck your cock m8"

"Wanna smoke then service my hole"

There's never a hello or goodbye or how's it going!

Honestly, some men are ridiculous haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What makes me laugh are the profiles with 5 paragraphs of requirements and hoops to jump through ..... (yeah yeah preference, choice yada yada)

But the punchline comes when you actually see the state of the people demanding this. Outside of cyber space they be lucky to get any kind of attention! Unreal but amusing at the same time.

OP keep your head up ..... who said this site was supposed to be fun ehh lol

Yes, imagine that. Women who do not drop their knickers for just anyone male with a pulse.

I always wonder what men who post this kind of messages hope to achieve."

For clarity it’s really not about me expecting an easy lay. As a matter a fact I quite enjoy the thrill of pursuit.

What I aimed to do was highlight how people who let’s face it , are not head turners in the real world become so gassed up on sites like this (by desperados that would fuck a crack in the wall) that they have become deluded.

My basic point ... the lifestyle is supposed to be fun, liberated and sociable (sex aside) ...... can most say that is the vibe on here ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What makes me laugh are the profiles with 5 paragraphs of requirements and hoops to jump through ..... (yeah yeah preference, choice yada yada)

But the punchline comes when you actually see the state of the people demanding this. Outside of cyber space they be lucky to get any kind of attention! Unreal but amusing at the same time.

OP keep your head up ..... who said this site was supposed to be fun ehh lol

Yes, imagine that. Women who do not drop their knickers for just anyone male with a pulse.

I always wonder what men who post this kind of messages hope to achieve.

For clarity it’s really not about me expecting an easy lay. As a matter a fact I quite enjoy the thrill of pursuit.

My basic point ... the lifestyle is supposed to be fun, liberated and sociable (sex aside) ...... can most say that is the vibe on here ? "

If they are deluded then surely that's their problem? They really aren't affecting anyone else except themselves.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"What makes me laugh are the profiles with 5 paragraphs of requirements and hoops to jump through ..... (yeah yeah preference, choice yada yada)

But the punchline comes when you actually see the state of the people demanding this. Outside of cyber space they be lucky to get any kind of attention! Unreal but amusing at the same time.

OP keep your head up ..... who said this site was supposed to be fun ehh lol

Yes, imagine that. Women who do not drop their knickers for just anyone male with a pulse.

I always wonder what men who post this kind of messages hope to achieve.

For clarity it’s really not about me expecting an easy lay. As a matter a fact I quite enjoy the thrill of pursuit.

My basic point ... the lifestyle is supposed to be fun, liberated and sociable (sex aside) ...... can most say that is the vibe on here ? "

It is for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What makes me laugh are the profiles with 5 paragraphs of requirements and hoops to jump through ..... (yeah yeah preference, choice yada yada)

But the punchline comes when you actually see the state of the people demanding this. Outside of cyber space they be lucky to get any kind of attention! Unreal but amusing at the same time.

OP keep your head up ..... who said this site was supposed to be fun ehh lol

Yes, imagine that. Women who do not drop their knickers for just anyone male with a pulse.

I always wonder what men who post this kind of messages hope to achieve.

For clarity it’s really not about me expecting an easy lay. As a matter a fact I quite enjoy the thrill of pursuit.

My basic point ... the lifestyle is supposed to be fun, liberated and sociable (sex aside) ...... can most say that is the vibe on here ?

It is for me.

I’m genuinely glad to hear that lady !

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"What makes me laugh are the profiles with 5 paragraphs of requirements and hoops to jump through ..... (yeah yeah preference, choice yada yada)

But the punchline comes when you actually see the state of the people demanding this. Outside of cyber space they be lucky to get any kind of attention! Unreal but amusing at the same time.

OP keep your head up ..... who said this site was supposed to be fun ehh lol

Yes, imagine that. Women who do not drop their knickers for just anyone male with a pulse.

I always wonder what men who post this kind of messages hope to achieve.

For clarity it’s really not about me expecting an easy lay. As a matter a fact I quite enjoy the thrill of pursuit.

My basic point ... the lifestyle is supposed to be fun, liberated and sociable (sex aside) ...... can most say that is the vibe on here ?

It is for me.

I’m genuinely glad to hear that lady ! "

Thankyou.

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By *uckymooMan over a year ago

Mid-Cheshire

My realisation is that, its a womans world

In general the ladys who meet are usually punching 3 points above their weight.

And for some thats a lot of weight

Blokes will bang anything

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"My realisation is that, its a womans world

In general the ladys who meet are usually punching 3 points above their weight.

And for some thats a lot of weight

Blokes will bang anything "

You said it lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What makes me laugh are the profiles with 5 paragraphs of requirements and hoops to jump through ..... (yeah yeah preference, choice yada yada)

But the punchline comes when you actually see the state of the people demanding this. Outside of cyber space they be lucky to get any kind of attention! Unreal but amusing at the same time.

OP keep your head up ..... who said this site was supposed to be fun ehh lol

Yes, imagine that. Women who do not drop their knickers for just anyone male with a pulse.

I always wonder what men who post this kind of messages hope to achieve.

For clarity it’s really not about me expecting an easy lay. As a matter a fact I quite enjoy the thrill of pursuit.

My basic point ... the lifestyle is supposed to be fun, liberated and sociable (sex aside) ...... can most say that is the vibe on here ?

If they are deluded then surely that's their problem? They really aren't affecting anyone else except themselves. "

Fair point! I guess we all have our delusions Scarlet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi all.

I’ve been here a few months now, have adjusted my profile a few times and added pics, but nearly all my messages are either deleted (majority) or read with no response.

The few replies I’ve had have come to nothing.

I’m guessing you need to be 6 foot with the body of a male model and the good looks of an A list celeb.

It’s really starting to get to me.

Does anybody here actually talk to a normal (half decent looking, relatively fit) guy like me?

All the messages I send are unique - no copy and paste.

Is it worth persisting with this site?"

I'm not 6ft and I dont have the body of a male model, nor the looks of an Alist celebrity. If I did, I'd be making money from it.

It used to get me down. But one day I stopped worrying about whether I was too short, too fat, too hairy, to beardy, too boring, too selective, not kinky enough, too kinky, good looking or ugly. Stopped caring what other people thought about who or what I was.

Wrote my profile for me. Write my words in the Forum as me. So people who are likely to like me as I am, know how to find me.

I do ok. I don't expect much and not overly fussed if I'm rejected or not.

My advice is to use the Forum. Read it, listen to others, join in.. learn.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Get yourself to some socials, clubs etc..."

yes i agree

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do you think if single men had to pay to be a member of the site then it would cut down on the huge amount of crude/vulgar/downright weird single guys?

I do occasionally get messages from men for bi fun which I would be interested in, but some of the messages are horrendous!!

"Let's suck your cock m8"

"Wanna smoke then service my hole"

There's never a hello or goodbye or how's it going!

Honestly, some men are ridiculous haha"

Agree I have had some vulgar messages off blokes on here, they are proper showing gay and bi men up. I cringe when I think they are sending those types of messages to fully straight men.

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By *partharmonyCouple over a year ago

Ruislip

"What makes me laugh are the profiles with 5 paragraphs of requirements and hoops to jump through ..... (yeah yeah preference, choice yada yada)

But the punchline comes when you actually see the state of the people demanding this. Outside of cyber space they be lucky to get any kind of attention! Unreal but amusing at the same time.

OP keep your head up ..... who said this site was supposed to be fun ehh lol

Yes, imagine that. Women who do not drop their knickers for just anyone male with a pulse.

I always wonder what men who post this kind of messages hope to achieve.

For clarity it’s really not about me expecting an easy lay. As a matter a fact I quite enjoy the thrill of pursuit.

My basic point ... the lifestyle is supposed to be fun, liberated and sociable (sex aside) ...... can most say that is the vibe on here ? "

I don't think that's a very sensible attitude.

Everybody has standards. The higher they are, the less likely somebody is to attain them. If somebody misses out because their standards are too high, they can lower their standards or go without. It's simply a choice. Different people will make different choices. It's not anybody else's business to tell somebody that they make the wrong choice or criticise them if they can demand standards in one arena that they can't in another.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Lea Marston

I sometimes feel a little the same. Such vast numbers on here now that it's harder to spot the decent people through the hi or drain my cock now messages.

There are also so many people who say they're looking for something regular, a club buddy etc but disappear on to the next new shiny person once they've played once or at best twice.

But I live in hope!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What makes me laugh are the profiles with 5 paragraphs of requirements and hoops to jump through ..... (yeah yeah preference, choice yada yada)

But the punchline comes when you actually see the state of the people demanding this. Outside of cyber space they be lucky to get any kind of attention! Unreal but amusing at the same time.

OP keep your head up ..... who said this site was supposed to be fun ehh lol

Yes, imagine that. Women who do not drop their knickers for just anyone male with a pulse.

I always wonder what men who post this kind of messages hope to achieve.

For clarity it’s really not about me expecting an easy lay. As a matter a fact I quite enjoy the thrill of pursuit.

My basic point ... the lifestyle is supposed to be fun, liberated and sociable (sex aside) ...... can most say that is the vibe on here ?

I don't think that's a very sensible attitude.

I do agree with you. My original point was to highlight the extremes some people go for which on parity to what they have to offer is ridiculous!

For example.... Quasimodo saying his not interested in anyone who doesn’t look like Beyoncé ! Get it lol

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By *earded_kent_GentMan over a year ago

ashford

"The problem is (as is with many others on here) that you are expecting far too much from just a profile on a website.

We've replied to many threads on a similar subject and always give the same advice.

Treat FAB as just another tool in your box but like with most jobs you need a full box of tools to complete it.

Socials, clubs Etc. Are the other tools that you need.

You will never unscrew a bolt with just a screwdriver.

To unscrew a bolt, I’d recommend a couple of spanners!!

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman over a year ago

London

"What makes me laugh are the profiles with 5 paragraphs of requirements and hoops to jump through ..... (yeah yeah preference, choice yada yada)

But the punchline comes when you actually see the state of the people demanding this. Outside of cyber space they be lucky to get any kind of attention! Unreal but amusing at the same time.

OP keep your head up ..... who said this site was supposed to be fun ehh lol

Yes, imagine that. Women who do not drop their knickers for just anyone male with a pulse.

I always wonder what men who post this kind of messages hope to achieve.

For clarity it’s really not about me expecting an easy lay. As a matter a fact I quite enjoy the thrill of pursuit.

My basic point ... the lifestyle is supposed to be fun, liberated and sociable (sex aside) ...... can most say that is the vibe on here ? "

Well, you have made the pursuit just that little bit harder. El done!

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"Hi all.

I’ve been here a few months now, have adjusted my profile a few times and added pics, but nearly all my messages are either deleted (majority) or read with no response.

The few replies I’ve had have come to nothing.

I’m guessing you need to be 6 foot with the body of a male model and the good looks of an A list celeb.

It’s really starting to get to me.

Does anybody here actually talk to a normal (half decent looking, relatively fit) guy like me?

All the messages I send are unique - no copy and paste.

Is it worth persisting with this site?"

Get yourself a wife, then come back as a couple.