Maybe because you come across as slightly arrogant in your profile, and have a lot to say about what you want, but not so much to say about what you can give.

Just a thought. It might not be right!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

this is gonna be interesting..........sits int he corner and observes....lol

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

It's not.

I looked at your profile and I can see immediately why you're struggling...I'm sure if you looked at it from an "average" members point of view you'd see too.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

this thread is so not going to end well... and this is where we need a popcorn imoticion...

i'll be back in the morning to see the train wreck

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Maybe because you come across as slightly arrogant in your profile, and have a lot to say about what you want, but not so much to say about what you can give.

Just a thought. It might not be right!"

Not just me then.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"if you know the answer please let me know"
In all honesty attitude makes a huge difference to results. Be. confident and polite and if you get a no then move on as there are lots more out there.

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By *empting Devil.Woman over a year ago

Sheffield

And we have a winner! Got my first lurker offering to have a sex change!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"this thread is so not going to end well... and this is where we need a popcorn imoticion...

i'll be back in the morning to see the train wreck"

No! Stay and watch, wimp!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"this thread is so not going to end well... and this is where we need a popcorn imoticion...

i'll be back in the morning to see the train wreck"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

thanks guys great help, should be laid by the morning

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

thanks guys great help, should be laid by the morning

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Attitude attitude attitude you scream it but not a sexy one. Read from a females point of view and maybe you can see why your not getting meets. Even before a gal looks at your profile the title of your thread would put any one with self respect of. Yes we here for sex but I not here for boys who 'want to get laid' I here for my own pleasure not just for the man's though giving men pleasure is a massive turn on for me I not here as a free escort I do have my own desires to be taken care of too.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

It's an enormously competitive world here, where what you get out of it, is largely commensurate with what you've invested into it. If you have incredible looks, attributes etc, then it does influence things for the better. Likewise if you know how to communicate well, then it's gonna tip the scales in your favour.

If you expect a profile to sit and magnetically pull in the UK babes and hot couples, it aint gonna happen, just like phones don't go ring ring, just cos the phone company has wired one up for you.

Now we don't know what you've been doing so far, we do largely know the environment here, and we may have taken a look at your profile.

Being honest, how well do you think your profile stands up against all the other single guys in your area? It's ok, nothing incredible. You;ve added pics that let people get a feel for how you look, so that's the right thing to do.

There is no magic Fab bullet that can be fired to make it all work for any one member. Effort, sensitivity to other members and what they're looking for, targeting who you contact, so that it's appropriate will all help. At the end of the day, if people don't fancy you, that's the end of the story.

Using Fab to find swinging partners is only part of the deal. There are clubs and other ways to do this too - and I've no clue whether you've done much or any of this.

If you've been friendly with others, including people that you're not going to have as a partner, then it helps too. If you have buddies that you can team up with, great too.

It does often take some time to get established. You've been around a few months. Let us know how much you've changed your profile in this time, and we'll give you feedback on your level of effort. Likewise, post some typical messages that you've sent to others, and we can critique them for you -remove any identifying names etc.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

1. Make the profile easier to read

2. A few less cock pics

3. U r either living with ur parents or a woman

4. Perseverance and attitude go a long way

And above all be nice and polite, except in the forum where anything goes sometimes lol

No seriously stick with polite and don't eat too much popcorn

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"this thread is so not going to end well... and this is where we need a popcorn imoticion...

i'll be back in the morning to see the train wreck"
no one has ripped me apart yet is that normal?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"this thread is so not going to end well... and this is where we need a popcorn imoticion...

i'll be back in the morning to see the train wreck"
The popcorn references only incite people to have a go and are never helpful. sometimes better to be constructive to people asking advice as everyone is new to swinging at some point

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"this thread is so not going to end well... and this is where we need a popcorn imoticion...

i'll be back in the morning to see the train wreck

No! Stay and watch, wimp!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

i bet you havent

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

You have a friends list a mile long have you worked your way through those yet ?..Ahh you want skinny.. hmm good luck with that.

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I have been laid on more than one occasion, but I've never considered the concept of becoming a lawn. How very dare you.

Get out of my mind you headfuck

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

you want incest and teenagers and wonder why ppl arent beating a path to your door

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

ha ha do you think i should include animals

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

"You have a friends list a mile long have you worked your way through those yet ?..Ahh you want skinny.. hmm good luck with that.

Whats wrong with that? it is a preference is it not?

As for peoples friends list, maybe it is the friends who only chat and don't meet, you have no way of knowing.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

"if you know the answer please let me know"

It isn't, if you have the right attitude and patience.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"ha ha do you think i should include animals

Ferrets. No-one can resist the lure of ferrets.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"if you know the answer please let me know"

why did you think it would be easy?

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"ha ha do you think i should include animals

Ferrets. No-one can resist the lure of ferrets."

*rushes off to check pockets*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"get laid" ???? like we girls are here to provide a service for guys like you??

get lost more like!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Get rid of the teens bit, that is so very wrong

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By *andnlancsCouple over a year ago

North

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By *andnlancsCouple over a year ago

North

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By *andnlancsCouple over a year ago

North

Just read your profile

Teens, Mum and Daughter, that rules out 98% of those on here.

We would like to win the lottery but I bet we have a better chance of doing that than you have of meeting Mums n Daughters or Two Teens together.

Lower your expectations and maybe you will meet more people

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By *ursevampsWoman over a year ago

bucks

hmmm want to get laid are we back in the night club scene.

sigh hate profiles that are used as bed notches, thing is on here we here as we all have a kinkier then normal side indulge in it respect is earned not given .

i for one would never respect some one that here just to get laid i may not be the best fabber on here but i have had a few meets and loved them.

so maybe your problem is you need to reword you profile and think would i look at a profile like yours is at the moment, if your truthfull then no.

only you can change the way you come across.

well happy readjusting

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

fr most people on here the mother, daughter thing is going to put them off let alone the teenager thing. most people who swing are slightly older and have children and this is a no for most of them, its what is termed as a specialist fetish and u may do better with a different site

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What's with the tongue photo?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"if you know the answer please let me know"

i think its the females that generally control the meets,the males in the couple just fantasize!. i have met some sexy couples but it was hard work trying to prove i aint a circus freak!

well i aint sure now mmmm

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

by the way, the cock in the photos is not 8.5 inches as you claim. where are you measuring from, your belly button?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

its not hard for us to get laid on this site.. we just fuck ontop of the laptop

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"its not hard for us to get laid on this site.. we just fuck ontop of the laptop

lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its not. You just have to market yourself correctly, whilst being genuine. No one on this site appeals to everyone, fact. But anyone can have lots of meets if they go about it in the right manner.

The truth of the matter is that many more men than women are interested in casual sex. So a woman just has to create any old profile if she wishes whereas a bloke has to use his nous.

Whereas more women are interested in "settling down" than men so its always women who have to box clever to find a decent life partner, whereas most men don't worry, all they have to do is land a half decent job and finding a wife at some point is guaranteed.

Don't even waste time moaning about it, just adapt, its still easy if you can put in a bit of effort and use your imagination.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

dude your profile says one thing - Im desperate, although i have fantasies i would love to fullfill i want sex with anyone. You need to actually work out what you really want to go for, then just pretty much stick that in your profile. It takes time to find what you like/want though. Currently Youre listing that you want pretty much everything. Doesnt leave a woman feeling like shes gonna please you in a special way. Judging by previous replies your profile was alot worse with incest and teen fantasy (you're more likely to find that on aff. This is swing site remember= couples sharing) . Good luck.

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By *herokee18Couple over a year ago

Carlisle

"this thread is so not going to end well... and this is where we need a popcorn imoticion...

i'll be back in the morning to see the train wreck"

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By *..taijituCouple over a year ago

00...Heaven...

X Ok, have a nose at men with a good few meets profs. See what they consist of - that you know you desire or indeed do indulge in. We see u have changed it already dramatically... As a woman I have to say the tongue pic is weird.... Maybe more kinky ones with meets? Also - being charming or working of what a profile your interested in has to say, will be helpful. For me, lolly, in another life lol, I liked watching for nice quiet guys n then pounce ....

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"Its not. You just have to market yourself correctly, whilst being genuine. No one on this site appeals to everyone, fact. But anyone can have lots of meets if they go about it in the right manner.

The truth of the matter is that many more men than women are interested in casual sex. So a woman just has to create any old profile if she wishes whereas a bloke has to use his nous.

Don't even waste time moaning about it, just adapt, its still easy if you can put in a bit of effort and use your imagination.

Good luck!

ohhh i would spank u for that post...but im distracted by your avatar

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"its not hard for us to get laid on this site.. we just fuck ontop of the laptop

lol"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What's with the tongue photo?

Ha ha, I thought the exact same and wondered if he's a Rolling Stones fan!

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By *rs kemeaCouple over a year ago

angus

Tried to read your profile but the lack of paragraphs, capital letters and punctuation makes it hard to read. That stood out more than the content to me.

Think of your profile as your Fab CV. You need to put in a little bit of effort to sell yourself. If you can't be bothered to spend 10 mins doing that, then ladies might think you're lazy in other ways too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I assume from some of the references above you've changed your profile. It's still pretty poor.

You sound desperate and whiny. You can't accomodate and prefer day time meets which shouts cheat. It is poorly written. And if the way you've worded this post is indicative of your attitude and levels of respect when mailing people you will struggle.

And lastly it's not difficult to get meets on here. Maybe look at your perceived sense of entitlement?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

get laid ???? oh ur a real charmer aint you , yeah this is a swingers site so sex is on the agenda but so is respect . even those in relationships that the fems are sub, slut etc i sure the man respects the female , this is not a site for men to 'pick up' free escorts so having the 'getting laid' attitude is hardly going to get u what u want, unless of course the lady has no self respect and doesnt value her self worth

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"get laid ???? oh ur a real charmer aint you , yeah this is a swingers site so sex is on the agenda but so is respect . even those in relationships that the fems are sub, slut etc i sure the man respects the female , this is not a site for men to 'pick up' free escorts so having the 'getting laid' attitude is hardly going to get u what u want, unless of course the lady has no self respect and doesnt value her self worth"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It would be considerably easier to 'get laid' at your local nightclub than on here.

Maybe people should have this explicitly stated to them upon joining the site.

Basically your problem is that the ladies on here have an absolutely MASSIVE pool of men from which to choose from.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"It would be considerably easier to 'get laid' at your local nightclub than on here.

Maybe people should have this explicitly stated to them upon joining the site.

Basically your problem is that the ladies on here have an absolutely MASSIVE pool of men from which to choose from.

Thats not the problem...the thing is women know they can get laid at their local nightclub...people are here looking for better sex, not just a quick fuck...basically they are here to swing...the problem is many men join cos they aint getting any out there.

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By *itboyslim2Man over a year ago

stevenage

"I have no problems - have you considered a sex change?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

frankly it is really east to get laid on this site..

However it is even easier to get to know people, find out if you get on well, and meet, with the potential for a bit of fun...

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"I assume from some of the references above you've changed your profile. It's still pretty poor.

And lastly it's not difficult to get meets on here. Maybe look at your perceived sense of entitlement?"

^^^^^^^^ This!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

its not.

if your respectful and build up a good level of comunication with people,attend a social or two and the circle of friends increases.

Also it helps if you meet someone and they leave you a good verification.

these things take time.

good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree. It's not x

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By *lexaWoman over a year ago

southampton

"if you know the answer please let me know"

Re-write your profile. Try not to come across as if you'd be doing us a favour by meeting you. That just seems hugely arrogant. Get the accommodation situation sorted out too.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance.... and at the moment for me personally... wrong side of that line....

like others have said... i don't think it is, but then again I took the time to feel my way in, to get to know people, to go to clubs and to socials and get again a better sense of in a way what people do and don't look for...

I tried to help myself in the best way I could, but I don't get that sense in you.... you have to help yourself to help yourself....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

personally think slight readjustment of what the op's opinion of this site is maybe required ..... makes it sound like a meat market. ppl on here are real and like to be treated with respect. Try to get to know ppl a little first if that fails you can go places to pay to get "laid"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There were just shy of 10,000 people online on Fab when I posted this and it's usually the same couple of dozen people who jump on these kind of threads, so although I wouldn't ignore their advice I wouldn't take it as gospel either.

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By *inkyfun2013Couple over a year ago

lewisham

Oh grow up.

You come across as desperate, arrogant and rude.

Most of the single girls on here can take their pick of the single guys and I bet they're getting better offers than your badly written whine. Get spell-check!

If you live with your parents, admit it. If you're cheating, admit it.

Frankly you sound like an egotistical, two-timing pain in the arse.

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