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We are in a kind of hot wife scenario , although I never play alone And hubby will join in to pleasure me ,I often wander if one day he will want to play with others himself . He tells me all the time that he has no interest in anyone else and is completely happy with what we are doing. I do believe him, but also feel like he might think that he’s missing out somehow. Has anyone else thought like this ? |
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Tricky to answer not knowing you depends what you actually look for if you met a nice couple you both felt comfortable with talk to him when he has had a few beers d*unk people always tell the truth lol |
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I don’t know how you feel? but I really can’t get my head round seeing him with another woman. He says it’s not a problem at all and he’s happy how it is but I’m kind of waiting for the day that he wants more for him |
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Our first meets were mostly 3somes with focus on wife our first couple meet where we full swapped although fine at the time she got very emotional afterwards having seen me with someone else she ok now |
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"We are in a kind of hot wife scenario , although I never play alone And hubby will join in to pleasure me ,I often wander if one day he will want to play with others himself . He tells me all the time that he has no interest in anyone else and is completely happy with what we are doing. I do believe him, but also feel like he might think that he’s missing out somehow. Has anyone else thought like this ? "
i haven't but then i don't have a husband but i do weirdly enough feel like I'm missing out especially now   |
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"With all the sexy swinging couples on here I just hope I can be enough for him ! "
I am more than sure you're enough for him. You sound very insecure and like you have a few worries. Sit down and have a heart to heart with him. Tell him exactly how you're feeling, if you trust him then you must believe what he tells you.
Otherwise take some time out from swinging for a little while and see how you feel. Swinging is meant to enhance your relationship, not give you insecurities and worries.
Good luck with it. |
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"We are in a kind of hot wife scenario , although I never play alone And hubby will join in to pleasure me ,I often wander if one day he will want to play with others himself . He tells me all the time that he has no interest in anyone else and is completely happy with what we are doing. I do believe him, but also feel like he might think that he’s missing out somehow. Has anyone else thought like this ? "
The phrase..'what is good for the goose is good for the gander' comes to mind.. |
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"We are in a kind of hot wife scenario , although I never play alone And hubby will join in to pleasure me ,I often wander if one day he will want to play with others himself . He tells me all the time that he has no interest in anyone else and is completely happy with what we are doing. I do believe him, but also feel like he might think that he’s missing out somehow. Has anyone else thought like this ?
The phrase..'what is good for the goose is good for the gander' comes to mind.."
Are you suggesting somehow things aren't fair? |
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That's how we all cpls start.
We met single guys initially and then slowly moved towards meeting cpls.
First two meets for hubby were blank as he just couldn't connect with other ladies but from third meet he was like a pro.
You can start with Socials to ease the nerves . |
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"With all the sexy swinging couples on here I just hope I can be enough for him !
I am more than sure you're enough for him. You sound very insecure and like you have a few worries. Sit down and have a heart to heart with him. Tell him exactly how you're feeling, if you trust him then you must believe what he tells you.
Otherwise take some time out from swinging for a little while and see how you feel. Swinging is meant to enhance your relationship, not give you insecurities and worries.
Good luck with it."
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"We are in a kind of hot wife scenario , although I never play alone And hubby will join in to pleasure me ,I often wander if one day he will want to play with others himself . He tells me all the time that he has no interest in anyone else and is completely happy with what we are doing. I do believe him, but also feel like he might think that he’s missing out somehow. Has anyone else thought like this ?
The phrase..'what is good for the goose is good for the gander' comes to mind.."
My thoughts too.
I suppose to the OP it depends what you are both happy with, but why is the thought of him with someone so abhorrent if you are swinging yourself? |
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"We are in a kind of hot wife scenario , although I never play alone And hubby will join in to pleasure me ,I often wander if one day he will want to play with others himself . He tells me all the time that he has no interest in anyone else and is completely happy with what we are doing. I do believe him, but also feel like he might think that he’s missing out somehow. Has anyone else thought like this ?
The phrase..'what is good for the goose is good for the gander' comes to mind.."
True, but not all people feel this way.I am happy for my wife to have sex with others, but seek nothing for myself. We tried couples and Sandra didn't like seeing me with other women, so I no longer want to go with other women. I don't feel cheated or let down, or jealous. It is just the way it is. |
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"We are in a kind of hot wife scenario , although I never play alone And hubby will join in to pleasure me ,I often wander if one day he will want to play with others himself . He tells me all the time that he has no interest in anyone else and is completely happy with what we are doing. I do believe him, but also feel like he might think that he’s missing out somehow. Has anyone else thought like this ?
The phrase..'what is good for the goose is good for the gander' comes to mind..
My thoughts too.
I suppose to the OP it depends what you are both happy with, but why is the thought of him with someone so abhorrent if you are swinging yourself?"
Because that is the way she feels. Simple as that. My wife is exactly the same. I don't feel cheated or let down. |
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Hello husband speaking now.
I have just woke up and noticed my wife put a thread out.
I want to put my view across we started swinging 9months ago and right fro the start I never wanted to play with anyone but my wife. As time as gone on the wife as got more paranoid. For all the people who say “what’s good for one is good for the other” I totally agree but only if both parts want that. I am really not interested in playing with anyone else but I love seeing the wife play and have a good 3sum. I don’t need or want anyone else I am fully content in what we do |
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"Hello husband speaking now.
I have just woke up and noticed my wife put a thread out.
I want to put my view across we started swinging 9months ago and right fro the start I never wanted to play with anyone but my wife. As time as gone on the wife as got more paranoid. For all the people who say “what’s good for one is good for the other” I totally agree but only if both parts want that. I am really not interested in playing with anyone else but I love seeing the wife play and have a good 3sum. I don’t need or want anyone else I am fully content in what we do "
Well said ! We have had a similar set up for some time. I don't feel cheated or let down. Just embrace what we have, as you do. |
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"Hello husband speaking now.
I have just woke up and noticed my wife put a thread out.
I want to put my view across we started swinging 9months ago and right fro the start I never wanted to play with anyone but my wife. As time as gone on the wife as got more paranoid. For all the people who say “what’s good for one is good for the other” I totally agree but only if both parts want that. I am really not interested in playing with anyone else but I love seeing the wife play and have a good 3sum. I don’t need or want anyone else I am fully content in what we do Well said ! We have had a similar set up for some time. I don't feel cheated or let down. Just embrace what we have, as you do."
We do embrace what we are doing. |
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"With all the sexy swinging couples on here I just hope I can be enough for him ! "
Don’t think that because if he wasn’t happy and did not want it then he wouldn’t be around would he?
Trust him he sounds like he is honestly happy with what the situation is |
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"Hello husband speaking now.
I have just woke up and noticed my wife put a thread out.
I want to put my view across we started swinging 9months ago and right fro the start I never wanted to play with anyone but my wife. As time as gone on the wife as got more paranoid. For all the people who say “what’s good for one is good for the other” I totally agree but only if both parts want that. I am really not interested in playing with anyone else but I love seeing the wife play and have a good 3sum. I don’t need or want anyone else I am fully content in what we do Well said ! We have had a similar set up for some time. I don't feel cheated or let down. Just embrace what we have, as you do.
We do embrace what we are doing. "
Just don’t know how to convince the wife that I don’t want anyone else. I have explained to her she is definitely the only one I want. But she Is convinced that at some point in the future that will change. |
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"Hello husband speaking now.
I have just woke up and noticed my wife put a thread out.
I want to put my view across we started swinging 9months ago and right fro the start I never wanted to play with anyone but my wife. As time as gone on the wife as got more paranoid. For all the people who say “what’s good for one is good for the other” I totally agree but only if both parts want that. I am really not interested in playing with anyone else but I love seeing the wife play and have a good 3sum. I don’t need or want anyone else I am fully content in what we do Well said ! We have had a similar set up for some time. I don't feel cheated or let down. Just embrace what we have, as you do.
We do embrace what we are doing.
Just don’t know how to convince the wife that I don’t want anyone else. I have explained to her she is definitely the only one I want. But she Is convinced that at some point in the future that will change. "
I guess the only way is just keep reminding her all the time that she is the only person you want.
I can imagine you do that anyways. Sound like a good fella |
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"Hello husband speaking now.
I have just woke up and noticed my wife put a thread out.
I want to put my view across we started swinging 9months ago and right fro the start I never wanted to play with anyone but my wife. As time as gone on the wife as got more paranoid. For all the people who say “what’s good for one is good for the other” I totally agree but only if both parts want that. I am really not interested in playing with anyone else but I love seeing the wife play and have a good 3sum. I don’t need or want anyone else I am fully content in what we do Well said ! We have had a similar set up for some time. I don't feel cheated or let down. Just embrace what we have, as you do.
We do embrace what we are doing.
Just don’t know how to convince the wife that I don’t want anyone else. I have explained to her she is definitely the only one I want. But she Is convinced that at some point in the future that will change. "
Wish I knew the answer as we are in similar situation. |
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"Hello husband speaking now.
I have just woke up and noticed my wife put a thread out.
I want to put my view across we started swinging 9months ago and right fro the start I never wanted to play with anyone but my wife. As time as gone on the wife as got more paranoid. For all the people who say “what’s good for one is good for the other” I totally agree but only if both parts want that. I am really not interested in playing with anyone else but I love seeing the wife play and have a good 3sum. I don’t need or want anyone else I am fully content in what we do Well said ! We have had a similar set up for some time. I don't feel cheated or let down. Just embrace what we have, as you do.
We do embrace what we are doing.
Just don’t know how to convince the wife that I don’t want anyone else. I have explained to her she is definitely the only one I want. But she Is convinced that at some point in the future that will change.
I guess the only way is just keep reminding her all the time that she is the only person you want.
I can imagine you do that anyways. Sound like a good fella "
I think it’s more to do with the environment and Where most couples both play. I have said only because we are different it doesn’t mean that I want to play |
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"Hello husband speaking now.
I have just woke up and noticed my wife put a thread out.
I want to put my view across we started swinging 9months ago and right fro the start I never wanted to play with anyone but my wife. As time as gone on the wife as got more paranoid. For all the people who say “what’s good for one is good for the other” I totally agree but only if both parts want that. I am really not interested in playing with anyone else but I love seeing the wife play and have a good 3sum. I don’t need or want anyone else I am fully content in what we do Well said ! We have had a similar set up for some time. I don't feel cheated or let down. Just embrace what we have, as you do.
We do embrace what we are doing.
Just don’t know how to convince the wife that I don’t want anyone else. I have explained to her she is definitely the only one I want. But she Is convinced that at some point in the future that will change.
I guess the only way is just keep reminding her all the time that she is the only person you want.
I can imagine you do that anyways. Sound like a good fella
I think it’s more to do with the environment and Where most couples both play. I have said only because we are different it doesn’t mean that I want to play "
Yeah I understand that’s fair enough |
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When we started doing this we only wanted to have threesomes and have people join us. We did that and I (Mr) suggested Mrs should go and meet a guy that we had previously met. He had been chatting with us about meeting again and I couldn't get a lot of time off work so I asked if she would want to meet him on her own. She was apprehensive and thought about it for a while before she decided to go for it. I didn't do it expecting anything in return, I wanted her to enjoy herself.
A while later we were with a woman, we were talking abut different things during the night and she mentioned that she had only met couples but she was thinking about starting to meet guys. A few days after we met her, Mrs asked me would I want to meet her which was really unexpected. I made sure she was okay with it and asked her so many times if she was sure, even up to 5 minutes before I left for the hotel.
We now prefer to actually meet one on one and getting the detail from each and the sex it leads to!! What we wanted and enjoyed evolved over time. As long as you're situation works for you and you're both happy then don't worry |
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"When we started doing this we only wanted to have threesomes and have people join us. We did that and I (Mr) suggested Mrs should go and meet a guy that we had previously met. He had been chatting with us about meeting again and I couldn't get a lot of time off work so I asked if she would want to meet him on her own. She was apprehensive and thought about it for a while before she decided to go for it. I didn't do it expecting anything in return, I wanted her to enjoy herself.
A while later we were with a woman, we were talking abut different things during the night and she mentioned that she had only met couples but she was thinking about starting to meet guys. A few days after we met her, Mrs asked me would I want to meet her which was really unexpected. I made sure she was okay with it and asked her so many times if she was sure, even up to 5 minutes before I left for the hotel.
We now prefer to actually meet one on one and getting the detail from each and the sex it leads to!! What we wanted and enjoyed evolved over time. As long as you're situation works for you and you're both happy then don't worry "
In your case that might be perfect. I really don’t like the idea of being with anyone but the wife. And whatever the individual is happy with works and not necessarily works for everyone. |
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"Hello husband speaking now.
I have just woke up and noticed my wife put a thread out.
I want to put my view across we started swinging 9months ago and right fro the start I never wanted to play with anyone but my wife. As time as gone on the wife as got more paranoid. For all the people who say “what’s good for one is good for the other” I totally agree but only if both parts want that. I am really not interested in playing with anyone else but I love seeing the wife play and have a good 3sum. I don’t need or want anyone else I am fully content in what we do "
Hey  in in the same situation as you. My husband spent 2 years convincing me that this was what he had always wanted to do but he didn't want anyone else.
I had many sleepless nights and lots of talking. I was so unsure but after 2 years I agreed to try it. That was 4 years ago now and my hubby still has to reassure me that he doesn't want to meet anyone. (This was his thing not mine so I won't be happy for him to go elsewhere.) We have complete trust in our marriage and are extremely happy, but I still need that reassurance. He just loves to know I'm with my lover and he's as happy as anything when I am.
What works for some doesn't work for others. Just keep talking to each other and make sure that your both still happy with the situation x |
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"Hello husband speaking now.
I have just woke up and noticed my wife put a thread out.
I want to put my view across we started swinging 9months ago and right fro the start I never wanted to play with anyone but my wife. As time as gone on the wife as got more paranoid. For all the people who say “what’s good for one is good for the other” I totally agree but only if both parts want that. I am really not interested in playing with anyone else but I love seeing the wife play and have a good 3sum. I don’t need or want anyone else I am fully content in what we do
Hey in in the same situation as you. My husband spent 2 years convincing me that this was what he had always wanted to do but he didn't want anyone else.
I had many sleepless nights and lots of talking. I was so unsure but after 2 years I agreed to try it. That was 4 years ago now and my hubby still has to reassure me that he doesn't want to meet anyone. (This was his thing not mine so I won't be happy for him to go elsewhere.) We have complete trust in our marriage and are extremely happy, but I still need that reassurance. He just loves to know I'm with my lover and he's as happy as anything when I am.
What works for some doesn't work for others. Just keep talking to each other and make sure that your both still happy with the situation x"
That’s exactly the same. We have been married 11yrs so it isent nothing to do with trusting. I think it’s more to do with seeing what other cpls do and she thinks well why ain’t you interested in going with someone. As it’s the norm on here. I hope that makes sense lol |
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"Hello husband speaking now.
I have just woke up and noticed my wife put a thread out.
I want to put my view across we started swinging 9months ago and right fro the start I never wanted to play with anyone but my wife. As time as gone on the wife as got more paranoid. For all the people who say “what’s good for one is good for the other” I totally agree but only if both parts want that. I am really not interested in playing with anyone else but I love seeing the wife play and have a good 3sum. I don’t need or want anyone else I am fully content in what we do
Hey in in the same situation as you. My husband spent 2 years convincing me that this was what he had always wanted to do but he didn't want anyone else.
I had many sleepless nights and lots of talking. I was so unsure but after 2 years I agreed to try it. That was 4 years ago now and my hubby still has to reassure me that he doesn't want to meet anyone. (This was his thing not mine so I won't be happy for him to go elsewhere.) We have complete trust in our marriage and are extremely happy, but I still need that reassurance. He just loves to know I'm with my lover and he's as happy as anything when I am.
What works for some doesn't work for others. Just keep talking to each other and make sure that your both still happy with the situation x
That’s exactly the same. We have been married 11yrs so it isent nothing to do with trusting. I think it’s more to do with seeing what other cpls do and she thinks well why ain’t you interested in going with someone. As it’s the norm on here. I hope that makes sense lol"
It does yes. I've had her thoughts lol. X |
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I can see where your husband is coming from, like him, I love my wife to be having the fun and im not interested in meeting others on my own, we used to swing with other couples , but rather have just single guys now, so more relaxed fun, and its a joy to see my wife having lots of sexy fun and games, |
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