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It shouldnt scare anyone and those guys should not be listened too. Be honest and you'll find what you want. Plenty of people who do want to meet bi guys on here. It's pretty shady to lie to get a meet imo as well.
I'm straight so we have no interest in meeting bi guys (or single guys in general) or bi guy couples. Even if they play straight, its just not for us for our own reasons and preferences.
But that's us and what we want. It bares no reflection on anyone else.
This is a swingers site and all tastes are catered for. If a person cant all be open and honest about what they are all about and what they are looking for then maybe they should rethink why they are on here to begin with.
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I prefer the honesty on the profile.
Mostly the excuse we’ve heard is something to do with privacy for work/life purposes. Which baffles me, it’s ok to swing but not be bi, I don’t get it.
On the flip side, we attended a house party and the hostess asked who of the girls were bi and then who of the guys. The host himself quickly sent his hands to the floor, did a silly childish grin and laughed. Safe to say none of the guys came forward, I found it quite upsetting as the partner of someone who is finding his own boundaries within the spectrum.
I’m also a believer that you can be sexually aroused by bi-play but not necessarily be attracted to the same sex taking on fully that bi ‘label’. I think guys more so struggle with this too.
I can understand why some are uncomfortable with being open and upfront. It’s a shame xx
Wife xx
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"I prefer the honesty on the profile.
Mostly the excuse we’ve heard is something to do with privacy for work/life purposes. Which baffles me, it’s ok to swing but not be bi, I don’t get it.
On the flip side, we attended a house party and the hostess asked who of the girls were bi and then who of the guys. The host himself quickly sent his hands to the floor, did a silly childish grin and laughed. Safe to say none of the guys came forward, I found it quite upsetting as the partner of someone who is finding his own boundaries within the spectrum.
I’m also a believer that you can be sexually aroused by bi-play but not necessarily be attracted to the same sex taking on fully that bi ‘label’. I think guys more so struggle with this too.
I can understand why some are uncomfortable with being open and upfront. It’s a shame xx
Wife xx
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I can honestly say I am in no way attracted to men as in dating etc, for me and lots of other guys it’s just the sexual side, but you have to class yourself as bisexual as there is no other words, maybe it should be called Bi in Sex !  |
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"I prefer the honesty on the profile.
Mostly the excuse we’ve heard is something to do with privacy for work/life purposes. Which baffles me, it’s ok to swing but not be bi, I don’t get it.
On the flip side, we attended a house party and the hostess asked who of the girls were bi and then who of the guys. The host himself quickly sent his hands to the floor, did a silly childish grin and laughed. Safe to say none of the guys came forward, I found it quite upsetting as the partner of someone who is finding his own boundaries within the spectrum.
I’m also a believer that you can be sexually aroused by bi-play but not necessarily be attracted to the same sex taking on fully that bi ‘label’. I think guys more so struggle with this too.
I can understand why some are uncomfortable with being open and upfront. It’s a shame xx
Wife xx
I can honestly say I am in no way attracted to men as in dating etc, for me and lots of other guys it’s just the sexual side, but you have to class yourself as bisexual as there is no other words, maybe it should be called Bi in Sex ! "
You’re right on the terminology front, there currently isn’t a box that fits, so it’s either bi or curious.
Bi in Sex works though, it’s hot to watch too!  xx |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
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"I prefer the honesty on the profile.
Mostly the excuse we’ve heard is something to do with privacy for work/life purposes. Which baffles me, it’s ok to swing but not be bi, I don’t get it.
On the flip side, we attended a house party and the hostess asked who of the girls were bi and then who of the guys. The host himself quickly sent his hands to the floor, did a silly childish grin and laughed. Safe to say none of the guys came forward, I found it quite upsetting as the partner of someone who is finding his own boundaries within the spectrum.
I’m also a believer that you can be sexually aroused by bi-play but not necessarily be attracted to the same sex taking on fully that bi ‘label’. I think guys more so struggle with this too.
I can understand why some are uncomfortable with being open and upfront. It’s a shame xx
Wife xx
I can honestly say I am in no way attracted to men as in dating etc, for me and lots of other guys it’s just the sexual side, but you have to class yourself as bisexual as there is no other words, maybe it should be called Bi in Sex !
You’re right on the terminology front, there currently isn’t a box that fits, so it’s either bi or curious.
Bi in Sex works though, it’s hot to watch too! xx"
Orally bi here but each to there own.... tick a box ffs ... can’t be arses tbh x |
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So most guys think putting bisexual scares ladies / couples off, the question are there any females or couples who would entertain a fit decent looking orally bisexual selective guy?
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If we got along, we'd still play. Being bi or straight wouldn't affect our decision in the slightest. |
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"I prefer the honesty on the profile.
Mostly the excuse we’ve heard is something to do with privacy for work/life purposes. Which baffles me, it’s ok to swing but not be bi, I don’t get it.
On the flip side, we attended a house party and the hostess asked who of the girls were bi and then who of the guys. The host himself quickly sent his hands to the floor, did a silly childish grin and laughed. Safe to say none of the guys came forward, I found it quite upsetting as the partner of someone who is finding his own boundaries within the spectrum.
I’m also a believer that you can be sexually aroused by bi-play but not necessarily be attracted to the same sex taking on fully that bi ‘label’. I think guys more so struggle with this too.
I can understand why some are uncomfortable with being open and upfront. It’s a shame xx
Wife xx
I can honestly say I am in no way attracted to men as in dating etc, for me and lots of other guys it’s just the sexual side, but you have to class yourself as bisexual as there is no other words, maybe it should be called Bi in Sex !
You’re right on the terminology front, there currently isn’t a box that fits, so it’s either bi or curious.
Bi in Sex works though, it’s hot to watch too! xx
Orally bi here but each to there own.... tick a box ffs ... can’t be arses tbh x"
I (Mr) do not class myself as bi as I do not find men sexually attractive, but have had some experiences with some lovely TS ladies - which some would suggest means I am.
Though I now know there is a different word for that, it's not an option on here.
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"I prefer the honesty on the profile.
Mostly the excuse we’ve heard is something to do with privacy for work/life purposes. Which baffles me, it’s ok to swing but not be bi, I don’t get it.
On the flip side, we attended a house party and the hostess asked who of the girls were bi and then who of the guys. The host himself quickly sent his hands to the floor, did a silly childish grin and laughed. Safe to say none of the guys came forward, I found it quite upsetting as the partner of someone who is finding his own boundaries within the spectrum.
I’m also a believer that you can be sexually aroused by bi-play but not necessarily be attracted to the same sex taking on fully that bi ‘label’. I think guys more so struggle with this too.
I can understand why some are uncomfortable with being open and upfront. It’s a shame xx
Wife xx
I can honestly say I am in no way attracted to men as in dating etc, for me and lots of other guys it’s just the sexual side, but you have to class yourself as bisexual as there is no other words, maybe it should be called Bi in Sex !
You’re right on the terminology front, there currently isn’t a box that fits, so it’s either bi or curious.
Bi in Sex works though, it’s hot to watch too! xx
Orally bi here but each to there own.... tick a box ffs ... can’t be arses tbh x
I (Mr) do not class myself as bi as I do not find men sexually attractive, but have had some experiences with some lovely TS ladies - which some would suggest means I am.
Though I now know there is a different word for that, it's not an option on here.
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mate you find that word please share it  |
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"Sitting back with popcorn
Anyone got any cake?
Feet up contemplating should I through my two cent in !
Na Think I’ll leave this one to the pro’s "
Ha now you got me curious bro!! About your thoughts I mean! |
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over a year ago
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"I prefer the honesty on the profile.
Mostly the excuse we’ve heard is something to do with privacy for work/life purposes. Which baffles me, it’s ok to swing but not be bi, I don’t get it.
On the flip side, we attended a house party and the hostess asked who of the girls were bi and then who of the guys. The host himself quickly sent his hands to the floor, did a silly childish grin and laughed. Safe to say none of the guys came forward, I found it quite upsetting as the partner of someone who is finding his own boundaries within the spectrum.
I’m also a believer that you can be sexually aroused by bi-play but not necessarily be attracted to the same sex taking on fully that bi ‘label’. I think guys more so struggle with this too.
I can understand why some are uncomfortable with being open and upfront. It’s a shame xx
Wife xx
I can honestly say I am in no way attracted to men as in dating etc, for me and lots of other guys it’s just the sexual side, but you have to class yourself as bisexual as there is no other words, maybe it should be called Bi in Sex !
You’re right on the terminology front, there currently isn’t a box that fits, so it’s either bi or curious.
Bi in Sex works though, it’s hot to watch too! xx
Orally bi here but each to there own.... tick a box ffs ... can’t be arses tbh x
I (Mr) do not class myself as bi as I do not find men sexually attractive, but have had some experiences with some lovely TS ladies - which some would suggest means I am.
Though I now know there is a different word for that, it's not an option on here.
mate you find that word please share it "
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By *olfy67Man
over a year ago
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Human sensuality comes in all shapes, sizes, gender and preferences. Two (or three, four or more) human beings getting naked together can have a whole bunch of fun and ideally we all should cast aside every hang up and have a fab time.
Reality is that a lot of sex happens in our brains which are complicated enough without peer and media pressures telling us what we should and shouldn't feel / think.
Anyway, life's too short to get hung up on pointless sh*t - have a FAB day! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am bi and I know for a fact that I have missed out on many meets with couples for being so, even though the female of the said couples state they are bisexual. I used to get bent out of shape but now just smile and move on. Win some lose some, especially in the current circumstances |
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By *i-4-2Man
over a year ago
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Being bi does make it tougher to find couples in my experience, but it's not impossible. I've met a few who like me to have the male while she watches, or have her while sucking him. The possible combinations are great. Just wish there was a little more opportunity. So, if there are any London couples out there looking.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So most guys think putting bisexual scares ladies / couples off, the question are there any females or couples who would entertain a fit decent looking orally bisexual selective guy?
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It hasn't been a handicap for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My favourite members are the ones who say "there absolutely is no bias, and anyone who thinks there is should be ashamed of their stupidity. By the way we don't meet bi guys, or bi curious guys, or guys who once went to a pub with a guy who someone once said was bi once" |
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there are couples and women who enjoy bi guys as well as straight guys , if you cant be honest on here then whats the point ?
i like sex with a guy in whatever guise that is from oral to penetration , but i also have a wife who gets turned on bu bi play so we prefer to meet bi guys so none of us are left out , i dont fancy guys and dont want a relationship with a guy but sexually im pretty much open and if people dont want to meet us because of that well thats there choice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Admitting your bi or even bi curious on here...is way different to admitting it in real life. Iv admitted to being curious to my self and on here for a little while...but would not dare let any friends or family know as i dont think they would take it well |
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over a year ago
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"I prefer the honesty on the profile.
Mostly the excuse we’ve heard is something to do with privacy for work/life purposes. Which baffles me, it’s ok to swing but not be bi, I don’t get it.
On the flip side, we attended a house party and the hostess asked who of the girls were bi and then who of the guys. The host himself quickly sent his hands to the floor, did a silly childish grin and laughed. Safe to say none of the guys came forward, I found it quite upsetting as the partner of someone who is finding his own boundaries within the spectrum.
I’m also a believer that you can be sexually aroused by bi-play but not necessarily be attracted to the same sex taking on fully that bi ‘label’. I think guys more so struggle with this too.
I can understand why some are uncomfortable with being open and upfront. It’s a shame xx
Wife xx
I can honestly say I am in no way attracted to men as in dating etc, for me and lots of other guys it’s just the sexual side, but you have to class yourself as bisexual as there is no other words, maybe it should be called Bi in Sex !
You’re right on the terminology front, there currently isn’t a box that fits, so it’s either bi or curious.
Bi in Sex works though, it’s hot to watch too! xx
Orally bi here but each to there own.... tick a box ffs ... can’t be arses tbh x
I (Mr) do not class myself as bi as I do not find men sexually attractive, but have had some experiences with some lovely TS ladies - which some would suggest means I am.
Though I now know there is a different word for that, it's not an option on here.
mate you find that word please share it
Skoliksexual"
Interesting read had to google it never heard of that term !
Appreciated nice 1 |
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So most guys think putting bisexual scares ladies / couples off, the question are there any females or couples who would entertain a fit decent looking orally bisexual selective guy?
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Definitely does not scare us off ..What puts us off is men who have straight on there profiles then when we say we looking for bi only they say there bi. |
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So most guys think putting bisexual scares ladies / couples off, the question are there any females or couples who would entertain a fit decent looking orally bisexual selective guy?
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I consider myself somewhere between bicurious and bisexual.
I do have sex with men (mainly in club environments or with a woman present) but I had so far have had no desire to take it beyond a sexual encounter.
I had straight on my profile until fairly recently not because I wished to deceive anyone but merely because I hadn't worked out my own sexuality and some people are quite judgemental of that. Theres still a stigma.
I've always find it interesting speaking to women/couples who ONLY speak/meet to straight males.
If A guy maybe experimented once or twice, decided it wasn't for him and considers himself straight, does he have to declare that?
We don't know the ins and out of every experience each other has. To me, gender is a just a small and pretty irrelevant piece of information to it. But some people put a lot of weight on it. It comes down to preference, I suppose!
In the end, as long as its legal and safe I don't think it really matters.
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I know I lose a lot of potential meets by openly admitting I'm bi..... But this Is the one place in my life I can be honest and step out the closet. So I
Write the losses off, and enjoy the freedom! |
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Wouldn't say I'm bi, but not fully straight either. Time will tell. That's why I have it labelled as bicurious. Curious seems to be the best label for it and best I mentioned it as such |
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"I know I lose a lot of potential meets by openly admitting I'm bi..... But this Is the one place in my life I can be honest and step out the closet. So I
Write the losses off, and enjoy the freedom!"
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So most guys think putting bisexual scares ladies / couples off, the question are there any females or couples who would entertain a fit decent looking orally bisexual selective guy?
Definitely does not scare us off ..What puts us off is men who have straight on there profiles then when we say we looking for bi only they say there bi."
We get this too ,fed up saying "but your straight" then they say im bi and dont want to put people off ,well it puts us off ...  |
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"i know the feeling of having a dishonest now ex husband. How many married bi men have told their wives that they are bi?"
I know a few including a relative  ,but saying that hubby came out as bi ,2 years ago and 15 /20 years ago id have kicked him out ,wasnt easy i wont lie but we are both at peace with it now and enjoying being on here but doesnt work for everyone ... |
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I find it more interesting the amount of couples meets I have had where the man is listed as straight but about 10mins into the meeting hes grabbing my cock . pushing my head towards his cock. My bisexuality though isnt cock focussed so when he gets all fussy because I try to touch more than his cock or try to kiss him . Well thats just frustrating for me. I usually work outhow to leave as fast as possible.
Its such a shame there feels like a stigma associated with Bi and Gay men; no one seems to mind woman on woman playing in a swingers club, in fact its almost expected but two guys kissing and holding each other can have people tutting and asking you to take it into a closed room |
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"i know the feeling of having a dishonest now ex husband. How many married bi men have told their wives that they are bi?"
Honesty is important to us, I’ve known my husband is bi since the day we met so haven’t had any issues in that department. |
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"I prefer the honesty on the profile.
Mostly the excuse we’ve heard is something to do with privacy for work/life purposes. Which baffles me, it’s ok to swing but not be bi, I don’t get it.
On the flip side, we attended a house party and the hostess asked who of the girls were bi and then who of the guys. The host himself quickly sent his hands to the floor, did a silly childish grin and laughed. Safe to say none of the guys came forward, I found it quite upsetting as the partner of someone who is finding his own boundaries within the spectrum.
I’m also a believer that you can be sexually aroused by bi-play but not necessarily be attracted to the same sex taking on fully that bi ‘label’. I think guys more so struggle with this too.
I can understand why some are uncomfortable with being open and upfront. It’s a shame xx
Wife xx
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Spot on this...bi play is one thing, being attracted to the same sex other than for fun is totally different |
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"I prefer the honesty on the profile.
Mostly the excuse we’ve heard is something to do with privacy for work/life purposes. Which baffles me, it’s ok to swing but not be bi, I don’t get it.
On the flip side, we attended a house party and the hostess asked who of the girls were bi and then who of the guys. The host himself quickly sent his hands to the floor, did a silly childish grin and laughed. Safe to say none of the guys came forward, I found it quite upsetting as the partner of someone who is finding his own boundaries within the spectrum.
I’m also a believer that you can be sexually aroused by bi-play but not necessarily be attracted to the same sex taking on fully that bi ‘label’. I think guys more so struggle with this too.
I can understand why some are uncomfortable with being open and upfront. It’s a shame xx
Wife xx
Spot on this...bi play is one thing, being attracted to the same sex other than for fun is totally different "
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"I believe honesty is the best policy. I have received messages from bi , gay and tv / ts and I always respond by saying sorry I am straight.That usually does the trick but not always."
Mate I’m straight( well i ain’t in to dudes) and wen I joined I got crazy sent to me so I’m sure your touching on that lightly !
Am I right ? Does no get you anywhere with some people ? I found it very disrespectful |
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By *andb13Couple
over a year ago
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So most guys think putting bisexual scares ladies / couples off, the question are there any females or couples who would entertain a fit decent looking orally bisexual selective guy?
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Seems there are more just orally bi guys than anything else.. there seem to be very few fully bi guys who like penetrative sex too. |
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"I prefer the honesty on the profile.
Mostly the excuse we’ve heard is something to do with privacy for work/life purposes. Which baffles me, it’s ok to swing but not be bi, I don’t get it.
On the flip side, we attended a house party and the hostess asked who of the girls were bi and then who of the guys. The host himself quickly sent his hands to the floor, did a silly childish grin and laughed. Safe to say none of the guys came forward, I found it quite upsetting as the partner of someone who is finding his own boundaries within the spectrum.
I’m also a believer that you can be sexually aroused by bi-play but not necessarily be attracted to the same sex taking on fully that bi ‘label’. I think guys more so struggle with this too.
I can understand why some are uncomfortable with being open and upfront. It’s a shame xx
Wife xx
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This reads like I've written it! I couldn't agree more and we're in exactly the same boat where Mr is regarding boundaries.
Honesty is everything to us with this side of our lives.
Lou xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Interesting question. Always shown I’m bi in my profile, and qualified it in my description.
If asked at a party, I’d happily put my hand up as I’m sure many want to try it (bi-curious) but are scared it would put others off.
There are a few couples and ladies who say no bi in their profile (maybe they believe there’s an increased HIV risk which is rubbish these days) but equally some who say bi guys only |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It shouldn't scare anybody, my husband is bi and so am I, in fact we only swing bi, I do find that a lot of people don't understand us as we are not interested in the oposit sex, |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My profile says bi never hidden this never would a lot of people spend heartbreaking years coming to terms with their sexuality never hide it Just to try and get your leg over like some do be who you are and enjoy it |
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"It shouldn't scare anybody, my husband is bi and so am I, in fact we only swing bi, I do find that a lot of people don't understand us as we are not interested in the oposit sex, "
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