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By *erenity20 OP Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
So a question for you gentlemen out there...
Why meet a lady, get on so well with her, two meets hours long...then "ghost" her and refuse to answer messages BUT keep visiting her profile EVERY day??
Confused 
What's that all about?? |
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By *r.SJMan
over a year ago
Wellingborough |
I'd agree with the posts above but can only add that it's their loss if you blocked them and think I'd agree with that advice...
dignity, manners, decorum and respect cost nothing and if you'd both got on well and the gent had been lucky enough to meet you... then he should also have the above.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Arranged to take a lady to a club, we met up outside then went in then after about 30 mins later said I'm stopping you having fun go and find it. She really was after another guy who also asked her to the club, then shows his verification but no mine how odd. |
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"He got what he wanted and moved on..it would seem..
So why is he haunting her profile if he got what he wanted?
Like others, I'd block and forget it. "
Traits of a stalker I would say, but only he can answer that one…. |
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By *erenity20 OP Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
"He got what he wanted and moved on..it would seem..
So why is he haunting her profile if he got what he wanted?
Like others, I'd block and forget it. "
That's what I dont understand...why keep viewing the profile.
Thanks for the advice, he was a lovely guy and I detest blocking people but I may have to do that as its upsetting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"He got what he wanted and moved on..it would seem..
So why is he haunting her profile if he got what he wanted?
Like others, I'd block and forget it.
That's what I dont understand...why keep viewing the profile.
Thanks for the advice, he was a lovely guy and I detest blocking people but I may have to do that as its upsetting"
If its bothering you which it clearly is, block him. He may have seemed lovely but a decent person wouldn't do that... Would they? X |
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"He got what he wanted and moved on..it would seem..
So why is he haunting her profile if he got what he wanted?
Like others, I'd block and forget it.
That's what I dont understand...why keep viewing the profile.
Thanks for the advice, he was a lovely guy and I detest blocking people but I may have to do that as its upsetting"
well done you |
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"He got what he wanted and moved on..it would seem..
So why is he haunting her profile if he got what he wanted?
Like others, I'd block and forget it.
That's what I dont understand...why keep viewing the profile.
Thanks for the advice, he was a lovely guy and I detest blocking people but I may have to do that as its upsetting"
Yes, it's horrible isn't it? But he's obviously not a nice one, deep down. If he can't be bothered to stay in touch - for whatever reason - he doesn't deserve to look at your profile pics.
Move on & you'll find nicer guys.
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Sadly. If he was single and fancied you he’d be all over you like a rash.
Just because you got on really well doesn’t mean anything will come of it.
I went on a 5 hour social once with a lovely lady. We got on great. But I didn’t fancy her. I did tell her though. |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
He wants to keep meeting you, but he can't for some reason?
Married?
Crisis of confidence?
Found someone else? (But then why keep looking at your profile?)
I think the only person who can answer this is the guy in question.
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"So a question for you gentlemen out there...
Why meet a lady, get on so well with her, two meets hours long...then "ghost" her and refuse to answer messages BUT keep visiting her profile EVERY day??
Confused
What's that all about??"
Could be married??
The older I get the less I try to understand people - its best to just focus on their ACTIONs - what is going on in their heads is unknowable... |
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Unfortunately that can happen on here. If men are unable to be honest and say they are no linger interested just block and move on it is their lose at the end of the day. Men sometimes mess women about on here sadly seen and heard about it so often |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Message him asking the same, why ghost but keep visiting your profile etc.
But add that you will block.
He may reply, you may get your answer.
Failing that, block him. |
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"Most likely you will never find out the answer. Block to stop him looking at you and move on, worrying or wondering will not help you."
Best thing to do….unless you’re remaining hopeful. But agreed, best to block and move on |
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By *otMe66Man
over a year ago
Terra Firma |
"So a question for you gentlemen out there...
Why meet a lady, get on so well with her, two meets hours long...then "ghost" her and refuse to answer messages BUT keep visiting her profile EVERY day??
Confused
What's that all about??"
Obviously anything I say or think about your situation is pure conjecture, however this does resinate with me, for all the wrong reasons.
I was really immature emotionally and I didn't grow my emotional awareness and behaviour until my mid 40's. I knew how to have a good time, I knew how to impress, I knew how to talk the talk but I didn't know how to handle any type of commitment or conversation that I felt would lead to conflict. Back then it was easier for me to just walk away and let time do its thing!
Now I have learnt be a much more rounded and emotionally aware person and I am much happier for it!
I do realise my immaturity must have had an impact on people similar to what you are feeling now, which sucks! Life is not linear and I wish you all the best. Try and put this behind you and go find yourself a partner who has the emotional intelligence you deserve.
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Sounds like a lots of fellas on here tbh all shits
They all give the talk , wanting to meet you
You look forward to meeting them
The day arrives , you meet them, do the bussiness, then he just walks off as tho he got his cake n ate it , got wat he wanted, then just fucks u off for no reason , till months mayb a year later u get a msg off them under a new profile wanting to meet up as tho we are just complete strangers, until u tell them u had met them b4 but they fucked us off but wen u ask were have they been
Turns out they were either ALREADY SEEIN SOMEONE, or they started seein someone else after shaggin you, but said they wernt lookin fore any relationship with urself, but hey ho
They split up, then he has a fookin cheek to msg u askin to shag them again
Alot of cheeky fuckers on here i find
I wud just fuck him off n block him
Or go n meet someone who u fancy a nice sexy hunk on here TAKE SOME GOOD SAUCY PICCYS WITH HIM PUT ON HERE Show him wat he is missing out on, when he carrys on viewing ur profile, get him jelous , then wen he carries on viewing u he will k ow his liss ur gain (THATS IF THERE ARE ANY QUALITY B4 QUANTITY I SAY PERSONALITY GOES A LONG WAY, IGNORANCE CAN JUST FOOK OFF
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
Somewhere Southwest |
"So a question for you gentlemen out there...
Why meet a lady, get on so well with her, two meets hours long...then "ghost" her and refuse to answer messages BUT keep visiting her profile EVERY day??
Confused
What's that all about??"
Maybe he was he was getting too close to you, starting to fall for you (it's understandable; you seem to have a lot to offer) but he only wants NSA so he,s pulling away from you? |
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"So a question for you gentlemen out there...
Why meet a lady, get on so well with her, two meets hours long...then "ghost" her and refuse to answer messages BUT keep visiting her profile EVERY day??
Confused
What's that all about??"
Look into the single mans mind ! They can become very jealous and start to resent the lady seeing other men, thats where the profile visits spring from ? Looking for new verifications. Dan x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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seen this a few times some women and men are offering more than what some want ...
swinging to some is one meet and move on plenty of women and couples like this too not just men |
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thanks guys n gals, as always really helpful advice to this newbie...
I've posed the question, "why?", one last time to him before, with regret I block 
