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How do you handle rejection,
Like if someone said to you they wasn’t interested how would you react??
Me personally I wouldn’t really care and move on. |
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Yea same really, you can't be loved by everyone lol |
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"Yea same really, you can't be loved by everyone lol"
That’s true |
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"Yea same really, you can't be loved by everyone lol
That’s true "
Indeed it is.... it happens to me alot lol |
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I usually say "No worries, thanks for replying  I hope you have fun on here!" |
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over a year ago
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I wouldn't bother me at all. Everyone is looking for there own thing.
I'd be happy with getting a message. Haha |
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Yep same, doesn’t bother me I just move on. You can’t be everyone’s cup of tea |
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If someone says no thanks to us or me on here, we or I am fine with it. Can't appeal to everyone and everyone dosent appeal to us.
As long as people are not rude, it's all good. |
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"How do you handle rejection,
Like if someone said to you they wasn’t interested how would you react??
Me personally I wouldn’t really care and move on."
Personally I would send a kind response back if I get one saying thanks for replying and good luck |
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"How do you handle rejection,
Like if someone said to you they wasn’t interested how would you react??
Me personally I wouldn’t really care and move on."
Just to put it out there I mean in real life not on fab
My mistake |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you handle rejection,
Like if someone said to you they wasn’t interested how would you react??
Me personally I wouldn’t really care and move on."
A guy in lingerie is not for most women I have found so rejection is pretty common for me, but at the end of the day it's just peoples preferences and you can't begrudge someones personal choice. The words used to decline someone are just as important as the words used if you feel the need to reply to that. Respect works both ways... |
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Sulk, look at their pics one last time, delete, block and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not very well  |
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If you could possibly learn anything from being on fab after a couple of years accepted rejection has to be the biggest lesson water off a duck back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's happened so often it dosnt really bother me anymore
It's not a dating site it's a swinging site |
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I believe that when you are impervious to rejection, you are truly free.
I'm not there yet but I'm always heartened by people who have the courtesy to let you know rather than ghost or ignore.
I've told people to fuck off in the past but they have mostly always deserved it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I honestly don't care if someone rejects me. There's always plenty more fish in the sea x  |
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"How do you handle rejection,
Like if someone said to you they wasn’t interested how would you react??
Me personally I wouldn’t really care and move on."
Sadly we are all too used to it. There is no choice but to keep trying to find someone serious about meeting. |
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"How do you handle rejection,
Like if someone said to you they wasn’t interested how would you react??
Me personally I wouldn’t really care and move on.
Sadly we are all too used to it. There is no choice but to keep trying to find someone serious about meeting."
I was more on about real life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ah well….I get a lot of practice in  |
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Wish them well and crack on...
It ain't the end of the world |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why should anyone be surprised?
If we offer then we should expect rejection - and be delighted when accepted — that’s the buzz |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
Learn from the experience and respect the decision.  |
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Move on to the next. We can't and shouldn't expect to be everyone's cup of tea x |
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"How do you handle rejection,
Like if someone said to you they wasn’t interested how would you react??
Me personally I wouldn’t really care and move on.
Sadly we are all too used to it. There is no choice but to keep trying to find someone serious about meeting.
I was more on about real life "
In that case, just like you, we wouldn't really care and would move on. |
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"How do you handle rejection,
Like if someone said to you they wasn’t interested how would you react??
Me personally I wouldn’t really care and move on."
Obviously the only right answer to this one is to send abusive messages until they block you and when they do, you must put up a rude status about the person or the specific group of people ie female or couples or males etc etc |
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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago
Based in Kerry, work in Cork. |
"How do you handle rejection,
Like if someone said to you they wasn’t interested how would you react??
Me personally I wouldn’t really care and move on."
I take it personally initially - a natural reaction of the ego. But I try to be mindful of the feelings and not get attached to them.
I try to listen to the narrative/story I tell myself around it and question where that internalised perception came from. Again, being mindful, I try to let the feelings dissipate. |
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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago
Based in Kerry, work in Cork. |
"Obviously the only right answer to this one is to send abusive messages until they block you and when they do, you must put up a rude status about the person or the specific group of people ie female or couples or males etc etc"
More often this though
(not really! Just in case people might subconsciously believe it  ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you handle rejection,
Like if someone said to you they wasn’t interested how would you react??
Me personally I wouldn’t really care and move on."
With a kind heart |
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By *ikAshCouple
over a year ago
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I think in real life, no one likes rejection, but you dust yourself off and carry on. It works both ways… sometimes you’ll reject someone and other times you’ll be the one being rejected. We’re not for everyone x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmmmm…tricky one to answer.
Early days, more emotionally invested = amazing highs / meets but bigger lows if not reciprocated / rejection.
Nowadays, way more complacent so whilst rejection doesn’t phase me, the highs are not as intense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not a problem to me. You cant be everybodys cup of tea. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If someone rejects me straight away after receiving just one message from me and reading my profile then I’m fine with that because it means they just don’t really like the look of me but it’s a lot harder to take if someone rejects me after we’ve been chatting for a bit and started to get to know each other as that means they liked me initially but have lost interest after getting to know more about me, it’s even harder to take when someone loses interest after meeting for the first time.
I never get angry at the person who’s rejected me though, I always blame myself for not being good enough to keep someone interested in me and evaluate what I did wrong. I’m a people pleaser and I want to be liked by everyone, I absolutely hate it when I get the feeling from someone that they don’t like me and I will try especially hard to make them like me. |
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The people who deal with rejection the worst seem to need acceptance the most. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The people who deal with rejection the worst seem to need acceptance the most. "
Well, not being able to deal with rejection and the need for acceptance are both consequences of low self confidence and a lack of self esteem so it’s understandable that they are traits that go hand in hand. |
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Send a message… then another… then another and definitely another till they are deleted then another till your blocked. 
Obviously im joking but thats how it sounds like a few guys from here handle it |
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Wouldn't give a shit!! Not always gonna be everyone's cuppa tea! Why worry?x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There’s plenty on here for everyone, just move past it x |
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By *MNJCouple
over a year ago
Nuneaton |
It doesn't really bother us as above nobody is universally liked.
Personally I think rejecting someone is easier than being rejected, if they're not what we're looking for it's simple but when they are but there's no attraction there, I put way more thought into it than being rejected ourselves.
The only time it's bothered us is when we met a couple, got on really well conversation flowed well and we had a laugh, played with them, we weren't a definite we'd meet them again but we liked them then they ghosted us the next day. I don't think it was the rejection that bothered us more that we felt we had obviously judged the situation so differently to them and how could we be so far off, then they randomly message every now and again so maybe it's just their MO. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like water off a ducks a back |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's never bothered us, it's part and parcel of the site.
You can't be everybody's cup of tea. |
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By *enninemarkMan
over a year ago
huddersfield/manchester |
With plenty of experience and good nature! |
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I have been told often enough in the past that I'm not what someone is looking and I was always polite in my response.
These days I don't send messages at all so any conversation I've had since the beginning of 2020 has been initiated by others and something in my profile or forum engagement has drawn them in and that's usually a good foundation for starting conversations.
Obviously anyone getting in touch who hasn't read my profile won't be chatting long. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Politely and with no hard feelings... and then squirrel it away in my brain to haunt me forever  |
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By *oobaaMan
over a year ago
South Shields |
If its done respectfully then Iam fine with it and move on.
I sent a guy on here a message asking if he ever fancied meeting then we should try to sort it out, and he responded with a snidey comment about my body and my height. He then sent another message saying I was to old for him despite me being in his age range.
So, a few weeks later I was in a sauna and who should roll up?..yes it was the same guy.
All of a sudden he wanted to know me and he actually made a move on me.
When I told he I wasnt interested and then told him about the messages he`d sent me , he went off in a mighty strop .Then next hour or so I saw him stomping about the place shaking his head and talking to himself in a right mood haha.
He`s still on here |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I think it would depend on my mood at the time. I've been rejected once and I was a bit upset about it but had a whinge to friends and moved on. I think because I'm not used to it and rather privileged in that sense it might hit me harder but I'd probably just wallow at friends, rather than the direction of the rejector. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you handle rejection,
Like if someone said to you they wasn’t interested how would you react??
Me personally I wouldn’t really care and move on."
It must bother you to some degree, or you wouldn't have made a thread on the sibject.
It is a good question though.
Nobody likes the thought they aren't liked, or wanted. But, that is life. We're all different, with different tastes and preferences.
The people who do accept you are the right people to be with, you juat have to search through other people who aren't for you or you for them, first.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not for everyone, same with me, not everyone my type, so just be polite, thank them for replying and being honest |
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"If you could possibly learn anything from being on fab after a couple of years accepted rejection has to be the biggest lesson water off a duck back."
. True |
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I am used to it now but still puts me off a bit   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you handle rejection,
Like if someone said to you they wasn’t interested how would you react??
Me personally I wouldn’t really care and move on."
Same.
But is it easier for women to have that mindset than men on a site like this!
More choice for females.....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You get use to it, been on here ages and I get rejected all the time lol. Water, ducks back..
I also say to myself oww she missed out there |
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I go into my bedroom. Turn the lights off. Play "Sounds of Silence" and sit rocking.
"Hello darkness, my old friend,
I've come to talk to you again..."
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"It's happened so often it dosnt really bother me anymore
It's not a dating site it's a swinging site "
Nobody mentioned it was a dating site |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Burn them in effigy, take down my stalker wall, go watch tele |
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Being rejected no problem, as most have said you can't be everyones cuppa.
Rejecting others is harder, especially at clubs. Everyone is lovely we have spoken to it just makes us feel bad. |
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"Being rejected no problem, as most have said you can't be everyones cuppa.
Rejecting others is harder, especially at clubs. Everyone is lovely we have spoken to it just makes us feel bad."
Same, it’s very hard to say no to someone when they’ve been really nice.
We’ve handled being knocked back on here ok, from the start we knew we wouldn’t click with everyone. |
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When rejection happens on here I just reply with "No worries, happy fabbing" no point in getting worked up from it I'm not for everyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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reply “okay no worries” then delete the chat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you handle rejection,
Like if someone said to you they wasn’t interested how would you react??
Me personally I wouldn’t really care and move on."
Shrug it off, onto the next |
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Natural reaction is to wonder why, especially if we'd been getting on well up to that point.
But ultimately, just realise that not everyone is a good match, and wish them well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Funny enough some of the guys we initially said no to (not the right time, we only meet once a month at most and had commitments in place etc) handled the rejection with manners and grace. This lead to a connection starting and further down the line we did end up meeting.
You can learn a lot about how people respond to a no.
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Just get used to it… pour another Strongbow and move along. |
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Simple. When we are rejected we simple move on with no feelings of rejection. We do put a note on the profile so we don't bother them again. |
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By *IG G77Man
over a year ago
GATLEY |
Rejection is part of life not everyone is gonna like you I'm used to it just move on and keep making the good stuff happen |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you could possibly learn anything from being on fab after a couple of years accepted rejection has to be the biggest lesson water off a duck back."
Also calling bullshit. Who the hell is rejecting spending time with you guys. X |
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I sit in a darkened room and weep silently.
On the bright side I never have to buy light bulbs and my electricity bill is tiny. |
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I've got so used to it now it doesn't bother me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I learned shortly after joining the site five years ago that being a single guy of a certain age it was always going to be an uphill struggle. I don’t worry now and cherish any meets I do get. |
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By *andy2123Couple
over a year ago
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I just think, there loss, it is a swinging site after all, want to fuck them not marry them lol. |
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"How do you handle rejection,
Like if someone said to you they wasn’t interested how would you react??
Me personally I wouldn’t really care and move on."
Block, and move on, simples |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just be polite and move on , manners cost nothing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Call them an overweight lesbian, isn't that how it's done? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fair play, move on.
The more someone is into me the more I'm into them. If it's a non starter no point putting petrol in the tank innit?! |
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By *omer47Man
over a year ago
leigh |
Being rejected by so many on every occasion I've come to just accept it now. I've heard all excuses and it does get to you. |
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Absolutely no problem if I get a polite no thanks or sorry not what we are looking for.. what grates me if straight delete of messages with out a polite reply
I know people will say they don’t owe you that .. but she feel gutted |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm fine with it, totally.
Would rather a straight rejection than they going through with something that don't want to do. |
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Send hate mail ASAP.
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Joking
You have to know you are not for everybody and keep it moving. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get it a lot, and it doesn't bother me. I send a simple "thanks for the reply" , and move on. Agro never got anyone anywhere, and we all have our preferences. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We all have preferences. Not everyone has great taste in men so  |
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We tend to have a hissy fit and sulk for ages.
We also send the bastards a message claiming that it's their loss.
Not really,we just move on in our search for more victims!
M and M |
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By *MCMan
over a year ago
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Not that I want to be the bad guy on the thread.. however everyone is commenting saying it doesn’t bother them, yet there are so many abusive messages sent when rejection is handed out..
I wonder how truthful everyone is being, hopefully everyone is being honest. |
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"Not that I want to be the bad guy on the thread.. however everyone is commenting saying it doesn’t bother them, yet there are so many abusive messages sent when rejection is handed out..
I wonder how truthful everyone is being, hopefully everyone is being honest. "
The vast, massive majority of Fab users never even look at the forum. It's perfectly possible that everyone in this thread is being honest while women still get deluged with abusive messages from non-forumites. |
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I can’t handle any sort of rejection in real life , I protect myself by only “asking” for stuff where the success is a foregone conclusion, whether it’s a job, asking for directions or asking a guy out .
On here ? With strangers ? It bothers me for all of 2 seconds literally. Whether I get a clear no thank you or a barely luke warm response to an introductory message, I swiftly move on and get on with further perving  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We all have different likes/dislikes, so I suck it up and move on |
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It's a case of oh well lol. we all get rejected at some point and reject others, if nobody said no we'd all be very busy lol |
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By *lan157Man
over a year ago
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"How do you handle rejection,
Like if someone said to you they wasn’t interested how would you react??
Me personally I wouldn’t really care and move on.
Just to put it out there I mean in real life not on fab
My mistake "
In real life I think my reaction would be mostly in my head and would depend on how much emotion I had invested in that person assuming I had realistic expectations . Playmates are a different proposition as everyone will have another life and conduct their swinging in a way that suits them and that's ok.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s fine, we can’t be for everyone can we. I don’t take offence. |
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"Not that I want to be the bad guy on the thread.. however everyone is commenting saying it doesn’t bother them, yet there are so many abusive messages sent when rejection is handed out..
I wonder how truthful everyone is being, hopefully everyone is being honest. "
I bet 90% of those are from men who have been rejected |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I smile, say thanks for letting me know, wave and get on with my good life  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it's not a mutual attraction what's the point of feeling rejection when you don't even know them |
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"If it's not a mutual attraction what's the point of feeling rejection when you don't even know them "
Exactly...far too many people get worked up about what strangers say on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you handle rejection,
Like if someone said to you they wasn’t interested how would you react??
Me personally I wouldn’t really care and move on."
I feel like we missed a trick here when everyone started replying...
But on here, I definitely don't take it personally. My ego would be utterly crushed if I let rejections bother me on here! |
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By *lofeldMan
over a year ago
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"If it's not a mutual attraction what's the point of feeling rejection when you don't even know them
Exactly...far too many people get worked up about what strangers say on here."
Totally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I honestly can say it doesn’t bother me. I don’t give it a second thought most of the time.
There’s no point dwelling on another’s opinion of you. Everyone has different wants and needs and they’re entitled to that. Just as I wouldn’t want someone to take it as anything deeper when I reject them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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rejection part n parcel of life ... those that cant handle it need to sort themselves out |
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If you can’t handle rejection it’s time to leave sites like this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you handle rejection,
Like if someone said to you they wasn’t interested how would you react??
Me personally I wouldn’t really care and move on."
With a polite acknowledgement and a wish them well |
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Depends who’s doing the rejecting, so someone on here, it’s a shame but plenty more fish in the sea. A good friend, that would hurt a lot more. A family member and I’m going to really struggle especially if they’re part of your immediate family.
So rejection may be a part of life, but not all rejections can be treated similarly in my opinion. |
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I don't mind rejections. It's better than being ignored which is what almost always happens, although of course I understand why. |
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Accept it graciously, as no is no and wish them fun and fulfillment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I even get a response in the form of rejection I just thank them for taking the time to let me know, wish them luck and good health.
I have received some nasty responses when I’ve told someone no Thankyou, it doesn’t take a lot to be polite |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is so lovely when someone doesn’t take it personally, realises it’s ok and understands it almost always has nothing to do with you but what’s going on for them. Getting a polite response to a rejection makes me happy to stay acquainted too. I’ve often found myself chatting to guys I’ve said no to that have responded well and accepted it. Can even end up exchanging ideas and having a laugh. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Crack open and drink a bottle of vodka and devour a family sized pack of cheesy puffs. Interrupted by bouts of uncontrollable sobbing until I pass out. Waking briefly in the middle of the night to barf into my shoe |
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"How do you handle rejection,
Like if someone said to you they wasn’t interested how would you react??
Me personally I wouldn’t really care and move on."
no problem, we can't all be somebodys' cup of tea.
as long as the no thank you is polite, its fine.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly handling rejection is easy, it's all I'm used to these days, I expect it, now I'm not sure how I'd react to anything else except like the cat who got the cream of course |
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I remember the good things I have. |
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Not a problem, it’s all that happens, if I got a accept would probably faint ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Doesn't bother me....just the way it is sometimes.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not a problem, it’s all that happens, if I got a accept would probably faint ??"
haha,,, me too |
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It’s not a dating site is it? Rejection in love is something, this is just lust and play I guess it depends on ego and what you are looking for.
I know I’m like marmite especially being married, into kink and BDSM so if I tickle someone’s fancy great if not fine and move along. |
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By *htcMan
over a year ago
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move on and then hire a hooker |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not that I want to be the bad guy on the thread.. however everyone is commenting saying it doesn’t bother them, yet there are so many abusive messages sent when rejection is handed out..
I wonder how truthful everyone is being, hopefully everyone is being honest. "
Think you’ve kinda answered your own question….. |
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Simple really, move on. No use sulking when there's so much fish in the sea |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you handle rejection,
Like if someone said to you they wasn’t interested how would you react??
Me personally I wouldn’t really care and move on."
Depends when the rejection happens really on how it effects, that’s what I’d presume x |
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By *dquestCouple
over a year ago
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Move on. Life's too short to pout |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How about those that reject themselves by sending you an abusive first message? |
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By *al kalMan
over a year ago
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Well preference is preference... and it always got to be attraction over action.
It works both ways.
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If we get a "not for us" reply then it's a quick message back saying no problem, note added to the profile then blocked. Being polite doesn't hurt. |
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I hate rejection, can`t handle it. I usually punch the fuck out of my teddy bear, kick the coffee table over and throw the bottle of tequila at the lipstick smeared mirror.
Then I move on. |
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"How about those that reject themselves by sending you an abusive first message? "
They were my best lines.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its part of being on here. I just move on and accept that I am not what they are looking for, definitely not worth getting upset about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I keep calm and carry on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Respect that and move on |
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I get rejected a lot in one form or another. Sometimes I’m disappointed but just move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you handle rejection,
Like if someone said to you they wasn’t interested how would you react??
Me personally I wouldn’t really care and move on."
I think that this site gives me a lot of practice at getting used to it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends...on here, rejection is mostly an unread/deleted/ignored message so it's easy to move on. When dating "in the real world" some rejections can be brutal in how they are worded, or how the person chooses to act after you expressed your interest. Those...have been and still are difficult to process for me. |
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Manners should prevail always whether here or out and about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perpetual rejection over a number of years can be very debilitating. Just sayin'. |
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By *j321Man
over a year ago
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Each yo there own some people are not for everyone just move on |
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I’ve given up trying with women, after all they don’t someone like me!
Don’t try don’t get rejection simple |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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My ego and need is not big enough to care. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Better getting bad news than a load of lies |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What's to handle? I don't get it! You fancy someone, they don't fancy you... Why is this seen as a problem? |
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"What's to handle? I don't get it! You fancy someone, they don't fancy you... Why is this seen as a problem? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always go back to the saying 'no point crying over spilt milk'
On too the next 1 |
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I would rather they said than just to read message and not reply |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would rather they said than just to read message and not reply"
Why? |
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By *umblefunMan
over a year ago
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I think I take it badly! Then man-up and get on with it. |
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"If someone says no thanks to us or me on here, we or I am fine with it. Can't appeal to everyone and everyone dosent appeal to us.
As long as people are not rude, it's all good."
This really. I often message people I find hot. Sometimes they’re not interested. It’s no big deal. |
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With a smile and a kind word. It's a big world out there! Always more fish! I think not becoming too excited before you get a reply usually helps as well! |
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I guess you need to get used to it. I'm not "classically attractive" but i have character and was an elite athlete back in the day. I've dated a range of girls - from a Vogue cover girl to those that would not be described as 'beautiful' by current standards - but they've all been beautiful to me as we've connected on a number of levels. Bottom line though is that if you put it out there then you WILL be rejected. If you view looks as that important then it'll always hurt. If you accept that Fabs (like Tinder) judges you 90% on looks then just move on, as those that reject you probably aren't seeing the 'real' you - that requires time spent together - conversation, laughs, sharing ideas. Sadly not possible via a site like this. I suspect rejection rates are much lower in clubs, because people meet people, not just look at profiles. So best foor forward everyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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With class.......in theory |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Move on, simples. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get rejected 9 times out of 10.
Politely message back say thanks for letting me know and move on.
Then cry hahaha |
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"I would rather they said than just to read message and not reply
Why? "
So I know they are not interested and can move on rather than thinking they may reply |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not going to be everyones cup of tea and I'm alright with that. No need for a message back, delete and move on |
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"Crack open and drink a bottle of vodka and devour a family sized pack of cheesy puffs. Interrupted by bouts of uncontrollable sobbing until I pass out. Waking briefly in the middle of the night to barf into my shoe"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you handle rejection,
Like if someone said to you they wasn’t interested how would you react??
Me personally I wouldn’t really care and move on."
I understand that it takes two to tango |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Pinch of salt. The sooner you say laters the easier it will be. Many application how many interviews lol |
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
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There's plenty more fish in the sea . Hang the pole out wait for another one to show interest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No problem with someone I’m not invested in. Ie a stranger or someone you have just met.
I would struggle being rejected by a long term partner etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate rejection, can`t handle it. I usually punch the fuck out of my teddy bear, kick the coffee table over and throw the bottle of tequila at the lipstick smeared mirror.
Then I move on."
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We really don't care as we appreciate not everyone can find everyone attractive.
We say thank you for their honesty,wish them well and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would rather they said than just to read message and not reply
Why?
So I know they are not interested and can move on rather than thinking they may reply"
Delete your sent messages n don't dwell on it... But tbh.. No reply is 99.9% of the time will mean they aren't interested... Tying yourself up in knots about the possibility for the rest is not worth it... We can't all reply just so you know for definite, it's takes far too much time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only happened once so far and it was done in a lovely way x |
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"How do you handle rejection,
Like if someone said to you they wasn’t interested how would you react??
Me personally I wouldn’t really care and move on."
I think it's probably a little easier for women here, given that for every one message that they don't get a reply to or get a rejection, they get a 100 others, reinforcing how desired by others they are. Whereas for men that send out lots of messages (and I do't actually count myself among them), most - sometimes all - of which are rejected, then at some level that has to resonate.
Personally, I don't send messages unless the person has winked or messaged first. On the odd occasion I've messaged a repeat visitor to my profile - if indeed I think there's potential. This way, in the present context, I'm much more in control of the whole 'rejection' aspect of fab.
I'm on old hand here however - having been here on and off for many many years. I know how it all works. handling all the rejection was something I found difficult when I first arrived all those years back.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We really don't care as we appreciate not everyone can find everyone attractive.
We say thank you for their honesty,wish them well and move on."
Exactly this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How do I handle rejection?
Like an adult hopefully. I quick "Thank you" and move on. |
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Maybe I am just too stupid to realise I have been rejected lol. But if I was blatantly rejected I'd be okay with it...its not like anyone knows who I am....they just dont like my body or what I am into lol |
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Sulk.. look at all the photos, send abusive message, stalk and troll……..) well that the norm isn’t it?
Actually that’s not my style |
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I've never been rejected in real life because I always make sure the signs are there before I make any moves, I guess I fear making a twat of myself haha. But on here it happens a lot and it's no big deal |
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It never feels great but its part of life. |
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