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I have been on and off FAB pretty much since the beginning 
Have seen many a forum thread asking what they should do to get a meet, how should they improve their pics, their profile or their approach and will not deny I may have posted a few similar threads over the years lol
So are you ready for the secrets?????
THERE ARE NONE 
Have fun all you sexy naughty people, when its happens it happens  |
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True story!
Doing what you can to get thins right matters 1%.
Keeping your own standards high 20%.
Getting to know people at organised socials and clubs 20%.
Sheer luck 59%.
......but absolutely no secrets! |
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I was ghosted last week. Talking for weeks. Everything planned. Little cottage booked. Then on the day I'm told she has to self isolate. I understood, these things happen etc etc etc......
Now she's vanished.
Actually mental how some folks heads work.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just be yourself, open, honest and respectful. Go to clubs, socials and get chatting to people face to face and network. You never know if you are a genuine the person you talk to may not be interested but know others who are. Also post on the forums alot of people read these but are not so active but may like how you come across that's what happened to me anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Learn to apply makeup.
Get a decent wig and some killer heels.
Worked for me x"
There's not enough money an makeup in the world to make me look good I got face like a old potato |
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"I was ghosted last week. Talking for weeks. Everything planned. Little cottage booked. Then on the day I'm told she has to self isolate. I understood, these things happen etc etc etc......
Now she's vanished.
Actually mental how some folks heads work...."
That’s awful. |
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Don’t just rely on the site, swinging lifestyle is more than just the internet. Prior to the web we had to go out and make a community not sit in our front room moaning about it. So when I first went out to meet other TV’s it was pre internet days, dress and go to a room over a pub in the Village.
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"Put a bit of effort in. Sick of men moaning when their profiles are cr@p"
This really. I’ve literally lost count of the number of messages I’ve been sent by guys who only have cock pics on their profile - taken from every conceivable angle! Look at their text and 90% of it is explaining that fab is a publicly traded entity - or similar total bollocks!!! Either that or they have a whiney status complaining that there are loads of fakes or no-one responds to their messages.
Frankly I’m amazed most of them aren’t still virgins!!
I’ve got a vagina - which means I can get innumerable fucks with zero effort - and yet I’ve spent countless hours over the years honing my profile text and posting pictures which I believe are an accurate reflection of me.
On the very rare occasion I’m messaged by a guy who put in similar effort - even if I don’t fancy him sexually I’ll generally respond and compliment his profile. Xx |
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"I have been on and off FAB pretty much since the beginning
Have seen many a forum thread asking what they should do to get a meet, how should they improve their pics, their profile or their approach and will not deny I may have posted a few similar threads over the years lol
So are you ready for the secrets?????
THERE ARE NONE
Have fun all you sexy naughty people, when its happens it happens "
We disagree, there are three secrets to success...
!. Go to organised socials
2. Go to organised socials
3. Go...seriously, havent you got it yet lol? |
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"I have been on and off FAB pretty much since the beginning
Have seen many a forum thread asking what they should do to get a meet, how should they improve their pics, their profile or their approach and will not deny I may have posted a few similar threads over the years lol
So are you ready for the secrets?????
THERE ARE NONE
Have fun all you sexy naughty people, when its happens it happens
We disagree, there are three secrets to success...
!. Go to organised socials
2. Go to organised socials
3. Go...seriously, havent you got it yet lol?"
That assumes there are any that'll have you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Persevere
Abs when you do have a meet - try to impress and hopefully the playmates will want to play again
Far easier to meet again with people you’ve already met |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have been on and off FAB pretty much since the beginning
Have seen many a forum thread asking what they should do to get a meet, how should they improve their pics, their profile or their approach and will not deny I may have posted a few similar threads over the years lol
So are you ready for the secrets?????
THERE ARE NONE
Have fun all you sexy naughty people, when its happens it happens "
A common room full to the rafters!!
Yet empty!!
If it happens it happens...
Never leave things in other's hands, coz they will make sure it don't happen.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Meets are an absolute lottery....no secret solution, no method will secure a meet.
Open, honest and getting involved in social events will improve chances.
That’s my 2 pence worth folks  "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was ghosted last week. Talking for weeks. Everything planned. Little cottage booked. Then on the day I'm told she has to self isolate. I understood, these things happen etc etc etc......
Now she's vanished.
Actually mental how some folks heads work...."
Do not ever look back. See the red flags early. Have a chat on the phone if they do not.
Treat them like they treat you.
Trust me there is more than ghosting going in their heads & hearts.
They are dark Triads!!
Leave them well alone.
Time is very precious and valueable and will never ever come back that is wasted.
Look at all actions! Not feeble words!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Learn to apply makeup.
Get a decent wig and some killer heels.
Worked for me x
There's not enough money an makeup in the world to make me look good I got face like a old potato"
Chin up son!! |
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"I was ghosted last week. Talking for weeks. Everything planned. Little cottage booked. Then on the day I'm told she has to self isolate. I understood, these things happen etc etc etc......
Now she's vanished.
Actually mental how some folks heads work....
That’s awful. "
Bang out of order.. tbh
And the fella booked a cottage aswell.
Socks it does. |
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"Put some effort in"
To be fair that rarely makes any difference when messaging, although it absolutely does at a club or social. I've seen so many of us guys telling others to do exactly that as it absolutely DOES make a difference, but it appears to get ignored by and large.
As a very average guy I've had almost all of my successes from it, though very little off Fab itself directly. Responses of any kind to messages sent are overwhelmingly nil, except on rare occasions, so rather than waste my time I get my arse out there as and when possible and funnily enough once women get to know you you'll be invited to go places where you'll get to see them and by association meet others. It's a no-brainer! |
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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago
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Be yourself, I’m not for everyone and everyone is not for me.
I’m in no rush to meet anyone and am happy to connect on here first.
More times than not things will happen when you are not looking. |
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"Current photos
Be yourself
Don't lie
Be polite
String together a sentence or two"
None of this works either sadly. It'll either not be read, be lost in the sea of rude one-liners, or even lost in the numbers game. Even if it is seen and read the chances of a response are probably one in around five hundred. Going to organised events and being classy pays dividends and that's about it. I've been told I'm very different to the vast majority of men on Fab once women have met me, (not that I'm anything special by any means) but on Fab itself there's almost zero chance of any kind of interaction to get to that point.
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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago
Chinese Takeaway near you |
I'm no expect but can only say what's worked for me 
1. Be cool/ don't come across as desperate 
2. Just chat like in real life, most want someone who can hold a conversation 
3. You are 1 of many haha be patient like the wolf. Folks don't like some1 pushy.
Happy fabbing |
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"I'm no expect but can only say what's worked for me
1. Be cool/ don't come across as desperate
2. Just chat like in real life, most want someone who can hold a conversation
3. You are 1 of many haha be patient like the wolf. Folks don't like some1 pushy.
Happy fabbing "
Thats another good shout! |
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I personally believe there are a few key things men can do to ‘be seen’ on here, which may help towards a meet.
Up until recently I had over 800 unread messages on here, and 99% of them are a blank pfp or of their dick, the message title said ‘hi’ and the message asks ‘how are you?’. And that’s all!
If you even want your message seen, put effort at least into you pfp, your message title, and the first line of your message, for starters. Those are the messages I am going to look at, that stand out as different.
Then, the rest is down to being able to string a sentence together, have an interesting profile, and as harsh as it sounds, being deemed attractive.
A compliment also helps! |
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What does a man with a disability do? As in, not a disability that is wheelchair related, but a disability that has changed their body compared to others?
Shall they just go and hide in a corner because everyone else is perfect or is after someone who is perfect? |
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"I have been on and off FAB pretty much since the beginning
Have seen many a forum thread asking what they should do to get a meet, how should they improve their pics, their profile or their approach and will not deny I may have posted a few similar threads over the years lol
So are you ready for the secrets?????
THERE ARE NONE
Have fun all you sexy naughty people, when its happens it happens
We disagree, there are three secrets to success...
!. Go to organised socials
2. Go to organised socials
3. Go...seriously, havent you got it yet lol?
That assumes there are any that'll have you."
Ok.
So organise one yourself.
Find a venue, don't publish it openly but tell people roughly where it is ( what town or city its in ). Start a thread advertising it, pick a date (a Saturday night tends to be best) and give yourself plenty of time for word to spread, say 2 months. Keep bumping the thread, and keep a list of the names that are interested. Bare in mind there will be no-shows. A week before the date, message the list and give them the location, and ask them to confirm they are attending. Turn up with the list, tick them off as they come in, and enjoy the night. |
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Clubs, socials and holidays.
Lead to private meets and parties.
Leads to more parties, private meets and special meets like gangbangs and private videos etc.
Lots of time and effort, like everything else in life, very few shortcuts.
Enjoy the ride, we have and still do. |
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A massive part of getting a meet on here involves 3 things which far too few men are prepared to actually do…
1. Reading a user’s profile
2. Sending a nice, polite and respectful message
3. NOT sending an immediate dick pic
Although this doesn’t appear to be rocket science, an awful lot can’t seem to manage it… which means those of us that do can actually stand out a bit more…. So please ignore my advice |
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"A massive part of getting a meet on here involves 3 things which far too few men are prepared to actually do…
1. Reading a user’s profile
2. Sending a nice, polite and respectful message
3. NOT sending an immediate dick pic
Although this doesn’t appear to be rocket science, an awful lot can’t seem to manage it… which means those of us that do can actually stand out a bit more…. So please ignore my advice "
Agree with your comments.
But, but, but...even if you tip up at a social, attend a club if you are socially inept or just a plain, everyday fuckwit, you're doomed.
We've seen guys at socials, clubs and even Cap D'Agde just sit alone, time after time propping up the bar, making no effort whatsoever.
Even if you are the most shy man on the planet a quick smile and a hello isn't too much to ask, maybe even offer your bar stool to the lady.
Even witnessed a guy coming back from the toilet to the bar and telling a young lady he was sitting on the stool she now had her scantily attired bum on.
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Try not to be all things to all people. Try not to tell people what YOU think they want to hear. Be honest in what you want. You will get less meets than you think you should get. But you'll get more meets than most people get. Plus they will be better. |
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By *oungJayyMan
over a year ago
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"I have been on and off FAB pretty much since the beginning
Have seen many a forum thread asking what they should do to get a meet, how should they improve their pics, their profile or their approach and will not deny I may have posted a few similar threads over the years lol
So are you ready for the secrets?????
THERE ARE NONE
Have fun all you sexy naughty people, when its happens it happens "
For a moment, I had faith haha  |
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"Put a bit of effort in. Sick of men moaning when their profiles are cr@p
This really. I’ve literally lost count of the number of messages I’ve been sent by guys who only have cock pics on their profile - taken from every conceivable angle! Look at their text and 90% of it is explaining that fab is a publicly traded entity - or similar total bollocks!!! Either that or they have a whiney status complaining that there are loads of fakes or no-one responds to their messages.
Frankly I’m amazed most of them aren’t still virgins!!
I’ve got a vagina - which means I can get innumerable fucks with zero effort - and yet I’ve spent countless hours over the years honing my profile text and posting pictures which I believe are an accurate reflection of me.
On the very rare occasion I’m messaged by a guy who put in similar effort - even if I don’t fancy him sexually I’ll generally respond and compliment his profile. Xx"
Hear, Hear. Very well said. |
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"Put a bit of effort in. Sick of men moaning when their profiles are cr@p
This really. I’ve literally lost count of the number of messages I’ve been sent by guys who only have cock pics on their profile - taken from every conceivable angle! Look at their text and 90% of it is explaining that fab is a publicly traded entity - or similar total bollocks!!! Either that or they have a whiney status complaining that there are loads of fakes or no-one responds to their messages.
Frankly I’m amazed most of them aren’t still virgins!!
I’ve got a vagina - which means I can get innumerable fucks with zero effort - and yet I’ve spent countless hours over the years honing my profile text and posting pictures which I believe are an accurate reflection of me.
On the very rare occasion I’m messaged by a guy who put in similar effort - even if I don’t fancy him sexually I’ll generally respond and compliment his profile. Xx"
Are we not over thinking the whole fab thing?
It’s a recreational sex site populated in the main by “single” men of varying degrees of articulacy. No matter what a profile says it’s all down attraction in the end. Spending years perfecting a profile on sex site seems to a little OTT?
Boobies and vaginas are king.......or queen on fab! Us men just need to realise that and stop fussing! |
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"Try not to be all things to all people. Try not to tell people what YOU think they want to hear. Be honest in what you want. You will get less meets than you think you should get. But you'll get more meets than most people get. Plus they will be better."
Quality over quantity every time. |
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"Try not to be all things to all people. Try not to tell people what YOU think they want to hear. Be honest in what you want. You will get less meets than you think you should get. But you'll get more meets than most people get. Plus they will be better.
Quality over quantity every time."
Of course quality is preferred every time! |
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