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By *uknow16 OP   Couple 1 week ago

Lack of dominant guys on fab?

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By *ovetoplay234Couple 1 week ago

Yorkshire

I'm struggling too, lots of men who claim they are dominant but don't actually understand the meaning of it. Will follow this post to see if the true guys come put to play

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By *resentsinmyDrawersWoman 1 week ago

Santa's Workshop

Not many, no. Quite a few fakes too. To be fair, it's not the site for them really

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By *ucka39Man 1 week ago

Newcastle

I can be with the right person connection counts for chemistry to unleash the dominant player

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By *resentsinmyDrawersWoman 1 week ago

Santa's Workshop


"I can be with the right person connection counts for chemistry to unleash the dominant player"

Connection is absolutely key!

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By *oody BMan 1 week ago

Arconia


"Lack of dominant guys on fab?"

I don’t know? What do you think?

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By *ucka39Man 1 week ago

Newcastle


"I can be with the right person connection counts for chemistry to unleash the dominant player

Connection is absolutely key! "

Definitely,without its never going to unlock any dominant side.whether female or male

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By *resentsinmyDrawersWoman 1 week ago

Santa's Workshop


"I can be with the right person connection counts for chemistry to unleash the dominant player

Connection is absolutely key!

Definitely,without its never going to unlock any dominant side.whether female or male"

Same for my submissive side. But you've been here longer than I have- my impression is that a lot of men use the word Dominant without understanding it.

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By *igPoppa1981Man 1 week ago

Barry

Don’t think this is the right site, plus better to meet in a club or through mutual friends

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By *igNick1381Man 1 week ago

BRIDGEND


"Don’t think this is the right site, plus better to meet in a club or through mutual friends"

I don't know, I've met a couple of girl's here who were curious about BDSM and being dommed

I tend to lean towards impact play but can do obedience training etc too. Normally the girl's will have something they wanna try, we'll talk about what they want, go over safe words and limits (soft and hard) and after playing / between meets we can go over what's happened, what they liked, what they didn't, what they might wanna try etc

The biggest thing is just open communication

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By *izzibeth9Couple 1 week ago

Loughborough


"Lack of dominant guys on fab?"

Dominant isn't the same as Dom(me) necessarily. Sure the two are often intertwined, but there are plenty of alpha male types who aren't Doms (in a bdsm sense), and plenty of Doms who aren't alpha males.

That said, there's no shortage of guys on Fab who'll claim to be one or both where really they're just pushy and obnoxious. Fab isn't really the best place to find a 'proper' bdsm play partner (whatever proper really means - bdsm is like any other kink - entirely personal to the people involved).

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By *omme_HDWoman 1 week ago

Wakefield


"Don’t think this is the right site, plus better to meet in a club or through mutual friends"

You can find kinksters on this site if you look.

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By *icentiousCouple 1 week ago

Up on them there hills

Suspect unicorns are prolific compared to Assertive men.

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By *inky-MinxWoman 1 week ago

Grantham


"there's no shortage of guys on Fab who'll claim to be one or both where really they're just pushy and obnoxious."

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By *resentsinmyDrawersWoman 1 week ago

Santa's Workshop


"Don’t think this is the right site, plus better to meet in a club or through mutual friends

You can find kinksters on this site if you look. "

Yes this is true, but dominant men who truly understand what dominance is? They're well hidden!

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By *heshirechatCouple 1 week ago

Poynton

Totally agree. Lots claim to be then end up asking if they can serve me lol xx

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By *emorefridaCouple 1 week ago

La la land

I must be weird as, because I seem to find them or they find me. There's fair amount on here and we chat about dynamics etc, been nice to find people with similar interests on here.

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By *ucka39Man 1 week ago

Newcastle


"I can be with the right person connection counts for chemistry to unleash the dominant player

Connection is absolutely key!

Definitely,without its never going to unlock any dominant side.whether female or male

Same for my submissive side. But you've been here longer than I have- my impression is that a lot of men use the word Dominant without understanding it."

I understand you but me being here longer or shorter period of time didn't create my dominant side I've always been this way long before joining the site it boils down to the chemistry.to ignite the spark to unleash the dominant for me....

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By *aughty but nice...Man 1 week ago

Cannock

Waving here from hednesford

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By *resentsinmyDrawersWoman 1 week ago

Santa's Workshop


"I must be weird as, because I seem to find them or they find me. There's fair amount on here and we chat about dynamics etc, been nice to find people with similar interests on here. "

I've chatted to several. But maybe it just takes more time? I've only been on for 4 months. I had a couple of pics that were ..indicative of my tastes...but I made them private as it just doesn't feel like the place. If that makes sense?

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By *resentsinmyDrawersWoman 1 week ago

Santa's Workshop


"I can be with the right person connection counts for chemistry to unleash the dominant player

Connection is absolutely key!

Definitely,without its never going to unlock any dominant side.whether female or male

Same for my submissive side. But you've been here longer than I have- my impression is that a lot of men use the word Dominant without understanding it.

I understand you but me being here longer or shorter period of time didn't create my dominant side I've always been this way long before joining the site it boils down to the chemistry.to ignite the spark to unleash the dominant for me...."

Oh no I didn't explain that well. I meant you've been here longer so you may have a better oversight of how many kinky people are on here.

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By *ear in the ChairMan 1 week ago

The Blue Moon

Is dominance taken or given? You have to be able to give that right to someone for balance?

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By *resentsinmyDrawersWoman 1 week ago

Santa's Workshop


"Is dominance taken or given? You have to be able to give that right to someone for balance?"

I think others may have different answers. I'd say submission is given and dominance is accepted.

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By *izzibeth9Couple 1 week ago

Loughborough


"I must be weird as, because I seem to find them or they find me. There's fair amount on here and we chat about dynamics etc, been nice to find people with similar interests on here. "

We're kinksters primarily, and regularly attend munches and fetish events, and we've met others in a similar boat. The number of people who we *personally* wouldn't consider to be genuinely into bdsm (as I say, it's all a bit subjective based on what you're after) far outweighs those though, which makes sense being as it's a swinger's site.

If you know what you're after it's fine - easy to our the chancers - but for newer folk to the kink scene it's not so easy and, honestly, downright dangerous. By its very nature bdsm isn't a safe thing to just pick up and have a go at in a lot of cases, and it does unfortunately attract people who don't want to dominate but rather abuse people.

It's an absolutely fantastic community to be a part of, same with swinging, but there's definitely precautions to take

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By *eroLondonMan 1 week ago

Fitzrovia

What do you term a gentleman who likes to confidently (but without the arrogance) take the lead, take charge, coerce, instruct and orchestrate the sex, passion and sensuality in the bedroom?

With two caveats: the first - he's not into BDSM. The second - the chemistry and synergy are already established, obviously.

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By *asterRopeKnotMan 1 week ago

West Midlands

Its been asked for several times, but doesn't seem to move forward. It would be amazing for finding kinky people if the search function didn't lump all BDSM/Kink under SM. But hey, its a bolt on for this site and not its primary purpose.

I've been lucky to find amazing people in to many aspects of kink.

Like any connection on here, it takes time and not everyone is going to be right for everyone.

It is always lovely to see a kink thread pop up and there are several about in the forums.

So maybe if you're looking for kinky people that's going to be a good place to start, also, you'll be able to gauge their knowledge and experience more there than a profile that doesn't mention it for fear of putting people off.

Just my random thoughts.

Be safe and have fun kinky people

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By *ucka39Man 1 week ago

Newcastle


"I can be with the right person connection counts for chemistry to unleash the dominant player

Connection is absolutely key!

Definitely,without its never going to unlock any dominant side.whether female or male

Same for my submissive side. But you've been here longer than I have- my impression is that a lot of men use the word Dominant without understanding it.

I understand you but me being here longer or shorter period of time didn't create my dominant side I've always been this way long before joining the site it boils down to the chemistry.to ignite the spark to unleash the dominant for me....

Oh no I didn't explain that well. I meant you've been here longer so you may have a better oversight of how many kinky people are on here. "

Oh with that said I'd have to say loads that I've came across on the site and I think since this virus many have disappeared hope all are well...

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By *aule1101Man 1 week ago

leeds

If you are serious about cockold message me

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By *antaslittlehelper.Woman 1 week ago

on Santa’s lap, Onahardthing, North Pole.


"I can be with the right person connection counts for chemistry to unleash the dominant player

Connection is absolutely key!

Definitely,without its never going to unlock any dominant side.whether female or male

Same for my submissive side. But you've been here longer than I have- my impression is that a lot of men use the word Dominant without understanding it."

I would agree. I’ve been super lucky to find my Dom, and he’s the best, but there are so many unethical people out there, who have no idea what being dominant means, and seem to use it as an excuse to abuse.

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By *izzibeth9Couple 1 week ago

Loughborough


"If you are serious about cockold message me "

Exhibit A, ladies and gentleman

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By *reeatlastMan 1 week ago

Fourlanes

DOM/sub relationship are really hard to come by because there are so many variables in that area and takes a long time to build up the trust for a sub to eventually give herself over to her DOM and the DOM to take the sub on . Communication is the key and so many are too impatient to chat long enough for a connection/understanding to be made to find out which both want out of it . I was very lucky that I knew my first and only sub before hand and once we realised we both had an interest we just clicked . I don't think this is the best site for finding it they is a better one but thats full of predators so be careful on that one. Anyway happy hunting x

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By *izzibeth9Couple 1 week ago

Loughborough


"Its been asked for several times, but doesn't seem to move forward. It would be amazing for finding kinky people if the search function didn't lump all BDSM/Kink under SM. But hey, its a bolt on for this site and not its primary purpose.

I've been lucky to find amazing people in to many aspects of kink.

Like any connection on here, it takes time and not everyone is going to be right for everyone.

It is always lovely to see a kink thread pop up and there are several about in the forums.

So maybe if you're looking for kinky people that's going to be a good place to start, also, you'll be able to gauge their knowledge and experience more there than a profile that doesn't mention it for fear of putting people off.

Just my random thoughts.

Be safe and have fun kinky people "

Well said - definitely agree with you. If you're serious about getting into kink, I'd add that your best bet - in my personal opinion - is search up your local munch (found on the other site that shall not be named usually). It's the best way to meet people, but it's nothing like swinging so temper your expectations a bit (it's just a chat in a pub with likeminded people usually).

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By *resentsinmyDrawersWoman 1 week ago

Santa's Workshop


"Its been asked for several times, but doesn't seem to move forward. It would be amazing for finding kinky people if the search function didn't lump all BDSM/Kink under SM. But hey, its a bolt on for this site and not its primary purpose.

I've been lucky to find amazing people in to many aspects of kink.

Like any connection on here, it takes time and not everyone is going to be right for everyone.

It is always lovely to see a kink thread pop up and there are several about in the forums.

So maybe if you're looking for kinky people that's going to be a good place to start, also, you'll be able to gauge their knowledge and experience more there than a profile that doesn't mention it for fear of putting people off.

Just my random thoughts.

Be safe and have fun kinky people "

Hello You touch on an important point - that many will be nervous of "advertising it". I don't mention details on my profile and I've come across others who are very careful too.

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By *resentsinmyDrawersWoman 1 week ago

Santa's Workshop


"If you are serious about cockold message me

Exhibit A, ladies and gentleman "

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By *etcplCouple 1 week ago

Luton

It is what you make it.

Search out for those with similar interests.

Talk, talk, talk and talk some more.

Weed out those that don’t fit what you are looking for. Move on, and just don’t get exasperated when what you are looking for doesn’t just fall into your lap.

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By *oxy n hubsCouple 1 week ago

taunton

dom can cover so many sexual traits n kinks that its impossible to say dom to someone with out explaining what you want and what part of the life style,,

most who message me come out with the bdsm bullshit ? you can be just sexually dom its not all whips n chains not by a long chalk ... so many wannabes who just watch porn and get the wrong idea..

guys if you want to be a dom our try to be a dom first of be honest if your new and want to try you may find someone may give you a chance and the other tip is listen to the person/couples looking for a dom and find out what they want before you say your experienced because being experienced means very little from one person to another as the wants will be totally different...

being new is better than being a bullshiter

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By *emorefridaCouple 1 week ago

La la land


"I must be weird as, because I seem to find them or they find me. There's fair amount on here and we chat about dynamics etc, been nice to find people with similar interests on here.

We're kinksters primarily, and regularly attend munches and fetish events, and we've met others in a similar boat. The number of people who we *personally* wouldn't consider to be genuinely into bdsm (as I say, it's all a bit subjective based on what you're after) far outweighs those though, which makes sense being as it's a swinger's site.

If you know what you're after it's fine - easy to our the chancers - but for newer folk to the kink scene it's not so easy and, honestly, downright dangerous. By its very nature bdsm isn't a safe thing to just pick up and have a go at in a lot of cases, and it does unfortunately attract people who don't want to dominate but rather abuse people.

It's an absolutely fantastic community to be a part of, same with swinging, but there's definitely precautions to take "

Totally agree there are precautions with everything in life. But started out with the kink side before we even considered the swinging side. So I know what I'm looking for an understand the red, amber and green flags.

But I think chancers are on every site and platform available. Fab is no different. People need to do their research there are good resources out there for newbies.

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By *r handsMan 1 week ago

Halesowen

I’m sub lol

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By *oxy n hubsCouple 1 week ago

taunton


"If you are serious about cockold message me

Exhibit A, ladies and gentleman "

and why is this so funny ?? we know loads of cuckold couples who look for dom guys its not all whips n chains ???

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By *izzibeth9Couple 1 week ago

Loughborough


"I must be weird as, because I seem to find them or they find me. There's fair amount on here and we chat about dynamics etc, been nice to find people with similar interests on here.

We're kinksters primarily, and regularly attend munches and fetish events, and we've met others in a similar boat. The number of people who we *personally* wouldn't consider to be genuinely into bdsm (as I say, it's all a bit subjective based on what you're after) far outweighs those though, which makes sense being as it's a swinger's site.

If you know what you're after it's fine - easy to our the chancers - but for newer folk to the kink scene it's not so easy and, honestly, downright dangerous. By its very nature bdsm isn't a safe thing to just pick up and have a go at in a lot of cases, and it does unfortunately attract people who don't want to dominate but rather abuse people.

It's an absolutely fantastic community to be a part of, same with swinging, but there's definitely precautions to take

Totally agree there are precautions with everything in life. But started out with the kink side before we even considered the swinging side. So I know what I'm looking for an understand the red, amber and green flags.

But I think chancers are on every site and platform available. Fab is no different. People need to do their research there are good resources out there for newbies. "

Sorry, I wasn't saying you specifically, more just if there's anyone in the thread thinking of dipping their toes in (do it ) they need to take care not to get into a crappy situation.

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By *emorefridaCouple 1 week ago

La la land


"I must be weird as, because I seem to find them or they find me. There's fair amount on here and we chat about dynamics etc, been nice to find people with similar interests on here.

I've chatted to several. But maybe it just takes more time? I've only been on for 4 months. I had a couple of pics that were ..indicative of my tastes...but I made them private as it just doesn't feel like the place. If that makes sense?"

It took a while to chat to the ones I know all spectrum from Doms, switches and subs. Now I've got network I can ask questions if I want and vice versa. Yeah most of ours are hidden there were too many chancers.

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By *resentsinmyDrawersWoman 1 week ago

Santa's Workshop


"If you are serious about cockold message me

Exhibit A, ladies and gentleman

and why is this so funny ?? we know loads of cuckold couples who look for dom guys its not all whips n chains ???"

I wasn't grinning at the cuckold aspect? Nor do I think it's all whips and chains.

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By *izzibeth9Couple 1 week ago

Loughborough


"If you are serious about cockold message me

Exhibit A, ladies and gentleman

and why is this so funny ?? we know loads of cuckold couples who look for dom guys its not all whips n chains ???"

Steady on, its just a little fun poking

The guy ignored all context in the thread, added absolutely nothing to the conversation, and stuck in a half-arsed self-promoting message in a thread that has (mostly) been super helpful and informative for people looking to get involved with kink.

C'mon, he had it coming

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By *emorefridaCouple 1 week ago

La la land


"I must be weird as, because I seem to find them or they find me. There's fair amount on here and we chat about dynamics etc, been nice to find people with similar interests on here.

We're kinksters primarily, and regularly attend munches and fetish events, and we've met others in a similar boat. The number of people who we *personally* wouldn't consider to be genuinely into bdsm (as I say, it's all a bit subjective based on what you're after) far outweighs those though, which makes sense being as it's a swinger's site.

If you know what you're after it's fine - easy to our the chancers - but for newer folk to the kink scene it's not so easy and, honestly, downright dangerous. By its very nature bdsm isn't a safe thing to just pick up and have a go at in a lot of cases, and it does unfortunately attract people who don't want to dominate but rather abuse people.

It's an absolutely fantastic community to be a part of, same with swinging, but there's definitely precautions to take

Totally agree there are precautions with everything in life. But started out with the kink side before we even considered the swinging side. So I know what I'm looking for an understand the red, amber and green flags.

But I think chancers are on every site and platform available. Fab is no different. People need to do their research there are good resources out there for newbies.

Sorry, I wasn't saying you specifically, more just if there's anyone in the thread thinking of dipping their toes in (do it ) they need to take care not to get into a crappy situation."

I didn't take offense, in totally for people being proactive in their research. Submissive to me doesn't mean passive, in case a newbie reads this

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By *inkyKittyWoman 1 week ago

Swindon

Mm yes.

I don’t do impact play, really doesn’t do anything for me.

I need to find a guy to dominate me with just his words and firm tone

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By *asterRopeKnotMan 1 week ago

West Midlands


"

Hello You touch on an important point - that many will be nervous of "advertising it". I don't mention details on my profile and I've come across others who are very careful too. "

Yeah it's very hard, as its been said there are a lot of people that Will call themselves dom etc etc and seek out newbies and inexperienced people.

I think being a single lady on here and advertising you like kink is like being a single women at a munch, you'll be over run with offers of 50 shades! On the other side being a single guy at a munch you'll find it hard to find have someone talk to you.

Everyone says go to munches etc etc, but that's all good when you know people. If you're single, new and nervous, munches can be a really off putting experience.

More random thoughts from a munch attendee and former munch host

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By *izzibeth9Couple 1 week ago

Loughborough


"I must be weird as, because I seem to find them or they find me. There's fair amount on here and we chat about dynamics etc, been nice to find people with similar interests on here.

We're kinksters primarily, and regularly attend munches and fetish events, and we've met others in a similar boat. The number of people who we *personally* wouldn't consider to be genuinely into bdsm (as I say, it's all a bit subjective based on what you're after) far outweighs those though, which makes sense being as it's a swinger's site.

If you know what you're after it's fine - easy to our the chancers - but for newer folk to the kink scene it's not so easy and, honestly, downright dangerous. By its very nature bdsm isn't a safe thing to just pick up and have a go at in a lot of cases, and it does unfortunately attract people who don't want to dominate but rather abuse people.

It's an absolutely fantastic community to be a part of, same with swinging, but there's definitely precautions to take

Totally agree there are precautions with everything in life. But started out with the kink side before we even considered the swinging side. So I know what I'm looking for an understand the red, amber and green flags.

But I think chancers are on every site and platform available. Fab is no different. People need to do their research there are good resources out there for newbies.

Sorry, I wasn't saying you specifically, more just if there's anyone in the thread thinking of dipping their toes in (do it ) they need to take care not to get into a crappy situation.

I didn't take offense, in totally for people being proactive in their research. Submissive to me doesn't mean passive, in case a newbie reads this "

Oh absolutely! There's just as much emphasis on a sub knowing their shit as a Dom. If as a newbie when asked what your limits are you find yourself tempted to say "up for trying anything once", just remember that acrotomophilia is a thing (not kink shaming here, but that one's probably best left as a fantasy)

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By *r handsMan 1 week ago

Halesowen

Wow this is such an over thought thread lol

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By *emorefridaCouple 1 week ago

La la land


"I must be weird as, because I seem to find them or they find me. There's fair amount on here and we chat about dynamics etc, been nice to find people with similar interests on here.

We're kinksters primarily, and regularly attend munches and fetish events, and we've met others in a similar boat. The number of people who we *personally* wouldn't consider to be genuinely into bdsm (as I say, it's all a bit subjective based on what you're after) far outweighs those though, which makes sense being as it's a swinger's site.

If you know what you're after it's fine - easy to our the chancers - but for newer folk to the kink scene it's not so easy and, honestly, downright dangerous. By its very nature bdsm isn't a safe thing to just pick up and have a go at in a lot of cases, and it does unfortunately attract people who don't want to dominate but rather abuse people.

It's an absolutely fantastic community to be a part of, same with swinging, but there's definitely precautions to take

Totally agree there are precautions with everything in life. But started out with the kink side before we even considered the swinging side. So I know what I'm looking for an understand the red, amber and green flags.

But I think chancers are on every site and platform available. Fab is no different. People need to do their research there are good resources out there for newbies.

Sorry, I wasn't saying you specifically, more just if there's anyone in the thread thinking of dipping their toes in (do it ) they need to take care not to get into a crappy situation.

I didn't take offense, in totally for people being proactive in their research. Submissive to me doesn't mean passive, in case a newbie reads this

Oh absolutely! There's just as much emphasis on a sub knowing their shit as a Dom. If as a newbie when asked what your limits are you find yourself tempted to say "up for trying anything once", just remember that acrotomophilia is a thing (not kink shaming here, but that one's probably best left as a fantasy) "

Yeah that's probably not one to indulge in

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By *resentsinmyDrawersWoman 1 week ago

Santa's Workshop


"Wow this is such an over thought thread lol "

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By *ullock 1000Man 1 week ago

bally

I am a sub gelding lol

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By *izzibeth9Couple 1 week ago

Loughborough


"

Hello You touch on an important point - that many will be nervous of "advertising it". I don't mention details on my profile and I've come across others who are very careful too.

Yeah it's very hard, as its been said there are a lot of people that Will call themselves dom etc etc and seek out newbies and inexperienced people.

I think being a single lady on here and advertising you like kink is like being a single women at a munch, you'll be over run with offers of 50 shades! On the other side being a single guy at a munch you'll find it hard to find have someone talk to you.

Everyone says go to munches etc etc, but that's all good when you know people. If you're single, new and nervous, munches can be a really off putting experience.

More random thoughts from a munch attendee and former munch host "

Ahh man, sounds like you've had bad experiences with munches to be honest! I've been to half a dozen and - save for one - never experienced anything like that (used to go as a single guy so I've worn that particular t-shirt).

Some are definitely easier than others to 'break into' so to speak though, and a lot depends on your own personality. We've been helping to run our local munch for a few months (okay, fine, C's been helping) and we do meet & greets for any newbie who wants one, send messages out beforehand to make sure people have the details and to make sure they have no concerns, and we always try our best to include newbies in conversation.

I've also only ever seen a single woman pestered at a munch once, and the culprit was a swinger, so make of that what you will.

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By *resentsinmyDrawersWoman 1 week ago

Santa's Workshop


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Hello You touch on an important point - that many will be nervous of "advertising it". I don't mention details on my profile and I've come across others who are very careful too.

Yeah it's very hard, as its been said there are a lot of people that Will call themselves dom etc etc and seek out newbies and inexperienced people.

I think being a single lady on here and advertising you like kink is like being a single women at a munch, you'll be over run with offers of 50 shades! On the other side being a single guy at a munch you'll find it hard to find have someone talk to you.

Everyone says go to munches etc etc, but that's all good when you know people. If you're single, new and nervous, munches can be a really off putting experience.

More random thoughts from a munch attendee and former munch host

Ahh man, sounds like you've had bad experiences with munches to be honest! I've been to half a dozen and - save for one - never experienced anything like that (used to go as a single guy so I've worn that particular t-shirt).

Some are definitely easier than others to 'break into' so to speak though, and a lot depends on your own personality. We've been helping to run our local munch for a few months (okay, fine, C's been helping) and we do meet & greets for any newbie who wants one, send messages out beforehand to make sure people have the details and to make sure they have no concerns, and we always try our best to include newbies in conversation.

I've also only ever seen a single woman pestered at a munch once, and the culprit was a swinger, so make of that what you will."

I had an issue at a kink event. I am very wary about attending more because of that experience. It wasn't a munch though.

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By *izzibeth9Couple 1 week ago

Loughborough


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Hello You touch on an important point - that many will be nervous of "advertising it". I don't mention details on my profile and I've come across others who are very careful too.

Yeah it's very hard, as its been said there are a lot of people that Will call themselves dom etc etc and seek out newbies and inexperienced people.

I think being a single lady on here and advertising you like kink is like being a single women at a munch, you'll be over run with offers of 50 shades! On the other side being a single guy at a munch you'll find it hard to find have someone talk to you.

Everyone says go to munches etc etc, but that's all good when you know people. If you're single, new and nervous, munches can be a really off putting experience.

More random thoughts from a munch attendee and former munch host

Ahh man, sounds like you've had bad experiences with munches to be honest! I've been to half a dozen and - save for one - never experienced anything like that (used to go as a single guy so I've worn that particular t-shirt).

Some are definitely easier than others to 'break into' so to speak though, and a lot depends on your own personality. We've been helping to run our local munch for a few months (okay, fine, C's been helping) and we do meet & greets for any newbie who wants one, send messages out beforehand to make sure people have the details and to make sure they have no concerns, and we always try our best to include newbies in conversation.

I've also only ever seen a single woman pestered at a munch once, and the culprit was a swinger, so make of that what you will.

I had an issue at a kink event. I am very wary about attending more because of that experience. It wasn't a munch though. "

I'm really sorry to hear that, and especially that it's put you off going to more events in future

Hope it wasn't anything *too* serious and the individual was spoken to / removed from the event?

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By *resentsinmyDrawersWoman 1 week ago

Santa's Workshop


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Hello You touch on an important point - that many will be nervous of "advertising it". I don't mention details on my profile and I've come across others who are very careful too.

Yeah it's very hard, as its been said there are a lot of people that Will call themselves dom etc etc and seek out newbies and inexperienced people.

I think being a single lady on here and advertising you like kink is like being a single women at a munch, you'll be over run with offers of 50 shades! On the other side being a single guy at a munch you'll find it hard to find have someone talk to you.

Everyone says go to munches etc etc, but that's all good when you know people. If you're single, new and nervous, munches can be a really off putting experience.

More random thoughts from a munch attendee and former munch host

Ahh man, sounds like you've had bad experiences with munches to be honest! I've been to half a dozen and - save for one - never experienced anything like that (used to go as a single guy so I've worn that particular t-shirt).

Some are definitely easier than others to 'break into' so to speak though, and a lot depends on your own personality. We've been helping to run our local munch for a few months (okay, fine, C's been helping) and we do meet & greets for any newbie who wants one, send messages out beforehand to make sure people have the details and to make sure they have no concerns, and we always try our best to include newbies in conversation.

I've also only ever seen a single woman pestered at a munch once, and the culprit was a swinger, so make of that what you will.

I had an issue at a kink event. I am very wary about attending more because of that experience. It wasn't a munch though.

I'm really sorry to hear that, and especially that it's put you off going to more events in future

Hope it wasn't anything *too* serious and the individual was spoken to / removed from the event?"

I have been to one this year run by someone I've known for years and trust and with a trusted friend. I may venture to more in time. Er..long,long story on that individual!

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By *icentiousCouple 1 week ago

Up on them there hills

I only play now B/d and only at clubs.

I have had several long term D/s relationships, and I miss the magic they have, there is a yearning when I’m not in one, like a drug.

What makes me smile about this thread is the bottom challenging the top and the responses.

Have fun, always.

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