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Do you prefer one offs or regular meets?
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over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Regular x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Much prefer regulars  |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin |
Regular, the fun is usually only starting after the first meet. I find there's always unfinished business!  |
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over a year ago
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Prefer regular meets  |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
Catthorpe |
One offs are what we do more off, it's the initial nervous energy which gets us both. Having said that we have met two people, three times actually. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Regular |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For fetish ... Regular
For a fuck ... One off in a club
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Regular with special friends is always preferable to one-offs |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
south east |
Regular ... 1offs can be fantastic but repeat performances can be incredible the more you get to know what pushes their buttons  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Regular ... 1offs can be fantastic but repeat performances can be incredible the more you get to know what pushes their buttons "
Only thing the feelings can get involved? |
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By *omer47Man
over a year ago
leigh |
I'd like a regular but it ends up being a quick 1 off as the nervousness seems to take over. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Regular...ish |
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We aren’t adverse to one off’s but now we are more focusing on local regulars…Leeds or Lincolnshire way
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like meets, regular and one offs are both good |
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We tend to only play with people once or twice and then move on. Our fun is always in clubs though, so we've not really had the opportunity to meet anyone regularly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m good with either; maybe a little bias towards the ‘excitement of the unknown’ with. one-offs, as I don’t really have any kinks or fetishes that need a build up of trust to properly explore. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This question is popping up a lot today!
If we get on - regular
If we don’t - never met in the first place |
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If we get along then regular ideally please  |
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Regular, any day.
It's much nicer to get to know somebody over time, plus it would be exhausted always looking for new people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Regular is fun but new is exciting |
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Regular for me everytime. The longest has been 2 and a half yrs, still in contact  |
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Prefer Regular. Longest I had was with a couple over 2 and a half years. Only ended because change in circumstances.
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generally one offs with couples i find ... on the rare times over the years i have met single women from here or other sites, they usually result a few meets if there is rapport going on
I would like to meet a regular single woman, though it seems pretty few far between on fab .. i find most single women are not actually single once you get talking |
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Regular meets, so much better when you know each other more. No worrying, can I give this ass a spank or not
Plus being able to please the ladies and know what buttons to press is a massive turn on x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Prefer regular |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Regular "
I'll make you a cup of tea then    |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One offs, maybe 1 or 2 casual FBs xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Prefer regular "
I prefer you  |
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One offs can be fun but I do like regular, it’s nice having the build up and anticipation of an upcoming meet with someone you know and have played with before and know how good it’s going to be  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Prefer regular
I prefer you "
Im flattered  |
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"Prefer regular "
I’m available for regular  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One off |
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As a single guy on Fab I’d take any right now hahaha but I’d prefer regular |
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I'd love something regular (or semi regular as I travel a lot but can be in the same place a few times in a short span) |
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A discrete arrangement with a couple for regular meets would be perfect. |
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By *LiamMan
over a year ago
Midlands |
Last time I commented on one of these threads I got abuse mail. I am out of this one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like the excitement of the first meet so prefer to mix it up a bit.
I am however looking for a regular FB J xx |
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Regular espeicaslly when your both open minded and up for trying new and exciting things.
With one offs your supposed to do the whole karma sutra in one sitting  |
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By *undazeCouple
over a year ago
Dover |
We've enjoyed both over the years.
There's the adrenaline rush of the unknown in a one off. The sheer intense newness of it all, with a man joining us for the first time, naked and stiff.
Then there's the fun we've had at clubs where there's an attraction, an empty playroom, and some good sex with a stranger.
We've also enjoyed a few regular friends.
As we get older we've found we prefer a regular friend (or two).
The anticipation is intense, knowing what we're going to get into, as well as being so relaxed we can continue to push the boundaries and explore.
With a regular we can always pick up where we left off.
Whatever turns you on, go for it, but you don't have to let it restrict you.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Both |
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Regular Sissy but don't mind one offs either |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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both variety of play and how you play is good |
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Semi-regular fun with a cuckold or bi couple.....oh yes please |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like Regular with a friend have done one offs but not really for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Prefer regular x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Prefer regular
I prefer you
Im flattered "
Excited would have been more appropriate  |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
Milton keynes |
A regular would be amazing but not as straight forward as it seems |
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By *gv24Man
over a year ago
boston |
Am looking for regular people not meny just a couple to get to know |
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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago
Lifes Departure Lounge |
I do have a preference for regular meets. |
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We wish we could find regular . |
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By *assy MissWoman
over a year ago
Sent to Coventry |
I have a few regular meets, and enjoy the occasional one off for variety  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Regular meets is something we like |
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Prefer regular. Most people I have known for a few years. It does not have to be meets weekly or monthly. I like getting to know a couples’ wants and they mine. Thanks for the question. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One off's but we do make exceptions |
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I prefer regular, as it’s much easier to relax and really enjoy the moment with a friend.
One-offs can be fun, that initial excitement of a new meet, the unknown aspect of what might happen……but the sex can be a little mechanical, and I can’t help wondering if they’re scoring me off a tick list afterwards….. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
Bit of both as I'm a greedy fucker but regular the sexual chemistry becomes more exciting to explore in more ways to figure out what actually gets her to the point where she just finds it difficult to control herself and switches into a wild beast |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Regular |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d say regular too. Not always the easiest to find but having the connection and exploring what each likes over multiple meets is what I’m looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a couple, one offs. Fantasy situations that only work with people who have the same fantasy.
Just me, regular. |
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Regular for us, we are lucky enough to have a special couple we see and it’s incredible...... |
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If it’s a good first meeting then regular is always better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer regular as the meets get better and better over time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Regular meets, trust can be built and the sex gets better and better  |
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Regular. The play gets better and boundaries come down and you can relax more |
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Regular although one offs are good for fantasy meets and to try out new stuff. The ideal meet would be with a regular guy or couple who bring in someone “one off” for special play as a group. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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definitely prefer Regular as the fun just gets better as younger to know each other x |
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We don't do this often so having a regular is a problem since most regular guys don't want to work on our timescales..and who can blame them. Having a regular guy makes things like a bit of hot-wifing easier and safer plus the experience gets better over time ..right?. We do go to clubs and have a bit of anonymous sex sometimes and we do enjoy that too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A reliable regular would be my preference |
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Regular fun everytime, the sex gets better and better with each visit |
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One-offs for MMF, regular for MFF or MMFF. |
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Always regular but guys in my area don’t seem to want that and lie when they say they do  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely regular, I have never been one for ONS, I like to get to know the person xx |
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By *ucelleCouple
over a year ago
Bishops Stortford |
A mixture of both is good. But most of ours are regular meets |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
Regular, as the hard work is already done and pre-meet flirting is really good fun. |
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I’d like to find a regular. But seem to find guys that want regular then contact slows and disappears. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Regular, though that seems to scare guys away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Regular is best |
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Regular would be the ultimate and a good cup of tea  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One offs, mainly to avoid getting feelings for someone, even just in a friendship way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One offs, mainly to avoid getting feelings for someone, even just in a friendship way. "
Happy to meet once  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Any lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One offs, mainly to avoid getting feelings for someone, even just in a friendship way. "
That's the best way to go x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be fair I love making new fab friends but Mr P likes to keep it none feelingy which I totally respect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One offs, mainly to avoid getting feelings for someone, even just in a friendship way.
Happy to meet once "
Nah, with a gorgeous bottom like that i'd ve wanting to come back for more  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mainly one off as variety is the spice of life x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer regular meets. Basically looking for a small group of couples and single ladies for sharing common interests, sexual and non-sexual, regularly. I like the trust, safety, and regular play this provides.  |
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Possibly regular couples but more into one off meets with guys. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Possibly regular couples but more into one off meets with guys. "
Love to be one of those people  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely regular |
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Regular fwb and play together at clubs |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
leeds |
I love random nsa sex with strangers and find plenty of guys who are up for this in the clubs. No names, not much conversation, just one off sex. However we occasionally make friends and have repeat meets outside of the clubs, which I also really enjoy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer sex often wether it be with strangers or the same person |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Regular. Find one offs boring |
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We would love regular but have found it hard to find so far  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely regular meets, intensifies overtime, getting to know how to push each others buttons.
Never had a one off meet here ever |
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We'd love to find a single guy and/or couple to meet more than once, build some trust and fulfil a range of fantasies. |
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Regulars but not always as easy as it sounds |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Regulars prefer but without the baggage this harder  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Regular meets are always better, getting to know each other’s enjoyments is all part of the fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I go by feel it depends how my head is |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One offs (Mrs PD) don't want any kind of emotional attachment creeping in.
Mr PD wants the emotional connection so this playing as a couple can be difficult. We don't play seperately. |
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Regular for several reasons.
I work full time and have two kids and a bloody big dog at home. I don’t have time to spend absolutely ages messaging/getting to know someone simply to shag for a few hours then never meet again.
I look for friends with a mutual fondness as well as sexual attraction - makes the sex mind blowing in my experience.
If I deviate from that and indulge in ‘hasty Sex’ with a virtual stranger it’s very rarely satisfying.
I can only really do group sex if I know at least one person in the group we’ll both sexually and as a friend.
When I first first joined fab my MO was completely different. I was in the ‘shiny new fuck’ stage and had a lot of one-off’s with some very hot people. I also had a lot more free time then. Some were great - some not so much.
I sometimes wish I could still do random meets - I’d get a hell of a lot more sex - but my brain won’t let me.
My vagina hates my brain.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like regular with a one off hear and there. Regulars can be so much fun when you click with a partner and know how to turn each other on in an instant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always hoping for a regular friend then we can develop together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No brainier ………if you have the best sex if your life you will definitely want to do it again and again and again  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Either is good |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Pros and cons to both |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Prefer ongoing meets with people I match with  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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These days I’m more of a regular than one-offs.
More trust, more kink and more relaxing with each other = no holds barred fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definately regular  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely regular |
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
maidenhead |
Regular for me is the best. |
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
maidenhead |
"We would love regular but have found it hard to find so far "
I would love to be your regular  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Regular has the potential for emotions to become a problem. We have had a bloke over twice and it was great but now we both feel that someone new is what we want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Regular for for me. The more comfortable you are the better it becomes in my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Regular for several reasons.
I work full time and have two kids and a bloody big dog at home. I don’t have time to spend absolutely ages messaging/getting to know someone simply to shag for a few hours then never meet again.
I look for friends with a mutual fondness as well as sexual attraction - makes the sex mind blowing in my experience.
If I deviate from that and indulge in ‘hasty Sex’ with a virtual stranger it’s very rarely satisfying.
I can only really do group sex if I know at least one person in the group we’ll both sexually and as a friend.
When I first first joined fab my MO was completely different. I was in the ‘shiny new fuck’ stage and had a lot of one-off’s with some very hot people. I also had a lot more free time then. Some were great - some not so much.
I sometimes wish I could still do random meets - I’d get a hell of a lot more sex - but my brain won’t let me.
My vagina hates my brain.
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Brilliant post.. especially the last sentence  |
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We prefer regulars, but trying to find a decent single guy for regular fun is so hard. Easy to find regular couples. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We prefer regulars, but trying to find a decent single guy for regular fun is so hard. Easy to find regular couples."
As a single guy, I can confirm, the struggle is real trying to find anyone who isn’t already inundated with existing friends.
No wonder new blood is scared off quickly.  |
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By *enatton2Couple
over a year ago
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Normally one offs but Tani hasn’t stopped talking about the last guy from three weeks ago lol |
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Definitely regular but the problem for us is getting time for it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always regular. Learning what works over time is the fun part  |
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One-offs are fun and exciting but we're always hoping for a developing naughty friendship and frequent meets ... Almost got there a few times  |
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"Normally one offs but Tani hasn’t stopped talking about the last guy from three weeks ago lol"
Go for it !!, has he shown interest ? |
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"Always regular. Learning what works over time is the fun part "
This is what we like and are looking for. |
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By *23RouteCouple
over a year ago
Huddersfield |
We only do one off meets , more exciting with new lads , some can’t believe it’s happening ! |
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Have found repeat, if not regular, meets are better for us  |
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By *23RouteCouple
over a year ago
Huddersfield |
We only do one off meets , more exciting with new lads , some can’t believe it’s happening ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Used to do one offs but all.changed when i saw a couple regularly for 4yrs. So definitely regular now....the fun just gets naughtier and much better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Prefer a regular meet
Hell, just a meet at the moment would be great lol
I find once you've met once, then everything from then on gets much better |
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Prefer regular meets but one offs good too
Met up
With my regular yesterday |
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The ideal is regular, but I’m not put off by the odd one off now and then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Looking for regular meets and someone to spoil free most evenings and weekends, would book a hotel room or travel...
SHREWSBURY  |
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By *eediousMan
over a year ago
Smallville |
What's interesting about this post is the number of "regulars" far exceed the "one-offs".
Despite the need for multiple sexual partners and excitement, most people seem to prefer the same, or oftentimes one sexual partner when they have experimented with several.
Maybe the natural state for women especially is a strong preference for monogamy or familiarity.
But how do you achieve that when its difficult to pair-bond with one partner in a vanilla sense after you have sampled the delights of swinging.
Find it fascinating, that's for sure. |
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Every meet starts as a one off with the potential to become a regular. Only a very small number make the cut. |
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Definitely regular. Friends with benefits are the best  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep regular the fun gets better with the trust |
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love one off best excitement of the new |
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Filthy meets normally overrun, guess that means regular. |
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Got to be regular I find it fun to find out what the other likes and build on it |
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By *el13ABCMan
over a year ago
Huddersfield |
Do regulars but like a one off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Regular meets are much nicer x |
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Unquestionably, regular as you get to know your partner’s needs |
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One offs are OK, but regular are better as have the connection.. |
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"One offs are OK, but regular are better as have the connection.."
Woukd prefer a regular but random meets can be extremely horny too xx |
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Regular it's far more rewarding |
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