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Morning all. The massages we've had this morning have got me thinking.... How many of the messages you get sent are OK?
By OK, I mean have read your profile and if you've asked for something (keyword, face pics etc) actually done it? Does the sender match what you're looking for in your profile?
Curious......
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So probably 1 in a million would be my track record where the message has been great and we met...then had amazing sex 
So I still stay on fab in hope it will happen again.
If I initiate the winks or messages then its definitely like 1 in 40 chance i get to have amazing sex |
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"[Removed by poster at 24/11/22 08:35:17]
Damn my pesky mush 
The offer still stands to wear a bag on my head  "
Weird wonder why my message was deleted as i didn't do it. I said 1 in 100 but then there's a risk I don't like their faces so rather men send their face pic in their intro message which quite a lot do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Every woman or couple that ever sent a message to me has been fine and they match up with me and my profile.
Guys, … all of them who propose we should meet, misses the part where it says I’m straight.  |
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By *eff4000Man
over a year ago
Camberley |
Mine are ok I guess, I get loads from guys which to be honest I do find flattering when they tell me they'd love to suck my cock or whatever.
I have no interest in them doing it though so always politely decline lol, which shouldn't be a surprise to them if they'd read my profile but I guess they're always hopeful  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we have received about 32 this morning
12 how are you? ..... ignored
12 complimenting our pics?.... responded to with thanks
6 asking to meet today? ... ignored
1 asking if I piss when at nudist beach? response was; "and the award for most stupid question of the week goes to....." |
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Some of the messages we get are a bit mental.
Single word messages alot of the time too.
You can also tell which ones have been copy/pasted and sent to all.
They are a bit frustrating, but better than the downright disrespectful ones you get sometimes |
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So far today
14 how are you?
7 just hello or hi, even worse.
4 Can I ask you a question? what's that all about
8 wanting to discuss a comment I made on the forum. The reason I posted on the forum is for discussion there not by pm
3 asking if I am into younger guys
5 asking if I kik or Snapchat, obviously not read our profile
2 lovely messages
So I make that at least 95% of messages are a waste of time reading |
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Very few have actually read our profile and most get deleted unread because of this.
That said we've met some fantastic people in clubs recently, guys included, who have actually bothered to read before messaging and we've gone on to arrange a meet at a specific event. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So far today
14 how are you?
7 just hello or hi, even worse.
4 Can I ask you a question? what's that all about
8 wanting to discuss a comment I made on the forum. The reason I posted on the forum is for discussion there not by pm
3 asking if I am into younger guys
5 asking if I kik or Snapchat, obviously not read our profile
2 lovely messages
So I make that at least 95% of messages are a waste of time reading"
we often think about activating filters but we actually find many of the messages amusing on the basis of the writers stupidity..... we don't want to miss out on these lol |
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"So far today
14 how are you?
7 just hello or hi, even worse.
4 Can I ask you a question? what's that all about
8 wanting to discuss a comment I made on the forum. The reason I posted on the forum is for discussion there not by pm
3 asking if I am into younger guys
5 asking if I kik or Snapchat, obviously not read our profile
2 lovely messages
So I make that at least 95% of messages are a waste of time reading"
My inbox looks very similar. Can’t stand the “can I ask you something” message. It’s just such a cheap attempt to get a message back.
I can also spot copy+paste a mile off - instant delete as well. |
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"Morning all. The massages we've had this morning have got me thinking.... How many of the messages you get sent are OK?
By OK, I mean have read your profile and if you've asked for something (keyword, face pics etc) actually done it? Does the sender match what you're looking for in your profile?
Curious......
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1 maybe 2 in 10!
Often we get I’m not xxx but I meet the other criteria… |
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"Morning all. The massages we've had this morning have got me thinking.... How many of the messages you get sent are OK?
By OK, I mean have read your profile and if you've asked for something (keyword, face pics etc) actually done it? Does the sender match what you're looking for in your profile?
Curious......
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If its 10 percent I'd be shocked..... I'd say roughly 5 every 100 messages |
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"Some men really put the effort in and read the profile. They get a polite reply and we chat.
Some however I wonder if they are done to provoke and will get an appropiate response. "
I said this the other day to friends..... I wonder if a lot of men just send dross to be troll and wind people up.... |
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"About half of them to be honest"
And the irony of the half of the messages that show the sender clearly didn’t read my profile, originating from couples with some variation of “DON’T MESSAGE US IF YOU HAVEN’T READ OUR PROFILE!”, is not lost on me, lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Messages to our couples profile are mainly from those who have read it and understand what we are looking for.
My solo profile has been a real eye opener.
It’s not particularly long and is very easy to understand but I’d say maybe 1% of people who message have read it . That includes couples, guys and other women.
The most respectful have been TV’s.
The worst are men by far.
Had this been my first experience of Fab I would have deleted my profile weeks ago. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not many actually match
“Do you meet couples” - If you’d read my profile you’ll see.
“Send face pic” - No public photos on theirs or one attached with message
… The list goes on. It’s rare as most don’t read or contradict themselves. |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
Wherever I lay my hat |
Maybe 1 in 30 have actually read my profile. Big commitment to read all that guff I know but hey...no one ever gets anything for nothing. Lots don't get my sarcasm. I am appreciative of those that read and do what I want and I try to at least acknowledge the effort that they have put in with a polite 'thanks but no thanks' |
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I don’t really set rules or requirements for what people can say in a message.
I’d rather allow some the freedom to show their true self… giving that freedom works well as a filter too!
I found that when you dictate what you’re looking for then people just pretend to be that thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get about 20 men messaging for every one woman/couple even though I state I’m straight
I get a lot of messages from guys on here whose profile says that they're "straight"."
Haha same mate, or say their single but then wanna talk about their “wife’s” |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have all the message filters on that I possibly can now but that still doesn't stop the hi how are you, can I ask you a question, do you want to meet later/at the weekend messages and then there's the messages from guys who have just looked at the pictures and not read my profile for what I'm looking for and, repeat messages after I have deleted their message BUT I do get nice messages too |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
Sandwich |
I am surprised that about 50% of those messaging since I have said that I am looking for a swinging relationship have actually read my profile!
I don’t get as many messages, but most definitely less FAF’s, however worded |
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Some very interesting replies so far. So as a single guy I like to read a profile to see if there maybe similar likes etc that would work. Some profiles you read and you just know to move on.
However… I do find that for some bizarre reason people ask for a particular heading to a message to show you have read all the profile and I’d say 90% of these put this code word at the end of a profile and regularly in capital letters so it sticks out like a sore thumb. Guys will honestly look straight to the bottom of a profile for this without reading anything else, friends who have done this I have suggested put something in the middle of a profile or just get rid of it completely.
Just my view,
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I’d say about 1 in 100 are people that interest us or we’d like to converse with.
We get a lot of compliments about our pics which is lovely to receive, as long as the second message after us thanking them isn’t to then ask to meet!
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By *icknHMan
over a year ago
Ilfracombe |
"So far today
14 how are you?
7 just hello or hi, even worse.
4 Can I ask you a question? what's that all about
8 wanting to discuss a comment I made on the forum. The reason I posted on the forum is for discussion there not by pm
3 asking if I am into younger guys
5 asking if I kik or Snapchat, obviously not read our profile
2 lovely messages
So I make that at least 95% of messages are a waste of time reading"
Blimey 14 messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"More than half of our messages the sender hasn't read our profile and messages us like he's talking to a single female. "
exactly the same issue we have |
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By *aughty50sCouple
over a year ago
Yorkshire - but we travel a lot |
Reading this thread it seems we get a lot fewer messages than many people, maybe that just proves our profile is being read to the bottom, who knows. Most of those we do receive are uninspiring one liners. But just occasionally... |
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"genuinely 1% of them are respectful or okay, it’s all a shambles on here really isn’t it "
Shame men can't be educated in the art of social manners. I duno how they expect to have sex with their terrible attitude |
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I honestly don't understand how anyone can send out a message that isn't thoughfully worded, spell checked and relevant. I always put thought into it, even though the vast majority of messages are no longer propositioning people. Most of the time it's talking up a party night at the local club, knowing full well that they may attend and I never see them, or the odd person that I chat with about their insane Lego collection, one time even helped a woman to pick a good PC for her kid.
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The ones that just email "wanna fuck?"please, just stop, you're giving me a bad name. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"genuinely 1% of them are respectful or okay, it’s all a shambles on here really isn’t it "
UPDATE:
Just told someone that I’m not interested because what they were looking for wasn’t what we’re looking for. Got called a fat ugly sl*g for saying that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe 1 in 30 have actually read my profile. Big commitment to read all that guff I know but hey...no one ever gets anything for nothing. Lots don't get my sarcasm. I am appreciative of those that read and do what I want and I try to at least acknowledge the effort that they have put in with a polite 'thanks but no thanks'"
I love your profile. It's hilarious. Love your sense of humour |
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"genuinely 1% of them are respectful or okay, it’s all a shambles on here really isn’t it
UPDATE:
Just told someone that I’m not interested because what they were looking for wasn’t what we’re looking for. Got called a fat ugly sl*g for saying that "
Must have been looking at someone else's pictures, all I can see is a hot body |
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"Maybe 1 in 30 have actually read my profile. Big commitment to read all that guff I know but hey...no one ever gets anything for nothing. Lots don't get my sarcasm. I am appreciative of those that read and do what I want and I try to at least acknowledge the effort that they have put in with a polite 'thanks but no thanks'"
I read your bio intently, studied it and tried to see how much I could craft a message to appeal to you, but ultimately I was defeated because you very clearly state that you will go for anything with a faint pulse. Unfortunately my pulse is so faint that it takes a can of Monster, sandwiched between 2 strong coffees, a syringe of adrenaline and a defibrillator, then I become semi-conscious for a few seconds. Naturally I am heartbroken and look forward to my messages being routinely deleted along with all the other failed suitors like Mr Perfect McFuckbuddy and the guy that clips his toenails on the Tube.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get about 20 men messaging for every one woman/couple even though I state I’m straight "
Your profile can be a bit confusing by what you wrote if I'm honest , although I get many men messaging me more than I'd like  It's rather annoying lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"genuinely 1% of them are respectful or okay, it’s all a shambles on here really isn’t it
UPDATE:
Just told someone that I’m not interested because what they were looking for wasn’t what we’re looking for. Got called a fat ugly sl*g for saying that "
That means he likes you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lol.
This site has reinforced the notion that men are dogs (straight men ??)
Most or all of the messages I get are unsolicited dicks "
I get messages from men asking to meet or saying 'great tits!' My profile is simple but yet.....
Not all men are dogs. Some are decent. |
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Apologies for not jumping back in, long weekend away
Let's refine it a bit, and in the interested of being fair, I'll stats that it's all kinds of profile that send us messages like these!
This week we've had
Around 10: hi xx
Same again for: what u up to? Xx
About 15: your so fit, I'm soo hard and available now!
1 peach: does your wife know what it's like to be showered with gifts and treated like a princess?
The last one is new to us, although someone did once offer to pay £100 to play with vixens boobs!
Does the site need more categories so people can identify others who share their kink, or do people just need to get past the pictures and actually read the profile before sending a message?
Thoughts and sharing experiences welcome! |
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"Lol.
This site has reinforced the notion that men are dogs (straight men ??)
Most or all of the messages I get are unsolicited dicks "
It's a shame, as there are good guys on here too. But sadly, the number of guys who sign up and just start carpet bombing messages is huge compared to the genuine swingers. I used to be a single guy on here and I did OK! I think to be fair, the level of effort from most profiles is low, there are just more M profiles than there are couples, F and cd/TV/Ts so the bad press is louder.
I'd be interested to know how many 'serious' meeting profiles there are on fab compared to watchers, trolls etc?
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"Morning all. The massages we've had this morning have got me thinking.... How many of the messages you get sent are OK?
By OK, I mean have read your profile and if you've asked for something (keyword, face pics etc) actually done it? Does the sender match what you're looking for in your profile?
Curious......
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I generally only receive messages when my filters are open to single guys, and are usually along the lines of “Want a discreet unload mate, nothing expected in return?” which clearly shows the sender does not match what I am looking for in my profile….
It’s rare I receive a first message from a single female or a genuine couple, at best a wink, or the ubiquitous friend invite as a first contact |
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"Apologies for not jumping back in, long weekend away
Let's refine it a bit, and in the interested of being fair, I'll stats that it's all kinds of profile that send us messages like these!
This week we've had
Around 10: hi xx
Same again for: what u up to? Xx
About 15: your so fit, I'm soo hard and available now!
1 peach: does your wife know what it's like to be showered with gifts and treated like a princess?
The last one is new to us, although someone did once offer to pay £100 to play with vixens boobs!
Does the site need more categories so people can identify others who share their kink, or do people just need to get past the pictures and actually read the profile before sending a message?
Thoughts and sharing experiences welcome! "
The “carpet bombers” are probably bored of crafting personalised messages to individual profiles, to then receive the classic “Lol x” reply…… |
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By *ttis669Man
over a year ago
warrington |
It's normally single guys messaging despite saying preferences lie otherwise, however really randomly I've had a burst if messages from lovely people I've wanted to speak to this weekend so feels a bit odd, as I haven't changed my profile, it's really nice to have a chat with genuine people |
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By *an hjCouple
over a year ago
Stowmarket |
"Morning all. The massages we've had this morning have got me thinking.... How many of the messages you get sent are OK?
By OK, I mean have read your profile and if you've asked for something (keyword, face pics etc) actually done it? Does the sender match what you're looking for in your profile?
Curious......
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Probably less than one in thirty. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can categorically state that you want A and nothing but A and someone will still message offering B so what’s the point?
Our profile is deliberately non exclusive and we don’t like having rules IN CAPITALS!! so the messages are broad in their range.
We filter from there.
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"I mean they read my profile, say we have similar interests but I just don't find them physically or mentally attractive...wow I'm really fussy lol duno how to stop myself being so fussy  "
My reply is don't. Don't lower your standards it's quality that counts not quantity.
You be you and be as fussy as you like |
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"Morning all. The massages we've had this morning have got me thinking.... How many of the messages you get sent are OK?
By OK, I mean have read your profile and if you've asked for something (keyword, face pics etc) actually done it? Does the sender match what you're looking for in your profile?
Curious......
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Practically none. |
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We get a few from time to time,
Especially when we post a new picture or two,
They are usually ok, on the whole, apart from the fact they tend to be from straight single men trying their luck  obviously not read the profile, or ignorred it.
There have been one or two not very ok ones, they got their senders instant blocks and not a second thought.
Shame few are from ladies, would like to hear from some soon x |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Every woman or couple that ever sent a message to me has been fine and they match up with me and my profile.
Guys, … all of them who propose we should meet, misses the part where it says I’m straight. "
Similar to this besides the odd guys ignoring the fact I'm straight and so are they supposedly but their looking for says otherwise |
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