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Getting rejected after sending face pic
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"Don't take it personally... No one is everyone's cup of tea. We all have different preferences x"
True… it’s hard work sending a lot of messages for no outcome! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"Did they request the photo and did you ever receive theirs first "
Only send if they request one. Usually it’s me sending first, after they ask and then they send one sometimes |
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"Don't take it personally... No one is everyone's cup of tea. We all have different preferences x
True… it’s hard work sending a lot of messages for no outcome!"
Stop sending messages, do socials n clubs instead |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"Don't take it personally... No one is everyone's cup of tea. We all have different preferences x
True… it’s hard work sending a lot of messages for no outcome!
Stop sending messages, do socials n clubs instead "
That’s a good point. I need to move away from the messaging and move to socials etc |
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Just because a lady is on here doesn't mean you automatically fit what they are looking for, best way I find is if you have face pic on profile even if it's a friends only one that way the ladies can choose you of you fit their criteria |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"Unfortunately it's the face that attracts most people. I don't care about body, its face for me"
This is the thing, I don’t want to sound big headed, but I don’t have an unattractive face! At least I don’t think so! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"Just because a lady is on here doesn't mean you automatically fit what they are looking for, best way I find is if you have face pic on profile even if it's a friends only one that way the ladies can choose you of you fit their criteria"
I might put one up in friends only in that case |
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"Don't take it personally... No one is everyone's cup of tea. We all have different preferences x
True… it’s hard work sending a lot of messages for no outcome!
Stop sending messages, do socials n clubs instead
That’s a good point. I need to move away from the messaging and move to socials etc"
I rarely send out messages on fab these days..... |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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I hate the whole face pic thing. I get that people like to know who they are talking too but some of these pic’s people send are shit!
Meeting in clubs is so much better.
We have great friends based on atmosphere and vibe.
Don’t get to bothered by it, maybe expand your pool a little. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"I hate the whole face pic thing. I get that people like to know who they are talking too but some of these pic’s people send are shit!
Meeting in clubs is so much better.
We have great friends based on atmosphere and vibe.
Don’t get to bothered by it, maybe expand your pool a little. "
Thanks for the advice! |
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By *bi HaiveMan 48 weeks ago
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?"
You can't change your face OP so if people aren't attracted that's that unless they're happy for you to wear a mask/balaclava/maccies bag with eye holes cut out.
People aren't attracted to everyone. But hey - hasn't stopped you meeting it seems so onwards and upwards.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"This is a hard one as I can get on chatting with someone but if I dnt fancy them look wise no point. Were not all everyone's cup of tea "
I wish you were looking for a man just a bit younger!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?
You can't change your face OP so if people aren't attracted that's that unless they're happy for you to wear a mask/balaclava/maccies bag with eye holes cut out.
People aren't attracted to everyone. But hey - hasn't stopped you meeting it seems so onwards and upwards.
A"
I hear some people are into the balaclava thing! |
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By *riel13Woman 48 weeks ago
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Attraction is a very strange and personal thing... Someone elses lack of it towards you, shouldn't mean anything to either of you, it's just how it is... Move on until you find someone that does feel it |
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?
You can't change your face OP so if people aren't attracted that's that unless they're happy for you to wear a mask/balaclava/maccies bag with eye holes cut out.
People aren't attracted to everyone. But hey - hasn't stopped you meeting it seems so onwards and upwards.
A
I hear some people are into the balaclava thing!"
It's called road man chic |
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?"
No, you look reasonably attractive from the body pics.
Just remember that everyone rejecting you is almost certainly not "model" material either.
Beauty is in the eye of beer holder.  |
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"Don't take it personally... No one is everyone's cup of tea. We all have different preferences x
True… it’s hard work sending a lot of messages for no outcome!
Stop sending messages, do socials n clubs instead "
but not everyone wants to go to a club |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?
No, you look reasonably attractive from the body pics.
Just remember that everyone rejecting you is almost certainly not "model" material either.
Beauty is in the eye of beer holder. "
Thanks! Appreciate it! |
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"Don't take it personally... No one is everyone's cup of tea. We all have different preferences x
True… it’s hard work sending a lot of messages for no outcome!
Stop sending messages, do socials n clubs instead but not everyone wants to go to a club"
Yet, there's threads everyday by single men, complaining how hard it is to get meets on fab...clubs wasent the only solution I offered was it. There is also large organised socials |
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OP your find the women are in control of site some will state send face pic with message or they will delete. Or your send a picture n if they are not attracted again that will be it.i can't take a good face pic and the more I try the worse it looks lol |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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It happened to me on here in my early days when I used to send out face pics ....it was a couple.
The male was all in but the female said she wasn't attracted after seeing my face . It bruised a bit but that's just a prime example of not being everyone's cup of tea. |
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"It happened to me on here in my early days when I used to send out face pics ....it was a couple.
The male was all in but the female said she wasn't attracted after seeing my face . It bruised a bit but that's just a prime example of not being everyone's cup of tea."
same was chatting to a bi couple he was all for meeting but wife wasn't  |
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"OP your find the women are in control of site some will state send face pic with message or they will delete. Or your send a picture n if they are not attracted again that will be it.i can't take a good face pic and the more I try the worse it looks lol"
Tbh most of us (women) can't either  ....we just know the angles, lighting and filters!
Practice young fella! |
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"It happened to me on here in my early days when I used to send out face pics ....it was a couple.
The male was all in but the female said she wasn't attracted after seeing my face . It bruised a bit but that's just a prime example of not being everyone's cup of tea."
As a woman I'd take it harder from a female saying she didn't find me attractive. Don't know exactly why...but I get why you'd be a bit annoyed or hurt. |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"It happened to me on here in my early days when I used to send out face pics ....it was a couple.
The male was all in but the female said she wasn't attracted after seeing my face . It bruised a bit but that's just a prime example of not being everyone's cup of tea.
As a woman I'd take it harder from a female saying she didn't find me attractive. Don't know exactly why...but I get why you'd be a bit annoyed or hurt."
yea it bothered me for a while ...but when I looked over the conversations it was more him pushing to meet than her ...I think she had more of a problem with the whole scenario than just my face......at least it's easier to tell myself that ! I just never had anyone ever say that ...male or female..black white or blue |
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"It happened to me on here in my early days when I used to send out face pics ....it was a couple.
The male was all in but the female said she wasn't attracted after seeing my face . It bruised a bit but that's just a prime example of not being everyone's cup of tea.
As a woman I'd take it harder from a female saying she didn't find me attractive. Don't know exactly why...but I get why you'd be a bit annoyed or hurt. yea it bothered me for a while ...but when I looked over the conversations it was more him pushing to meet than her ...I think she had more of a problem with the whole scenario than just my face......at least it's easier to tell myself that ! I just never had anyone ever say that ...male or female..black white or blue "
Fuck 'em x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?
I don't know, I haven't seen your face
Would you like to?
....don't keep us waiting.
Did you send it?
(Opens Kleenex)."
I can’t because of your age preference! |
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?
I don't know, I haven't seen your face
Would you like to?
....don't keep us waiting.
Did you send it?
(Opens Kleenex)."
Need a shoulder to cry on |
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I think you should send a face pic with the first message, then if they don’t like it you don’t waste your time.
Holding it back to present after you’ve chatted makes it awkward I think. I feel the same about dick pics. Because of you don’t like what you see and you’ve already had a bit of back and forth you either have to explain that the recent pic changes things or not don’t reply. Both aren’t great.
Get to out of the way early I think. |
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I find so many people on this site are so rude they are the first to moan when we don’t put a lot of effort into a message but when we do and actually go real nice and a very nice message, they completely ignore you no thankyou but no thankyou, surely as adults we should have some better manners than just ignore people and just a simple reply saying thankyou for messaging but no thankyou that would be so much nicer thank just a blank you xxxx sorry for rant but man it’s cost nothing do they peeps |
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"I think you should send a face pic with the first message, then if they don’t like it you don’t waste your time.
Holding it back to present after you’ve chatted makes it awkward I think. I feel the same about dick pics. Because of you don’t like what you see and you’ve already had a bit of back and forth you either have to explain that the recent pic changes things or not don’t reply. Both aren’t great.
Get to out of the way early I think. "
Ah, the shallowness of fab is world beating  |
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By *urora1912Woman 48 weeks ago
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I told a guy he wasn't for me after he sent his face pic.
He told me I was shallow for that comment 
Well I'm not going to plan anything with you when there isn't any attraction, why waste his or my time but he didnt like that comment either  |
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"I find so many people on this site are so rude they are the first to moan when we don’t put a lot of effort into a message but when we do and actually go real nice and a very nice message, they completely ignore you no thankyou but no thankyou, surely as adults we should have some better manners than just ignore people and just a simple reply saying thankyou for messaging but no thankyou that would be so much nicer thank just a blank you xxxx sorry for rant but man it’s cost nothing do they peeps "
We can get up to 100 messages a day, how long out of our vanilla life would you like us to spend replying thanks but no thanks each day? Do we either get a PA or an au pair? In clubs we'll never ignore someone but online there just isn't the time to reply to everyone, I can see it seems harsh to be ignored though x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?
Unfortunately there are some very shallow people on here. I prefer to judge someone by their personality and actions."
100% agree! |
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"I think you should send a face pic with the first message, then if they don’t like it you don’t waste your time.
Holding it back to present after you’ve chatted makes it awkward I think. I feel the same about dick pics. Because of you don’t like what you see and you’ve already had a bit of back and forth you either have to explain that the recent pic changes things or not don’t reply. Both aren’t great.
Get to out of the way early I think.
Ah, the shallowness of fab is world beating "
What’s the alternative? Say yes to everyone?
I don’t think it’s shallow to only want to have sex with people I find physically attractive, |
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By *bi HaiveMan 48 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?
Unfortunately there are some very shallow people on here. I prefer to judge someone by their personality and actions."
Why is not being attracted to someone shallow?
I have friends I respect, find hilarious, value their advice and opinion , and would go to for help if ever needed. I don't find all of them physically attractive though and I'm sure they feel the same about me.
It's not shallow. It's just life. We aren't all attracted to the same people and not everyone is going to want to fuck everyone else, regardless of how devastatingly amazing their personality is or how 'nice' they are.
This is a swinging/sex site. People are here for their own desires and have their own preferences.
Calling someone shallow for rejecting someone based on looks is a tad rude don't you think? Nobody is obliged yo say yes just because someone shows interest.
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"I find so many people on this site are so rude they are the first to moan when we don’t put a lot of effort into a message but when we do and actually go real nice and a very nice message, they completely ignore you no thankyou but no thankyou, surely as adults we should have some better manners than just ignore people and just a simple reply saying thankyou for messaging but no thankyou that would be so much nicer thank just a blank you xxxx sorry for rant but man it’s cost nothing do they peeps
We can get up to 100 messages a day, how long out of our vanilla life would you like us to spend replying thanks but no thanks each day? Do we either get a PA or an au pair? In clubs we'll never ignore someone but online there just isn't the time to reply to everyone, I can see it seems harsh to be ignored though x"
Important to choose the ones that get your juices flowing |
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That's why I always send a first intro message saying what I am looking for, along with my face pic. You never know whether it was the content of the message or your picture that was responsible for the rejection. Helps with the ego |
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?
Unfortunately there are some very shallow people on here. I prefer to judge someone by their personality and actions."
If one choosing who they want to play with based on external appearance is shallow, isn't everyone on this site shallow? I don't think there is anyone who do not have any kind of preference when it comes to looks. |
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By *oxy jWoman 48 weeks ago
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?
Unfortunately there are some very shallow people on here. I prefer to judge someone by their personality and actions."
so people are shallow for turning down someone they dont want to meet because attraction is not there ? i mean by that definitions alone does that not make you shallow for not liking beards ?? |
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We had that alot. We just block them.
Its the men pretending to be couples which are the worse.
Us.."Need the ladies to chat on the phone before meets"
Other couple.."guy says shes in the shower/busy/at work etc"
Then get blocked. We block them back.
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Facial pictures only give you a idea of who you are meeting.The problem is many face pictures we receive are really poor bad lighting etc it then makes us think why? Please try attaching a decent recent face picture. |
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?"
Most people take shit face pics as they use mobile phones badly, like bloggers, accentuating double chins and bags under the eyes. Learn the basics and light from infront and shoot slightly from above. Takes 10 years off you |
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"It happens a lot the ladies have a massive choice to picky it's upto them "
It’s worth mentioning ladies got a lot of rejection too. Clearly everyone has their preferences, even men. Now let that sink in. |
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By *riel13Woman 48 weeks ago
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I don't get why so many people get arsey with people that aren't attracted to them... There is fuck all either party can do about it, it's not hurtful or spiteful, it's just how it goes, nobody can help it. It doesn't mean you are ugly or not good enough just not attractive to that person... You will still be attractive to someone. Do you only find people you think you are better than, unattractive? If you think that way then it's not your looks that make you unattractive |
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?
Most people take shit face pics as they use mobile phones badly, like bloggers, accentuating double chins and bags under the eyes. Learn the basics and light from infront and shoot slightly from above. Takes 10 years off you "
This.
Then you just need to worry about looking shit in real life |
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?"
Unfortunately the site is weighted very much in favour of women really.
Far more men than women if it is women that you are looking to meet.
It does mean that lots of women can be quite abrupt and rude in a way that they could not be out in the real world.
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?
Unfortunately the site is weighted very much in favour of women really.
Far more men than women if it is women that you are looking to meet.
It does mean that lots of women can be quite abrupt and rude in a way that they could not be out in the real world.
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In what way are they rude? By not engaging with people that they’re not attracted to? Or by not replying? |
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?
Unfortunately the site is weighted very much in favour of women really.
Far more men than women if it is women that you are looking to meet.
It does mean that lots of women can be quite abrupt and rude in a way that they could not be out in the real world.
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At what stage, after being sent a face pic which you did not find attractive, is it appropriate to tell the sender?
Straight away, thus being crystal clear and not leading them on?
After you've exchanged further messages, the guy thinks he's in with a chance, the woman then says "not my type" and is then labelled a time waster cock tease? |
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By *bi HaiveMan 48 weeks ago
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?
Unfortunately the site is weighted very much in favour of women really.
Far more men than women if it is women that you are looking to meet.
It does mean that lots of women can be quite abrupt and rude in a way that they could not be out in the real world.
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Maybe some people should adjust their expectations and appreciate that just by joining a swingers site they're owed nothing. Not a reply, not a meet and sure as hell not sex.
If more people did then maybe all these 'rude and abrupt' women wouldn't have to be so abrupt? I've removed the word rude because ignoring a message from someone you're not attracted to isn't rude.
But expecting a reply is.
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?
Unfortunately the site is weighted very much in favour of women really.
Far more men than women if it is women that you are looking to meet.
It does mean that lots of women can be quite abrupt and rude in a way that they could not be out in the real world.
Maybe some people should adjust their expectations and appreciate that just by joining a swingers site they're owed nothing. Not a reply, not a meet and sure as hell not sex.
If more people did then maybe all these 'rude and abrupt' women wouldn't have to be so abrupt? I've removed the word rude because ignoring a message from someone you're not attracted to isn't rude.
But expecting a reply is.
A"
I wholeheartedly agree |
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?
Unfortunately the site is weighted very much in favour of women really.
Far more men than women if it is women that you are looking to meet.
It does mean that lots of women can be quite abrupt and rude in a way that they could not be out in the real world.
In what way are they rude? By not engaging with people that they’re not attracted to? Or by not replying? "
I'd say by not even acknowledging the message.
It's fine if you don't find an attraction.
But at least reply and say that i think is a minimum.
I know tgat women get tonnes of messages but if you've had a conversation and hot to requesting pics then it's just good manners to acknowledge that. |
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whether it’s a dating or swinging site it’s a reality. the personality in your profile and tone of your message can be a massive help though.
clearly film star looks and a 10 inch dick (for those that enjoy) sometimes gives a guy an advantage but most of all people want to meet decent folk |
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?
Unfortunately the site is weighted very much in favour of women really.
Far more men than women if it is women that you are looking to meet.
It does mean that lots of women can be quite abrupt and rude in a way that they could not be out in the real world.
In what way are they rude? By not engaging with people that they’re not attracted to? Or by not replying?
I'd say by not even acknowledging the message.
It's fine if you don't find an attraction.
But at least reply and say that i think is a minimum.
I know tgat women get tonnes of messages but if you've had a conversation and hot to requesting pics then it's just good manners to acknowledge that."
If you’re mid conversation when the pic is sent, then yeah you probably could reply. But it can be awkward can’t it? That’s why I think they should be the first thing exchanged, that way no one wastes their time.
If you send a first message with a face a pic and get no response, that’s the within the site rules: no response = no.
I think you have to toughen up to play here. We’re not all for everyone. People like what they like. I often get messages from guys that are not for me; I don’t reply. I don’t message first often, but i chuck out some winks here and there if I see a profile I like and I don’t always get a response. If I was mid way through a chat with someone and then showed my face and they stopped messaging me I’d assume they didn’t think I was pretty. Do I need them to tell me that? Definitely not. I just move on.
All these folk saying it’s rude or shallow to not reply: what are you hoping for instead? Someone to tell you they don’t like your face? How will that help? Or are you hoping they’ll entertain you anyway even though they don’t think you’re attractive?
I think I lot of it comes down to men approaching women who they think SHOULD find them attractive and then being offended when they don’t. It’s an ego thing. |
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Only by women though… am I that bad!?"
Ud back off on the cock pics on your profile op. You have too many for my liking. Us ladies do not want to see the package unless we ask for a pic or if we decide to meet. Can put some people off. Cannot say if you're attractive as cannot see a face pic. Joanne. |
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?
Ud back off on the cock pics on your profile op. You have too many for my liking. Us ladies do not want to see the package unless we ask for a pic or if we decide to meet. Can put some people off. Cannot say if you're attractive as cannot see a face pic. Joanne. "
I disagree, I do want to see cock pics in the public gallery. I don’t want to have to ask for it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 47 weeks ago
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Thanks for everyone’s messages and advice on this!
I hope it didn’t come across that I was moaning or upset about getting rejected, I know it’s a part of life on here.
I’ll take on board some of the suggestions too… |
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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"Don't take it personally... No one is everyone's cup of tea. We all have different preferences x"
Yeah i bet it is.
All can be told by just a picture??
I know there is more to it!' |
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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"Don't take it personally... No one is everyone's cup of tea. We all have different preferences x
True… it’s hard work sending a lot of messages for no outcome!"
The Sqeeeze is not worth the juice and the grind.
Esp when there is no mental stimulation,rapore,no vibe or effort.
Very common trend.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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"Did they request the photo and did you ever receive theirs first "
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Never they always ask pics first.
So they can bale out! Its a cheap weak cop-out. A game!!' |
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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"Don't take it personally... No one is everyone's cup of tea. We all have different preferences x
True… it’s hard work sending a lot of messages for no outcome!
Stop sending messages, do socials n clubs instead "
Ghandi your a leader fella!' |
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?no your not. Maybe you dodged a bullet maybe she looks like she was pulled through a hedge backwards and facedown. "
Always a reason,for the revearse reaction. |
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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"This is a hard one as I can get on chatting with someone but if I dnt fancy them look wise no point. Were not all everyone's cup of tea "
So if you fancey the "Boat race " and he turns out to be a cuntish turd in personality.
What do you do? Or have done?
Same goes for women.
All can wear makeup ,and doll up. But the attitude can be way far off, many people keep the outer polished! But negalect the manners and empathy of humams.
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"I think you should send a face pic with the first message, then if they don’t like it you don’t waste your time.
Holding it back to present after you’ve chatted makes it awkward I think. I feel the same about dick pics. Because of you don’t like what you see and you’ve already had a bit of back and forth you either have to explain that the recent pic changes things or not don’t reply. Both aren’t great.
Get to out of the way early I think. "
Hit first! My style!"
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"I find so many people on this site are so rude they are the first to moan when we don’t put a lot of effort into a message but when we do and actually go real nice and a very nice message, they completely ignore you no thankyou but no thankyou, surely as adults we should have some better manners than just ignore people and just a simple reply saying thankyou for messaging but no thankyou that would be so much nicer thank just a blank you xxxx sorry for rant but man it’s cost nothing do they peeps "
Treat mean,keep em keen!
Nice guys do come last, fella.
Play the game. Or get played. Its life. |
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?
I don't know, I haven't seen your face
Would you like to?
....don't keep us waiting.
Did you send it?
(Opens Kleenex).
I can’t because of your age preference!"
Give it a go,what you got to lose lol. |
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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"I have my ugly mug public, saves all the hassle of sending it to people who wouldn't like it anyway."
Never ever put yourself down,or bad self talk. It leaves a negative tread in your mindset about yourself.
Chin up fella. |
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"I told a guy he wasn't for me after he sent his face pic.
He told me I was shallow for that comment
Well I'm not going to plan anything with you when there isn't any attraction, why waste his or my time but he didnt like that comment either "
Silence is better,it speaks volumes. |
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"We had that alot. We just block them.
Its the men pretending to be couples which are the worse.
Us.."Need the ladies to chat on the phone before meets"
Other couple.."guy says shes in the shower/busy/at work etc"
Then get blocked. We block them back.
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Way too many like that here. And other sites. |
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?
Unfortunately the site is weighted very much in favour of women really.
Far more men than women if it is women that you are looking to meet.
It does mean that lots of women can be quite abrupt and rude in a way that they could not be out in the real world.
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100000% true. Inperson one has to have guts. Online cheap n cheerful Block!!' |
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?"
You cant please everyone fella. It might not be your face it could be your profile. Might not be your profile it might be your interests. Ive seen ‘mental connection’ on here so many times lol. Could literally be a myriad of things. Just take your rejection on the chin & keep it moving |
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"I find so many people on this site are so rude they are the first to moan when we don’t put a lot of effort into a message but when we do and actually go real nice and a very nice message, they completely ignore you no thankyou but no thankyou, surely as adults we should have some better manners than just ignore people and just a simple reply saying thankyou for messaging but no thankyou that would be so much nicer thank just a blank you xxxx sorry for rant but man it’s cost nothing do they peeps
Treat mean,keep em keen!
Nice guys do come last, fella.
Play the game. Or get played. Its life. "
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"I find so many people on this site are so rude they are the first to moan when we don’t put a lot of effort into a message but when we do and actually go real nice and a very nice message, they completely ignore you no thankyou but no thankyou, surely as adults we should have some better manners than just ignore people and just a simple reply saying thankyou for messaging but no thankyou that would be so much nicer thank just a blank you xxxx sorry for rant but man it’s cost nothing do they peeps
Treat mean,keep em keen!
Nice guys do come last, fella.
Play the game. Or get played. Its life.
Facts "
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By (user no longer on site) 47 weeks ago
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"Don't take it personally... No one is everyone's cup of tea. We all have different preferences x"
Exactly this.
There's no secret code or formula to getting someone to like you |
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"It's nothing new when the lady's have so much to choose from they can be fussy "
Here here!!!
The ladies are inundated with various forms males it’s our main obstacle and like the lovely women say we need to try and sell ourselves as best as we can just to get an opportunity for some form of conversation to lead to some form of social encounter |
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"It's nothing new when the lady's have so much to choose from they can be fussy
Here here!!!
The ladies are inundated with various forms males it’s our main obstacle and like the lovely women say we need to try and sell ourselves as best as we can just to get an opportunity for some form of conversation to lead to some form of social encounter "
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Try attaching a face pic in the first message.
We probably won't even reply without seeing a face pic in the message and if we approach someone we'd send a face pic straight away. That way if someone doesn't like it, they don't have to reply to the opener, no time wasted for anyone. |
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?
Unfortunately the site is weighted very much in favour of women really.
Far more men than women if it is women that you are looking to meet.
It does mean that lots of women can be quite abrupt and rude in a way that they could not be out in the real world.
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Funny you think that way because in real life Mrs would tear you a new one if you presented her your cock without express permission, on here she'll just ignore you.
Call that rude an abrupt if you like, but it's actually the opposite |
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"Try attaching a face pic in the first message.
We probably won't even reply without seeing a face pic in the message and if we approach someone we'd send a face pic straight away. That way if someone doesn't like it, they don't have to reply to the opener, no time wasted for anyone."
Food for thought, good feed back.
As with anything,many dont and wont play on the same field and level.
Its a cat & mouse! Game of minds. I wanna know all about you,so i/we can measure you before i get measured or rejected!
"Its a simple psycology being used here "
But in the name if type's and like.
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I once received “I’m not immediately attracted to you?” as a response to my face pic. I replied with “How much time do you need?” We never met
Best tip I can give you here; ask a female friend to take your face pic |
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Take better pics,men!!
As a rule, trying to look stern or like its a mugshot at a police station is a bad idea!
SMILE ffs, and take it in good light, without sunglasses hiding your eyes!
And Angles, generally slightly from above, is more flattering.
Also tidy up your background, and dont take them in the loo!
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"Don't take it personally... No one is everyone's cup of tea. We all have different preferences x
True… it’s hard work sending a lot of messages for no outcome!
Stop sending messages, do socials n clubs instead "
Still might have problem with face at socials and clubs. I don't mean that in a mean way but in person people still got to be attracted to you - unless in a dark room or glory hole If your face doesn't fit clubs/socials etc. can be brutal and far worse for ego that getting rejected online. Of course might be great and clubs, socials etc. give a chance for another aspect of you to shine and some people are better in person. Some a lot worse too |
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"I once received “I’m not immediately attracted to you?” as a response to my face pic. I replied with “How much time do you need?” We never met
Best tip I can give you here; ask a female friend to take your face pic "
The Irony! Its total insanity! |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"Don't take it personally... No one is everyone's cup of tea. We all have different preferences x
True… it’s hard work sending a lot of messages for no outcome!
Stop sending messages, do socials n clubs instead
Still might have problem with face at socials and clubs. I don't mean that in a mean way but in person people still got to be attracted to you - unless in a dark room or glory hole If your face doesn't fit clubs/socials etc. can be brutal and far worse for ego that getting rejected online. Of course might be great and clubs, socials etc. give a chance for another aspect of you to shine and some people are better in person. Some a lot worse too "
Its a sure minefield at best
" nothing ventured,nothing Gained "
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"Take better pics,men!!
As a rule, trying to look stern or like its a mugshot at a police station is a bad idea!
SMILE ffs, and take it in good light, without sunglasses hiding your eyes!
And Angles, generally slightly from above, is more flattering.
Also tidy up your background, and dont take them in the loo!
Breathes* "
Great advice guys! I was having a similar problem years ago until someone said one of my best attributes was my smile. Changed my face pic and I have never looked back |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"Just send dick pics. They love that. "
Actually, if you read the women's profiles, many actually say they don't like it. Also part of a group of women that are all swingers: most hate it. FYI |
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"This keeps happening!!
Only by women though… am I that bad!?
Unfortunately the site is weighted very much in favour of women really.
Far more men than women if it is women that you are looking to meet.
It does mean that lots of women can be quite abrupt and rude in a way that they could not be out in the real world.
In what way are they rude? By not engaging with people that they’re not attracted to? Or by not replying?
I'd say by not even acknowledging the message.
It's fine if you don't find an attraction.
But at least reply and say that i think is a minimum.
I know tgat women get tonnes of messages but if you've had a conversation and hot to requesting pics then it's just good manners to acknowledge that.
If you’re mid conversation when the pic is sent, then yeah you probably could reply. But it can be awkward can’t it? That’s why I think they should be the first thing exchanged, that way no one wastes their time.
If you send a first message with a face a pic and get no response, that’s the within the site rules: no response = no.
I think you have to toughen up to play here. We’re not all for everyone. People like what they like. I often get messages from guys that are not for me; I don’t reply. I don’t message first often, but i chuck out some winks here and there if I see a profile I like and I don’t always get a response. If I was mid way through a chat with someone and then showed my face and they stopped messaging me I’d assume they didn’t think I was pretty. Do I need them to tell me that? Definitely not. I just move on.
All these folk saying it’s rude or shallow to not reply: what are you hoping for instead? Someone to tell you they don’t like your face? How will that help? Or are you hoping they’ll entertain you anyway even though they don’t think you’re attractive?
I think I lot of it comes down to men approaching women who they think SHOULD find them attractive and then being offended when they don’t. It’s an ego thing. "
I agree with this. Attraction is very subjective and sharing face pics at a later stage makes it more difficult to be honest with the person. I don't mind getting rejected at the first message because I know that I don't have to expend my energy. And women here get 100s of messages everyday so for them it's a bit difficult too (someone I met showed her profile to me , and she gets a lot of messages). It's a miss or a hit here. So be proactive and hope for the best |
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"Just send dick pics. They love that.
Actually, if you read the women's profiles, many actually say they don't like it. Also part of a group of women that are all swingers: most hate it. FYI"
True. |
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