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I do like a guy to come talk to me for a while but sometimes I just want a fuck and either way, the club scene suits me..
I do not want to make friends although its insedental if I do.
NSA means I dont have to ask nor concern myself with his ailing parents nor spoiled children he might have every other weekend and his bitch of an ex wife.....I've heard all of this on a swinging meet and I dont know them enough to care.
Clubs rule....gives me numeropus options.
Oh and yes, I have lots of friends there too..
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"know what you mean about friends lick we have loads of friends so frendship is nice but not an absolute must, because we started swinging in clubs, maybe itsjust we find swing sites and some of the baggage attatched a little unnecessary, with clubs we go, we look, we conquer lol(well hopefully) ps thank you lick for understanding what this thread is about xx" I do understand.... and yes friends are good but an optional extra, not essential in fuck friends....NSA MEANS EXACTLY THAT.... u like em a bit..is that it? | |||
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"Ooooo sweetie you know me better than that I wasnt having a go at you hun. I have learned that many people think differently on here to me all I ask is that I am respected and not abused since thats all we all ask for isnt it?? I was chatting to a couple who said they need to know loads about someone before they will consider meeting, now to me thats a bit ott, but clearly it works for them. Shona x x x " I feel I know u well enough lovely lady and I know u were not having a go xxx | |||
 after all this time chatting hun we should know each other shouldnt we??
To me NSA means turn up have fun and a laugh and leave. But on the site I used to be on many sat in the chatroom discussing their kids birthday parties and how many of them would be at said party!!! To me thats not NSA since I like to keep my hobby seperate from my kids.
Shona
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"Thank god for that hun after all this time chatting hun we should know each other shouldnt we??
To me NSA means turn up have fun and a laugh and leave. But on the site I used to be on many sat in the chatroom discussing their kids birthday parties and how many of them would be at said party!!! To me thats not NSA since I like to keep my hobby seperate from my kids.
Shona
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"been swinging for a long time now, but have to say as much as i like reading these forums and love "some" of the people who add to them, they bear absolutly no resemblence to the swinging world as we know it, dont know if it is because we mainly use clubs to find play mates,so have rarely had our time wasted, we dont go to socials, we rarely play with single guys, but i do find myself reading somtimes and thinking what on earth are you talking about, the kissing thread that comes up every 2 weeks is a great example, you normaly get a load who say no kissing no play etc, fair enough every one has a preference, but in all the years doing this it has seriously never been mentioned, which makes me wonder is there a different code for club meets to home meets, the time wasting thing, we are on a free site which gives anyone and everyone a glimpse in to a world they can only fantasise about, of course there will be timewasters and i bet it is really frustrating, but why not meet in a swingers club then if they dont turn up you can still have fun (i do realise btw that not everyone has easy access to clubs) it just seems theres about 15 different timewasting threads a week lately, swinging for us is a simple and beautiful thing, we pick our club we have a build up, we go we get lucky, or somtimes we dont, sometimes we like the people enough to stay in touch, sometimes not, we dont need to email or msn potentials for weeks for them to block us, we just get stuck in so to speak, i just think sometimes reading the forums omg if i was new to this lifestyle i would be scared stiff, anyway didnt mean this to sound like a rant or anything just wondered if we are the only people who play this way, "Possibly the most level headed, sensible and inviting post on swinging I've read in here. Now I'm going to read the replies And YES I agree with you the moaning , whinging threads really make me feel negative about the poster. | |||
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" By Sharp Dressed Man: I found that interesting, thanks. Personally I don't fancy the cost of a hotel near a club and the single man's fees to get in and the petrol to get there too often - therefore I try to organise meets that fit in with what I'm doing generally. Maybe I'll feel differently after I've actually been to a club, though By _eznhannah: ah thank you mr sharp, i never actually thought about the cost as part of the equation, i suppose we are lucky as we have transport and at least 5 good clubs within a 45 min drive" To add to this as well, a lot of clubs restrict the single guys to certain nights, and on those nights there are often fewer women, because they avoid the the larger numbers of single males that seem to trail about after every woman that moves. Butting into conversations with little show of manners, crowding along at any hit of 'action', and should something happen in an open area, attempt to butt in without asking and turn it into a scrum! I like clubs, but sometimes I feel pressurised by the actions of the 'desperate', let alone what its like for a women! 
The Guys that go to the socials are generally a different breed, with different expectations.
For those reasons, I am often careful about recommending clubs to single guys. Oh and the cost as well!
Couples only nights are a world apart and I think they're a great place to meet as _eznhannah said in the OP.
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"been swinging for a long time now, but have to say as much as i like reading these forums and love "some" of the people who add to them, they bear absolutly no resemblence to the swinging world as we know it, dont know if it is because we mainly use clubs to find play mates,so have rarely had our time wasted, we dont go to socials, we rarely play with single guys, but i do find myself reading somtimes and thinking what on earth are you talking about, the kissing thread that comes up every 2 weeks is a great example, you normaly get a load who say no kissing no play etc, fair enough every one has a preference, but in all the years doing this it has seriously never been mentioned, which makes me wonder is there a different code for club meets to home meets, the time wasting thing, we are on a free site which gives anyone and everyone a glimpse in to a world they can only fantasise about, of course there will be timewasters and i bet it is really frustrating, but why not meet in a swingers club then if they dont turn up you can still have fun (i do realise btw that not everyone has easy access to clubs) it just seems theres about 15 different timewasting threads a week lately, swinging for us is a simple and beautiful thing, we pick our club we have a build up, we go we get lucky, or somtimes we dont, sometimes we like the people enough to stay in touch, sometimes not, we dont need to email or msn potentials for weeks for them to block us, we just get stuck in so to speak, i just think sometimes reading the forums omg if i was new to this lifestyle i would be scared stiff, anyway didnt mean this to sound like a rant or anything just wondered if we are the only people who play this way, "Thanks for posting this, as i agree with what you are saying. re clubs and even the odd time we had people asking for a met for them not to reply. Or to say yep met at this time and place only to get sorry can't make it. Other thing that gets me is the posts that have been done on clubs, who love this and who love that. just seems like free advertising sometimes. Ok i'll hide know LOL cheers Ian | |||
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"We have done the "arranged meets", the "swinging house parties", the "clubs", and the "socials". We continue to do all the above, and have different expectations of each. We have friends we have met through swinging, some we have played with, some we havent. Overall, from our experience, the highest likelyhood of "success" in terms of playing is at parties. As for "NSA".... thats what we planned at first, but being social animals, we find that we only play with people we would like to have as friends, and friendship to us means more than just "shag and run". Horses for courses, you get out what you put in I guess." This so applies to us - thought Steve had written a thread!!!! It's all good fun and you do get out what you put in xxx | |||
All my encounters/meets so far had been M-F 1-1s.
I met and chatted to a gent on here one evening, and he mentioned about going to clubs etc., and I thought that would be fun. Hence I took the plunge and went to Barnsley in Oct 09.
Some of my colleagues sort of know I have more than one playmates, and when I mentioned I was going up to Barnsley for a party, they asked if it was the put your car keys in the fruit bowl kind
I went to my first club at A&G's near Barnsley and it was an eye opener - I like it!
I did not have to play with anyone if I did not want to, and I was allowed to watch others at it without feeling like a perv  I am definitely a voyeur!!!
And I got to play a little in a mirrored room, which is one of my fantasies!
I can't wait to visit another club, and am really looking forward to this party at Chams on Sun 06 Dec!
Perhaps I get the chance to have a MMF soon!
In short, although I like playing with my playmates on a 1-1 basis, I also enjoy going to clubs to meet other people, with no pressure from anyone to play.
Just need to pluck up the courage to go to one of the clubs closer to me down south! 
Any takers? | |||
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"Just need to pluck up the courage to go to one of the clubs " So do we
There should be chaperones thread for novices like us | |||
"Just need to pluck up the courage to go to one of the clubs So do we
There should be chaperones thread for novices like us ". Shame that you'll miss a good opportunity this weekend!  | |||
"Shame that you'll miss a good opportunity this weekend! "Sad when work gets in the way of our social life 
We're not clubers, far from it, however, we would have attended the event this weekend had work not got in the way
Ah well, some-thing's (like us) are worth waiting for | |||
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