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Is swinging getting older?
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By *omeFree OP Man
over a year ago
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Maybe it's just me not noticing the youngsters on here as I get older but I'd say most people's profiles I click on are over 50. That suits me fine but it makes me wonder if youngsters nowadays are so into modern pursuits (phone, internet and gaming based I guess) that they don't do recreational sex like older people once did. In that case will swinging die out one day? I wonder what the age demographic is on Fabs..?  |
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I think you're right, there is a gorgeous 23yo in our office. We were all chatting one lunchtime and she said she was supposed ton have been going round to her boyfriend the night before, but he had a new computer game and called off...FFS when I was that age, I'd have cancelled anything to get between my girlfriends legs! |
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By *omeFree OP Man
over a year ago
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"I think you're right, there is a gorgeous 23yo in our office. We were all chatting one lunchtime and she said she was supposed ton have been going round to her boyfriend the night before, but he had a new computer game and called off...FFS when I was that age, I'd have cancelled anything to get between my girlfriends legs!"
Isn't it weird? Maybe the population in general is in decline not just swinging. |
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"I think swinging requires a level of maturity and self awareness that comes with age but in answer to your question...are youngsters shagging each other...absolutely."
Totally agree with this, no way when I was younger would I have been in an emotionally stable enough relationship to swing.
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when we started in our mid to late 30's there was no interent to speak of in the UK. On a naturist beach, clubs we never saw another asain couple like us. However, we did do clubs and beaches mid-week day time so possibly there we some in the evenings and busier days
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over a year ago
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"I think swinging requires a level of maturity and self awareness that comes with age but in answer to your question...are youngsters shagging each other...absolutely."
I also think swinging requires maturity to be well received but the youngsters are definitely shagging each other without the label.
I was 18 and in University when I had my first threesome, foursome, orgy. All without the labels. Got my first offer to be with a hotwife there, again without the label or being on a website and I assume it's still the same. I didn't put labels to all of this until I was 30+
They're young, horny and getting it on. |
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"I think you're right, there is a gorgeous 23yo in our office. We were all chatting one lunchtime and she said she was supposed ton have been going round to her boyfriend the night before, but he had a new computer game and called off...FFS when I was that age, I'd have cancelled anything to get between my girlfriends legs!"
maybe hes already done it enough that the games more exictiting ie new things give greater dopamine hits
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"I think you're right, there is a gorgeous 23yo in our office. We were all chatting one lunchtime and she said she was supposed ton have been going round to her boyfriend the night before, but he had a new computer game and called off...FFS when I was that age, I'd have cancelled anything to get between my girlfriends legs!"
Maybe he's not that in to her.
If a guy had called off a date with me in favour of a computer game I'd take that to mean he was losing interest. |
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"I think swinging requires a level of maturity and self awareness that comes with age but in answer to your question...are youngsters shagging each other...absolutely."
Exactly this. I started in the lifestyle at age about late 30s,and that's about when a lot of couples do. They have established, steady relationships, know and understand each other, and want to start finding more. That's exactly what a couple of friends on here have done.
The younger couples, particularly in their early twenties make me very wary. They are probably enjoying experimenting with having sex with others, but it can so often cost them their own relationship as they haven't really discovered what they like themselves yet. I'm here to enhance couples and singles sex lives, not to destroy relationships, and so I'm always very wary with young couples.
My friends were trying to explain how the lifestyle is changing, and about how it's more open now rather than being secretive, and I think I've worked out where they're coming from with it.
A certain couple, "famous" on social media, other pay sites, and who are responsible for this new app, along with the network of social media friends they have are out there promoting, big time, making it appear it's more open. They've been on several TV programmes (paid for their appearances) recently. Truth is though, real swingers are incredibly discreet people, they aren't out there "in your face". They know what they want, they are comfortable in their own sexualities, and are looking to explore more, but discreetly.
The age range I find is still pretty much the same as it was twenty plus years ago, just some of us have slid up the age scale nowadays! |
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"I'm sure a lot of people in their 30s and 40s are too busy with kids to fit in swinging and as already said, those younger have other ways of meeting up. "
As you say, lots of people have plenty of extrovert sex when younger, then have to take a break to raise kids and come back to it in later life. That was certainly my pattern. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tbh were having the opposite experience. In clubs, we're mostly seeing people in their 30's & 40's. On fab, could be mostly due to our restrictions but most people we've seen are between 20-45/50, it's a rarity to see older people.
We use other places too though which are far more geared towards a younger crowd and abit more up to date than fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yes there are far far fewer couples and women coming into this scene today the 20s to 40s very few compared with 30 tears ago when the scene was full of couples ...the scene has always been small when it comes to single women but i think even that is a smaller group today.
and men bless em they just joined in in there zillions completely ruining the scene for men as its not dog eat dog its armies eat dog..
will it change well i think its already is to a degree couples are going more private and underground again and quite a few are keeping it to couples only where no singles and no fb or fwb ...bit of a shame really but how else do you try and save a scene you love so much ...... me i mainly meet guys so but where its changed for me is my little black book is full of men ive met before and they are fully trustable so i dont really need online |
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"yes there are far far fewer couples and women coming into this scene today the 20s to 40s very few compared with 30 tears ago when the scene was full of couples ...the scene has always been small when it comes to single women but i think even that is a smaller group today.
and men bless em they just joined in in there zillions completely ruining the scene for men as its not dog eat dog its armies eat dog..
will it change well i think its already is to a degree couples are going more private and underground again and quite a few are keeping it to couples only where no singles and no fb or fwb ...bit of a shame really but how else do you try and save a scene you love so much ...... me i mainly meet guys so but where its changed for me is my little black book is full of men ive met before and they are fully trustable so i dont really need online "
How come you hang around then? |
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I started swinging with my ex wife back in 1983. We were 26, after meeting our 1st couple that didn't end in sex we were invited to parties. We became to known as the young couple be far we were the youngest by 10 years at least. Parties seem to be very common then as it was so hard to meet like minded people then. We had been together on and off from 16 so were a long term couple which perhaps gave us the confidence to try it out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nowadays young adults (men and women) are happy to shag around without being involved in a relationship, so maybe they don’t see it as swinging, but just as the norm for their generation.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a youngish person, there's just not really a drive for me to partake in such activities. I mainly just use this site as an amateur wankbank to be honest because more famous porn sites are just cheap crap and stereotypes.
I have more important things to do like study, do sport and play video games. Those three things will always be more important to me than sex.
Plus, life is hard these days. Younger people can't just work in a donut shop and still earn enough for a nice car, nice house and an entire family like those over 35 were able to.
Plus, there's just apps/communities for it now that exclude the elderly or those over like 35. For example, I'm in a discord community of like 400 femboys and trans people from the uk, we just use that to meet up as its far better than other alternatives. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nowadays young adults (men and women) are happy to shag around without being involved in a relationship, so maybe they don’t see it as swinging, but just as the norm for their generation.
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Agree with this. And don’t need a specialist website - it’s just called ‘modern dating’! Plus there is also a app for this kind of thing where I found everyone was under 40 |
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