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over a year ago
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Never, we often swap partners for the night at clubs. We will stay as a 4 but are free to treat the people we are with as a partner for the night, afterward there is never any jealousy just horny memories. |
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"Never, we often swap partners for the night at clubs. We will stay as a 4 but are free to treat the people we are with as a partner for the night, afterward there is never any jealousy just horny memories."
 sounds perfect |
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For us it's easy because we discussed all that stuff at the start and realised we both had that mind set. We mostly meet single men and I'd say a good percentage of them have no desire for deeper emotions to enter in to it anyway. |
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"For us it's easy because we discussed all that stuff at the start and realised we both had that mind set. We mostly meet single men and I'd say a good percentage of them have no desire for deeper emotions to enter in to it anyway. "
Yep agree with this xx |
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It’s kind of like a hobby - whilst together we are sharing each other with friends.
Then when it’s over we go about our lives until the next play session is arranged.
So emotions don’t come into it. We kiss, hug, cuddle with our play partners and it’s no big deal.
K |
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"We find we satisfy each other emotionally, so playmates are our toys, and as such, they are there for us to enjoy. It's all about us and the fact we're being naughty together.
HW"
I'm not sure what to say about that |
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"We find we satisfy each other emotionally, so playmates are our toys, and as such, they are there for us to enjoy. It's all about us and the fact we're being naughty together.
HW
I'm not sure what to say about that "
I get the meaning |
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By *reasyMan
over a year ago
Caerphilly |
"It’s kind of like a hobby - whilst together we are sharing each other with friends.
Then when it’s over we go about our lives until the next play session is arranged.
So emotions don’t come into it. We kiss, hug, cuddle with our play partners and it’s no big deal.
K"
Absolutely agree and perfect swingers  |
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"We find we satisfy each other emotionally, so playmates are our toys, and as such, they are there for us to enjoy. It's all about us and the fact we're being naughty together.
HW
I'm not sure what to say about that "
In other words, we aren't looking for an emotional connection with playmates at all, it's purely a sexual thing.
HW |
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"We find we satisfy each other emotionally, so playmates are our toys, and as such, they are there for us to enjoy. It's all about us and the fact we're being naughty together.
HW
I'm not sure what to say about that
In other words, we aren't looking for an emotional connection with playmates at all, it's purely a sexual thing.
HW"
Ah ok, I understand. Thanks for explaining |
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Essentially agree with a lot of what’s been said here. We can have the best times, real intimacy and connections but it never becomes more than that, even with couples we’ve met more than once. It’s a completely different connection and emotion.
We both often fantasise about those experiences but less about the people and I’m sure that’s true of them towards us. |
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"Essentially agree with a lot of what’s been said here. We can have the best times, real intimacy and connections but it never becomes more than that, even with couples we’ve met more than once. It’s a completely different connection and emotion.
We both often fantasise about those experiences but less about the people and I’m sure that’s true of them towards us."
I often fantasise about meets but like you, less about the people rather than the actual experience. |
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For us its simply the cherry on our icing on our cake.
If we go to a club and play with others, great. If we don't, hey ho, we will still have a good time.
Its important we like people, enjoy their company and want to spend time with them, but thats as emotional as it gets.
We compartmentalize those deeper emotions for us, snd always download honestly about what we felt during and how we feel after.
The absolute key to doing this sort of stuff is honesty and communication with each other. |
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By *bflirtyCouple
over a year ago
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This isn’t a problem for us. We are emotionally solid and bonded. The people we play with are for playtime only and we don’t really socialise with players outside of swingland so not a lot of opportunity for emotional bonds to form. When we have met people more than once we tend to stop after 3rd time as we’re out for lots of random experiences not the same people over and over. |
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"How easy is it to separate the physical from the emotional? Have emotions ever developed after meets?
Really easy. It’s just sex"
that's very much how I see it. When I play with a couple we are there for the moment and to all have fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What if one is not sure of something
So mf couple
Male and female no issues with either doing anything with male
But female is unsure of hubby with a female
How to overcome it |
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"What if one is not sure of something
So mf couple
Male and female no issues with either doing anything with male
But female is unsure of hubby with a female
How to overcome it"
We always say that we do what the person who is unsure wants. What is she unsure about? |
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"Super easy for us, swinging isn't about getting emotionally attached for us, which is why we prefer clubs to private meets x "
Exactly same as us... been doing this for many years.. swinging is really just an addition to our already fantastic connection - it is just fun... |
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over a year ago
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"What if one is not sure of something
So mf couple
Male and female no issues with either doing anything with male
But female is unsure of hubby with a female
How to overcome it
We always say that we do what the person who is unsure wants. What is she unsure about?"
Unfortunately if you say to another couple
That the only thing you have not done is hubby and another female
It's a no go
Perhaps meeting up and if you get along start with what everyone is happy with
And build up
But does not seem to be ok
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"What if one is not sure of something
So mf couple
Male and female no issues with either doing anything with male
But female is unsure of hubby with a female
How to overcome it"
Then you need to look for just MFM meets as a 3some...need to be comfortable in what you are doing and how you play... this lifestyle should be fun.. |
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"What if one is not sure of something
So mf couple
Male and female no issues with either doing anything with male
But female is unsure of hubby with a female
How to overcome it"
Only do what you both feel comfortable with, be honest about your feelings and don't force yourself to do anything you're not happy with x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What if one is not sure of something
So mf couple
Male and female no issues with either doing anything with male
But female is unsure of hubby with a female
How to overcome it
Then you need to look for just MFM meets as a 3some...need to be comfortable in what you are doing and how you play... this lifestyle should be fun.. "
That's what we do
But because we don't do my hubby and f straight away
It's a no |
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Never been an issue for us. Im the one that meets other people (female), while V stays home.
He loves the thought of sharing me & I just love having sex.
Emotions have never come into it as its just physical for me & plus V is an incredible man anyway, so no-ones going to be able to come between us  x |
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"What if one is not sure of something
So mf couple
Male and female no issues with either doing anything with male
But female is unsure of hubby with a female
How to overcome it
We always say that we do what the person who is unsure wants. What is she unsure about?
Unfortunately if you say to another couple
That the only thing you have not done is hubby and another female
It's a no go
Perhaps meeting up and if you get along start with what everyone is happy with
And build up
But does not seem to be ok
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I can kind of understand that though, someone will get left out at some point.
Have you considered same room play where you stick to your own partners or trying to meet couples where both guys are happy to watch the women play then have sex with their own partner? |
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"Really easy for us as swinging is an addition to our lifestyle but we are committed to each other."
couldn't have explained it better. X we obviously have good friends that we are close to but it's nothing like feelings x
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"What if one is not sure of something
So mf couple
Male and female no issues with either doing anything with male
But female is unsure of hubby with a female
How to overcome it"
Our rule is what is a no for one, is a no for us both.
C x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What if one is not sure of something
So mf couple
Male and female no issues with either doing anything with male
But female is unsure of hubby with a female
How to overcome it
We always say that we do what the person who is unsure wants. What is she unsure about?
Unfortunately if you say to another couple
That the only thing you have not done is hubby and another female
It's a no go
Perhaps meeting up and if you get along start with what everyone is happy with
And build up
But does not seem to be ok
I can kind of understand that though, someone will get left out at some point.
Have you considered same room play where you stick to your own partners or trying to meet couples where both guys are happy to watch the women play then have sex with their own partner?"
Not really
We met a couple
All same room
FF mm the our own partners
Round 2 we done some extra fun because I felt comfortable
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