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What’s the whole ‘mistress’ ‘dominatrix’ kink about which submissive men are into
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Giving up control
To find a dominant woman is a rare thing
Always been the Dominant one taking the lead role etc
But love the idea of my Mistress using me
Taking what she needs sexually
To give her joy would be the sexiest thing ever |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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Personally a massive turn on for me. Being a massive pleaser of women, not a lot that I'd not do. I love it when the power dynamic is in the woman's favor.  |
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By *lowhands7Man 34 weeks ago
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Some of it is escapism, something completely different from your normal day. Being told what to do, the anticipation of it, giving yourself over to someone else and the vulnerability of it. The different aspects of it, sensory, pain, humiliation etc |
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I'm more naturally a sub but met a Dom who was exploring his "switch" side.
So we talked about it a lot and I now enjoy being his Dom. All discussed and consensual.
For example, I tie him up and blind fold him. Arranged one of my regulars to come over. My switch could hear me answering the door. His cock is rock hard by now. I fluff my FB and get him to fuck my Switch.
Happy ending all round... |
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By *abrina59TV/TS 34 weeks ago
moved to cuckold land |
Sabrina had a mistress at one time & it was one of the best times I've had.
She was amazing, always talked to me finding out what I wanted & needed but pushed me at times introduced me to things I never thought possible
I also discovered my capacity to accept & enjoy pain
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Personally for me alot of it is the feeling of having no control over what im allowed to do and trying to please my owner. Then theres the punishments, which i find a huge turn on too im sure theres other reasons why i find it attractive that i am yet to discover but its mainly knowing im owned and having to do tasks for my owner and the thought of being punished for not being good or carrying out tasks wrong |
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"I’m dabbling a little bit and finding more of my dominatrix side. Wondering if men can enlighten me what you like about it all x"
The power exchange, doing a you are told to please others give such a high, pushing your boundaries to please |
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I think that for the sub, abnegation of control can ironically be freeing.
Personally, I found that I LOVE flogging and whilst check-ins and safewords are important, I feel like there is pleasure for any sub who just relaxes into it.
But this is more a hypothesis than a theory. |
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It’s the act if giving total control to a confident woman.
The act of pleasing her pleases the sub, and the more she pushes the boundaries the more trust builds and the deeper the pleasure becomes |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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I have done quite a few domenetrix classes for hen parties, as more ladies seem to be interested in the classes over life drawing parties, I personally love cfnm (clothed female naked male), ballbusting amongst other things, but suppose it's the power control more than anything x |
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By *irsSubCouple 34 weeks ago
Darlington |
For me it's about the loss of control. There is nothing sexier than a confident dominant woman. The word Dominatrix can many thing to many people, but the element of superiority is the common thread in my view. |
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For me it's the humiliation side.
The lack of control, being used as a toy for her amusement and occasionally being forced into doing things you wouldn't normally want to in places you also wouldn't want to! |
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I'm new to being submissive having explored it a few times with a partner. I find it's a turn on to not be in control, to be used as desired.like anything its probably a spectrum and I've not gotten into more advanced sub activities, but I do find it intriguing and arousing to be told and do as desired. |
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By *agusMan 34 weeks ago
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I love the thrill of being tied up, the hope that a Mistress is going to take me out my comfort zone, the feeling the next day of tortured nipples or whipped sore butt. It's a power thing too, obeying and not letting them down. |
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By *omm05Man 34 weeks ago
Manchester |
"For me it's about the loss of control. There is nothing sexier than a confident dominant woman. The word Dominatrix can many thing to many people, but the element of superiority is the common thread in my view. "
So true, agree with this  |
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There will be many different subs of differing levels of desires and play.
It’s not something any one group of men wil be able to tell you.
At kink events we will see all kinds of play, from sensory, impact, rope, wax, sadists, pleasure Dom’s, masochists etc.
It really isn’t a one size fits all answer.
My advice would be to find out as a dominatrix what you enjoy and explore that further.
I (Mr) identify as a pleasure dom, I do it for Ms pleasure and she enjoys the power exchange. She enjoys impact, sensory and rope submission. But in reality she is in control, I won’t ever go further than she wants.
I enjoy the control of her pleasure that I have in these scenes. I wouldn’t say I actually enjoy inflicting the pain, but I enjoy watching her respond to it. |
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For me it balances me, day to day, I’m the one everyone looks to for decisions and protection and I take that responsibility to my core.
When we are playing ( sometimes enhanced) I give all control and decisions to my wife for those few hours, I suppress the protection side but it’s never for from a switch back to day to day if the situation needed it. Even a little humiliation as again not something I would or anyone would try day to day.
For us it’s not cuck but handing control over, which then refills my cup day to day |
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"I’m dabbling a little bit and finding more of my dominatrix side. Wondering if men can enlighten me what you like about it all x"
For me, it is all about losing the feeling of control. I have a lifestyle where I have a lot of tight deadlines and the like. It feels like I know exactly what happens and when.
Femdom turns that on its head. As a simple example, when I masturbate then I kinda know what I do, every time, and what will happen next. It feels good, obv, but is predictable. When I have a lady telling me how to do it, then there is a novelty and randomness that is just better. I cum harder and it is extra special.
Being out of control is liberating, but it should also be fun for both parties. Although I do think that some ladies just love to hit my balls with elastic bands etc... |
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"My hubby wants to visit a mistress/dominatrix!
I’d love to watch how she does it all so I can pick up some tips and practice them thereafter on him"
I hope that you go through with this. A good Mistress will welcome you in and teach you some of the basic stuff. Pain and pleasure are so closely related, and flicking from one to the other is what a good Mistress can achieve and this will send him crazy |
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"Some of it is escapism, something completely different from your normal day. Being told what to do, the anticipation of it, giving yourself over to someone else and the vulnerability of it. The different aspects of it, sensory, pain, humiliation etc"
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"one of my best friends does this in brum but she sells the service she had made a very good earning from it
Ohhh sounds intriguing "
I am really thinking about doing it “professionally” it’s amazing how many men want to be dominated by a woman. It would be a win for me I get paid but also satisfy myself as I love the power |
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I find assertive women attractive which is a big part of it. I'm also very switchy but have always ended up being the dominant one in bed so much more interested in experiencing the reverse now.
I've also always prioritised my partners during sex so a big appeal is just having someone else in charge and being the centre of attention for a change. |
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"one of my best friends does this in brum but she sells the service she had made a very good earning from it
Ohhh sounds intriguing
I am really thinking about doing it “professionally” it’s amazing how many men want to be dominated by a woman. It would be a win for me I get paid but also satisfy myself as I love the power"
Oh wow, love the profile pics and I would sign up for some management courses with you, lol |
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For me theres men, who are naturally submissive and those that just see it as a bit of occasional role play. For me I class myself as naturally submissive . I couldn't Dom or switch if I tried. Im not into BDSM I just enjoy and feel more comfortable pleasing and doing what Im told by a Woman.You don't have to be a Domme or bossy, you just have to enjoy the feeling of control. Most subs will have limits and you should discuss these first before engaging in any kind of play, but, You Ladies really should try it, either as a bit of role play with your partner or find yourself a nice sub,
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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"I’m dabbling a little bit and finding more of my dominatrix side. Wondering if men can enlighten me what you like about it all x"
for me it's all about the power a Dominant Lady holds over Me not sexual. To be kept in chastity and only allowed orgasm when she deems fit xx
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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"I’m dabbling a little bit and finding more of my dominatrix side. Wondering if men can enlighten me what you like about it all x for me it's all about the power a Dominant Lady holds over Me not sexual. To be kept in chastity and only allowed orgasm when she deems fit xx"
... and then cocked? |
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"I’m dabbling a little bit and finding more of my dominatrix side. Wondering if men can enlighten me what you like about it all x for me it's all about the power a Dominant Lady holds over Me not sexual. To be kept in chastity and only allowed orgasm when she deems fit xx"
I love masturbation management, even online. A dominant lady tells a man what to do, when, and how. His most intimate and pleasurable activity is now under her control. The guy has to be obedient and follow the instructions, obv, but a Mistress can extend his pleasure and deny or reward him depending on his behaviour.
I have done this with Mistresses, but reckon a few of the wives on here should try this out on their men, or me! |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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I'm just having a laugh (above).
Seriously (cough) (cough)... Splutter, blahahhhahaaahhh cough cough....For me personally (being a TV/femboi); the idea of a woman dominating me is the ultimate in no longer being a man. I mean... If a man's girlfriend is fucking him; then what's left lol. |
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"If i had a pound for every man that asks me on here i’d be doing quite well… So there must be a big demand for it. Im guessing simply for many a role reversal and a loss of control. "
Same, I get messages every day from subs despite clearly stating on my profile I'm not a domme |
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Personally it's the power exchange for me, at 6ft 7in tall and 16 stone I find it so sexy that I can give control over to someone significantly smaller than me, that I could easily overpower in a normal situation, to allow her to do with me as she will. I enjoy pleasing, however that may be, and have a huge praise kink for a job well done  |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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"Personally it's the power exchange for me, at 6ft 7in tall and 16 stone I find it so sexy that I can give control over to someone significantly smaller than me, that I could easily overpower in a normal situation, to allow her to do with me as she will. I enjoy pleasing, however that may be, and have a huge praise kink for a job well done "
"The real power is in having power and not using it". (Adoras words of wisdom, volume two thousand, page 7846 paragraph 5, line 4). |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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"Well I can see why, Mistress P looks like she'd be fun! "
Your first task would be to dress up in cute wittle doggy ears with tail that I put on naughty people, and you'd bark and beg for me and show me what an obedient little puppy you are... Then I'd remove my panties and play fetch with you. |
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"It’s the act if giving total control to a confident woman.
The act of pleasing her pleases the sub, and the more she pushes the boundaries the more trust builds and the deeper the pleasure becomes "
I agree with this. It also allows you to explore the relationship between pleasure and pain, as well as pushing boundaries to do things you might not do otherwise. I have had my first experiences of bi play, anal play e stim and watersports through this kind of scenario! |
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Dam, sounds so sexy, I'm game!
"Well I can see why, Mistress P looks like she'd be fun!
Your first task would be to dress up in cute wittle doggy ears with tail that I put on naughty people, and you'd bark and beg for me and show me what an obedient little puppy you are... Then I'd remove my panties and play fetch with you."
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I'm a switch, but the reason I like to be a sub is I love the control a woman has over me and to be so connected and trusting. Sometimes I can be a little lazy and I just do what my mistress wants me to do to please her. |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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"Dam, sounds so sexy, I'm game!
Well I can see why, Mistress P looks like she'd be fun!
Your first task would be to dress up in cute wittle doggy ears with tail that I put on naughty people, and you'd bark and beg for me and show me what an obedient little puppy you are... Then I'd remove my panties and play fetch with you."
MMm! |
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"A Mistress session is about someone taking control.
Not always agree before....the element of surprise is important.
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Important and incredibly erotic, but why it is important to trust your Dom/Domme |
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By (user no longer on site) 22 weeks ago
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"I’m dabbling a little bit and finding more of my dominatrix side. Wondering if men can enlighten me what you like about it all x"
for me it's all about obedience control power exchange , I'm partial to impact play cuckolding sounding long term chastity xx
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By (user no longer on site) 22 weeks ago
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"I’m dabbling a little bit and finding more of my dominatrix side. Wondering if men can enlighten me what you like about it all xfor me it's all about obedience control power exchange , I'm partial to impact play cuckolding sounding long term chastity xx"
exactly must admit a Chasitity and been a cuckhold sounds exciting
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I find the role reversal compared to my normal job to be exciting, and much more stimulating when you have no idea what to expect. Verbal online humiliation is actually very effective too, and that has surprised me |
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