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By *M316 OP Man 40 weeks ago
Dublin |
This happens to me a lot, gay/bi men continually messaging offering “BJ now” or “Cum use my mouth” and so on. Occasionally a single male page will do it!
I see other straight men complaining of it too! My question is, how is that acceptable, if a straight guy harassed a gay guy to fuck his Mrs there would be huge outcry of harassment and accusations of picking on the lbgqt community |
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"This happens to me a lot, gay/bi men continually messaging offering “BJ now” or “Cum use my mouth” and so on. Occasionally a single male page will do it!
I see other straight men complaining of it too! My question is, how is that acceptable, if a straight guy harassed a gay guy to fuck his Mrs there would be huge outcry of harassment and accusations of picking on the lbgqt community"
use your filters and block them easy as that |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"This happens to me a lot, gay/bi men continually messaging offering “BJ now” or “Cum use my mouth” and so on. Occasionally a single male page will do it!
I see other straight men complaining of it too! My question is, how is that acceptable, if a straight guy harassed a gay guy to fuck his Mrs there would be huge outcry of harassment and accusations of picking on the lbgqt community"
Yet you don’t block them from messaging 🤷♀️ |
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By *vaRoseWoman 40 weeks ago
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"This happens to me a lot, gay/bi men continually messaging offering “BJ now” or “Cum use my mouth” and so on. Occasionally a single male page will do it!
I see other straight men complaining of it too! My question is, how is that acceptable, if a straight guy harassed a gay guy to fuck his Mrs there would be huge outcry of harassment and accusations of picking on the lbgqt community"
Ok there’s a blatant flaw there. Gay men generally don’t have a Mrs.
Fab also seems to have lots of members who use straight on their profile but in reality are much more hete exible or bi and not yet ready (or afraid of bi-phobia) and therefore amenable to MM play.
The old adage also applies, if you don’t ask you don’t get.
You have the power to take control of this. Block men from messaging you, job done, or simply ignore-delete-block anyone who does.
You mention harassment, that implies multiple messages from the same guy and if that’s the case block them. You don’t owe a reply or explanation. Just block and if it’s bad report the harassment to admin.
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By *M316 OP Man 40 weeks ago
Dublin |
Ok I could block all men, but have invites to party’s and meets from men on previous profiles. So I’d be blocking them too.
Yes they get blocked but had been just deleting.
Regardless, it’s not acceptable behaviour and I personally think if the shoe was on the other foot it would be a whole different scenario. Like some messages are begging like come on, sexual orientation doesn’t make a difference to anyone behaving correctly and definitely doesn’t give a reason for someone to loose self respect for themselves by beggin a straight man to let him suck his coxk |
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"Ok I could block all men, but have invites to party’s and meets from men on previous profiles. So I’d be blocking them too.
Yes they get blocked but had been just deleting.
Regardless, it’s not acceptable behaviour and I personally think if the shoe was on the other foot it would be a whole different scenario. Like some messages are begging like come on, sexual orientation doesn’t make a difference to anyone behaving correctly and definitely doesn’t give a reason for someone to loose self respect for themselves by beggin a straight man to let him suck his coxk"
We get a lot of straight guys messaging us, thinking they are “THE ONE” that’s going to change our mind and fuck wifey. Chill out dude, if your not going to use your message filters that’s on you, just block and delete |
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By *M316 OP Man 40 weeks ago
Dublin |
Everyone, I know I could use message filters, but I’ve chatted with men about certain things, met some with there fwb
I just think it’s a weird thing and a sign of something deeper when someone completely ignores someone’s sexual orientation because they feel like it. Straight men messaging lesbian woman would be viewed completely different |
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By *tuvyMan 40 weeks ago
bedford |
"Everyone, I know I could use message filters, but I’ve chatted with men about certain things, met some with there fwb
I just think it’s a weird thing and a sign of something deeper when someone completely ignores someone’s sexual orientation because they feel like it. Straight men messaging lesbian woman would be viewed completely different "
The amount of single straight lads in here that message me to meet their wives is insane!! |
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"Everyone, I know I could use message filters, but I’ve chatted with men about certain things, met some with there fwb
I just think it’s a weird thing and a sign of something deeper when someone completely ignores someone’s sexual orientation because they feel like it. Straight men messaging lesbian woman would be viewed completely different "
I didn’t say to use filters, I said if you don’t use them that’s on you.
What about the straight men messaging us? Doesn’t bother me, I just delete and block. |
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I imagine it must be a pain the ass, gay guys pestering you.
Just state you're only into hetro sex at the top of your profile and not into gay activities whatsoever and you definitely don't want a penis coming anywhere near your mouth or ass. That should do the trick. |
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No different to men harassing women whose profiles explain they don't seek guys. Single guys harassing people not seeking that demographic, couples not respecting boundaries, bi women who aren't bi, straight men who suck cock etc etc.
It would be wonderful if everyone respected each others likes and limitations, but on this site, and in life, there are people only interested in Thier own agenda |
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By *AYENCouple 40 weeks ago
Lincolnshire |
You can complain all you want but things won't change unless you take action. Most on here could complain about some level of 'abuse' - we ask that Flashers don't contact us, some still do - but you have to accept that Fab attracts all types and learn to deal with them. K. |
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OP, there is a lot of people on here (men in particular but not only) who are allergic to reading profiles. They cast large nests hoping that they'd catch something. I understand why you don't want to block men from messaging you, so just ignore and delete? Though as a tip, if you have already been speaking to someone, and then you put your filters up to block their gender from messaging you, those people can still message you. Also, you can message chosen people yourself? |
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To be honest if it’s a gay/bi guy I take it as a compliment, although obviously I reply with a thanks but no thanks and generally they leave me alone.
The thing I don’t get is all the “straight” guys that harass me!?! |
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"Everyone, I know I could use message filters, but I’ve chatted with men about certain things, met some with there fwb
I just think it’s a weird thing and a sign of something deeper when someone completely ignores someone’s sexual orientation because they feel like it. Straight men messaging lesbian woman would be viewed completely different "
It’s just fabswingers. It isn’t that serious chap. Just block users / ignore. Your a man profile you won’t be get getting that many messages each day that make it hard for you to quickly purge them. Website is full of horny cunts all wanting a punt so it’s expected mist won’t read / care about profile description
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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Tough one this. I will always try my luck and a polite no or ignored message is a clear sign. Sometimes I just chat to straight guys and we have a laugh and they like the attention. You shouldn’t have to block men a polite message on your profile saying no contact from men is enough to avoid. You aren’t responsible for the men on here who block guys and then appear on fabguys 😂. There’s one guy I’ve met who gave it a go and it’s not for him but we still chat and exchange stories but the line is very clear it’s never going to happen again. I’ve a female friend on here so I can safely say straight men are as bad! |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"I always get "straight" guys message me for fun!"
But that’s kind of my point the OP isn’t responsible for that and he’s saying he doesn’t want it. When I was younger it was harder to take no for an answer but now it’s about respecting that when someone makes it clear in their profile . In the same respect this is a swinging hook up site so unless you’ve made your boundaries clear then to a certain extent it’s going to happen.
Some straight guys in that moment are up for it and then other days they aren’t. There was an older married guy who appeared on fabguys had a good few months got it out of his system and is now only on here to meet women. That’s his choice and good for him others it’s different
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"This happens to me a lot, gay/bi men continually messaging offering “BJ now” or “Cum use my mouth” and so on. Occasionally a single male page will do it!
I see other straight men complaining of it too! My question is, how is that acceptable, if a straight guy harassed a gay guy to fuck his Mrs there would be huge outcry of harassment and accusations of picking on the lbgqt community"
Welcome to what women get, every single day, only we get it a lot more graphic, personal and directed.
Just block and move on with your day. |
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"I always get "straight" guys message me for fun!
But that’s kind of my point the OP isn’t responsible for that and he’s saying he doesn’t want it. When I was younger it was harder to take no for an answer but now it’s about respecting that when someone makes it clear in their profile . In the same respect this is a swinging hook up site so unless you’ve made your boundaries clear then to a certain extent it’s going to happen.
Some straight guys in that moment are up for it and then other days they aren’t. There was an older married guy who appeared on fabguys had a good few months got it out of his system and is now only on here to meet women. That’s his choice and good for him others it’s different
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Yeah true I just don't get why put straight on there profile, but that's just my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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Can't help but LOL at the ridiculousness of a thread about MEN harassing MEN!!
Fucking hell, the number of 'straight' guys who harass us with their bi-lies is NUTS!! ALL MEN STOP HARRASSING PEOPLE ON HERE! just a thought!! |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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Yeah true I just don't get why put straight on there profile, but that's just my opinion. "
Sexuality isn’t that simple, some are just horny and open minded so keep their options open. It’s their choice. I think it’s called “fab straight” lol.
Agreed that just respect people and accept we all have our own likes and dislikes I don’t think it should be confused with one group specifically doing it to another
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I find it quite funny that nowhere on your profile you say you are not looking for men.
You don't have the "not looking for single men" listed in the "looking for" part
Hell you even start off your profile with..
"Hey guys! Single, 30’s, respectful & eager to please!"
Maybe you should re-word it to hey ladies |
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"Everyone, I know I could use message filters, but I’ve chatted with men about certain things, met some with there fwb
I just think it’s a weird thing and a sign of something deeper when someone completely ignores someone’s sexual orientation because they feel like it. Straight men messaging lesbian woman would be viewed completely different "
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I don't think anyone's condoning people contacting others who don't match their preferences. Nobody's said it's ok.
Why does how others might or might not be treated trouble you? |
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I also get loads of messages from bi curious or gay men and all I do is message them back, saying I'm straight and wish them happy fabbing in future. No need to be angry or offended and be nasty with the reply. We're all on fab because we want to be naughty and escape the mundane of everyday life to find other like minded people to share experiences with openly and chat freely. Unlike in everyday life where anything to do with sex, fantasies, masturbating etc is frowned upon..let's keep fab in a harmoniesly and horny place. It's nice to be nice. One love fabbers. Justin xx |
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"This happens to me a lot, gay/bi men continually messaging offering “BJ now” or “Cum use my mouth” and so on. Occasionally a single male page will do it!
I see other straight men complaining of it too! My question is, how is that acceptable, if a straight guy harassed a gay guy to fuck his Mrs there would be huge outcry of harassment and accusations of picking on the lbgqt community"
Think it's par for the course on here, I get them from guys listed as straight too .🤷🏻♂️🤷🏻♂️ |
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By *tuvyMan 39 weeks ago
bedford |
"Why can't people just use their filters
Because guys invite me to house party’s with couples and Iv met a few people that Iv remained friends with a simple no of your not interested "
That’s what I do  |
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"Why can't people just use their filters
Because guys invite me to house party’s with couples and Iv met a few people that Iv remained friends with a simple no of your not interested
That’s what I do "
and a polite piss off if they won't take no for an answer 🤣🤣🤣 |
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"Why can't people just use their filters
Because guys invite me to house party’s with couples and Iv met a few people that Iv remained friends with "
The ones you've already spoken to will still be able to message even after putting the filter on |
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By *loydyMan 39 weeks ago
British |
"This happens to me a lot, gay/bi men continually messaging offering “BJ now” or “Cum use my mouth” and so on. Occasionally a single male page will do it!
I see other straight men complaining of it too! My question is, how is that acceptable, if a straight guy harassed a gay guy to fuck his Mrs there would be huge outcry of harassment and accusations of picking on the lbgqt community"
are you bragging or complaining |
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By *loydyMan 39 weeks ago
British |
"This happens to me a lot, gay/bi men continually messaging offering “BJ now” or “Cum use my mouth” and so on. Occasionally a single male page will do it!
I see other straight men complaining of it too! My question is, how is that acceptable, if a straight guy harassed a gay guy to fuck his Mrs there would be huge outcry of harassment and accusations of picking on the lbgqt community
Ok there’s a blatant flaw there. Gay men generally don’t have a Mrs.
Fab also seems to have lots of members who use straight on their profile but in reality are much more heteexible or bi and not yet ready (or afraid of bi-phobia) and therefore amenable to MM play.
The old adage also applies, if you don’t ask you don’t get.
You have the power to take control of this. Block men from messaging you, job done, or simply ignore-delete-block anyone who does.
You mention harassment, that implies multiple messages from the same guy and if that’s the case block them. You don’t owe a reply or explanation. Just block and if it’s bad report the harassment to admin.
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think he secretly likes it |
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"I imagine it must be a pain the ass, gay guys pestering you.
Just state you're only into hetro sex at the top of your profile and not into gay activities whatsoever and you definitely don't want a penis coming anywhere near your mouth or ass. That should do the trick. "
You would think that would work. But in reality it doesn’t. |
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"This happens to me a lot, gay/bi men continually messaging offering “BJ now” or “Cum use my mouth” and so on. Occasionally a single male page will do it!
I see other straight men complaining of it too! My question is, how is that acceptable, if a straight guy harassed a gay guy to fuck his Mrs there would be huge outcry of harassment and accusations of picking on the lbgqt community"
And this, is why message filters were invented! Or...
The block button. |
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It's not a gay or bi man thing it's all men who think they would "just try" "you don't try you don't get"
You are lucky you can block men. For women or men or anyone who actually likes men, we can't.
I'm unsure why the question as you have the option to block. Problem solved. |
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"Ok I could block all men, but have invites to party’s and meets from men on previous profiles. So I’d be blocking them too.
Yes they get blocked but had been just deleting.
Regardless, it’s not acceptable behaviour and I personally think if the shoe was on the other foot it would be a whole different scenario. Like some messages are begging like come on, sexual orientation doesn’t make a difference to anyone behaving correctly and definitely doesn’t give a reason for someone to loose self respect for themselves by beggin a straight man to let him suck his coxk"
Can I ask …. Do you get abusive messages sent to from them??
Trust me I can promise you the messages you might receive outweigh the nasty vile shit most of us get sent and also I get constant messages from men (not that I ever complain) and I’ve the same guys constantly messaging!
Don’t be thinking your in any way special everyone gets some form of it and as others have said …. BLOCK!!! |
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"Ok I could block all men, but have invites to party’s and meets from men on previous profiles. So I’d be blocking them too.
Yes they get blocked but had been just deleting.
Regardless, it’s not acceptable behaviour and I personally think if the shoe was on the other foot it would be a whole different scenario. Like some messages are begging like come on, sexual orientation doesn’t make a difference to anyone behaving correctly and definitely doesn’t give a reason for someone to loose self respect for themselves by beggin a straight man to let him suck his coxk
Can I ask …. Do you get abusive messages sent to from them??
Trust me I can promise you the messages you might receive outweigh the nasty vile shit most of us get sent and also I get constant messages from men (not that I ever complain) and I’ve the same guys constantly messaging!
Don’t be thinking your in any way special everyone gets some form of it and as others have said …. BLOCK!!!"
Abusive and inappropriate messages are inexcusable. Not only do we immediately block we happily share the writer’s identity with our fab friends to warn them off. |
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Yeah. It’s not on - but you have the option of blocking single guys. But as a gay sub I get as many messages and profile views on here from men wanting a hole to fuck as I do on the companion gay site. Guys wink my profile or “like” the pics, but I can’t message back as they’ve blocked single guys! |
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As a couple with a totally straight male we have the same problem, though to a lesser extent. The number of bi-guys who simply refuse to accept that there is such a thing as a totally straight male is surprising. We were happy to play with bi men as long as they promised to play straight, but so many have broken that promise by making a grab for my partner's cock that we now refuse to play with bi men. |
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"What do people think is reasonable? If a straight guy checks out my profile I’ll usually drop them a line asking if they are interested then leave it at that. A surprising number are wanting it"
I agree with this. The amount of Fab Str8 guys that are actually bi curious or bi was an eye opener to me years ago. Now, I am a equal opertunity player.  |
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Well I'm sorry to hear some bi/gay guys are so bloody ignorant to the fact that some guys are straight and really not interested in other guys full stop.
I personally would never approach a clearly straight guy. I may look at their pics and admire but never fab or contact them. |
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If guys in general were more happy to be open about who they are, that would hugely decrease. 90% of messages I get from men wanting sex, are from profiles with 'straight' on. A fair few too with 'no single men', or 'I am not interested in men'etc. It is literally impossible to know who to message in that circumstance. |
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Doesn't bother me really. I just take it as a compliment.. most get the message when I explain im straight, but to be fair, I chat to a few anyway and have a laugh talking about everything and anything. Maybe that's just me perhaps |
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"What do people think is reasonable? If a straight guy checks out my profile I’ll usually drop them a line asking if they are interested then leave it at that. A surprising number are wanting it"
No, I think that's annoying, to be honest. People look at lots of profiles for different reasons - could be something you said on a forum etc.
That said, on the OP - it's really easy to block men messaging so you need never be bothered or worse, harassed. But I've had about 4 messages today from "straight" guys so I can see why some guys take random pints. |
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By *ister_EMan 7 weeks ago
Hayling Island |
"This happens to me a lot, gay/bi men continually messaging offering “BJ now” or “Cum use my mouth” and so on. Occasionally a single male page will do it!
I see other straight men complaining of it too! My question is, how is that acceptable, if a straight guy harassed a gay guy to fuck his Mrs there would be huge outcry of harassment and accusations of picking on the lbgqt community"
Lol US Bi guys get harassed by 'straight guys' on here every day too lol.  I can't post anything on here without at least one 'straight' guy begging to suck my cock or for me to fuck them.
Suck it up or change your settings if you can't handle it lol  |
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I've never been harassed by other men on here.
In 9 years I've never had a single message from a man offering to suck my cock.
The reason I blocked men from messaging was after 3 or 4 guys decided we would be great wingmen and should team up. Rather than block them individually I just blocked them all.
I agree with the point someone made above though about how many don't understand or don't want to accept that men can be genuinely straight and have zero interest in broadening their horizons.
I've seen it said so many times in the forums that any man claiming to be straight is in denial or narrow-minded and I often wonder if they think the same is true for women?
Those are the sort of guys who would be quick to cross boundaries if the opportunity arose and they are probably angry due to the number of times they have been punched in the face.
The vast majority of fabs on my pics are from men but that doesn't bother me because I don't post them for fabs anyway.
It is funny though when a gay or bi man fabs 20 or 30 pics at once in the hope of getting my attention and then comes back a few days later and fabs all the rest. |
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"This happens to me a lot, gay/bi men continually messaging offering “BJ now” or “Cum use my mouth” and so on. Occasionally a single male page will do it!
I see other straight men complaining of it too! My question is, how is that acceptable, if a straight guy harassed a gay guy to fuck his Mrs there would be huge outcry of harassment and accusations of picking on the lbgqt community"
Just to point out that this is not welcomed by some bi and gay guys too (well me anyway) |
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