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Some profiles are so long!
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Not really one for posting on these type of post but from what I see OP it says on your profile you are wanting to connect for good conversation and mental stimulation to build up to a mutual meet but you don't want to spend 5 minutes reading a profile to see if you may be compatible with someone in order to get that. Not bashing you or anything just take a minute to think about that. |
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"Not really one for posting on these type of post but from what I see OP it says on your profile you are wanting to connect for good conversation and mental stimulation to build up to a mutual meet but you don't want to spend 5 minutes reading a profile to see if you may be compatible with someone in order to get that. Not bashing you or anything just take a minute to think about that."
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"Not really one for posting on these type of post but from what I see OP it says on your profile you are wanting to connect for good conversation and mental stimulation to build up to a mutual meet but you don't want to spend 5 minutes reading a profile to see if you may be compatible with someone in order to get that. Not bashing you or anything just take a minute to think about that."
Exactly this! If you can't be arsed to spend a few minutes reading why would anyone who clearly values communication entertain you? Same with messages, the amount of people who only just manage to cobble together a full sentence and then expect to walk straight on through. If someone can't put effort into reading or typing, I'm hardly convinced they're putting effort into giving me the ride of my life  |
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I love reading profiles it’s so fun , also if I’m interested I can quote their profile so they know I’ve made the effort to read and it’s a great conversation starter. I’ve made ours as detailed as I can while making it simple to skim through I pay more attention to those who include it like I do into their first message x |
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"I love reading profiles it’s so fun , also if I’m interested I can quote their profile so they know I’ve made the effort to read and it’s a great conversation starter. I’ve made ours as detailed as I can while making it simple to skim through I pay more attention to those who include it like I do into their first message x"
We do the same. It’s great to have something to read and get an understanding of who’s caught your eye. And we’ll always reference the things that interested us in a first message. |
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"I love reading profiles it’s so fun , also if I’m interested I can quote their profile so they know I’ve made the effort to read and it’s a great conversation starter. I’ve made ours as detailed as I can while making it simple to skim through I pay more attention to those who include it like I do into their first message x"
Agreed... If someone quotes something from my profile in their first message to me I am much more likely to reply to them |
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Why would we trust people who can't be arsed to read for 2/3 mins to be in this for anything more than their own, quick gratification.
Not willing to read a profile, or converse properly via message or in person for a social/club meet? Then not for us.
Keen on people that are still interested after they've finished their wank ideally |
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"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "
I'm happy with the length of my profile and my individual messages I send, ive had some great conversations, granted not always been successful on a physical level. But when I do meet it makes for a great experience. |
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Thanks all, some great replies, would say no need to get personal and start talking about my own profile , for those that did well you ain't anything special, regardless how detailed your profile is, it actually makes you come across as a bit of a prick, so dont get ahead of yourself thinking you can judge and put me down, we wouldnt of had this chat if I didn't post the query in the first place! So please rethink how to respond, I never respond to other forums by telling the host that they are rubbish or don't know what they are doing etc ! we all have different styles. We are all different which I respect. The replies have helped me understand a different perspective and I do appreciate that.thanks all, any more welcome too |
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"Thanks all, some great replies, would say no need to get personal and start talking about my own profile , for those that did well you ain't anything special, regardless how detailed your profile is, it actually makes you come across as a bit of a prick, so dont get ahead of yourself thinking you can judge and put me down, we wouldnt of had this chat if I didn't post the query in the first place! So please rethink how to respond, I never respond to other forums by telling the host that they are rubbish or don't know what they are doing etc ! we all have different styles. We are all different which I respect. The replies have helped me understand a different perspective and I do appreciate that.thanks all, any more welcome too"
Just like to say if my comment was taken in offence that was not my intention. I hope it wasn't. |
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Haven’t fully written up the old profile after it was temporarily taken down.
But reason for long profiles are to let people know what is and isn’t acceptable. If you send a message and clear you haven’t read it, don’t expect a reply. |
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By *eyeYCouple 20 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
Like to read a descriptive portrayal of who they are and what they like to gauge attraction as much as their pictures.
Though it would seem many have the same thoughts as OP with 'Hey' messages 🤷🤣 |
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By *AYENCouple 20 weeks ago
Lincolnshire |
"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "
Ours is on the longer side but it can be read in 3 or 4 minutes - if that seems like too much effort for someone we definitely wouldn't get on, so it acts as a great filter. |
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I don't think mine is excessive but some might think it is. I see the point of a profile as being something to read before messaging to avoid wasting anyone's time. If I get asked questions where the answers are in my profile I have been known to copy and paste the whole thing into my response. |
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We used to have a short one years ago but it gradually got longer to save time. We hoped men would read what I liked, meet rules etc etc so that there was no confusion and they wouldn’t bother messaging if they weren’t interested in our way of doing things. Afterall we took the time to read theirs.
We now have a longish one to try and accomplish this but most men don’t even read the first few lines so now their messages are simply deleted ! We get messages daily from bi guys etc which the first paragraph says I will not meet !
So yes it’s long but not even being bothered to read the first few lines and ask things already there shows complete disinterest on really wanting to meet us. But those who do take the time to read it often end up in my bed and we have a great time !
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"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "
We don't get angry if you can't be bothered to read, we just delete the messages if it's obvious you couldn't even manage a couple of minutes. Wouldn't even respond.
Its tedious repeatedly typing out the same replies to messages when the questions being asked are already answered on our profile.
It suggests to us you may not be a considerate play friend and not what we want. Scroll on by.. |
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By (user no longer on site) 20 weeks ago
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"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "
Yes. If you want to get into my knickers I expect you to make an effort. |
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If the site allowed more filters, people wouldn't need such long profile bios. You could simply filter out those who didn't meet your desires, no need for anyone to get upset about their profile not being read or their message being deleted/unread. |
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"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it?
Ours is on the longer side but it can be read in 3 or 4 minutes - if that seems like too much effort for someone we definitely wouldn't get on, so it acts as a great filter. "
Exactly this 👏 |
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I’m the other way - I’d get more excited by a profile that was detailed and informative than a bland/blank or samey profile.
Asking the things that should be in a profile anyway is boring and monotonous.
We make an effort - we’d expect our potential play partners to do that too.
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I think mine's probably a little long but I think it's important to give as much info as possible to ensure others understand me and what I'm looking for. Pointless just having a couple of lines then have people message you who don't fit with what you want. |
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By *he SmithsCouple 20 weeks ago
East Devon & London |
Our profile has been honed after many years on here in an attempt to cut down on the dross we receive. It even has a section just for single guys.
For that reason it’s longer than many but for good reason, so we can delete or block with impunity when messaged by those that like pictures but not words.
Fab is mostly a huge waste of time and our longer profile attempts to reduce that not just for us but for those that write to us.
Does it work? Perhaps. It certainly speeds up our Fabmin. |
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Virtually all my dates and socials have been on the back of women sending the first message. They all had one thing in common: they remarked that they appreciated the detail in my profile because it was markedly different to the daily humdrum of cock photos and blag one-liners that they often found in most profiles.
My profile serves its purpose: I'm not looking for lazy women who are too vacuous that they can only handle a cock but not handle more than one sentence when it comes to reading. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 20 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "
I expect mine to be read by anyone that can be bothered.
If they can't, it's a useful filter. 🤷♂️
Same on the couples profile. It's literally a couple of minutes max after all. |
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"Virtually all my dates and socials have been on the back of women sending the first message. They all had one thing in common: they remarked that they appreciated the detail in my profile because it was markedly different to the daily humdrum of cock photos and blag one-liners that they often found in most profiles.
My profile serves its purpose: I'm not looking for lazy women who are too vacuous that they can only handle a cock but not handle more than one sentence when it comes to reading."
It is an excellent profile. Great camera work  |
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"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "
Our profile is long.. but it takes less than a minute to read... we have also put the main points at the top..
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"Virtually all my dates and socials have been on the back of women sending the first message. They all had one thing in common: they remarked that they appreciated the detail in my profile because it was markedly different to the daily humdrum of cock photos and blag one-liners that they often found in most profiles.
My profile serves its purpose: I'm not looking for lazy women who are too vacuous that they can only handle a cock but not handle more than one sentence when it comes to reading.
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It is an excellent profile. Great camera work "
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"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? Our profile is long.. but it takes less than a minute to read... we have also put the main points at the top.. "
As have we and they still don’t bother reading ! |
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"I can well understand a woman wanting to spell out exactly what they do and don't want, as the amount of messages they get must be insane. Personally, if they are humorous, then it's a good read."
It's very helpful.
Me: this is something I never do
Message: I really love something you never do
You can see why that's easy. |
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To misquote the old phrase about eyes, your profile is a window to your soul. A few lines can give you an insight but with no real depth, perhaps enough to lead you to think "no" but not enough to say "yes".
I've read a number of long profiles and come to lines which then rule me out as someone they would be looking for - saving us both wasting time. Others may look at them as too long and not bother, with the same result of no message being sent. Perhaps then longer profiles receive a higher percentage of "useful" messages.
Who knows. Like food and music, you'll choose what you like and ignore the others. |
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"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "
Most guys are incapable of reading a couple of sentences, so yes there’s no point in writing one as you say. If you can’t be bothered to spend a few minutes reading what folks have taken the time and trouble to write, then it’s a clear indicator that you’re not worth bothering with. |
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By *aldboroMan 20 weeks ago
Leicestershire/Warwickshire Border |
Mine is long, but by design.
It tells people the key things about me and what I'm looking for.
I think that gives me the best opportunity of talking to people with whom I have a chance of being compatible.
Yes it might rule some out, but I reckon those would have fallen by the wayside eventually, so better to not start a conversation if you aren't going to get along.
When reading a profile I much prefer to see some detail. Otherwise what are you deciding on? |
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By *ooLou89Woman 20 weeks ago
Nottinghamshire |
I mean mines turned into an essay… or rather one long rant 🤦🏼♀️😂 but I guess the purpose is to avoid wasting my time or someone else’s.. do I get annoyed if it’s clear someone hasn’t read it? Not at all.. but it’s there for those who will.. people have the freedom to put what they wish in their own profile 🤷🏼♀️ |
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By *elloWoman 20 weeks ago
alpha centauri |
I love a long profile, the fun ones that is, a long profile consisting of demands or complaints is so annoying and not worth a read but a long jovial profile that makes you chuckle whilst reading makes the person a lot more attractive  |
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By *bi HaiveMan 20 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
I don't get annoyed when people don't read the profile and send a message when they're completely incompatible, which would be obvious if they had read it (yes, that's you single guys). Those messages are easy to delete after all.
The only time I do get slihhtly irritated is when I get mail asking me to solve site issues because I'm a mod. Which, had they read the profile, would never have been sent because they'd have seen that I can't. 🤷♂️
Getting annoyed because someone doesn't read a profile is pointless, when there's perfectly good delete and block buttons available. 😁 |
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"I don't get annoyed when people don't read the profile and send a message when they're completely incompatible, which would be obvious if they had read it (yes, that's you single guys). Those messages are easy to delete after all.
The only time I do get slihhtly irritated is when I get mail asking me to solve site issues because I'm a mod. Which, had they read the profile, would never have been sent because they'd have seen that I can't. 🤷♂️
Getting annoyed because someone doesn't read a profile is pointless, when there's perfectly good delete and block buttons available. 😁"
I find it annoying, *and* I delete/block. Not mutually exclusive  |
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By *bi HaiveMan 20 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I don't get annoyed when people don't read the profile and send a message when they're completely incompatible, which would be obvious if they had read it (yes, that's you single guys). Those messages are easy to delete after all.
The only time I do get slihhtly irritated is when I get mail asking me to solve site issues because I'm a mod. Which, had they read the profile, would never have been sent because they'd have seen that I can't. 🤷♂️
Getting annoyed because someone doesn't read a profile is pointless, when there's perfectly good delete and block buttons available. 😁
I find it annoying, *and* I delete/block. Not mutually exclusive "
I could find it annoying. I used to. But then I remembered some people wouldn't read a warning label on a bottle and then would moan that it killed them when they drank it.
Not reading my profile is a 'them' problem, more than it's a 'me' problem. I did my bit. I wrote it. The clues are there. If they can't go all 'Scooby Doo gang' and work them out then hey.......🤷♂️ |
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"I don't get annoyed when people don't read the profile and send a message when they're completely incompatible, which would be obvious if they had read it (yes, that's you single guys). Those messages are easy to delete after all.
The only time I do get slihhtly irritated is when I get mail asking me to solve site issues because I'm a mod. Which, had they read the profile, would never have been sent because they'd have seen that I can't. 🤷♂️
Getting annoyed because someone doesn't read a profile is pointless, when there's perfectly good delete and block buttons available. 😁
I find it annoying, *and* I delete/block. Not mutually exclusive
I could find it annoying. I used to. But then I remembered some people wouldn't read a warning label on a bottle and then would moan that it killed them when they drank it.
Not reading my profile is a 'them' problem, more than it's a 'me' problem. I did my bit. I wrote it. The clues are there. If they can't go all 'Scooby Doo gang' and work them out then hey.......🤷♂️"
Oh absolutely. We're 95% in agreement |
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"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "
Mine is long for some, not for others. Do I expect people to read it? If they want me to interact with them then yes. If they don’t read it then this will likely be clear in a message which I will then delete. Works for me😁 |
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"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it?
Mine is long for some, not for others. Do I expect people to read it? If they want me to interact with them then yes. If they don’t read it then this will likely be clear in a message which I will then delete. Works for me😁"
Amazing isn’t it. I would like to meet you, maybe even have sex with you, but don’t expect me to read your words because that’s just too much… sometimes the world seems so back to front it’s hard to know whether you’re coming or going. |
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if you cantbe bothered to read it then dont read it see to me men who cant be bothered to read a simple profile wont have the attention span for in the bedroom either.
me on here for me those that dont wantto read then that the perfect filter for me and a boring fuck avoided |
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"Lots of angry profiles on Fab. Always a turn off"
This is an acute, insightful comment actually - some profiles do sound quite jaundiced and a bit legalese.
I can understand why some may get that like that after negative experiences, but boy is it a mood killer.
But as others have said already, if it doesn’t vibe, move on. |
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By *rs GGWoman 7 weeks ago
Middlesbrough |
"I love reading profiles it’s so fun , also if I’m interested I can quote their profile so they know I’ve made the effort to read and it’s a great conversation starter. I’ve made ours as detailed as I can while making it simple to skim through I pay more attention to those who include it like I do into their first message x"
Your profile is very fun to read x |
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Well mine us a bit of an essay, but if my experiences are anything to go by, most people I've met have concluded that a guy who has a good command of the English language, and can string to sentences together, is likely to be far more interesting company than all the one line wonders on here put together. So as it's working, I won't be mending it. |
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I just scroll to the end at first. If there's a serious copypasta "Sydney University" disclaimer there I'm unlikely to bother reading anything else.
However, if there's a parodic Sydney University disclaimer a wink or message may be sent. |
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I write a fairly long profile. If they can't be bothered to read it that's their issue. If they then ask me a question that I've already written in my profile I'm not in the habit of repeating myself. |
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Mine varies from long to short... usually goes short to state not meeting etc...
usually its long because i am always adding stuff to it... but for the most part taking the 5 mins reading it... will save the time it takes to send me a message and me deleting it (or replying not thanks)... xx |
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I have a long profile as I've been here a long time and know what I want and what I don't.
If you don't read my profile and message me it is often very clear you haven't bothered. So you will either get told to read it, get ignored or get deleted depending on my mood and tolerance at that time.
Reading a profile helps you work out if you will be compatible with said person.
Why not save your time and theirs by reading it first. |
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By *aciamiCouple 7 weeks ago
Hertfordshire |
"I have a long profile as I've been here a long time and know what I want and what I don't.
If you don't read my profile and message me it is often very clear you haven't bothered. So you will either get told to read it, get ignored or get deleted depending on my mood and tolerance at that time.
Reading a profile helps you work out if you will be compatible with said person.
Why not save your time and theirs by reading it first. "
This!
So true. We don't think ours is excessively long, but does detail what we are about and into. Not everyone on here is after the same thing. |
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By *ezandCCouple 7 weeks ago
Telford |
We ended up blocking all men as most couldn’t even read the first line saying no single men.
We still get it sometimes with couples, chatting away then they go quiet when we say kez doesn’t want to interact with other men, we have made it very clear on our profile.
Seems like a decent thing to do, if you want to spend intimate time with people at least read a bit of text. |
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"I love a long profile, the fun ones that is, a long profile consisting of demands or complaints is so annoying and not worth a read but a long jovial profile that makes you chuckle whilst reading makes the person a lot more attractive "
This! There is a difference. Someone mentioned that there's a lot of angry bios out there and as a newbie I have to agree. Some are like reading a contract, or a list of complaints, they don't project a welcoming image frankly. |
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"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "
Their profile so their choice. While some may be on long side id rather that than a blank profile all day every day. |
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Our profile is very long and very detailed, over the years we have had to add to it, if we get a message that shows a guy hasn’t read it then we send a copy and paste message out asking them to read our profile as it tells guys exactly what we offer and what our boundaries are, if a guy can’t spend 5 mins reading our profile then we aren’t interested in meeting them.
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"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "
I think people who can't be arsed to read it but expect me to bother reading their message are silly.
I don't get angry about it. They just go in the bin.
If you're not interested enough to read the profile just move on and find shorter profiles 💜 |
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"Not really one for posting on these type of post but from what I see OP it says on your profile you are wanting to connect for good conversation and mental stimulation to build up to a mutual meet but you don't want to spend 5 minutes reading a profile to see if you may be compatible with someone in order to get that. Not bashing you or anything just take a minute to think about that."
Good positive feedback.
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Ours is lengthy but not that lengthy that someone would have to scroll and states honestly and clearly what we want and don't want..As per many comments,if you can't be arsed to read it but you'd like to have sex with us it's not the greatest start x |
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Profiles should be as long as you want/need them to be.
We always read them..but..the ones that irk us,are the ones that say,"start your reply with a certain word,so we know you've read all the profile."
What's that all about?
The entrance exam to get into MI5?
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I actually enjoy reading long profiles as that helps me determine whether it would be a waste of time messaging them or not based on what their preferences are in the description.
What puts me off are the aggressive profile descriptions, like using caps lock on different parts of the descriptions “ABSOLUTELY NO BEARDS!!!1!1!!1!” “ YOU MUST DO THIS” “YOU MUST ABSOLUTELY NOT DO THAT!!!” “ “YOU WILL BE INSTANTLY BLOCKED!!!” like relax dude fucking hell
That’s the kind of language that puts me off, just makes you seem so unfriendly and unapproachable. |
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"I actually enjoy reading long profiles as that helps me determine whether it would be a waste of time messaging them or not based on what their preferences are in the description.
What puts me off are the aggressive profile descriptions, like using caps lock on different parts of the descriptions “ABSOLUTELY NO BEARDS!!!1!1!!1!” “ YOU MUST DO THIS” “YOU MUST ABSOLUTELY NOT DO THAT!!!” “ “YOU WILL BE INSTANTLY BLOCKED!!!” like relax dude fucking hell
That’s the kind of language that puts me off, just makes you seem so unfriendly and unapproachable. "
I think that comes from so few people reading a profile that they write important parts of the profile in caps so it gets seen,
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Long profiles are good to read. It's an indication of how self-centred, boring or entertaining the owner may be.
If at the end they have the meaningless Sydney university rubbish or the EU nonsense then that is also a good indicator of how much of a sheep the writer of the profile is. |
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"Do people really expect us to read an essay of a profile and then get angry id we didn't read it? "
Nothing is imposed on you by anyone. You are totally at liberty to select and filter profiles, as you want to. You have tens of thousands of people here, so rest easy |
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Unpopular opinion but I guess you want the lingerie in pictures, hair done, make up on, outfit nice, smelling nice when you meet a lady. That takes effort... If you can't put the effort into reading a profile then why would we wish to meet a guy who doesn't reciprocating.
Also, if bit of lite reading is to strenuous for you, I can only imagine what the sex would be like. |
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By *hechonkyduoCouple 2 weeks ago
Alphabet Mafia HQ, Dudleyish. |
"I actually enjoy reading long profiles as that helps me determine whether it would be a waste of time messaging them or not based on what their preferences are in the description.
What puts me off are the aggressive profile descriptions, like using caps lock on different parts of the descriptions “ABSOLUTELY NO BEARDS!!!1!1!!1!” “ YOU MUST DO THIS” “YOU MUST ABSOLUTELY NOT DO THAT!!!” “ “YOU WILL BE INSTANTLY BLOCKED!!!” like relax dude fucking hell
That’s the kind of language that puts me off, just makes you seem so unfriendly and unapproachable. "
Well we cant put it in bold dude and its a pretty important information. |
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"I actually enjoy reading long profiles as that helps me determine whether it would be a waste of time messaging them or not based on what their preferences are in the description.
What puts me off are the aggressive profile descriptions, like using caps lock on different parts of the descriptions “ABSOLUTELY NO BEARDS!!!1!1!!1!” “ YOU MUST DO THIS” “YOU MUST ABSOLUTELY NOT DO THAT!!!” “ “YOU WILL BE INSTANTLY BLOCKED!!!” like relax dude fucking hell
That’s the kind of language that puts me off, just makes you seem so unfriendly and unapproachable. "
Some profiles you read just make you want to back away slowly and close down the app! |
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It really doesn't take long to read a profile of someone you may have interest in.
We have so many messages saying just hi, or _ello its ridiculous.
We make it clear we will not respond to these messages and it just proves some people are just after a quick fix rather than a connection. Which is fine, but read the profile first. |
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"It really doesn't take long to read a profile of someone you may have interest in.
We have so many messages saying just hi, or _ello its ridiculous.
We make it clear we will not respond to these messages and it just proves some people are just after a quick fix rather than a connection. Which is fine, but read the profile first. "
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We quite often get comments that ours is an epic/far too long/etc…but then each to their own. We wanted to give people a ‘feel’ (pun intended!) for the kind of people we are (and hence avoid wasting time by only later finding we’re not what someone is looking for after extended messaging, whilst hopefully raising a chuckle at the same time - life is short folks !).
We often find people don’t even read the first paragraph or two (based on what they say or message)…and we’d ignore such people. We want to like and get on with those we might drink or play with, and that takes a little investment…
Some want different things - life would be boring if we were all the same…but we can all respect each others choices and approaches even if not necessarily agree… |
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"We quite often get comments that ours is an epic/far too long/etc…but then each to their own. We wanted to give people a ‘feel’ (pun intended!) for the kind of people we are (and hence avoid wasting time by only later finding we’re not what someone is looking for after extended messaging, whilst hopefully raising a chuckle at the same time - life is short folks !).
We often find people don’t even read the first paragraph or two (based on what they say or message)…and we’d ignore such people. We want to like and get on with those we might drink or play with, and that takes a little investment…
Some want different things - life would be boring if we were all the same…but we can all respect each others choices and approaches even if not necessarily agree…"
I think it's a good profile it tells people what you're looking for and your boundaries if someone can't be bothered to read a bit that's their problem |
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"We quite often get comments that ours is an epic/far too long/etc…but then each to their own. We wanted to give people a ‘feel’ (pun intended!) for the kind of people we are (and hence avoid wasting time by only later finding we’re not what someone is looking for after extended messaging, whilst hopefully raising a chuckle at the same time - life is short folks !).
We often find people don’t even read the first paragraph or two (based on what they say or message)…and we’d ignore such people. We want to like and get on with those we might drink or play with, and that takes a little investment…
Some want different things - life would be boring if we were all the same…but we can all respect each others choices and approaches even if not necessarily agree…
I think it's a good profile it tells people what you're looking for and your boundaries if someone can't be bothered to read a bit that's their problem "
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By *avstarTV/TS 2 weeks ago
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"My profile is deliberately detailed to avoid being asked the same kind of questions over and over again.
It hasn't always worked sadly. "
I don't think mine is particularly long, but i've tried to use my profile for the same purpose. I haven't been able to meet for a little while, so i made it literally the first line of my profile but even that's a step too far for some people apparently! |
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"Not really one for posting on these type of post but from what I see OP it says on your profile you are wanting to connect for good conversation and mental stimulation to build up to a mutual meet but you don't want to spend 5 minutes reading a profile to see if you may be compatible with someone in order to get that. Not bashing you or anything just take a minute to think about that."
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Prefer a proper bio. If there is enough information you can use it to start a good conversation with someone.
Some of us prefer to make a connection, which is hard to do when the bio says "will fill in later". |
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Mine is long. I’ve tried to cut it down and make it easier to read but this is the best I can get to at this point in time.
From my perspective, it’s a filter for those who take the time to read and can make an informed decision about whether we are compatible or not.
It’s great when people have read it, it’s easy to tell when you receive the message and that usually means that there’s a very good chance that you’ve found people who are on the same page as you with similar interests. For me, it works, purely for that reason.
If people cant be bothered to read and click off to look elsewhere then no harm done in my world. I see it as a blessing in disguise.
It’s really easy to Identify the people who haven’t read and are chancers when they message. That doesn’t upset me or annoy me, I’m flattered by the interest but I don’t waste their time or my own where we are not on the same page or don’t have matching interests. I just delete the message and carry on scrolling on here |
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A long profile not only gives a detailed description of the person/couple but also of their wishes and desires. After all we are here for mutual satisfaction and not just some online sex toy for instant gratification. You could say a long profile is a test ... to see how much effort and attention you are going to pay to a conversation, meet etc. |
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