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Quality over quantity?
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Me and my partner have been swinging now for about 8 years. We always said from the start that we'd prefer that one fwbs over multiple partners. However, we've found it very hard to keep one guy entertained as they always want
to find the next new shag.
What would keep you focused on just one couple? Or is this just how it is, do guys and girls always prefer someone new over a regular?
Maybe, it's just us being selfish and wanting one person to ourselves lol.. what do couples think about this situation?
*Just for context we're not suggesting like a third person to be with forever. This is a swingers site after all. But a few month's would be nice or until someone is ready for a change. With STI testing and sexual health being very important, having that regular person even just for the short term could be so much more fun rather than just constant one offs. |
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"I think it's unrealistic to expect a single person to be exclusive to you. "
Not exclusive but it opens up more opportunities right and feels a bit safer, health wise.? Going from person to person feels a bad doesn't it?
No judging by the way just trying to get people's thoughts really. |
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It's different for everyone. But for me, I very much prefer the long term friendship choice... And although never requested...being exclusive does present other benefits...for as long as it lasts...as does friendship. |
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"Me and my partner have been swinging now for about 8 years. We always said from the start that we'd prefer that one fwbs over multiple partners. However, we've found it very hard to keep one guy entertained as they always want
to find the next new shag.
What would keep you focused on just one couple? Or is this just how it is, do guys and girls always prefer someone new over a regular?
Maybe, it's just us being selfish and wanting one person to ourselves lol.. what do couples think about this situation?
*Just for context we're not suggesting like a third person to be with forever. This is a swingers site after all. But a few month's would be nice or until someone is ready for a change. With STI testing and sexual health being very important, having that regular person even just for the short term could be so much more fun rather than just constant one offs. "
Definitely we want quality over quantity too. Finding a regular bi couple or guy would be perfect for us. |
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I think it's the same whether you are talking about singles or couples. Some like the variety of multiple partners, some prefer the consistency and sexual safety of a close circle. Just be clear what you are after in your communications. Must admit, it does seem strange that you are finding it so difficult. The amount of single men on the forums complaining about never getting replies/meets etc I would have thought they would love to have a regular meet. |
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"What would keep you focused on just one couple?"
The scenario you seek, is exactly what I'm after, ideally with a local couple.
I've had this 'arrangement' twice previously and while I've done a ton of other stuff over the years, for me, getting to really know a couple (so you are all having sex with trusted friends) is ultimately way more satisfying than bedpost notches. 
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"I think it's unrealistic to expect a single person to be exclusive to you.
Not exclusive but it opens up more opportunities right and feels a bit safer, health wise.? Going from person to person feels a bad doesn't it?
No judging by the way just trying to get people's thoughts really. "
Oh ok.
Our ideal would have been two or three guys we formed a friendship with and saw semi regularly and no questions asked about what they got up to otherwise.
We never managed to find it.
We have been from person to person previously, it was kind of unavoidable really because you can't tell if you're going to get on with someone until you've met them.
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"It's different for everyone. But for me, I very much prefer the long term friendship choice... And although never requested...being exclusive does present other benefits...for as long as it lasts...as does friendship. "
Absolutely agree with with you! |
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"Me and my partner have been swinging now for about 8 years. We always said from the start that we'd prefer that one fwbs over multiple partners. However, we've found it very hard to keep one guy entertained as they always want
to find the next new shag.
What would keep you focused on just one couple? Or is this just how it is, do guys and girls always prefer someone new over a regular?
Maybe, it's just us being selfish and wanting one person to ourselves lol.. what do couples think about this situation?
*Just for context we're not suggesting like a third person to be with forever. This is a swingers site after all. But a few month's would be nice or until someone is ready for a change. With STI testing and sexual health being very important, having that regular person even just for the short term could be so much more fun rather than just constant one offs.
Definitely we want quality over quantity too. Finding a regular bi couple or guy would be perfect for us."
Have you had any luck in that aspect? We've really struggled. |
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"I think it's the same whether you are talking about singles or couples. Some like the variety of multiple partners, some prefer the consistency and sexual safety of a close circle. Just be clear what you are after in your communications. Must admit, it does seem strange that you are finding it so difficult. The amount of single men on the forums complaining about never getting replies/meets etc I would have thought they would love to have a regular meet."
We get loads of messages but it just seems so hard to keep one person interested for any amount of time before they are off looking for something new. |
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We always focus on meeting couples with the hope it turns into a regular think.....friendship and fucking.
Couples that prefer new people each time....thats just not for us.
Its unbelievably hard to find.....were still looking lol.
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"What would keep you focused on just one couple?
The scenario you seek, is exactly what I'm after, ideally with a local couple.
I've had this 'arrangement' twice previously and while I've done a ton of other stuff over the years, for me, getting to really know a couple (so you are all having sex with trusted friends) is ultimately way more satisfying than bedpost notches.
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"I think it's unrealistic to expect a single person to be exclusive to you.
Not exclusive but it opens up more opportunities right and feels a bit safer, health wise.? Going from person to person feels a bad doesn't it?
No judging by the way just trying to get people's thoughts really.
Oh ok.
Our ideal would have been two or three guys we formed a friendship with and saw semi regularly and no questions asked about what they got up to otherwise.
We never managed to find it.
We have been from person to person previously, it was kind of unavoidable really because you can't tell if you're going to get on with someone until you've met them.
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Thanks for the response. This tillie of situation would be fine.. if we could ever find it lol |
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"We have very rarely met the same person or couple again although stayed friends we like the fun of meeting someone new "
That's totally understandable. Just feels like we are missing something by not having that one regular friend |
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"We always focus on meeting couples with the hope it turns into a regular think.....friendship and fucking.
Couples that prefer new people each time....thats just not for us.
Its unbelievably hard to find.....were still looking lol.
Mr. "
Absolutely agree, it's so hard to find. |
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I think this is just about honesty and appreciation. We have found guys who have amazing skills or features and we just tell them that and make them feel that what they do works for us. We don't expect to be their one and only but it always means we are never left on read. Lx |
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We have a few men that jion us, each gives us something different. There is always the possibility something new with new people but what we are looking for is a trusted one or two couples that we can fuck bb with. Yes there is something about on going relationships that is different from new, new, new. |
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"We have a few men that jion us, each gives us something different. There is always the possibility something new with new people but what we are looking for is a trusted one or two couples that we can fuck bb with. Yes there is something about on going relationships that is different from new, new, new."
Exactly this! |
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"It's different for everyone. But for me, I very much prefer the long term friendship choice... And although never requested...being exclusive does present other benefits...for as long as it lasts...as does friendship.
Absolutely agree with with you! "
I also don't necessarily think it's quality over quantity... I'm sure we've had meets where it's been amazing "quality" and the for whatever reason not been able to repeat it. I think it's more to do with the additional or different "qualities" being in a regular friendship has and the additional scenarios that can bring to everyone involved. |
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"It's different for everyone. But for me, I very much prefer the long term friendship choice... And although never requested...being exclusive does present other benefits...for as long as it lasts...as does friendship.
Absolutely agree with with you!
I also don't necessarily think it's quality over quantity... I'm sure we've had meets where it's been amazing "quality" and the for whatever reason not been able to repeat it. I think it's more to do with the additional or different "qualities" being in a regular friendship has and the additional scenarios that can bring to everyone involved. "
It's good to find new experiences with both trusted friends and new meets. |
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"It's different for everyone. But for me, I very much prefer the long term friendship choice... And although never requested...being exclusive does present other benefits...for as long as it lasts...as does friendship.
Absolutely agree with with you!
I also don't necessarily think it's quality over quantity... I'm sure we've had meets where it's been amazing "quality" and the for whatever reason not been able to repeat it. I think it's more to do with the additional or different "qualities" being in a regular friendship has and the additional scenarios that can bring to everyone involved.
It's good to find new experiences with both trusted friends and new meets."
Absolutely agree nothing better then meeting someone new for the first time. But can't help enjoying what a longer term friend can bring. Just allows so many additional opportunities that we wouldn't normally do on the first meet with someone new. |
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By *asha86Couple 19 weeks ago
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We prefer a regular rather than multiple different people. They learn how your dynamic works and how we like it. I would say i wouldn't ask someone to be exclusive to you id just say we would like to see them more often. |
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By *AYENCouple 19 weeks ago
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My wife has had an exclusive FWB for over a year now. Sometimes they have a one on one, sometimes we have an MFM.
Their birthdays are like 5 days apart so we celebrated together on Monday with an MFM followed by a meal. We all get on really well.
He's bi curious, and my wife would love to see it, so we're hoping to find another guy to bring into the mix - we met him IRL and suspect the other guy (if we're lucky enough to find one) will also come from outside of Fab, but you never know.
It's great if you can find it. K.
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"Quality every time. I was seeing the same couple every two weeks for six years - and we were still invneting new things to do. Just so good to be comfortable and know how everyone gets turned on."
Absolutely this!! |
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