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By *ezandCCouple 17 weeks ago
Telford |
Whilst I (mr) do a lot of the admin, we are her for Kez, if we have a couple of experiences as a couple with another lady but I don’t play and that’s where our fab experience ends I have no problem with that.
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We are a cuckold couple and Dee has a higher sex drive (as you can see from our verifications) which lead us into this lifestyle long term, for anything to work it has to be a mutual thing rather than an enforced one. |
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We've met couples where the woman isn't keen and where the guy isn't.
I think partners go along with it and don't actually say they aren't happy to. It's obvious to everyone but the person who really wants it. |
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I (Mrs) do the planning when it comes to meets as Mr says it’s ultimately my decision who I want to have sex with 😊 We both read and reply to messages and sometimes he will point out profiles he thinks may interest me but if I say no then we don’t pursue it any further |
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By *eeboCouple 17 weeks ago
basingstoke |
In our relationship then I brought up the topic years ago and Mrs C has been in and out in terms of wanting to enjoy more than just the fantasy.
Learnt a few things along the way and personally as the man I engage head a bit more now as well!
Similar to others, I may be more active on the profile and share a suggestion of who to look at etc but Mrs C has final say and tbh there is nothing hotter than seeing her turned on and having desire for another guy before anything that might even happen so it's the best and only way to go for us! |
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we have not gone ahead with it with any couple where we could see one of the couple wasnt up for it but it can make for a very embarrassing situation and despite my man being a gentleman the next bloke may not be so, it actually makes us both dislike the man |
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"Might be shy, did you get any further than a drink?
I would hate to think anyone was being coerced into Fabbing 
Look our for the ' how can I persuade my wife?' threads. "
You beat me to it Mrs N
There's so many I want my wife to swing, how can I set her up threads on here, I can believe some do it and aren't fully into it.
No doubt some men go along with it too for their partners, ie their partner doesn't want them playing with other women, so they meet men for 3 sums.
Ive met women on the scene who play with other men and women, yet don't want their partner to play with ladies.
Sadly some relationships can be very one sided. |
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We go through phases of who's running things so to speak
Work usually has a big bearing on who will message back first , but we're 100% in it together
We've been in that uncomfortable situation where one or the other from a couple , just isn't happy
We don't do drama , so these couples wouldn't be for us
We say we're 50/50 , but to be honest 51/49 is the best that you are gonna do , because someone always gets to have the last word ! |
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I am the one that suggested we join the lifestyle to my husband. He's not as outgoing and bubbly as me so I helped him out of his shell a little and now he's much more confident. I was only interested in having fun with Bi women though as I came out as Bi a few years ago. I knew I wanted to see him with another woman so made the suggestion and he tentatively moved forward.
I run our profile and do all the messaging. We always decide whether to meet together but I do the fabmin.
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"Reason for this post - we have met several couples for a drink and it has been quite obvious the lady didnt want to be there, why would the guy be so selfish"
Found this to be the norm over the years tbh |
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Most of the time in forums it’s me (mr) but private messages are discussed together and we both reply if it’s a woman writing it’s usually Mrs who writes the reply. I’d say we’re 50/50 but any possible meets Mrs makes the decision. As a husband that loves his wife there’s no chance I’d put her in a position that she wasn’t comfortable with and I’d like to think the majority of couples are the same |
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Definitely would never play if we didn’t feel both parties were keen.
We got chatting to a couple at a party and everything was fine - all looking to play then the lady mentioned that this would be the first time she’s played where she’s actually fancied the people as it’s usually her hubby chooses and she takes one for the team.
It put us off playing as we felt he didn’t have any respect for his wife.
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"Might be shy, did you get any further than a drink?
I would hate to think anyone was being coerced into Fabbing
Look our for the ' how can I persuade my wife?' threads.
You beat me to it Mrs N
There's so many I want my wife to swing, how can I set her up threads on here, I can believe some do it and aren't fully into it.
No doubt some men go along with it too for their partners, ie their partner doesn't want them playing with other women, so they meet men for 3 sums.
Ive met women on the scene who play with other men and women, yet don't want their partner to play with ladies.
Sadly some relationships can be very one sided. "
As long as both partners get off on just 1 of them having sex with others, then I don't think that's unfair |
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"Might be shy, did you get any further than a drink?
I would hate to think anyone was being coerced into Fabbing
Look our for the ' how can I persuade my wife?' threads.
You beat me to it Mrs N
There's so many I want my wife to swing, how can I set her up threads on here, I can believe some do it and aren't fully into it.
No doubt some men go along with it too for their partners, ie their partner doesn't want them playing with other women, so they meet men for 3 sums.
Ive met women on the scene who play with other men and women, yet don't want their partner to play with ladies.
Sadly some relationships can be very one sided.
As long as both partners get off on just 1 of them having sex with others, then I don't think that's unfair "
I agree, but if the man is told he can't play with others, I don't think that's fair really.
I've seen women start threads, in couples, saying they want to meet, but are too jealous of their partner to let them play with a woman. |
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I must admit, years ago I did used to get a tad jealous when my hubby was with another woman. The doubts do creep in, along with the "What iffs"
Nowadays tho I love hearing another woman enjoying him. Almost a sense of pride you might say. And you simply can't beat variety. These days it's more me suggesting club nights and meets. X |
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"Might be shy, did you get any further than a drink?
I would hate to think anyone was being coerced into Fabbing
Look our for the ' how can I persuade my wife?' threads.
You beat me to it Mrs N
There's so many I want my wife to swing, how can I set her up threads on here, I can believe some do it and aren't fully into it.
No doubt some men go along with it too for their partners, ie their partner doesn't want them playing with other women, so they meet men for 3 sums.
Ive met women on the scene who play with other men and women, yet don't want their partner to play with ladies.
Sadly some relationships can be very one sided.
As long as both partners get off on just 1 of them having sex with others, then I don't think that's unfair
I agree, but if the man is told he can't play with others, I don't think that's fair really.
I've seen women start threads, in couples, saying they want to meet, but are too jealous of their partner to let them play with a woman. "
My wife’s never said to me that I can’t play with another woman but I know she wouldn’t like it so for now it wouldn’t happen and it might never happen. We’re only just starting so I could be completely wrong but I think it’s more likely that a man would be happy to share his wife than a wife share her husband |
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"Might be shy, did you get any further than a drink?
I would hate to think anyone was being coerced into Fabbing
Look our for the ' how can I persuade my wife?' threads.
You beat me to it Mrs N
There's so many I want my wife to swing, how can I set her up threads on here, I can believe some do it and aren't fully into it.
No doubt some men go along with it too for their partners, ie their partner doesn't want them playing with other women, so they meet men for 3 sums.
Ive met women on the scene who play with other men and women, yet don't want their partner to play with ladies.
Sadly some relationships can be very one sided.
As long as both partners get off on just 1 of them having sex with others, then I don't think that's unfair
I agree, but if the man is told he can't play with others, I don't think that's fair really.
I've seen women start threads, in couples, saying they want to meet, but are too jealous of their partner to let them play with a woman.
My wife’s never said to me that I can’t play with another woman but I know she wouldn’t like it so for now it wouldn’t happen and it might never happen. We’re only just starting so I could be completely wrong but I think it’s more likely that a man would be happy to share his wife than a wife share her husband "
If you're happy to do that, that's cool.
I mean ones where the lady wants to meet men and women, but doesn't want her partner to play with anyone else, even if he wants to.
A woman at a social told us once that she meets men/women, but wouldn't let him meet women. They just met men together and she then met on her own too.
I couldn't do that, it'd feel too selfish to my partner.
I'm half a couple, we meet alone and seperately. I've lent my partner out to couples and I like that.
It's whatever works for you and as long as both are really happy with the arrangement, then there's no issues. |
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"Might be shy, did you get any further than a drink?
I would hate to think anyone was being coerced into Fabbing
Look our for the ' how can I persuade my wife?' threads.
You beat me to it Mrs N
There's so many I want my wife to swing, how can I set her up threads on here, I can believe some do it and aren't fully into it.
No doubt some men go along with it too for their partners, ie their partner doesn't want them playing with other women, so they meet men for 3 sums.
Ive met women on the scene who play with other men and women, yet don't want their partner to play with ladies.
Sadly some relationships can be very one sided.
As long as both partners get off on just 1 of them having sex with others, then I don't think that's unfair
I agree, but if the man is told he can't play with others, I don't think that's fair really.
I've seen women start threads, in couples, saying they want to meet, but are too jealous of their partner to let them play with a woman.
My wife’s never said to me that I can’t play with another woman but I know she wouldn’t like it so for now it wouldn’t happen and it might never happen. We’re only just starting so I could be completely wrong but I think it’s more likely that a man would be happy to share his wife than a wife share her husband
If you're happy to do that, that's cool.
I mean ones where the lady wants to meet men and women, but doesn't want her partner to play with anyone else, even if he wants to.
A woman at a social told us once that she meets men/women, but wouldn't let him meet women. They just met men together and she then met on her own too.
I couldn't do that, it'd feel too selfish to my partner.
I'm half a couple, we meet alone and seperately. I've lent my partner out to couples and I like that.
It's whatever works for you and as long as both are really happy with the arrangement, then there's no issues. "
Yeah that is very selfish we’re just finding our feet just now and taking it slowly none of us want to rush into anything that we might regret. Most importantly we’re both loving what we’ve done so far |
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"Might be shy, did you get any further than a drink?
I would hate to think anyone was being coerced into Fabbing
Look our for the ' how can I persuade my wife?' threads.
You beat me to it Mrs N
There's so many I want my wife to swing, how can I set her up threads on here, I can believe some do it and aren't fully into it.
No doubt some men go along with it too for their partners, ie their partner doesn't want them playing with other women, so they meet men for 3 sums.
Ive met women on the scene who play with other men and women, yet don't want their partner to play with ladies.
Sadly some relationships can be very one sided.
As long as both partners get off on just 1 of them having sex with others, then I don't think that's unfair
I agree, but if the man is told he can't play with others, I don't think that's fair really.
I've seen women start threads, in couples, saying they want to meet, but are too jealous of their partner to let them play with a woman.
My wife’s never said to me that I can’t play with another woman but I know she wouldn’t like it so for now it wouldn’t happen and it might never happen. We’re only just starting so I could be completely wrong but I think it’s more likely that a man would be happy to share his wife than a wife share her husband
If you're happy to do that, that's cool.
I mean ones where the lady wants to meet men and women, but doesn't want her partner to play with anyone else, even if he wants to.
A woman at a social told us once that she meets men/women, but wouldn't let him meet women. They just met men together and she then met on her own too.
I couldn't do that, it'd feel too selfish to my partner.
I'm half a couple, we meet alone and seperately. I've lent my partner out to couples and I like that.
It's whatever works for you and as long as both are really happy with the arrangement, then there's no issues.
Yeah that is very selfish we’re just finding our feet just now and taking it slowly none of us want to rush into anything that we might regret. Most importantly we’re both loving what we’ve done so far "
Exactly. You're finding out what you like and want to do
I think exploring and seeing what you're into, is great. Your tastes may change over time or they may not, whatever it is, enjoy 😊. |
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I (Mr) am mainly the driving force regarding the fabmin and planning. Mrs is the driving force when we're in clubs and parties. She's very much a social butterfly and when she see's who she wants or the debauchery she's looking for she normally gets it. To the extent I sometimes fit a bell to her collar so I can find her when she's been lead astray by some mischief while I've been distracted at the bar or talking to someone.
The main think is we both want to be here and both loving the scene. We love our adventures together and the occasional individual side missions. It's a wonderful life when you get to share it with the person you love the most. |
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As per our profile, we insist on a phone call between the ladies BEFORE a private Meet, for the reasons given. However, the main reason is to make sure that the LADY is up for it. We actually virtually try and put people off coming round to ours, until we are absolutely certain that the lady is 100% certain. And yes, it is possible to ascertain this, just from a phone call. So far, haven`t had any turn up where the lady wasn`t up for it, but we have declined quite a few after having had a phone call, because we can tell that the lady isn`t really up for it. |
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We have had 2 bad experiences.
One especially bad where we all met and it seemed hunky Dory until we went to room. Other was party situation where it was clear the f half was only there to keep hubby happy.
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