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By *eyeY OP Couple 6 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
Not your standard swipe thread, so grab a brew.. 😉
What is it stopping you taking a real cock?
We understand many reasons by the way, but this is an open and absolutely non judgemental question and we are not implying in the slightest everyone should or those who don't are wrong, as with all activities consent is a given.
We note a plethora of response to pegging and ass play on the threads and wondered if our exploration of D's pleasure and kinks strike's a chord and opens a good discussion.
The first time we slept together I 'tested' by inserting a finger while blowing him, I wanted to know how naughty he was (#pandorasbox) and ever since male anal play has a firm place in our play.
All the toys, including a strap on are enjoyed and progressively the pillow talk evolved to him receiving the real thing, as let's be honest ladies we all know it feels better.
What I should mention is that other than being able to acknowledge/appreciate a guy is good he has no attraction to men, meet alone or submit to one either, but for me the desire to watch him do just that grew.
With our communication, we/he decided that he would submit to my instructions (we're very much switch, but only with each other) this psychologically removed any submission or responsibility for what happened, maybe sounds silly to some. But fuck it worked and we both thoroughly enjoyed it and remember asking "how does it feel baby, having a real cock in you?" Him answering "warm and good!"
Feel free to comment and I hope many find this as helpful and as hot as it's making me recounting it.
If you disagree with our choices and play or have a desire to be derogatory please don't bother or pm us..
Have a fantastically filthy weekend all! 😈😘 |
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Mike was my first truly bisexual partner, and although I always knew that idea and the possibilities it opened up sexually was exciting for me.....I really never knew quite how much until we started fucking with other bi guys! Seeing Mike with another guy is such a turn on, it's excellerated our sex lives to a whole new dimension xx |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 6 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"Mike was my first truly bisexual partner, and although I always knew that idea and the possibilities it opened up sexually was exciting for me.....I really never knew quite how much until we started fucking with other bi guys! Seeing Mike with another guy is such a turn on, it's excellerated our sex lives to a whole new dimension xx"
We are fully aware of your activities.. Fucking hot and yes it's hot!! 😘 |
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I love the swingers lifestyle and have been in it for years. But even when presenting as M, bi male play is rare in club nights outside of a specific bi night. FF is a given everywhere. MM more for a specific night.
It's a shame but also keeps guys in a box a bit from being able to truly explore.
It would be great to see all club nights have more sexuality fluidity and gender fluidity! There's a lot of fun to explore if you let yourself  |
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"I love the swingers lifestyle and have been in it for years. But even when presenting as M, bi male play is rare in club nights outside of a specific bi night. FF is a given everywhere. MM more for a specific night.
It's a shame but also keeps guys in a box a bit from being able to truly explore.
It would be great to see all club nights have more sexuality fluidity and gender fluidity! There's a lot of fun to explore if you let yourself "
Well put, I quite agree. |
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By *ezandCCouple 6 weeks ago
Telford |
"Kez just read the post and it intrigued her more than she thought it would."
Pressed submit before finished typing. Like the OP said, I’m not attracted to men at all, but there aspect of this are interesting, more so it it gets kez hot. |
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Unlike many on here although I have been regularly plugged in have never been pegged as our cuckold stated toys were banned in the household.
Also I mostly pleasure my gfs bulls orally, on the odd occasion I was taken fully by them |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 6 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"I love the swingers lifestyle and have been in it for years. But even when presenting as M, bi male play is rare in club nights outside of a specific bi night. FF is a given everywhere. MM more for a specific night.
It's a shame but also keeps guys in a box a bit from being able to truly explore.
It would be great to see all club nights have more sexuality fluidity and gender fluidity! There's a lot of fun to explore if you let yourself "
We feel and have found unfortunately, that despite a lot within the swinging scene believing themselves to be very liberal, this is not always the case.
D has experienced being avoided within groups he was fully involved with prior to us changing his status to bi.
In addition we've, within a club and embarrassingly loudly been shamed because I admitted occasionally using sounds on him, "wrong and disgusting" were 2 expressions I remember 🙄🤷
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By *eyeY OP Couple 6 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"I don't find men as men sexually attractive, however I do know that when I'm turned on any inhibition tends to melt away - still seeking that elusive 3 some to explore more "
Spaghetti bi or hetero flexible? 😉 Yes entirely, you may note bi was omitted from the initial post as he's not really.
Have friends who've described it as a kink which we honestly fits better but we have to label don't we, just look at all the "is it/does it make you bi?" Threads 😉😘 |
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Cocks don’t offend me or anything, happy to DP and DVP, I have the same problem some woman have as in what it’s attached to, masculinity is a bit of a turn off, all my attraction triggers are from femininity.
I also don’t have a problem with a woman playing with my butt and would consider pegging in the right situation. |
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"Not your standard swipe thread, so grab a brew.. 😉
What is it stopping you taking a real cock?
We understand many reasons by the way, but this is an open and absolutely non judgemental question and we are not implying in the slightest everyone should or those who don't are wrong, as with all activities consent is a given.
We note a plethora of response to pegging and ass play on the threads and wondered if our exploration of D's pleasure and kinks strike's a chord and opens a good discussion.
The first time we slept together I 'tested' by inserting a finger while blowing him, I wanted to know how naughty he was (#pandorasbox) and ever since male anal play has a firm place in our play.
All the toys, including a strap on are enjoyed and progressively the pillow talk evolved to him receiving the real thing, as let's be honest ladies we all know it feels better.
What I should mention is that other than being able to acknowledge/appreciate a guy is good he has no attraction to men, meet alone or submit to one either, but for me the desire to watch him do just that grew.
With our communication, we/he decided that he would submit to my instructions (we're very much switch, but only with each other) this psychologically removed any submission or responsibility for what happened, maybe sounds silly to some. But fuck it worked and we both thoroughly enjoyed it and remember asking "how does it feel baby, having a real cock in you?" Him answering "warm and good!"
Feel free to comment and I hope many find this as helpful and as hot as it's making me recounting it.
If you disagree with our choices and play or have a desire to be derogatory please don't bother or pm us..
Have a fantastically filthy weekend all! 😈😘"
Honestly that all turned me on. My ex did very much the same thing on the first night we had fun. She slid a finger in and from there my mindset was different. Still yet to go to anything of a size however I have got a few plugs that I play with on occasion. Looking for a couple or a lady with a small strap to potentially go that little bit further with  |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 6 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"Cocks don’t offend me or anything, happy to DP and DVP, I have the same problem some woman have as in what it’s attached to, masculinity is a bit of a turn off, all my attraction triggers are from femininity.
I also don’t have a problem with a woman playing with my butt and would consider pegging in the right situation. "
Absolutely fair and not for all.
Well aware some reported guy's crossing boundaries with the Mr and that's more about the person than their sexuality as far as we're concerned. 👊 |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 6 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
Realised the below edited paragraph was appalling, sorry..
What I should mention is that other than being able to acknowledge/appreciate a guy is good looking he has no attraction to men, would not one meet alone or but be submissive to another, but for me the desire to watch him do just that grew, so..
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"Realised the below edited paragraph was appalling, sorry..
What I should mention is that other than being able to acknowledge/appreciate a guy is good looking he has no attraction to men, would not one meet alone or but be submissive to another, but for me the desire to watch him do just that grew, so..
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Yeah I’m a bit similar, I’ve don’t have an aversion to men in a group situation or anything happy to engage with them (it would be weird otherwise 😂) but I couldn’t kiss a guy and feel any real positive emotional connection it would just be robotic and a bit forced. |
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An ex would only allow me to explore her ass if we explored together with toys. Quickly found I enjoyed being pegged/toys etc by her / women.
Coming to view the idea of a real cock as something to explore. Why not yet nerves and also not sexually attracted to a guy vs a female, but aroused by idea of exploring. So not just wanting to jump into exploration.
Also so much negativity around guys exploring sexuality vs women! So maybe in future  |
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We feel and have found unfortunately, that despite a lot within the swinging scene believing themselves to be very liberal, this is not always the case.
D has experienced being avoided within groups he was fully involved with prior to us changing his status to bi.
In addition we've, within a club and embarrassingly loudly been shamed because I admitted occasionally using sounds on him, "wrong and disgusting" were 2 expressions I remember 🙄🤷
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Yep, sadly that's a problem with this lifestyle. It should be open minded but there's lots of threads on here about couples/women being turned off by bi/bi curious guys even if they're going to play in a straight dynamic.
As if it matters? Doesn't mean he can't control himself and will just grab the guy. Doesn't mean the other guy will catch bi. Everyone can play to the boundaries and dynamics of the night.
Now specific "bi nights" just distinguish that men or trans are allowed to play without being shamed, which is a great safe haven but let's just stop shaming full bi play and make every night inclusive.  |
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I've experimented with fingers and toys but so far have just found it uncomfortable and not particularly pleasurable. Perhaps I just need more practice, as I find the idea of a cock up my arse erotic. |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 5 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
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We feel and have found unfortunately, that despite a lot within the swinging scene believing themselves to be very liberal, this is not always the case.
D has experienced being avoided within groups he was fully involved with prior to us changing his status to bi.
In addition we've, within a club and embarrassingly loudly been shamed because I admitted occasionally using sounds on him, "wrong and disgusting" were 2 expressions I remember 🙄🤷
Yep, sadly that's a problem with this lifestyle. It should be open minded but there's lots of threads on here about couples/women being turned off by bi/bi curious guys even if they're going to play in a straight dynamic.
As if it matters? Doesn't mean he can't control himself and will just grab the guy. Doesn't mean the other guy will catch bi. Everyone can play to the boundaries and dynamics of the night.
Now specific "bi nights" just distinguish that men or trans are allowed to play without being shamed, which is a great safe haven but let's just stop shaming full bi play and make every night inclusive. "
We can understand some being put off with prior experience of someone overstepping boundaries, but for the most part it just seems prejudice..
Yes, I was mortified as we felt confident in the 'group' and kind of 'mingled' separately.
Unsurprisingly many were happy to play with me, while D remained excluded didn't prevent my enjoyment while respectful of others disinterest.
Never again!
May look at visiting a VA bi night as it's a favourite club.
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For me, probably just opportunity and feeling comfortable with the right guy at this point.
We've experimented with toys and the strapon.
And it's only been since we started swinging that I've started to explore any kind of sex involving other men during our threesomes or when meeting a bi couple.
Like a few on here, I'm not generally attracted to guys - I can appreciate and acknowledge a good looking one, and there are definitely some cocks which look more enticing than others 🤣
I've already pushed past several boundaries of my own (touching, sucking a guy, kissing a guy) etc.
I think with the right guy or couple, someone we've maybe met before and started to trust for example, plus the right circumstances (being able to prep etc as tough to do it spontaneously due to the logistics) I would absolutely try and and let someone in 😉 |
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"Realised the below edited paragraph was appalling, sorry..
What I should mention is that other than being able to acknowledge/appreciate a guy is good looking he has no attraction to men, would not one meet alone or but be submissive to another, but for me the desire to watch him do just that grew, so..
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"For me, probably just opportunity and feeling comfortable with the right guy at this point."
Definitely a lot of what you said here.
Many of the couples I've spoken to the guy is a bottom.b do it's been an alignment issue  |
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"For me, probably just opportunity and feeling comfortable with the right guy at this point.
Definitely a lot of what you said here.
Many of the couples I've spoken to the guy is a bottom.b do it's been an alignment issue "
I think for alot of guys, in their usual relationship they are the initiator/more dominant element of the couple. We don't have a d/s dynamic but there is no doubt I am the one who kind of directs and takes charge of our sex.
Part of the appeal of opening up to bi play for some of us is feeling the reverse of that somewhat. Not be dominated, but to experience being on the receiving end. Also removes any concern about getting nervous and not being able to perform! 😆 |
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Great point all round
Also not too be too rude but the Mr already has an ass to fuck.
Recieving is something totally new.
I did have a meet where the guy got nervous was gutting but in his defence it was round two |
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I am a bi sub married guy and have never been properly penetrated by another guy yet. Guys have either been too thick, not hard enough or I am too tight.
My wife is unaware so not involved.
A guy or couple who could gently introduce me to the delights of being anally fucked would be wonderful!
In return I will lick, suck, rim and swallow 24/7! |
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I fantasise a lot about taking cock. For me, the perfect scenario is with a bi couple where he is versatile. I imagine them both sucking my cock, and also being on my knees in front of both of them sat on a sofa and being directed to suck his cock by her.
I’d love this to proceed, with training to being roasted between them. Both ways. Her pegging me, and me sucking his cock, and then then swapping round and him fucking my arse while I give her head. This would have to be in a safe manner. Gently. And not aggressively or in any way him fucking me hard.
It is virtually impossible to find a couple for this. 
I also fantasise about a t-girl fucking me missionary style. Am currently experimenting with anal penetration with a friend. So far it’s fingers only and I dream of a prostate orgasm.
Here’s hoping… |
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For us we feel we’d need a male who is happy to progress slowly with us and build up to things starting with oral and hand play first, we’ve found the majority of guys that message us only want involvement with MrsG which I can’t blame them she’s absolutely stunning. But when we explain how any involvement is between all three they’re not interested which is fine as we know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea.
So we will continue to go out and adventure socials/ parties, we don’t feel we need to rush as well so that’s why we’re happy with how things are going for us  |
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"Cocks don’t offend me or anything, happy to DP and DVP, I have the same problem some woman have as in what it’s attached to, masculinity is a bit of a turn off, all my attraction triggers are from femininity.
I also don’t have a problem with a woman playing with my butt and would consider pegging in the right situation. "
I’m in a similar situation, but have enjoyed playing (including her fucking my arse) with a gorgeous, very feminine transsexual woman. |
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By *vaRoseWoman 5 weeks ago
Ankh-Morpork |
"Not your standard swipe thread, so grab a brew.. 😉
What is it stopping you taking a real cock?
We understand many reasons by the way, but this is an open and absolutely non judgemental question and we are not implying in the slightest everyone should or those who don't are wrong, as with all activities consent is a given.
We note a plethora of response to pegging and ass play on the threads and wondered if our exploration of D's pleasure and kinks strike's a chord and opens a good discussion.
The first time we slept together I 'tested' by inserting a finger while blowing him, I wanted to know how naughty he was (#pandorasbox) and ever since male anal play has a firm place in our play.
All the toys, including a strap on are enjoyed and progressively the pillow talk evolved to him receiving the real thing, as let's be honest ladies we all know it feels better.
What I should mention is that other than being able to acknowledge/appreciate a guy is good he has no attraction to men, meet alone or submit to one either, but for me the desire to watch him do just that grew.
With our communication, we/he decided that he would submit to my instructions (we're very much switch, but only with each other) this psychologically removed any submission or responsibility for what happened, maybe sounds silly to some. But fuck it worked and we both thoroughly enjoyed it and remember asking "how does it feel baby, having a real cock in you?" Him answering "warm and good!"
Feel free to comment and I hope many find this as helpful and as hot as it's making me recounting it.
If you disagree with our choices and play or have a desire to be derogatory please don't bother or pm us..
Have a fantastically filthy weekend all! 😈😘"
I appreciate the honesty in your post, and I can see how your dynamic works for you both. It’s clearly been negotiated with trust, and any consensual kink explored with care deserves space.
That said, involving someone I care about in play with a person they’re not sexually attracted to is something I could never do. I take my pleasure seriously, and that means his desire and enjoyment matter just as much as mine. If he’s not turned on, I’m not interested. I don’t play with dolls.
Fuck if I ever felt he was enduring something just for my sake, I’d be turned off instantly. It has to be hot for both of us, or it has no place in our play.
What also stands out is how little the third person features here. He’s not a prop or a performing cock. He’s a whole person, and he deserves to feel just as wanted and desired as anyone else involved. I find the disregard for them as an autonomous player here rather off putting.
You’ve clearly found something that works for you, and that’s fine. But telling people to “move on if you don’t agree” doesn’t invite open conversation – it shuts it down. |
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Well this has definitely peeked my interest as describe myself as bi curious. Although, I've not had the opportunity to explore and now I guess the question is why?
For me it's got a lot to do with being nervous and even judged by my peers. I understand that would seem a silly concept in this day and age, but that's how it feels, for me at least. Even though my friend and colleagues wouldn't know what's gone on behind closed doors.
So the next question is would I? Easy to answer...yes!!! I just need to find the right person to explore with and take my time to feel comfortable with. Tinkerbell and I often enjoy pegging and I really would love to know how a real D would feel inside me  |
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"Probably if they are straight sexually is number 1 reason , I mean you’d think they would abit of tipping wouldn’t hurt anyone
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Why stop at the tip once you`re in the door you`re more that welcome |
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Love the joy anal toys and wands give me and have discussed with many partners about them pegging me but they not really up to it. I'd like to get an mmf situation and go with the flow and if he wanted me to fuck him I'd certainly be up for it, and would like to try a real cock too to see if the same pleasure is there as a curved toy as prostrate orgasm is so different |
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"Don't mind a finger in my arse now and again but it's usually from the doctor
Ha my dr had to do that to me. He said this may feel abit uncomfortable I laughed and winked my hole "
hilarious!! Bet he or she was like I'd love some of her |
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"Don't mind a finger in my arse now and again but it's usually from the doctor
Ha my dr had to do that to me. He said this may feel abit uncomfortable I laughed and winked my hole hilarious!! Bet he or she was like I'd love some of her"
My dr is quite funny and used to me For a trans woman I have a very good sense of humour in life |
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"Don't mind a finger in my arse now and again but it's usually from the doctor
Ha my dr had to do that to me. He said this may feel abit uncomfortable I laughed and winked my hole hilarious!! Bet he or she was like I'd love some of her
My dr is quite funny and used to me For a trans woman I have a very good sense of humour in life "
would love to be your doctor |
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I have been bi for many years 40+ but I prefer to be top, only ever been pegged once didn't do anything for me. Enjoy being rimmed and rimming but getting my hard cock in a male or females bum is perfect. |
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By *ickylouCouple 5 weeks ago
Birmingham |
Because most men want to ram it in as quick as possible.
Fuck you at full speed and try to rearrange your internal organs as fast as possible.
Slow and sensual is the way.
We are firm believers if you want to put it in a lady or guys ass you must take it first so you know what it is like. |
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"Because most men want to ram it in as quick as possible.
Fuck you at full speed and try to rearrange your internal organs as fast as possible.
Slow and sensual is the way.
We are firm believers if you want to put it in a lady or guys ass you must take it first so you know what it is like. "
That's probably what makes me so nervous...slow is best from what I've experienced while Tinkerbell is has been pegging me. |
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Simple answer: I’m a top.
Longer answer:
I’ve tried it, and whilst not unpleasant, it did zero for me - being a top who likes sucking cock is enough for me.
I’m not saying I’d never do it again, but it’s not on the cards any time soon. |
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My fella loves the feeling of a dildo inside his ass, pegging is great fun for us. I'm sure a real cock would slip in nicely, just waiting for him to say 'yes please, mistress'! Or maybe I will have to choose for him? |
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"Not your standard swipe thread, so grab a brew.. 😉
What is it stopping you taking a real cock?
We understand many reasons by the way, but this is an open and absolutely non judgemental question and we are not implying in the slightest everyone should or those who don't are wrong, as with all activities consent is a given.
We note a plethora of response to pegging and ass play on the threads and wondered if our exploration of D's pleasure and kinks strike's a chord and opens a good discussion.
The first time we slept together I 'tested' by inserting a finger while blowing him, I wanted to know how naughty he was (#pandorasbox) and ever since male anal play has a firm place in our play.
All the toys, including a strap on are enjoyed and progressively the pillow talk evolved to him receiving the real thing, as let's be honest ladies we all know it feels better.
What I should mention is that other than being able to acknowledge/appreciate a guy is good he has no attraction to men, meet alone or submit to one either, but for me the desire to watch him do just that grew.
With our communication, we/he decided that he would submit to my instructions (we're very much switch, but only with each other) this psychologically removed any submission or responsibility for what happened, maybe sounds silly to some. But fuck it worked and we both thoroughly enjoyed it and remember asking "how does it feel baby, having a real cock in you?" Him answering "warm and good!"
Feel free to comment and I hope many find this as helpful and as hot as it's making me recounting it.
If you disagree with our choices and play or have a desire to be derogatory please don't bother or pm us..
Have a fantastically filthy weekend all! 😈😘"
You are both enlightened. Anal sex has nothing to do with sexuality.
I thoroughly enjoy receiving anal sex, mostly toys and strapon, but if any boys want to give me the real thing, you're most welcome. |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 5 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"You’ve clearly found something that works for you, and that’s fine. But telling people to “move on if you don’t agree” doesn’t invite open conversation – it shuts it down. "
EvaRose
Thank you
Appreciate your initial sentiment, from there it seems more assumptions and projected thoughts.
Neither of us do anything against our will.
Third parties are unmentioned, as it's our storey, can't tell theirs.
You've misquoted us, merely requested no derogatory comments or pm's towards us. 😘 |
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A lot of men still find anything gay embarrassing. I have always been more gay than straight. Taking your first cock needs some preparation. Use fingers, carrots, cucumbers, butt plugs or anything else that fits nicely without causing pain. Use plenty of lube and find a guy with a small cock to get started. I have been a cock slut for a long time. At first it was a bit painful but now i can take a full cucumber and i have never found a cock i couldn't handle. |
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By *vaRoseWoman 5 weeks ago
Ankh-Morpork |
"You’ve clearly found something that works for you, and that’s fine. But telling people to “move on if you don’t agree” doesn’t invite open conversation – it shuts it down.
EvaRose
Thank you
Appreciate your initial sentiment, from there it seems more assumptions and projected thoughts.
Neither of us do anything against our will.
Third parties are unmentioned, as it's our storey, can't tell theirs.
You've misquoted us, merely requested no derogatory comments or pm's towards us. 😘"
Thanks for replying.
You say the third party isn’t your story. Yet you involve his body, time, presence and attention. He is fucking you but somehow isn’t important enough to be included in desire or want. That is not just unfair, it is cold.
He is a person. You have made it clear hubby isn’t attracted to men and won’t submit to them. I could quote it here but that seems superfluous.
I stand by this: everyone in a scene deserves to be genuinely wanted, not just used or tolerated. If that idea feels controversial to you, then we are playing very different games.
You said, “If you disagree with our choices and play or have a desire to be derogatory please don’t bother or pm us.” I paraphrased, but the message is the same. It’s a shield to silence anyone who questions your position or disagrees. It’s disappointing on such a complex and important topic. You asked for comments. I gave them honestly. I stand by every word. |
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this happened to us! she asked if id let her try using her fingers first, that then evolved to using butt plugs and the like, till she asked if she could peg me.
im not attracted to guys in the slightest but when she asked me if id ever let a guy fuck me, I just agreed it would be the next best thing. to me its not about being attracted to some one its just an extra sexual experience. it turns her on and its enjoyable |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 5 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"You’ve clearly found something that works for you, and that’s fine. But telling people to “move on if you don’t agree” doesn’t invite open conversation – it shuts it down.
EvaRose
Thank you
Appreciate your initial sentiment, from there it seems more assumptions and projected thoughts.
Neither of us do anything against our will.
Third parties are unmentioned, as it's our storey, can't tell theirs.
You've misquoted us, merely requested no derogatory comments or pm's towards us. 😘
Thanks for replying.
You say the third party isn’t your story. Yet you involve his body, time, presence and attention. He is fucking you but somehow isn’t important enough to be included in desire or want. That is not just unfair, it is cold.
He is a person. You have made it clear hubby isn’t attracted to men and won’t submit to them. I could quote it here but that seems superfluous.
I stand by this: everyone in a scene deserves to be genuinely wanted, not just used or tolerated. If that idea feels controversial to you, then we are playing very different games.
You said, “If you disagree with our choices and play or have a desire to be derogatory please don’t bother or pm us.” I paraphrased, but the message is the same. It’s a shield to silence anyone who questions your position or disagrees. It’s disappointing on such a complex and important topic. You asked for comments. I gave them honestly. I stand by every word."
You are welcome to your beliefs of who we are and how we treat people we have enjoyed playing with as they us.
But reiterate his story is not ours to share, we're still in contact with said gentleman and meeting him again, so the treatment suggested may not be accurate.
Hubby isn't attracted to steak, but he still enjoys it.
Yes paraphrased and again projecting, you're utterly entitled to your opinion of a couple you've never met and a meeting you had no part of.
A shield would suggest we're hiding and have no desire to silence anyone 😘 |
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"You’ve clearly found something that works for you, and that’s fine. But telling people to “move on if you don’t agree” doesn’t invite open conversation – it shuts it down.
EvaRose
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Appreciate your initial sentiment, from there it seems more assumptions and projected thoughts.
Neither of us do anything against our will.
Third parties are unmentioned, as it's our storey, can't tell theirs.
You've misquoted us, merely requested no derogatory comments or pm's towards us. 😘
Thanks for replying.
You say the third party isn’t your story. Yet you involve his body, time, presence and attention. He is fucking you but somehow isn’t important enough to be included in desire or want. That is not just unfair, it is cold.
He is a person. You have made it clear hubby isn’t attracted to men and won’t submit to them. I could quote it here but that seems superfluous.
I stand by this: everyone in a scene deserves to be genuinely wanted, not just used or tolerated. If that idea feels controversial to you, then we are playing very different games.
You said, “If you disagree with our choices and play or have a desire to be derogatory please don’t bother or pm us.” I paraphrased, but the message is the same. It’s a shield to silence anyone who questions your position or disagrees. It’s disappointing on such a complex and important topic. You asked for comments. I gave them honestly. I stand by every word.
You are welcome to your beliefs of who we are and how we treat people we have enjoyed playing with as they us.
But reiterate his story is not ours to share, we're still in contact with said gentleman and meeting him again, so the treatment suggested may not be accurate.
Hubby isn't attracted to steak, but he still enjoys it.
Yes paraphrased and again projecting, you're utterly entitled to your opinion of a couple you've never met and a meeting you had no part of.
A shield would suggest we're hiding and have no desire to silence anyone 😘"
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By (user no longer on site) 5 weeks ago
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Experimented with a dildo at first then pegging which I absolutely adore and then progressed to a real cock
Love the dynamic of being pegged but a real hard cock is Devine |
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By *vaRoseWoman 5 weeks ago
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"You’ve clearly found something that works for you, and that’s fine. But telling people to “move on if you don’t agree” doesn’t invite open conversation – it shuts it down.
EvaRose
Thank you
Appreciate your initial sentiment, from there it seems more assumptions and projected thoughts.
Neither of us do anything against our will.
Third parties are unmentioned, as it's our storey, can't tell theirs.
You've misquoted us, merely requested no derogatory comments or pm's towards us. 😘
Thanks for replying.
You say the third party isn’t your story. Yet you involve his body, time, presence and attention. He is fucking you but somehow isn’t important enough to be included in desire or want. That is not just unfair, it is cold.
He is a person. You have made it clear hubby isn’t attracted to men and won’t submit to them. I could quote it here but that seems superfluous.
I stand by this: everyone in a scene deserves to be genuinely wanted, not just used or tolerated. If that idea feels controversial to you, then we are playing very different games.
You said, “If you disagree with our choices and play or have a desire to be derogatory please don’t bother or pm us.” I paraphrased, but the message is the same. It’s a shield to silence anyone who questions your position or disagrees. It’s disappointing on such a complex and important topic. You asked for comments. I gave them honestly. I stand by every word.
You are welcome to your beliefs of who we are and how we treat people we have enjoyed playing with as they us.
But reiterate his story is not ours to share, we're still in contact with said gentleman and meeting him again, so the treatment suggested may not be accurate.
Hubby isn't attracted to steak, but he still enjoys it.
Yes paraphrased and again projecting, you're utterly entitled to your opinion of a couple you've never met and a meeting you had no part of.
A shield would suggest we're hiding and have no desire to silence anyone 😘"
Steak…
That says enough for me |
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By *enelope2UWoman 5 weeks ago
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Fully disagree..you don't need to be gay or bi to enjoy full pleasure or enjoy multiple people and group sex... I've bed in bed with 6.. 3 guys 3 girls and 4 guys to girls and just 1 girl and 5 guys and NONE OF US NEEDED TO BE GAY for play to have a filling and fulfilling night... |
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"Fully disagree..you don't need to be gay or bi to enjoy full pleasure or enjoy multiple people and group sex... I've bed in bed with 6.. 3 guys 3 girls and 4 guys to girls and just 1 girl and 5 guys and NONE OF US NEEDED TO BE GAY for play to have a filling and fulfilling night..."
Perfect description and explanation!! |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 5 weeks ago
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"this happened to us! she asked if id let her try using her fingers first, that then evolved to using butt plugs and the like, till she asked if she could peg me.
im not attracted to guys in the slightest but when she asked me if id ever let a guy fuck me, I just agreed it would be the next best thing. to me its not about being attracted to some one its just an extra sexual experience. it turns her on and its enjoyable"
A pity we (he 😂) is out of your age range! 🔥😘 |
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Excellent well articulated opening post.
When we fist played on the scene we thought we were both straight but as things happened during meets we quickly discovered we both enjoy bi play and watching each other with same sex partners. it opened up a whole new level of sexual pleasures for us both. |
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"Excellent well articulated opening post.
When we fist played on the scene we thought we were both straight but as things happened during meets we quickly discovered we both enjoy bi play and watching each other with same sex partners. it opened up a whole new level of sexual pleasures for us both. "
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Thank you for the super articulate and sensitive post.
In answer to your original question 'What is it stopping you taking a real cock?', personally it was fear, shame, and a lack of willingness to participate in anything other than straight activities.
Is your personality inclined to trying all flavours of ice-cream in front of you, including brocolli? If you allow yourself to evolve sexually, you start seeing in multiple spectrum of light. Some see in black and white and are perfectly happy doing so.
Just because I want to be gangbanged by guys doesn't make me gay or bisexual. I'm not physically attracted to guys one bit, but like many, I love cock, and sexual energy. |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 5 weeks ago
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" Thank you for the super articulate and sensitive post.
In answer to your original question 'What is it stopping you taking a real cock?', personally it was fear, shame, and a lack of willingness to participate in anything other than straight activities.
Is your personality inclined to trying all flavours of ice-cream in front of you, including brocolli? If you allow yourself to evolve sexually, you start seeing in multiple spectrum of light. Some see in black and white and are perfectly happy doing so.
Just because I want to be gangbanged by guys doesn't make me gay or bisexual. I'm not physically attracted to guys one bit, but like many, I love cock, and sexual energy. "
Thank you! 😘
It's a pass on the broccoli ice cream mind 😂👍 |
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I did once in my 20s and it fucking hurt but a decade later I met a guy who was more communicative and experienced and now I LOVE it. My wife satisfies 99% of my needs but a real cock in me is an occasional need! |
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"Kez just read the post and it intrigued her more than she thought it would.
Pressed submit before finished typing. Like the OP said, I’m not attracted to men at all, but there aspect of this are interesting, more so it it gets kez hot."
I know what you mean kez and c once youhave experienced your wife being fucked by anaother guy you begin to thnk about how it would feel and maybe desire teh intimacy of being able to chat about him and how good he feels inside you as couple |
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The first time I tried it the guy just tried going in hard without lube. I had to stop him after a couple of thrusts.
Would love to try again with a less exitable top.
On the plus side, it's made me a more considerate top |
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By *rMrs84Couple 5 weeks ago
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For me it’s actually two fold.
One I’m self conscious how I look back there as I can’t see it and don’t know.
Secondly prep work. I like to be sexually spontaneous and would need to know I was fully clean inside and out for that.
Full disclosure I have no real interest in anal with women either for the same logic. |
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We use this site for exactly that….to look for cock for Mr to suck and receive safe anal. We do everything else between ourselves but I obviously can’t give him the pleasure that a cock gives him
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By (user no longer on site) 5 weeks ago
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Honestly can't think of myself experimenting. Never crossed my mind, never made me feel anything even at the thought of it and the sparse few times over the years I chanced upon gay porn, it didn't entertain me. I wouldn't mind if I crossed swords with a guy for an mmf but the thought of having a dick anywhere near my mouth or my ass is too sensitive for me. Not because of homophobia or cultural taboo, but because of personal taste |
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"The first time I tried it the guy just tried going in hard without lube. I had to stop him after a couple of thrusts.
Would love to try again with a less exitable top.
On the plus side, it's made me a more considerate top"
That must have been an off putting experience, I'm glad it's had a positive outcome for you. |
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Great conversation starter OP.
Very lucky in that we have regular friends and couples that like to indulge and I’ve been pegged and taken real cock.
Pegging is a great dynamic, with a gorgeous female wielding a cock but the real thing truly does feel better.
Like many, there’s no attraction to dating a guy but the sexual draw to a cock is strong.
Explains the fantasy of wanting a petite Trans woman to join us.
There can often be a preconceived idea that anal will hurt but with an experienced partner and time the sensation is amazing. Guys who haven’t experienced a prostate assisted orgasm don’t know what they’re missing.
The really great thing about bi couples enjoying a night together is the removal of boundaries that would otherwise prevent some truly intimate moments.
Becky finds it really hot just to watch for a while. |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 5 weeks ago
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"Honestly can't think of myself experimenting. Never crossed my mind, never made me feel anything even at the thought of it and the sparse few times over the years I chanced upon gay porn, it didn't entertain me. I wouldn't mind if I crossed swords with a guy for an mmf but the thought of having a dick anywhere near my mouth or my ass is too sensitive for me. Not because of homophobia or cultural taboo, but because of personal taste"
We respect that, it's your choice, always and as we say it's not for all and we will not suggest it is.
The thread was really about addressing why those tempted and have enjoyed toy's have not made the leap so to speak. 😘
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By (user no longer on site) 5 weeks ago
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Me and an ex talked about this.
We played and experimented.
Ended up meeting other blokes to play with. I loved it.
Even went for a massage done by a bloke. Got a little turned on and ended with being fucked by him.
Never say never. |
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This is one of the hottest threads for a long time. Id like to meet a couple or cd as single men don't do it for me, a lady who takes charge and tells us boys what to do would be amazing, I would fully submit it that situation |
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I think the main reason is that nothing anal involving a man appeals to me. I've let a guy rim me but that was more for his pleasure than my own. That being said if I'd been told 10 years ago I'd enjoy sucking cock I'd have laughed my head off but now I find it really satisfying. Basically I never say never and given the right opportunity maybe it could be fun. |
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"Simple answer. Trained a lot with plugs and been pegged by my fwb. Tempted by the real thing and very curios but just not ready mentally."
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By *eyeY OP Couple 5 weeks ago
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"I won't even take a finger tip. My ass is strictly off bounds"
Totally fine, can't understand as to why you'd feel the need to comment if it's a subject you've no interest in though 🤷 x |
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"I won't even take a finger tip. My ass is strictly off bounds
Totally fine, can't understand as to why you'd feel the need to comment if it's a subject you've no interest in though 🤷 x"
The question was asked on a open public forum therefore anyone can comment even if its something you might not want to hear, it feels as if the debate is being shutdown when a answer pops up that you dont like.
People are allowed to comment without the need to feel like they are being silenced for a unpopular opinion, ive never taken a cock because im straight.
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By *eyeY OP Couple 5 weeks ago
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"I won't even take a finger tip. My ass is strictly off bounds
Totally fine, can't understand as to why you'd feel the need to comment if it's a subject you've no interest in though 🤷 x
The question was asked on a open public forum therefore anyone can comment even if its something you might not want to hear, it feels as if the debate is being shutdown when a answer pops up that you dont like.
People are allowed to comment without the need to feel like they are being silenced for a unpopular opinion, ive never taken a cock because im straight.
T"
We said we couldn't understand why, not they weren't allowed..
Debate away 😘👍
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"I won't even take a finger tip. My ass is strictly off bounds
Totally fine, can't understand as to why you'd feel the need to comment if it's a subject you've no interest in though 🤷 x
The question was asked on a open public forum therefore anyone can comment even if its something you might not want to hear, it feels as if the debate is being shutdown when a answer pops up that you dont like.
People are allowed to comment without the need to feel like they are being silenced for a unpopular opinion, ive never taken a cock because im straight.
T
We said we couldn't understand why, not they weren't allowed..
Debate away 😘👍
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Well the thread was titled “ guys why have you not taken cock?” And he gave his answer which was that he was not into men just as im not into men
Maybe the title of the thread should have been “guys what made you take cock?” Then you would of got responses from people who had taken it.
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Firstly good thread OP.
I have topped and enjoy my bi curious side. I want to try taking and have bought toys for training which I enjoy. Just unfortunately not had the vibe to try with someone I trusted enough yet. |
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By *sagentMan 5 weeks ago
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I have a secret bi side, as my wife will not indulge another in bed. I love being fucked and rimmed, but whilst I would love to bring a bi guy in to some fun, my wife rims, pegs and makes me cum with ass play.
Frustration yes but both gotta agree |
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By *luefire2Couple 5 weeks ago
just somewhere around here |
We are a full bi couple. My Husband iz a bottom and loves man on man sex. I also get so turned on watching him get fucked by a guy. It frustrates us that Male on male play seems to be frowned upon in clubs unless at a bi/gay night. |
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"We are a full bi couple. My Husband iz a bottom and loves man on man sex. I also get so turned on watching him get fucked by a guy. It frustrates us that Male on male play seems to be frowned upon in clubs unless at a bi/gay night. "
I have been to a bi day in a club recently and even that wasn't really for male on male play. Was gutted |
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"We are a full bi couple. My Husband iz a bottom and loves man on man sex. I also get so turned on watching him get fucked by a guy. It frustrates us that Male on male play seems to be frowned upon in clubs unless at a bi/gay night. "
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"We are a full bi couple. My Husband iz a bottom and loves man on man sex. I also get so turned on watching him get fucked by a guy. It frustrates us that Male on male play seems to be frowned upon in clubs unless at a bi/gay night. "
Not frowned upon here you are more than welcome |
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Not attracted to dudes or cocks.
Having a lot of queer friends I think one of the most interesting things In found out was that plenty of gay guys aren't necessarily into anal either.
Much preferring rubbing off against each other, mutual masturbation or other options.
Although considering I'm almost 50 and colonoscopies are likely to be part of my future, I suppose I'll get and idea of whether it appeals or not. |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 5 weeks ago
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"Not attracted to dudes or cocks.
Having a lot of queer friends I think one of the most interesting things In found out was that plenty of gay guys aren't necessarily into anal either.
Much preferring rubbing off against each other, mutual masturbation or other options.
Although considering I'm almost 50 and colonoscopies are likely to be part of my future, I suppose I'll get and idea of whether it appeals or not."
Fair. Interesting insight honestly, we both have a number of queer friends on a strictly plutonic basis, so sexual activities are mostly off the table. |
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my wife doesnt allow me to do more thatn insert a first digit there but the strangers shesometimes entertains often seem to want to fuck her there as a sort of trophy My wife says that if she finds a top who would enjoy that she would expect me to offer my bottom along with her and although i am a bit nervous I would find it so incredibly intimate and fulfilling to serve with her |
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By *luefire2Couple 3 weeks ago
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We feel and have found unfortunately, that despite a lot within the swinging scene believing themselves to be very liberal, this is not always the case.
D has experienced being avoided within groups he was fully involved with prior to us changing his status to bi.
In addition we've, within a club and embarrassingly loudly been shamed because I admitted occasionally using sounds on him, "wrong and disgusting" were 2 expressions I remember 🙄🤷
Yep, sadly that's a problem with this lifestyle. It should be open minded but there's lots of threads on here about couples/women being turned off by bi/bi curious guys even if they're going to play in a straight dynamic.
As if it matters? Doesn't mean he can't control himself and will just grab the guy. Doesn't mean the other guy will catch bi. Everyone can play to the boundaries and dynamics of the night.
Now specific "bi nights" just distinguish that men or trans are allowed to play without being shamed, which is a great safe haven but let's just stop shaming full bi play and make every night inclusive. "
This 100%
As Mrs R said in a previous post. I love being fucked by a real cock, but as above Bi Male play I feel is still frowned upon in clubs even in these fluid times |
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