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By *arbler OP Woman 5 weeks ago
Southampton |
I was wondering if anybody here has found a long term partner on here? I'm meaning living as a couple and obviously still enjoying the lifestyle. I'm finding 'dating' sites difficult. If anybody has had success on here and found 'their special person', do you have any top tips as to how to date someone from this site but then to still enjoy the delights of FAB? Thank you in advance. |
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We actually met as singles on fab and are now married
It definitely helped that there were no secrets between us , and no skeletons in the cupboard
We've continued to play and have a up to date profile , so we're still out there and having fun |
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By *arbler OP Woman 5 weeks ago
Southampton |
"We actually met as singles on fab and are now married
It definitely helped that there were no secrets between us , and no skeletons in the cupboard
We've continued to play and have a up to date profile , so we're still out there and having fun"
Thank you for your reply and congratulations. Good advice. Transparency is important and as with every relationship...trust xx |
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By *il-widgeMan 5 weeks ago
Stone Staffordshire |
To be fair, its probably the route I will go down as and when I want to get into a semi serious relationship, not sure I could go back to a 1-1 vanilla lifestyle. I do quite like the thought of being with someone and us doing things as a couple and also our own thing.... |
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By *arbler OP Woman 5 weeks ago
Southampton |
"To be fair, its probably the route I will go down as and when I want to get into a semi serious relationship, not sure I could go back to a 1-1 vanilla lifestyle. I do quite like the thought of being with someone and us doing things as a couple and also our own thing...."
Yes, I totally get where you are coming from. Good luck with your ventures x |
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By *il-widgeMan 5 weeks ago
Stone Staffordshire |
"To be fair, its probably the route I will go down as and when I want to get into a semi serious relationship, not sure I could go back to a 1-1 vanilla lifestyle. I do quite like the thought of being with someone and us doing things as a couple and also our own thing....
Yes, I totally get where you are coming from. Good luck with your ventures x "
Same to you x |
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By *arbler OP Woman 5 weeks ago
Southampton |
"I met someone from here and our FWB relationship evolved into more until we realised that we were just a good physical match and not much more haha  "
Ha..I like that. I know emotional and physical connection is need for it to be more. Do you still have the physical connection with them? X |
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I met a women through fab during general conversation we both attended the same club but on different days, so arranged to meet up we become girlfriend boyfriend and enjoyed this life style for over 3 years. Sadly she has left swinging to concentrate on family issues. I do understand but would like to find another partner. |
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By *arbler OP Woman 5 weeks ago
Southampton |
"I met a women through fab during general conversation we both attended the same club but on different days, so arranged to meet up we become girlfriend boyfriend and enjoyed this life style for over 3 years. Sadly she has left swinging to concentrate on family issues. I do understand but would like to find another partner. "
Wow, what a great story to read. You must have had fun during your time together. I'm sorry to hear that it has now ceased but what a great understanding person you are. I hope you find what you are looking for xx |
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"I met a women through fab during general conversation we both attended the same club but on different days, so arranged to meet up we become girlfriend boyfriend and enjoyed this life style for over 3 years. Sadly she has left swinging to concentrate on family issues. I do understand but would like to find another partner.
Wow, what a great story to read. You must have had fun during your time together. I'm sorry to hear that it has now ceased but what a great understanding person you are. I hope you find what you are looking for xx "
Thanks I'm still looking. |
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By *pagedMan 5 weeks ago
Doncaster |
"I was wondering if anybody here has found a long term partner on here? I'm meaning living as a couple and obviously still enjoying the lifestyle. I'm finding 'dating' sites difficult. If anybody has had success on here and found 'their special person', do you have any top tips as to how to date someone from.. this site but then to still enjoy the delights of FAB? Thank you in advance. "
pity you so far away. Sounds like we want the same stuff in life
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Me and my man met on here as singles. We have been together for 18 months and moving in together in a few months time. Best relationship of my life 
We have taken things slow because we have kids but it’s given us time to really get to know each other.
Good luck
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I was actually introduced to this site by my long term fwb when she was still actively swinging. Once we saw more of each other we then became a 'thing' which has grown into both a long term sexual relationship and the best of friends too |
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I met my partner through here, we'd been together 3 years, sadly didn't live together and did split. We have since become FWB and things are ok, but I'm not sure if i could go down the route of a relationship on here again.
I love the success stories though. |
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By *inx000Couple 5 weeks ago
Manchester |
We both met as singles on fab,arranged to meet for a social and instantly hit it off and quickly fell in love..been together for just over a year now and still going strong..we both still enjoy the lifestyle and love exploring new things together 😊 |
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Read on several forum post about people meeting on here. It may not be common, but it does happen.
I was introduced to the lifestyle by a partner I met on Tinder.
I would love to be in a relationship with someone who was also into it. |
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By *irsSubCouple 5 weeks ago
Darlington |
We've met at least 4 couples in the last 12 months who've met as singles on the scene and ended up as long term partners. A couple of them have been together for 5+ years too. It's definitely becoming more and more popular |
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OP first step would be to even mention this is something you'd be interested in, on your profile! And I would suggest the same on dating sites - just make a new account, put a non-identifying pic on, and describe exactly the kind of dynamic you would be interested in.
Do you actually want a regular FWB as your profile says, or do you want a romantic cohabitation with sexual openness like your post says (eg. monogamish, swinging)? Would you be happy with romantic openness (eg. polyamory) or do you want to be romantically exclusive? Would you be ok with your cohabiting romantic partner to be seeing others? Would you want to be seeing others yourself? Do you have any specific kinks or fetishes that would like to explore/can't be happy without? What things appeal, what things are out of the question, what are negotiables. Ie. what kind of open relationship are you dreaming of, don't keep it to yourself! Put yourself out there and with a bit of luck you'll find someone suitable, you even got offers on this very thread 😉
FTR we met on a different swinging site some 14 years back, we were both in existing long-term open relationships one of which is still going. Mentioning this as an example of how intricate open relationships can be. You want to have a commited relationship but step outside the rules of mainstream monogamy - you need to decide for yourself how to shape that commitment. |
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We've built a three year relationship from being singles who met on Fab. I guess for us it was about meeting people who were open minded and not closed off about where meeting 'regularly' could go and what it could become. Would definitely state you are open to it on your profile. Positives are is that you know the sex will be good before a long build up!! |
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"I was wondering if anybody here has found a long term partner on here? I'm meaning living as a couple and obviously still enjoying the lifestyle. I'm finding 'dating' sites difficult. If anybody has had success on here and found 'their special person', do you have any top tips as to how to date someone from this site but then to still enjoy the delights of FAB? Thank you in advance. "
Yes, nearly 8 years together now. Was my first social on here and led from there. |
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So many have found each other on here and it has been a success, i guess it is finding the right fit for us all and hoping t works as w go on.
It would be so good to find a partner that enjoys the lifestyle with you and makes it so much more easier to discuss thing.
Good luck OP I wish you success xxx
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By *arbler OP Woman 5 weeks ago
Southampton |
"That would be my dream to meet someone in the lifestyle and form a long term relationship . But we can all live in hope .. good luck hope you find someone xxx"
Aww..thank you. That's a lovely message to receive. Likewise for you, Hunni xx |
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By *arbler OP Woman 5 weeks ago
Southampton |
"Me and my man met on here as singles. We have been together for 18 months and moving in together in a few months time. Best relationship of my life
We have taken things slow because we have kids but it’s given us time to really get to know each other.
What a lovely experience. Goid luck to you both. Thank you for your positive message x
Good luck
Miss boo x"
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By *arbler OP Woman 5 weeks ago
Southampton |
"I was actually introduced to this site by my long term fwb when she was still actively swinging. Once we saw more of each other we then became a 'thing' which has grown into both a long term sexual relationship and the best of friends too "
Wonderful to hear. Thank you for sharing xx |
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By *arbler OP Woman 5 weeks ago
Southampton |
"I met my partner through here, we'd been together 3 years, sadly didn't live together and did split. We have since become FWB and things are ok, but I'm not sure if i could go down the route of a relationship on here again.
I love the success stories though."
Sorry to hear it didn't turn out as you hoped but at least you still are able to fulfill each other xx |
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By *arbler OP Woman 5 weeks ago
Southampton |
"We both met as singles on fab,arranged to meet for a social and instantly hit it off and quickly fell in love..been together for just over a year now and still going strong..we both still enjoy the lifestyle and love exploring new things together 😊"
That's amazing..I just fabbed one of your vids...awesome. I'm really pleased for you. |
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By *arbler OP Woman 5 weeks ago
Southampton |
"Read on several forum post about people meeting on here. It may not be common, but it does happen.
I was introduced to the lifestyle by a partner I met on Tinder.
I would love to be in a relationship with someone who was also into it. "
Yes, I agree so long as trust is built up first, of course. Good luck |
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By *arbler OP Woman 5 weeks ago
Southampton |
"We've met at least 4 couples in the last 12 months who've met as singles on the scene and ended up as long term partners. A couple of them have been together for 5+ years too. It's definitely becoming more and more popular"
Wow, that is a promising number. There's hope for this old girl yet xx lol Thank you for this info |
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By *arbler OP Woman 5 weeks ago
Southampton |
"OP first step would be to even mention this is something you'd be interested in, on your profile! And I would suggest the same on dating sites - just make a new account, put a non-identifying pic on, and describe exactly the kind of dynamic you would be interested in.
Thank you for taking the time to respond with such helpful advice. I think I'll have a rethink regarding my profile wording on here. Happy fabbing x.
Do you actually want a regular FWB as your profile says, or do you want a romantic cohabitation with sexual openness like your post says (eg. monogamish, swinging)? Would you be happy with romantic openness (eg. polyamory) or do you want to be romantically exclusive? Would you be ok with your cohabiting romantic partner to be seeing others? Would you want to be seeing others yourself? Do you have any specific kinks or fetishes that would like to explore/can't be happy without? What things appeal, what things are out of the question, what are negotiables. Ie. what kind of open relationship are you dreaming of, don't keep it to yourself! Put yourself out there and with a bit of luck you'll find someone suitable, you even got offers on this very thread 😉
FTR we met on a different swinging site some 14 years back, we were both in existing long-term open relationships one of which is still going. Mentioning this as an example of how intricate open relationships can be. You want to have a commited relationship but step outside the rules of mainstream monogamy - you need to decide for yourself how to shape that commitment."
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By *arbler OP Woman 5 weeks ago
Southampton |
"We've built a three year relationship from being singles who met on Fab. I guess for us it was about meeting people who were open minded and not closed off about where meeting 'regularly' could go and what it could become. Would definitely state you are open to it on your profile.
Positives are is that you know the sex will be good before a long build up!! "
Thank you for your advice and it's great to hear how you got together x |
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By *arbler OP Woman 5 weeks ago
Southampton |
"I was wondering if anybody here has found a long term partner on here? I'm meaning living as a couple and obviously still enjoying the lifestyle. I'm finding 'dating' sites difficult. If anybody has had success on here and found 'their special person', do you have any top tips as to how to date someone from this site but then to still enjoy the delights of FAB? Thank you in advance.
Yes, nearly 8 years together now. Was my first social on here and led from there. "
Congratulations- its good to hear this can happen. |
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We met here as singles, both having had previous couples profiles with others.
The gaps between our meets got shorter and we were soon living together.
Got engaged at a swinging club at one of our parties and have been married couple of years now.
A swinging relationship has honesty that vanilla relationships struggle to match. |
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We met via fab 3 years ago and will have been living together 2 years come September. It wasn't what either of us was looking for at the time but we just clicked from the first meet. We lived over 200 miles apart and to begin with only met once a month so don't let distance get in the way. If it works for you both, go for it. |
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By *arbler OP Woman 5 weeks ago
Southampton |
"We met here as singles, both having had previous couples profiles with others.
The gaps between our meets got shorter and we were soon living together.
Got engaged at a swinging club at one of our parties and have been married couple of
A swinging relationship has honesty that vanilla relationships struggle to match. "
What a lovely story to read. Congratulations to you both xx |
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By *arbler OP Woman 5 weeks ago
Southampton |
"We met via fab 3 years ago and will have been living together 2 years come September. It wasn't what either of us was looking for at the time but we just clicked from the first meet. We lived over 200 miles apart and to begin with only met once a month so don't let distance get in the way. If it works for you both, go for it."
Wow..that is awesome.Go you two. I'm chuffed to bits for you xx Thank you for sharing xx |
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I met my partner on here, and I actually messaged him first. We don't live together but we spend most weekends together. Best of both worlds - we have time to miss each other and we get our own space, too. |
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"Hmmm, so how do you answer the question "Where did you two meet?"."
Online? I believe there is no need to be much more specific than that. And with so many online dating (and not so) websites/apps available, it's no longer an unusual option. |
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We met via here been in a relationship three years now and live together. Neither of us were looking for anything but casual but when it’s right you can feel it. Meeting the way we did has allowed us to be our authentic selves and talk openly about a variety of things we were judged by previous partners for. We’ve met other long term couples who found eachother on here but it is rare. |
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I've met with several couples who formed through Fab.
Wasn't what I was looking for when I joined but it certainly is now 
I try to stay optimistic but I struggle to attract any relationships in the vanilla world so can be pessimistic that it will be any different here 
Even my play meet ratio is very low despite my very best efforts!
My inbox is closed to men most of the time, I tend to look at parties, group socials and rare club visits |
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By *uck69xMan 4 weeks ago
cramlington |
I lost my partner to covid in 21 , I was lost without her we were in a FLR I was her submissive cuckold . It took me alot of soul searching and time out from the scene , would love to find a lady open to a cuckold relationship |
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"I would love to find a relationship through Fab.
It's a shame all the lovely ladies in this thread are so far away from me "
Get what you mean. Would love to meet someone who can have fun on fab with |
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We were on here as singles looking for casual fun. Neither of us had any interest in finding a partner, but sometimes things just happen and now here we are. Back on fab as a couple, for very different reasons than when we were single.
We think it often happens that if you stop looking you tend to find things when you least expect it |
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"We were on here as singles looking for casual fun. Neither of us had any interest in finding a partner, but sometimes things just happen and now here we are. Back on fab as a couple, for very different reasons than when we were single.
We think it often happens that if you stop looking you tend to find things when you least expect it "
definitely agree, on dating sites I would just be upfront about who you are as early as feels right, good luck op |
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By *arbler OP Woman 4 weeks ago
Southampton |
"We were on here as singles looking for casual fun. Neither of us had any interest in finding a partner, but sometimes things just happen and now here we are. Back on fab as a couple, for very different reasons than when we were single.
We think it often happens that if you stop looking you tend to find things when you least expect it "
What a wondrous journey. I agrees, maybe I am thinking abt it too much x. |
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I have been seeing a lady on here for the last seven years initially she was chatting with her friend who had a profile on here and she noticed me on who's near and made contact, we are not together as a couple but we see each other two or three times a month but otherwise live separate lives, it works well I know she has other friends and she knows I'm still on here |
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By *dalisqueWoman 4 weeks ago
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"We met via fab 3 years ago and will have been living together 2 years come September. It wasn't what either of us was looking for at the time but we just clicked from the first meet. We lived over 200 miles apart and to begin with only met once a month so don't let distance get in the way. If it works for you both, go for it."
I love this 🩵🩵 |
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"We met via fab 3 years ago and will have been living together 2 years come September. It wasn't what either of us was looking for at the time but we just clicked from the first meet. We lived over 200 miles apart and to begin with only met once a month so don't let distance get in the way. If it works for you both, go for it.
I love this 🩵🩵"
Never know how or who you will find x |
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"I was wondering if anybody here has found a long term partner on here? I'm meaning living as a couple and obviously still enjoying the lifestyle. I'm finding 'dating' sites difficult. If anybody has had success on here and found 'their special person', do you have any top tips as to how to date someone from this site but then to still enjoy the delights of FAB? Thank you in advance. "
Hey ❤️ I asked this very same question on a forum once and I’m pleased to report that there is very much a committed little corner of Fab. I am in an incredibly loving relationship with a Fabber who I met on here and as many people before me have said, the transparency that comes with a Fab relationship is like no other!
My partner and I are pretty much monogamous but are definitely keen to explore kink further. I would recommend a Fab relationship to anyone of our sexy persuasion- regular dating apps just don’t work for our kind 😘. Good luck! Xxx |
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"I was wondering if anybody here has found a long term partner on here? I'm meaning living as a couple and obviously still enjoying the lifestyle. I'm finding 'dating' sites difficult. If anybody has had success on here and found 'their special person', do you have any top tips as to how to date someone from this site but then to still enjoy the delights of FAB? Thank you in advance.
Hey ❤️ I asked this very same question on a forum once and I’m pleased to report that there is very much a committed little corner of Fab. I am in an incredibly loving relationship with a Fabber who I met on here and as many people before me have said, the transparency that comes with a Fab relationship is like no other!
My partner and I are pretty much monogamous but are definitely keen to explore kink further. I would recommend a Fab relationship to anyone of our sexy persuasion- regular dating apps just don’t work for our kind 😘. Good luck! Xxx"
I am pleased to read this. Good luck. |
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By *for77Man 4 weeks ago
Adlington |
"We actually met as singles on fab and are now married
It definitely helped that there were no secrets between us , and no skeletons in the cupboard
We've continued to play and have a up to date profile , so we're still out there and having fun"
That’s awesome. Well done guys and all the best. |
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