So how did your first MFM go? I’m asking this as a couple so what were your expectations and boundaries?
Did you lay down any hard rules of what was and wasn’t allowed or did you just agree that being in a strong relationship was enough to let whatever happens go and that if it started to go ‘too far’ you’d know anyway?
Our first MFM is just around the corner and we are both feeling quite relaxed to what it could entail. |
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I started being the extra m so that helped. When I was with ex and we started to swing with her taking an extra guy the boundaries were simple. We went with no expectations, almost the expectation it wouldn't happen. When we got a chance to chat mid date we agreed together and went for it. Agreement and communication. All it needs |
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My advice about your first MFM is not to over think it.
Don't put down to many rules.
Don't expect it to be fantastic as nevers and uncertainty will have an effect.
Use it as a learning experience so the next time you know what it is you enjoy and look for.
As for my first time I was nevers and didn't know what to do. But things soon start to flow and I really enjoyed it.
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Thank you all for your answers.
Like one reply said , we certainly don’t want to lay down a rule book, we are doing this for fun. At our age and that of the fella we’re inviting along we hope that overall respect is a given. It’s okay saying we need to lay down our boundaries along with our likes and dislikes but am I correct in saying we don’t really know what are likes and dislikes are being as we’ve not tried a threesome before? We’ve enjoyed foursomes which initially were soft swing but we soon realised that that didn’t quite make the mark. I guess we can just request we don’t want the three P’s, well the fourth P for Pleasure is paramount.
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By *bi HaiveMan 4 weeks ago
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It's all about communication.
Yes it's important to discuss boundaries. But that's a three way conversation and the single guy involved is just as important as the couple. He may have his own preferences too.
And at any point anyone, you or him, are entitled to say no, stop or pause any activity if not happy or comfortable.
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Discuss and stick to boundaries or have none, that's up to you. Also ask the man what he likes to do. Our first MFM was soft play in our hotel room in Gran Canaria. It was surreal and an hour later we were doing karaoke (Sex on fire!) in a bar 🎤  |
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"It's all about communication.
Yes it's important to discuss boundaries. But that's a three way conversation and the single guy involved is just as important as the couple. He may have his own preferences too.
And at any point anyone, you or him, are entitled to say no, stop or pause any activity if not happy or comfortable.
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You are 100% correct and I did forget to put that in my initial text. We know the 3rd party will have his own likes and dislikes, we want him to fully enjoy it too, if he’s not satisfied we won’t be either.
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"Discuss and stick to boundaries or have none, that's up to you. Also ask the man what he likes to do. Our first MFM was soft play in our hotel room in Gran Canaria. It was surreal and an hour later we were doing karaoke (Sex on fire!) in a bar 🎤 "
Sounds so sexy. |
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"So how did your first MFM go? I’m asking this as a couple so what were your expectations and boundaries?
Did you lay down any hard rules of what was and wasn’t allowed or did you just agree that being in a strong relationship was enough to let whatever happens go and that if it started to go ‘too far’ you’d know anyway?
Our first MFM is just around the corner and we are both feeling quite relaxed to what it could entail. "
Hopefully all goes great everyone enjoys too maybe you will let us all no |
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"What's preferred, your male partner behind with spare male below, or other way round.
That sounds like a good plan, I’ll not call him the spare but more so the +1 below. "
Actually worded it wrong as I was referring to DP.
I'll try again, partner behind and you sucking +1 cock or the other way round? |
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"What's preferred, your male partner behind with spare male below, or other way round.
That sounds like a good plan, I’ll not call him the spare but more so the +1 below. "
Love being below. It feels good watching her enjoying her two cocks. |
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