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"What are the details, have you had a social or a coffee somewhere beforehand, are they verified and where was the meet planned (a house or hotel)?"
Yes all verified, we don’t meet people that are not. Always a social first. L usually gets ready is about to walk out the door and they either cancel or block |
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By *for77Man 2 weeks ago
Adlington |
"What are the details, have you had a social or a coffee somewhere beforehand, are they verified and where was the meet planned (a house or hotel)?
Yes all verified, we don’t meet people that are not. Always a social first. L usually gets ready is about to walk out the door and they either cancel or block "
We had a few no shows as a couple. Annoying when you have to make plans to get a free night. As a single guy, there’s only one time I had to cancel due to work. I would 100% be showing up if I was meeting you guys!! Love the profile pic!!  |
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"Is there any recommendations from other couples for men that actually show up when a meet is arranged? We have hit 11 no shows on the Trott now "
Play at clubs, instead of trying to arrange a meet in a hotel or home. |
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By *ukaMan 2 weeks ago
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"What are the details, have you had a social or a coffee somewhere beforehand, are they verified and where was the meet planned (a house or hotel)?
Yes all verified, we don’t meet people that are not. Always a social first. L usually gets ready is about to walk out the door and they either cancel or block "
So is it the social that they don't turn up to or the main event? It sounds like a lot of men seem to get nervous after being brave enough to plan something online. I know personally that it's nerve wracking as a single man, I get nervous but treat it as part of the "thrill".
What type of place is the meeting arranged at? |
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"Is there any recommendations from other couples for men that actually show up when a meet is arranged? We have hit 11 no shows on the Trott now
Play at clubs, instead of trying to arrange a meet in a hotel or home. "
We do clubs  we go to Chams when we can, but it can be hard to get a baby sitter as often as we would like to go |
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By *ukaMan 2 weeks ago
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"Is there any recommendations from other couples for men that actually show up when a meet is arranged? We have hit 11 no shows on the Trott now
Play at clubs, instead of trying to arrange a meet in a hotel or home. "
Great advice, at a club there's the opportunity to play immediately if the vibe is right but you still have to safety of a relatively public setting. The atmosphere is sexual too without having to predict the future. |
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"What are the details, have you had a social or a coffee somewhere beforehand, are they verified and where was the meet planned (a house or hotel)?
Yes all verified, we don’t meet people that are not. Always a social first. L usually gets ready is about to walk out the door and they either cancel or block
So is it the social that they don't turn up to or the main event? It sounds like a lot of men seem to get nervous after being brave enough to plan something online. I know personally that it's nerve wracking as a single man, I get nervous but treat it as part of the "thrill".
What type of place is the meeting arranged at?"
It’s the social that they don’t turn up to |
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"Is there any recommendations from other couples for men that actually show up when a meet is arranged? We have hit 11 no shows on the Trott now
Play at clubs, instead of trying to arrange a meet in a hotel or home.
We do clubs we go to Chams when we can, but it can be hard to get a baby sitter as often as we would like to go "
That’s fair enough |
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By *ukaMan 2 weeks ago
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"What are the details, have you had a social or a coffee somewhere beforehand, are they verified and where was the meet planned (a house or hotel)?
Yes all verified, we don’t meet people that are not. Always a social first. L usually gets ready is about to walk out the door and they either cancel or block
So is it the social that they don't turn up to or the main event? It sounds like a lot of men seem to get nervous after being brave enough to plan something online. I know personally that it's nerve wracking as a single man, I get nervous but treat it as part of the "thrill".
What type of place is the meeting arranged at?
It’s the social that they don’t turn up to "
What sort of venue is it, and what is the distance from them? |
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"What are the details, have you had a social or a coffee somewhere beforehand, are they verified and where was the meet planned (a house or hotel)?
Yes all verified, we don’t meet people that are not. Always a social first. L usually gets ready is about to walk out the door and they either cancel or block
So is it the social that they don't turn up to or the main event? It sounds like a lot of men seem to get nervous after being brave enough to plan something online. I know personally that it's nerve wracking as a single man, I get nervous but treat it as part of the "thrill".
What type of place is the meeting arranged at?
It’s the social that they don’t turn up to
What sort of venue is it, and what is the distance from them?"
A pub, usually closer to them than us but in the middle and we don’t tend to branch out further than 20 miles away |
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I've always shown up, but, like you, more often than not, they no show.
Even got to the arranged meeting place, let them know I was there and asked them what they wanted to drink, then ordered the drinks and they still didn't show! That really knocked me, but they good meets have outweighed the negative no shows. Just got to hold onto that hope lol. |
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"I've always shown up, but, like you, more often than not, they no show.
Even got to the arranged meeting place, let them know I was there and asked them what they wanted to drink, then ordered the drinks and they still didn't show! That really knocked me, but they good meets have outweighed the negative no shows. Just got to hold onto that hope lol. "
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By *ukaMan 2 weeks ago
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"What are the details, have you had a social or a coffee somewhere beforehand, are they verified and where was the meet planned (a house or hotel)?
Yes all verified, we don’t meet people that are not. Always a social first. L usually gets ready is about to walk out the door and they either cancel or block
So is it the social that they don't turn up to or the main event? It sounds like a lot of men seem to get nervous after being brave enough to plan something online. I know personally that it's nerve wracking as a single man, I get nervous but treat it as part of the "thrill".
What type of place is the meeting arranged at?
It’s the social that they don’t turn up to
What sort of venue is it, and what is the distance from them?
A pub, usually closer to them than us but in the middle and we don’t tend to branch out further than 20 miles away "
Seems an ideal choice, far enough from both of you to be discreet, the only thing that would concern me on your profile is the sentence where you can accommodate when the kids are in bed, it's not a situation where I could relax but doesn't really explain why they don't turn up for a social.
Maybe try and even more casual meet, men are weary too, possibly a picnic spot or motorway service area, somewhere that he wouldn't have to explain to someone if they saw him there.
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By *homas400Man 2 weeks ago
Carmarthen / Llandeilo |
I can't understand why someone would arrange to meet and not turn up. I'm sure I'm not the only one who'd keep it their word. Maybe I'm a bit 'old school'.... 'Don't make promises you can't keep'. |
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"What are the details, have you had a social or a coffee somewhere beforehand, are they verified and where was the meet planned (a house or hotel)?
Yes all verified, we don’t meet people that are not. Always a social first. L usually gets ready is about to walk out the door and they either cancel or block
So is it the social that they don't turn up to or the main event? It sounds like a lot of men seem to get nervous after being brave enough to plan something online. I know personally that it's nerve wracking as a single man, I get nervous but treat it as part of the "thrill".
What type of place is the meeting arranged at?
It’s the social that they don’t turn up to
What sort of venue is it, and what is the distance from them?
A pub, usually closer to them than us but in the middle and we don’t tend to branch out further than 20 miles away
Seems an ideal choice, far enough from both of you to be discreet, the only thing that would concern me on your profile is the sentence where you can accommodate when the kids are in bed, it's not a situation where I could relax but doesn't really explain why they don't turn up for a social.
Maybe try and even more casual meet, men are weary too, possibly a picnic spot or motorway service area, somewhere that he wouldn't have to explain to someone if they saw him there.
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That’s fair, but we wouldn’t meet like that as it’s to risky - L always meets alone and no way I would like her attend a picnic spot without me - far to risky |
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By *ukaMan 2 weeks ago
Chester |
"Do they ever give a reason?
No - mainly block at the last minute or don’t show "
Try not to let it put you off though, there's definitely nothing in your photos that would put someone off.
I'm sure the next one will be amazing. X |
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"We have hit 11 no shows on the Trott now "
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When you make arrangements to meet them for a social have you already moved over to WhatsApp or Telegram? If so, do you speak to them on the phone/in-app voice calls? |
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How long do you go from first contact to arranging to meet? I get the feeling that for some guys, when the reality of a meet becomes a thing, it's very easy to bottle it, especially if it's a quick turnaround. I'd say spend a bit more time chatting so you you're sure you're on the same page and have them suggest where to meet.
Failing that, if you're into clubs, you could always go there so you're not let down by anyone get to meet more people face to face. |
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"How long do you go from first contact to arranging to meet? I get the feeling that for some guys, when the reality of a meet becomes a thing, it's very easy to bottle it, especially if it's a quick turnaround. I'd say spend a bit more time chatting so you you're sure you're on the same page and have them suggest where to meet.
Failing that, if you're into clubs, you could always go there so you're not let down by anyone get to meet more people face to face."
The conversation is never a quick turn around - always over a long period of time. I think that’s a bad thing though as men just use it for fantasy wanks.
Unfortunately with a lady meeting a strange man alone, we have to control the narrative of meet location. I’m not sure there would be a lady wouldn’t
We go to clubs but rarely as it’s difficult to get childcare |
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"How long do you go from first contact to arranging to meet? I get the feeling that for some guys, when the reality of a meet becomes a thing, it's very easy to bottle it, especially if it's a quick turnaround. I'd say spend a bit more time chatting so you you're sure you're on the same page and have them suggest where to meet.
Failing that, if you're into clubs, you could always go there so you're not let down by anyone get to meet more people face to face.
The conversation is never a quick turn around - always over a long period of time. I think that’s a bad thing though as men just use it for fantasy wanks.
Unfortunately with a lady meeting a strange man alone, we have to control the narrative of meet location. I’m not sure there would be a lady wouldn’t
We go to clubs but rarely as it’s difficult to get childcare "
Hmmmm... That makes sense. Even for a site like Fab, 11 in a row is a pretty shocking return. I can't see why even one meet hasn't gone through |
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I can only say that as a single guy, finding people willing to meet even just for a social is hard so if it’s arranged, I will turn up. Sounds like you’ve had incredibly bad luck. Maybe take more care with the men you converse with? How old is their profile, how many veri’s do they have, are they meet in person, recent… etc.
I’ve had people cancel on me but never a no show. Guess I’ve been lucky. Don’t give up though. There are real people that will turn up. |
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"I can only say that as a single guy, finding people willing to meet even just for a social is hard so if it’s arranged, I will turn up. Sounds like you’ve had incredibly bad luck. Maybe take more care with the men you converse with? How old is their profile, how many veri’s do they have, are they meet in person, recent… etc.
I’ve had people cancel on me but never a no show. Guess I’ve been lucky. Don’t give up though. There are real people that will turn up. "
I like it how it always out fault, these men that we plan meets with are fully verified, profiles look great with Info and picture, we get face pictures etc etc
They are even men that have sent messages and said “I always show up to meets if given then chance” or “you don’t pick the right people, give me a chance and I’ll show up”
Then they get the chance and boom - no show. |
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Firstly, sorry to read this.
The various comments you have placed since the original message all make sense.
-You don't do the instant meet after a quick chat
-It's for a social first.
-Meeting verified people.
There are occasions where a delay in a meet may be required, but to block or not turn up without explanation is disingenuous.
It is perplexing and long bad luck streak.
Try not to be too disheartened and stick with it. Many potential suitors on here.
I wish you better luck in the near future. 🤞 |
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I always show up for meets when arranged, even if just for a social
I can't believe guy's don't show up when they have arranged a meet
I find it difficult arranging any meets so for a guy not to show up is a poss take in my opinion |
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By *arand25Couple 2 weeks ago
Crowborough |
We've had 6 single guys call things off at the last minute, citing various reasons,. Four were blocked as we could tell they were just lying but 2 we're still in contact with. Can be frustrating & annoying but sometimes it can't be helped. |
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"We have hit 11 no shows on the Trott now
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When you make arrangements to meet them for a social have you already moved over to WhatsApp or Telegram? If so, do you speak to them on the phone/in-app voice calls?"
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You didn't answer this, OP. |
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By *WB85Man 2 weeks ago
Staffordshire |
We had an issue with time wasters in our early days.
My best advice is slowing your journey down. We have a really relaxed approach now, prefer to chat for a week or so first and see how it feels. The time wasters often get bored during this time.
Always photo verify also, this in our opinion helps filter people out.
Hope you guys figure it out.
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"We had an issue with time wasters in our early days.
My best advice is slowing your journey down. We have a really relaxed approach now, prefer to chat for a week or so first and see how it feels. The time wasters often get bored during this time.
Always photo verify also, this in our opinion helps filter people out.
Hope you guys figure it out.
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Great advise |
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Other than them being men, it could be useful to ascertain whether there are any common denominators between them.
Could they have partners, they're deceiving you about? Do you speak with them, when many men are likely to be with their partner? |
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Its the post covid curse, pre covid i had one no show in about 5 yearssince covid around 60 no shows, most seem to have joined during or after lockdown, and any with verifications only seemed to have cam verifications. |
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"Is there any recommendations from other couples for men that actually show up when a meet is arranged? We have hit 11 no shows on the Trott now "
How you managed to find 11 twats ?! You definitely have a type by the looks of it haha.
Not e couple but big on safety. I try to verify the person is real and genuinely interested. Like a video call to see the vibe , and how they are sounding and acting etc |
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"Is there any recommendations from other couples for men that actually show up when a meet is arranged? We have hit 11 no shows on the Trott now "
Have the 11 no shows all had multiple recent veris ?
Sounds like poor due diligence or selection process to get so many in a row.
Good luck though
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"Is there any recommendations from other couples for men that actually show up when a meet is arranged? We have hit 11 no shows on the Trott now
Play at clubs, instead of trying to arrange a meet in a hotel or home. "
This is a good suggestion, theres always single men at clubs and they'd be more than ready to play.
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