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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am easily confused well I am one of the more "mature" guys on here.  But why do so many couples state no single guys yet have verification from a number of single guys? 
OK I know many state no single guys and that if they want one they will find one but I have read a number of profiles from couples that don't say such yet have verification's from single guys.
I NEVER PM any couple unless they say single guys are fine and perhaps in doing so I am limiting those who might want to meet me. I have even had winks and PM's from couples who say they don't meet single guys. 
Perhaps it's got something to do with the volume of PM's they might get if they openly say single guys are welcome etc.
I always read profiles fully and respect couples and single ladies wishes but perhaps that's not the way to be I do OK here anyway so I won't be changing and will continue to respect peoples profile wants etc.  |
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They might state no single guys, just to deter numerous messages (although a good use of filters would achieve the same result). However, they might also want to select the single guys that interest them by themselves, at their own pace.
That or....they REALLY don't want to meet single guys.
Just focus on profiles that don't exclude you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"They might state no single guys, just to deter numerous messages (although a good use of filters would achieve the same result). However, they might also want to select the single guys that interest them by themselves, at their own pace.
That or....they REALLY don't want to meet single guys.
Just focus on profiles that don't exclude you "
Yes I agree and yes I do focus on those I appear to meet their criteria's. However you have to read their profile in order to see if they wish to meet single guys.
I guess it's no big deal as I do OK anyway. I just find it a little confusing that they exclude single guys yet have verification's from them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They might state no single guys, just to deter numerous messages (although a good use of filters would achieve the same result). However, they might also want to select the single guys that interest them by themselves, at their own pace.
That or....they REALLY don't want to meet single guys.
Just focus on profiles that don't exclude you
Yes I agree and yes I do focus on those I appear to meet their criteria's. However you have to read their profile in order to see if they wish to meet single guys.
I guess it's no big deal as I do OK anyway. I just find it a little confusing that they exclude single guys yet have verification's from them."
Such is life, we living in a very confusing world  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On my couples profile we are not looking for single guys.. because when we are we will use my profile or contact guys we know... Or maybe just go to a club..
Our couples profile is for playing together, so therefore we like to have a lady there too..
We still get messages from single guys though, same as I still get half a dozen messages or so asking to meet when this profile Cleary says I am not...at least the op is reading the profiles. |
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"They might state no single guys, just to deter numerous messages (although a good use of filters would achieve the same result). However, they might also want to select the single guys that interest them by themselves, at their own pace.
That or....they REALLY don't want to meet single guys.
Just focus on profiles that don't exclude you
Yes I agree and yes I do focus on those I appear to meet their criteria's. However you have to read their profile in order to see if they wish to meet single guys.
I guess it's no big deal as I do OK anyway. I just find it a little confusing that they exclude single guys yet have verification's from them."
Sounds like they choose the ones they want to play with. Also sometimes the veris could be social meets |
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Most probably do it (and we dont) because wading through pictures of cocks, cut and pastes, requests to meet right now and all the rest of the joy that having single males unlocked brings.
To be frank its quite tedious and we turn them off from time to time ourselves.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"They might state no single guys, just to deter numerous messages (although a good use of filters would achieve the same result). However, they might also want to select the single guys that interest them by themselves, at their own pace.
That or....they REALLY don't want to meet single guys.
Just focus on profiles that don't exclude you
Yes I agree and yes I do focus on those I appear to meet their criteria's. However you have to read their profile in order to see if they wish to meet single guys.
I guess it's no big deal as I do OK anyway. I just find it a little confusing that they exclude single guys yet have verification's from them.
Sounds like they choose the ones they want to play with. "
Yes I do try and keep my PMs to those who I appear to be the kind of guy they are looking for. I also keep my PMs respectful and often thank them for reading my PM. Works sometimes but often not but I guess that's par for the course. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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We will meet single men but find that if we tick the searching for single men box on our profile, we get far too many messages and most of them won't have read our profile.
Don't block single men but find without ticking the box we get fewer but better messages from men. (not sure I have explained that very well but I know what I mean)
Plus I/we like to do the searching and contact those that catch my eye. Rather than waiting to see who might send a message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we generally have single men blocked because it saves any wasting of our time and theirs but as our profile states, if we're at a club or a party and the mood takes us, we do occasionally play with single men.,generally though, it's the couples dynamic that we're here for so we're not in the slightest bit interested in single men
we also have a couple of very great friends who we play with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Or like ours the single male verifications have been through social or web cam or in one case a couple that have split up and now a single male, so when we say we are not interested in single males we mean it there is no reading in between the lines or hidden sub text and we've filtered out single males from messaging us to make it easy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think you will find that some couples prefer to search for single guys themselves as opposed to being bombarded by PMs from them
x  "
You said a mouth full ...no puns intended.
Wish they all would pick up on that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have veri's off single guys, but don't meet them through this site. I go to clubs and play with guys there.
So although I dont use the site to meet them I do get veri's off them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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of course not that we should have to explain ourselves to either the OP or any other single man who questions the perceived "discrepancy" between our profile text and our verifications |
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When we set the profile up we said in it that if we wanted a single guy we would do the selecting, after a few weeks of mail from single guys who... a)Couldnt read / didnt want to read the profile.... b)thought they were the exception to the rule and we should be greatful that they even considered us....we just changed the message filters and made good use of the block button |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"of course not that we should have to explain ourselves to either the OP or any other single man who questions the perceived "discrepancy" between our profile text and our verifications"
Nobody's asking you to explain yourselves and therefore there is no need to reply here. If you don't like the question ignore it as somebody else will. Thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"When we set the profile up we said in it that if we wanted a single guy we would do the selecting, after a few weeks of mail from single guys who... a)Couldnt read / didnt want to read the profile.... b)thought they were the exception to the rule and we should be greatful that they even considered us....we just changed the message filters and made good use of the block button"
Yes I could understand that and its a shame that some people can't won't or will simply ignore your wishes. Not just single guys of course but it does seem they are the biggest culprits.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think as said above people like to look themselves.
As a rule we don't meet single guys apart from playing occasionally in clubs. We posted a meet one night and thought we add single guys to it so we turned the filters off.
We honestly got up the next day to nearly 70 messages, loads of winks and friends invites. If that is what people get who have the filters off all the time I can understand it. It just becomes hard work as you can't sort through that lot easily. So I think it is much easier to browse yourself. Not that we didn't appreciate people taking the time to message but it was just overwhelming to be honest. So that is why we have the filters on.
C xx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also we have a veri that shows as a single guy but it was a couple we met on a couples profile who now have separate profiles. When the profile changed the veri changed too
C xx |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I don't meet single women or couples for sex on Fab, yet have veris from single women and couples. It's a mystery!!
Actually, its because I go to socials and clubs, and sometimes the mood just takes me to mix things up a bit. Doesn't mean I'll be turning off my filters though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am easily confused well I am one of the more "mature" guys on here. But why do so many couples state no single guys yet have verification from a number of single guys?
OK I know many state no single guys and that if they want one they will find one but I have read a number of profiles from couples that don't say such yet have verification's from single guys.
I NEVER PM any couple unless they say single guys are fine and perhaps in doing so I am limiting those who might want to meet me. I have even had winks and PM's from couples who say they don't meet single guys.
Perhaps it's got something to do with the volume of PM's they might get if they openly say single guys are welcome etc.
I always read profiles fully and respect couples and single ladies wishes but perhaps that's not the way to be I do OK here anyway so I won't be changing and will continue to respect peoples profile wants etc. "
great question had thought same myself for a while. I must admit after speaking to few single women on here it's baffling that more women don't block single guys. Only last week I was round a friends who had just replied to a single guy saying "thanks for message but sorry not interested", I was amazed at the abuse she had back off the guy, some need to grow up and stop spitting there dummy out, end of the day like so many people have mentioned before women are outnumbered so much by guys so not always going to get reply's. Personally reading reply's sort of answered question for me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am easily confused well I am one of the more "mature" guys on here. But why do so many couples state no single guys yet have verification from a number of single guys?
OK I know many state no single guys and that if they want one they will find one but I have read a number of profiles from couples that don't say such yet have verification's from single guys.
I NEVER PM any couple unless they say single guys are fine and perhaps in doing so I am limiting those who might want to meet me. I have even had winks and PM's from couples who say they don't meet single guys.
Perhaps it's got something to do with the volume of PM's they might get if they openly say single guys are welcome etc.
I always read profiles fully and respect couples and single ladies wishes but perhaps that's not the way to be I do OK here anyway so I won't be changing and will continue to respect peoples profile wants etc. great question had thought same myself for a while. I must admit after speaking to few single women on here it's baffling that more women don't block single guys. Only last week I was round a friends who had just replied to a single guy saying "thanks for message but sorry not interested", I was amazed at the abuse she had back off the guy, some need to grow up and stop spitting there dummy out, end of the day like so many people have mentioned before women are outnumbered so much by guys so not always going to get reply's. Personally reading reply's sort of answered question for me "
+1 re the abuse no need for it what so ever and no wonder some have had enough of the arse holes who disrespect the wishes of people no matter what or who they are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We will meet single men but find that if we tick the searching for single men box on our profile, we get far too many messages and most of them won't have read our profile.
Don't block single men but find without ticking the box we get fewer but better messages from men. (not sure I have explained that very well but I know what I mean)
Plus I/we like to do the searching and contact those that catch my eye. Rather than waiting to see who might send a message."
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By (user no longer on site)
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I dont have guys on profile but i dont have them blocked. I have a few guys.on here who am friends with n it suits us both ya can never have to many friends.I hear it so many times from guys who have been speaking women sumtime then arrange a meet n the women cancels n blocks the guy why i never know lol. I have had sum nasty messages off guys in past n all this cos i sed wasnt interseted in meeting especialy if no social as am not into fuck n go thats wen i get abuse fired at me lol we all get rejection at sumtime no need to get nasty bout is there. But its the knob heads who spoil it for the good ones.OK rant over lol |
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"I am easily confused well I am one of the more "mature" guys on here. But why do so many couples state no single guys yet have verification from a number of single guys?
OK I know many state no single guys and that if they want one they will find one but I have read a number of profiles from couples that don't say such yet have verification's from single guys.
I NEVER PM any couple unless they say single guys are fine and perhaps in doing so I am limiting those who might want to meet me. I have even had winks and PM's from couples who say they don't meet single guys.
Perhaps it's got something to do with the volume of PM's they might get if they openly say single guys are welcome etc.
I always read profiles fully and respect couples and single ladies wishes but perhaps that's not the way to be I do OK here anyway so I won't be changing and will continue to respect peoples profile wants etc. "
As already said by others, lots of couples and single women put it there to stop them getting endless 'fancy a fuck, here's a photo of my cock' mails. Some will have met single guys in clubs, at parties or GBs. I get couples contacting me at times because they want something organising or because they want to come to something I'm putting together. Sometimes we've met up again on a 1 to 1 to one or 3 some basis. If you wish to contact couples or single women who say no single men but haven't actually blocked them send an intelligent, articulate and interesting mail. It may work or may not but nothing ventured nothing gained. I would suggest that you include face / body photos, not just cock shots or have such on your public profile. Remember it's a buyers market on here. |
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