Im not sure if this subject has already been covered,ive only just started reading forum feedbacks.After been on here a few weeks now and chatting to few people and making some friends,i know feel im ready to maybe visit either club/party or go to a social{west/south yorks}but if/when it does occur i dont really want to go on my own,wouldnt feel very comfy going on my own and would be quite nervy+edge,i would rather be accompanied by a mature+experienced couple,ive had threesomes before,but its either been at mine or theres,i would like to now experience what ive mentioned earlier.All feedback will be taken on board and replied to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well everyone can get a bit nervous, so your not the first person.
I suggest finding a woman or couple you have met with before who have had experience with clubs, socials , etc
But all I can really suggest is, if your going to a club for the first time. Have a read up on it. Usually the staff and other people there are very friendly and will answer whatever questions you might have.
I think the best thing for you to do, is to just go to a club or a social, look at it as something new, dont be thinking about getting laid, just look at it as a way to meet some friendly people and have bit of a laugh. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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with regards to socials why would you feel like that?
surely the point of going to one would be to socialise anyway, so unless when you get there you don't plan on talking to anyone then it is the same as anything else in life in that you get out what you put in.....
I find it weird that people always ask for women or couples to be handholders in that you are big and brave enough to come on to a site like this and ask for meets... but not big and brave enough to walk thru a door by yourselves..... |
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cheers for the advise,yes im thinking on the lines of probably a couple initially and take it from there.The last thing on my mind though is getting laid  i know it doesnt work like that,my main aim is to socialise and meet other likeminded swingers and have a laugh.Go with the flow,if anything happens,it happens. |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
North of The Wall - youll need your vest |
Theres a social on your doorstep in Barnsley this evening. Should have got your name down but they are quite regular so get yourself sorted for the next one, I think it's June... |
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Well it is true, that you cant always be waiting for someone to come along and hold your hand per say. But it is understandable to be nervous. But what is the worst that could happen? I think the only thing that might happen is you dont get any action. Go investigate what clubs or socials are going on near you. If its a club, see what night single men are allowed into. Give a call in and check it out. The place could be empty, and you might just end up talking to some other people and no action. But so what? At least you have gone and gotten a feel for what its like.
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Well it is true, that you cant always be waiting for someone to come along and hold your hand per say. But it is understandable to be nervous. But what is the worst that could happen? I think the only thing that might happen is you dont get any action. Go investigate what clubs or socials are going on near you. If its a club, see what night single men are allowed into. Give a call in and check it out. The place could be empty, and you might just end up talking to some other people and no action. But so what? At least you have gone and gotten a feel for what its like.
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I am not going to talk about the clubs.... different matter ... but for socials they are non play events anyway, so take the "action" (and i really hate that phrase) out of it.... you go to socials to meet people and to have a laugh..... so the need for a handholder really mistify's me....
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"Well it is true, that you cant always be waiting for someone to come along and hold your hand per say. But it is understandable to be nervous. But what is the worst that could happen? I think the only thing that might happen is you dont get any action. Go investigate what clubs or socials are going on near you. If its a club, see what night single men are allowed into. Give a call in and check it out. The place could be empty, and you might just end up talking to some other people and no action. But so what? At least you have gone and gotten a feel for what its like.
I am not going to talk about the clubs.... different matter ... but for socials they are non play events anyway, so take the "action" (and i really hate that phrase) out of it.... you go to socials to meet people and to have a laugh..... so the need for a handholder really mistify's me....
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I have to agree with Fab re the hand holding.
I'll be attending my first social in London soon. From those attending I don't think I've even spoken to them in the Forums but I'm looking forward to it and I"ll be going on my own!  |
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