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why is it so hard....
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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... to find the right people?
Are we just to choosy??
We havent met anyone since February. Even though there are lots of single guys out there - we always find something what puts us off! Or people just turn out as time-wasters. Married, or too far away...
we like to meet for a drink first to get to know people as we have to feel comfortable. But even that seems hard to organise.....
Have you had similar experience? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"... to find the right people?
Are we just to choosy??
We havent met anyone since February. Even though there are lots of single guys out there - we always find something what puts us off! Or people just turn out as time-wasters. Married, or too far away...
we like to meet for a drink first to get to know people as we have to feel comfortable. But even that seems hard to organise.....
Have you had similar experience? "
My problem too unfortunately..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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oh yes.
what gets me is the ones which get in touch.
start sending dirty pictures of themselves to you. text lots chat on the phone and arrrange to meet.
then go silent and you never get a reply to anything.
loads of them about.and some with veris on the profiles.
if they dont want to meet why go through all that bullshit. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Clubs not my scene, so patience I guess..."
doesn't have to be clubs like the person above says... there are countless socials going on in scotland, and they are fantastic events where you go along, you have a laugh and you can meet people....
get yourself to one of those.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have you had similar experience?
Yes - I've found it difficult to find the right people for me as I tend to be a bit fussy. Not sure if this is a good or a bad thing?!  |
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"oh yes.
what gets me is the ones which get in touch.
start sending dirty pictures of themselves to you. text lots chat on the phone and arrrange to meet.
then go silent and you never get a reply to anything.
loads of them about.and some with veris on the profiles.
if they dont want to meet why go through all that
bullshit. "
Yes this has happened to us a few times lately too  |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else |
"Have you had similar experience?
Yes - I've found it difficult to find the right people for me as I tend to be a bit fussy. Not sure if this is a good or a bad thing?! "
It's something to be very proud of, I'd have thought. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Clubs not my scene, so patience I guess...
doesn't have to be clubs like the person above says... there are countless socials going on in scotland, and they are fantastic events where you go along, you have a laugh and you can meet people....
get yourself to one of those...."
Sadly, I have not managed any due to work, also as a single female I do find it a bit daunting....oh well maybe one day. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Have you had similar experience?
Yes - I've found it difficult to find the right people for me as I tend to be a bit fussy. Not sure if this is a good or a bad thing?!
It's something to be very proud of, I'd have thought."
i know what you mean... i go to my local club and spend most of the night laying of a sofa gassing to people while drinking either a bottle of water or a cup of tea (people will be able to vouch for me!!)
it not just about the sex, its the getting to know people as well.... damn having a brain!!! its a curse i tell ya! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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that's what I mean!
There seem to be people out there who just fuck anything and everything.
For us it has to be a well mannered person/couple, non pushy, be able to write without spelling errors (which isn't hard when you use a pc) and has to be able to hold a normal conversation. Also we prefer that all have a shower before meeting (o yes - we have met smelly people before!!!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"that's what I mean!
There seem to be people out there who just fuck anything and everything.
For us it has to be a well mannered person/couple, non pushy, be able to write without spelling errors (which isn't hard when you use a pc) and has to be able to hold a normal conversation. Also we prefer that all have a shower before meeting (o yes - we have met smelly people before!!!)"
totally understand where your coming from |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"that's what I mean!
There seem to be people out there who just fuck anything and everything.
For us it has to be a well mannered person/couple, non pushy, be able to write without spelling errors (which isn't hard when you use a pc) and has to be able to hold a normal conversation. Also we prefer that all have a shower before meeting (o yes - we have met smelly people before!!!)"
Must agree, very off putting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lol, basic hygiene seems to have taken a back seat today. I work in a hospital and we get some of the smelliest people - I'm not talking about patients, they are unwell - but visitors who can't even be bothered to wash and change before visiting. Why anyone would thaink it was acceptable in a potentially intimate situation I've no Idea! Scratters! |
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
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Kinda puts pay to the "Loads of Single Guys" myth doesn't it?
Sure lots join the site but (and I'm wildly guestimating here) out of say every 100 that join, 90 of them are in the hi-I'm-free-fancy-a-shag-here's-a-pic-of-my-cock brigade, and only a proportion of those left are likely to float a particular person's boat. |
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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago
north manchester |
"yeah, and don't look most of the cocks look the same? lol"
LOL! they ALL look the bloody same, especially in the size of res most people view at, which begs the question why bother with a pic of your cock? - show us yer body or torso instead! |
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
THE STICKS |
"then you think - hmm that's a nice cock - rest of the body turns out not so nice - and sorry - but I can't shag someone who is not what I fancy!"
why be sorry?
its not your fault that some people will conflate swinging with shag-anything-that-moves |
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By *ossy30Man
over a year ago
sunderland |
ive just had the same thing dont to me, ive spoken to this woman for a week or so, id got a txt today saying can i go to hers tonight for some fun.id traveled about ten miles to hers gets there and rings herto say im out side and she didnt reply, i hate been made a fool of, |
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
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"ive just had the same thing dont to me, ive spoken to this woman for a week or so, id got a txt today saying can i go to hers tonight for some fun.id traveled about ten miles to hers gets there and rings herto say im out side and she didnt reply, i hate been made a fool of, "
always ring BEFORE you leave - lesson learned. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is no such thing as being too fussy, too choosy, too many rules, you have to do what you feel comfortable with, ok that might cut down on the number of meets you have and you may want to compromise some of the more minor points like age or distance, but if you don't feel comfortable about who you meet don't do it, just be patient and enjoy those you do meet.
As for "some people just fuck anyone" cool, great for them if that's what they like to do nobody should judge them because obviously they are doing what they feel comfortable with.
I would say keep your personal standards and just be very patient. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"... to find the right people?
Are we just to choosy??
We havent met anyone since February. Even though there are lots of single guys out there - we always find something what puts us off! Or people just turn out as time-wasters. Married, or too far away...
we like to meet for a drink first to get to know people as we have to feel comfortable. But even that seems hard to organise.....
Have you had similar experience? "
We too feel the same but are firm believers in the saying good things cum to those that wait ! xx |
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
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"yeah, and don't look most of the cocks look the same? lol
don't tell em that... between you and tobes you'll give the bloody game away!!!!
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Oops sorry!
on the upside it makes me an easy mark in a game of poker |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It can be mega difficult to meet compatible "friends" if you do it from distance, ie, by email.
We decided to do our prospecting face to face at clubs and parties. Firstly, you know the people you are speaking to are genuine, and secondly, you will know more or less instantly if there is a mutual attraction.
Try it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"... to find the right people?
Are we just to choosy??
We havent met anyone since February. Even though there are lots of single guys out there - we always find something what puts us off! Or people just turn out as time-wasters. Married, or too far away...
we like to meet for a drink first to get to know people as we have to feel comfortable. But even that seems hard to organise.....
Have you had similar experience? "
yes but you have the rights to be choosey lol
i find it very hard to meet guys off here even tho i get messages by the hundreds, its so hard to find people you like and are attracted to who feel the same back, even those i mket id say i play with less than 50% of because i dont like them in the flesh, i find it much easier to go to clubs where there are lots of guys to choose from than find men on here |
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