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By *-and-K OP Couple
over a year ago
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Has anyone else felt pressured to play with a couple because their partner gelled with the other couple but you didn't?
Be interested to know how you handled it and whether you played or not. By the way this is the male half not wife  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've both been in that position when we first started playing, but at the time neither of us saw it as pressure.
The last 12 months though, has seen a definate change in the way we do things.
In the early day, we tried to get as many experiences as we could, and for the most part it was good fun, but I felt I was going too fast and that I didn't give myself the time to get over my nerves and as such, some of times were'nt as good as they should have been.
This has nothing to do with our playmates, it was purely down to where my head was, if you can understand what I'm saying.
I got to the point where I told Kate that I didn't want to play anymore, and we went to a few parties and I just socialised while Kate played on her own.
I'm happy to say that now though, I'm seeing through different eyes and I'm looking forward to playing for as long as I can pull, lol  |
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By *-and-K OP Couple
over a year ago
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Have to say jack that for the last 15 months we have only done party's. But for the last 4 or 5 we seem to lost our way. Guess we have become jaded with it.
A room full of 12 coupes or so and apart from the organisers and another couple who attend them all, whom we class as friends. None of the other attendees has done anything for either of us, attraction wise. Like I said, its been this way for the last few. We start playing but retire to the dining room after 15 minutes or so. We are quite happy to sit there or play with each other.
Last weekend we met a couple, for the 1st time in 18 months. It was a breath of fresh air, to be able to commit exclusively to a couple rather than be expected to 'make the rounds' as it were. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We find that if we meet a couple it is best to meet for a social drink first to make sure that all four of you are happy with each other. When we play with single guys though as long as I (Lynne) am happy with him then it's fine, it's differnt dynamics so to speak.
We also have given up on parties though, we much prefer a more quality meet with either a couple or a single guy, found the party scene to be a snatched ten minutes here and ten minutes there and didn't do it for either of us. Main thing is to talk to one another and make sure you are both happy with the way you are playing as everyone has their own preferences. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Has anyone else felt pressured to play with a couple because their partner gelled with the other couple but you didn't?
Be interested to know how you handled it and whether you played or not. By the way this is the male half not wife "
On the odd occasion but in general we know what we both like so will if in doubt back away. |
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