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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

i was exchanging messages with this gorgeous looking slut, we even had a social meet over coffee and the messages afterwards went well. I then mentioned a next meeting and the response again was positive, only by the time I read it, I go the (user no longer on site) notice.

I know we've all had them before it just seemed odd when he was far from nervous and appeared well practised in his role of being a slut and we'd had nothing but positive chats and one social. Anyone else had similar?

I know it's a case of c' est la vie, I'm just being curios about other members experiences.

Thanks Matt.

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By *ilacWoman over a year ago

Cheshire

"i was exchanging messages with this gorgeous looking slut, we even had a social meet over coffee and the messages afterwards went well. I then mentioned a next meeting and the response again was positive, only by the time I read it, I go the (user no longer on site) notice.

I know it's a case of c' est la vie, I'm just being curios about other members experiences.

Thanks Matt."

Perhaps he didn't like being called a slut.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

His user name was patheticslut and he wanted to be dominated.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"His user name was patheticslut and he wanted to be dominated."

Probably lost his nerve

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"His user name was patheticslut and he wanted to be dominated.

Probably lost his nerve"

Possibly, though he was very experienced in it and appeared to love it, I wasn't forcing the issue, he was telling me what he desired, for me I'm quite flexible, I was happy play along as his pics were very sexy and I enjoyed our social, which lasted well over an hour. As you say though he could've and if he did that's fine, we all have the right to change what we're looking for.

I'm not seeking to find him, he knows he can find me here, I'm genuinely interested in the debate.

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By *empting Devil.Woman over a year ago

Sheffield

I suspect he won't be impressed if he discovers that you're bandying his username and details of your conversations around an open forum. He may have left the site but surely a private conversation should remain private.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suspect he won't be impressed if he discovers that you're bandying his username and details of your conversations around an open forum. He may have left the site but surely a private conversation should remain private."

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

*watches as thread crashes and burns*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe his wife found out lol

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman over a year ago

gosport ish

"His user name was patheticslut and he wanted to be dominated.

Probably lost his nerve

I'm not seeking to find him, he knows he can find me here, I'm genuinely interested in the debate."
discretion, that is all

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Well I've not divulged anything that wasn't in the public domain of this site, ie, what he was and what he liked, he had face pics on public display (make up and wig of course). I haven't given away any details at all about our conversation other than to relay the tone of it, which along with all the messages were positive. I haven't mentioned where he was from or where we met. Feel free to prove otherwise.

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By *ilacWoman over a year ago

Cheshire

Doesn't matter. I wouldn't converse or play with someone who named previous play partners on public forums to discuss them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Doesn't matter. I wouldn't converse or play with someone who named previous play partners on public forums to discuss them. "

What do you think verifications are, if not naming former play partners? I haven't been at all negative about this person, as I said previously I'm interested in the general debate, but you take offence if it makes you feel better.

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By *eembabyWoman over a year ago

Brum

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By *ilacWoman over a year ago

Cheshire

OP if you want to debate my comments, then please do so here in the forum.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I also think it shows a lack of discretion and is very unappealing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP if you want to debate my comments, then please do so here in the forum."

Did you get a shirty message :p

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That escalated quickly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe his wife found out lol"

Exactly this.......!

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By *ilacWoman over a year ago

Cheshire

"OP if you want to debate my comments, then please do so here in the forum.

Did you get a shirty message :p"

What do you reckon?

I'm guessing it gives more of an insight as to why the named person didn't want a repeat session.

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By *londeandbrownCouple over a year ago

taunton

He didn't like you and took time easy way out.

Lots of people do the happy face and then delete.

Get over it. Move on. next.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP if you want to debate my comments, then please do so here in the forum.

Did you get a shirty message :p

What do you reckon?

I'm guessing it gives more of an insight as to why the named person didn't want a repeat session.

Aye something where your going to make yourself vulnerable is something you need to be 100% sure about the person.

It's not worth it even if you've got the tiniest doubt

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"OP if you want to debate my comments, then please do so here in the forum."

I haven't pm'd you. Please copy and paste here if you think I have.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"OP if you want to debate my comments, then please do so here in the forum.

I haven't pm'd you. Please copy and paste here if you think I have."

Nice try but as I'm sure you know, that's not allowed.

Good effort at getting her a forum timeout though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"He didn't like you and took time easy way out.

Lots of people do the happy face and then delete.

Get over it. Move on. next.

That maybe true, however like you I've been on here a while and been accepted for meets and turned down, as you say it happens, everyone has that choice. Deleting his profile just seemed a tad odd.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By *orthyorkypairCouple over a year ago

North Yorkshire

My thoughts exactly lets face it he may have friends on here that are reading this post

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By *ilacWoman over a year ago

Cheshire

"OP if you want to debate my comments, then please do so here in the forum.

I haven't pm'd you. Please copy and paste here if you think I have."

Nice try. You know I've deleted. Quite the character aren't you. I can remember the general theme of your message. Moaning about verifications and some reference to people thinking the forums are like Twitter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"OP if you want to debate my comments, then please do so here in the forum.

I haven't pm'd you. Please copy and paste here if you think I have.

Nice try but as I'm sure you know, that's not allowed.

Good effort at getting her a forum timeout though."

I wasn't aware of that rule, in any case I'd given her permission, I will say this though, I haven't pm'd her, why would I, I'm having the debate here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Apologies all it appears I inadvertently pm'd her, however it was the same content that I delivered in this conversation, nothing to hide, so maybe should answer the point about verifications instead of shrieking .

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"OP if you want to debate my comments, then please do so here in the forum.

I haven't pm'd you. Please copy and paste here if you think I have.

I wasn't moaning about verifications, you made a comment about people discussing other users in public, I pointed out that's exactly what verifications are and as I'd not made a negative comment about the person i described initially, I do wonder what your point is, well I don't, it's to be offended about some thing, just like a good few in Twitter.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"OP if you want to debate my comments, then please do so here in the forum.

I haven't pm'd you. Please copy and paste here if you think I have.

Nice try but as I'm sure you know, that's not allowed.

Good effort at getting her a forum timeout though.

I wasn't aware of that rule, in any case I'd given her permission, I will say this though, I haven't pm'd her, why would I, I'm having the debate here."

You aren't in a position to give anyone permission to break the forum rules!

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By *orthyorkypairCouple over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"Apologies all it appears I inadvertently pm'd her, however it was the same content that I delivered in this conversation, nothing to hide, so maybe should answer the point about verifications instead of shrieking ."

no shrieking going on here but cannot see what verifications have to so with naming and shaming! which is what this post basically is doing, most verifications tend to be "nice messages" and users can choose whether to post or not ( as in deed the sender also has a choice) had the OP not named the UNLOS then perhaps it would have invited a debate rather than developed into what it has done

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By *ilacWoman over a year ago

Cheshire

"OP if you want to debate my comments, then please do so here in the forum.

I haven't pm'd you. Please copy and paste here if you think I have.

Nice try but as I'm sure you know, that's not allowed.

Good effort at getting her a forum timeout though.

I wasn't aware of that rule, in any case I'd given her permission, I will say this though, I haven't pm'd her, why would I, I'm having the debate here."

Oooo kooky. You're too weird and deceitful for me to continue debating anything with.

Why lie about messaging me privately. Odd.

Ah well. Happy fabbing. Lucky escape to the target of the original post

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good luck meeting after this thread! Id say the other guy played along to keep you sweet. You are coming across as pompous and selfish and id say they are back with a new profile. Either that or you met a fantasist..the chat was enough for their wanking material.

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By *londeandbrownCouple over a year ago

taunton

Let's Have an Ebay style verifications system based on stars out of 5

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP if you want to debate my comments, then please do so here in the forum.

I haven't pm'd you. Please copy and paste here if you think I have.

Verifications are usually displayed and those authors/ recipients are happy to do so.

What you have done is openly discuss on a public forum and named someone! Okay they may now be UNLOS but that in my eyes doesn't make it acceptable. Your OP could have been titled and worded differently and had it if been so, you wouldn't be getting the flack you are! Just my opinion...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"OP if you want to debate my comments, then please do so here in the forum.

I haven't pm'd you. Please copy and paste here if you think I have.

Nice try but as I'm sure you know, that's not allowed.

Good effort at getting her a forum timeout though.

I wasn't aware of that rule, in any case I'd given her permission, I will say this though, I haven't pm'd her, why would I, I'm having the debate here.

Oooo kooky. You're too weird and deceitful for me to continue debating anything with.

Why lie about messaging me privately. Odd.

Ah well. Happy fabbing. Lucky escape to the target of the original post

I didn't lie, I thought I was posting here and inadvertently sent it by pm, for which I've now apologies for above, in fact here is the message which I posting here regardless of any consequences as it was actually meant for here

"How odd, what do you think verifications are? Deary me, it's getting like Twitter in here, people taking offence for its own sake. I haven't once spoken about this person in a negative fashion,nor would I, as I've already explained I'm interested in the debate I outlined above, if it's not for you, fine by me."

You can clearly read towards the end "I'm interested in the debate I outlined above" if that wasn't meant for this thread then what was it for?

I note you're still haven't answered why you critiqued me for discussing another member in public when verifications are the same thing. So level your banal accusations if you feel the need, I've apologised and explained, if you continue to take offence that's your affair.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why are you wasting time on this person ? It happens, move on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Been some corkers today

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Been some corkers today "

Oh the drama, is like a fucking soap opera in here sometimes !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
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I've left the site on 2 occasions when my OH has been taken ill

I didnt even give a second thought to who I'd been chatting to or arranging stuff with

Real life happens and it's far more important than this site or the people you have just met for a coffee

Maybe he'll be back and get in touch,maybe he won't,only he knows why he left

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Schools out

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By *lorious hole bs16Man over a year ago

Bristol

Admit it ..you have been hurt,rejected,spurned,used etc.pride a little bruised..

Some people get off on being desired/wanted.often have no intention of meeting up,they get off on the fact someone wants them for sex. (Boost for low self worth perhaps?)..move on..

Next please.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your not allowed to name, maibe you should read the rules before posting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Admit it ..you have been hurt,rejected,spurned,used etc.pride a little bruised..

Some people get off on being desired/wanted.often have no intention of meeting up,they get off on the fact someone wants them for sex. (Boost for low self worth perhaps?)..move on..

Next please."

I've explained earlier in the thread, I've had meets and been turned down for meets, it happens especially when you've been in here long enough. If you get hurt and bruised by such things how sad.

The second part of your post is something I'd considered, I must admit I've changed my mind often enough and told the person. Delete my profile though? Seems a bit strong to me, still as I said in my op c' est la vie

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your not allowed to name, maibe you should read the rules before posting."

Its fine bud, they left the site so talking about them to others in a public forum is fine

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

Whoever it was changed their mind. It happens.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your not allowed to name, maibe you should read the rules before posting.

Its fine bud, they left the site so talking about them to others in a public forum is fine

"
lol good point as they are not here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Your not allowed to name, maibe you should read the rules before posting."

Isn't that you're not allowed to name and shame? I haven't been negative in my comments to that person, in fact I've been nothing but positive, maybe you should read what I've said.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your not allowed to name, maibe you should read the rules before posting.

Its fine bud, they left the site so talking about them to others in a public forum is fine

lol good point as they are not here."

I was being sarcastic. I think its a little indiscreet to be talking about other people in a public forum regardless of whether they're here or not. As others have said, it happens, move on and stop wasting time on someone who isn't interested.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your not allowed to name, maibe you should read the rules before posting.

Isn't that you're not allowed to name and shame? I haven't been negative in my comments to that person, in fact I've been nothing but positive, maybe you should read what I've said."

How's your Swedish bud ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Whoever it was changed their mind. It happens. "

Yes and as I've explained, I've had more than my fair share of meets, declines and timewasters and people who genuinely change their mind, I've made repeated references to that in this thread, my point was, why not just say you've changed your mind? We all move on to the next bit of fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Your not allowed to name, maibe you should read the rules before posting.

Isn't that you're not allowed to name and shame? I haven't been negative in my comments to that person, in fact I've been nothing but positive, maybe you should read what I've said.

How's your Swedish bud ?"

Terrible, how's yours?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your not allowed to name, maibe you should read the rules before posting.

Isn't that you're not allowed to name and shame? I haven't been negative in my comments to that person, in fact I've been nothing but positive, maybe you should read what I've said.

How's your Swedish bud ?

Terrible, how's yours?"

Crap but don't slag off someone's spelling and grammar when its not his first language.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

" why not just say you've changed your mind? "

Because they didn't want to and just deleted their profile instead?

We can't dictate what others do, just accept they are different than us.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your not allowed to name, maibe you should read the rules before posting.

Isn't that you're not allowed to name and shame? I haven't been negative in my comments to that person, in fact I've been nothing but positive, maybe you should read what I've said.

How's your Swedish bud ?"
I am fine and you? Might be rain later u recon?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your not allowed to name, maibe you should read the rules before posting.

Isn't that you're not allowed to name and shame? I haven't been negative in my comments to that person, in fact I've been nothing but positive, maybe you should read what I've said.

How's your Swedish bud ?

Terrible, how's yours?

Crap but don't slag off someone's spelling and grammar when its not his first language."
lol the grammar is fine there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your not allowed to name, maibe you should read the rules before posting.

Isn't that you're not allowed to name and shame? I haven't been negative in my comments to that person, in fact I've been nothing but positive, maybe you should read what I've said.

How's your Swedish bud ?I am fine and you? Might be rain later u recon?"

Haha yeah, probably, its England in summer time after all !

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Your not allowed to name, maibe you should read the rules before posting.

Isn't that you're not allowed to name and shame? I haven't been negative in my comments to that person, in fact I've been nothing but positive, maybe you should read what I've said.

How's your Swedish bud ?

Terrible, how's yours?

Crap but don't slag off someone's spelling and grammar when its not his first language."

Well if I had slagged off his grammar or spelling you'd have a point. I think you should read what he said and look again at my reply.

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

Just

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your not allowed to name, maibe you should read the rules before posting.

Isn't that you're not allowed to name and shame? I haven't been negative in my comments to that person, in fact I've been nothing but positive, maybe you should read what I've said.

How's your Swedish bud ?

Terrible, how's yours?

Crap but don't slag off someone's spelling and grammar when its not his first language."

Where was spelling mentioned?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your not allowed to name, maibe you should read the rules before posting.

Isn't that you're not allowed to name and shame? I haven't been negative in my comments to that person, in fact I've been nothing but positive, maybe you should read what I've said.

How's your Swedish bud ?I am fine and you? Might be rain later u recon?

Haha yeah, probably, its England in summer time after all !"
That's right, you never know if its gonna rain or be sunny.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your not allowed to name, maibe you should read the rules before posting.

Isn't that you're not allowed to name and shame? I haven't been negative in my comments to that person, in fact I've been nothing but positive, maybe you should read what I've said.

How's your Swedish bud ?

Terrible, how's yours?

Crap but don't slag off someone's spelling and grammar when its not his first language.

Well if I had slagged off his grammar or spelling you'd have a point. I think you should read what he said and look again at my reply."

Same thing, you named. Commenting on your op, move on, its happened to me and countless others but I'd rather invest my time in finding fun, not dwelling on it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Your not allowed to name, maibe you should read the rules before posting.

Isn't that you're not allowed to name and shame? I haven't been negative in my comments to that person, in fact I've been nothing but positive, maybe you should read what I've said.

How's your Swedish bud ?

Terrible, how's yours?

Crap but don't slag off someone's spelling and grammar when its not his first language.

Well if I had slagged off his grammar or spelling you'd have a point. I think you should read what he said and look again at my reply.

Same thing, you named. Commenting on your op, move on, its happened to me and countless others but I'd rather invest my time in finding fun, not dwelling on it. "

No it isn't.

In any case I'm replying to your accusation that I was making fun of someone's lack of grammar and spelling when English isn't their first language. I clearly wasn't but you stumbled in swinging like a d*unk and are now trying to deflect from your comment.

Seems to me our Swedish contributor has a better grasp of English than you.

Though I have to admit when you mentioned Sweden I thought you knew my, I've spent a fair amount of time over there a few years ago working, Gothenburg is a fine city.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Same thing, you named."

Cool, so if they do one thing wrong it is ok to openly blame them for anything

Screw you for the nail currently residing in my tyre OP, and I wanted a lie in this morning too,

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Same thing, you named.

Cool, so if they do one thing wrong it is ok to openly blame them for anything

Screw you for the nail currently residing in my tyre OP, and I wanted a lie in this morning too,"

If it's any consolation my rear n/s tyre is soft, I keep pumping but it keeps deflating.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

I think it might be time to shut this now.

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