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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I had a meet and we had what I thought was a very good sex session. .. but I've been told today I'm too quiet during sex.
This has slightly upset me as I don't orgasm very often but I do totally still enjoy myself.
Yours views would be great please as I've never had complaints before but now feel like perhaps I'm the only one who doesn't scream and shout lol ??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hate all that screaming and shouting it just sounds fake, (not saying it is fake)
I prefer a lady to more sort of moan and be breathless, lots of panting and sharp in takes of breath, maybe the odd swear word |
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Don't let it upset that's just one persons opinion. We don't all scream and shout during sex,I certainly don't. It doesn't mean to say I don't enjoy myself,I'm not completely silent by any means,I do like some noise from both parties to confirm everything is going well. |
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It takes all sorts... I (Duke) have been with some that dont make much noise and others that make loads. As long as its real and not fake and she is enjoying herself who cares?!
Personally speaking, I get off knowing she has got off... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate all that screaming and shouting it just sounds fake, (not saying it is fake)
I prefer a lady to more sort of moan and be breathless, lots of panting and sharp in takes of breath, maybe the odd swear word "
yes for me this but for 5 or 6 hours xx  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx |
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx"
He has probably been watching too much porn with all the fake shouting!
I think you have the right idea! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate all that screaming and shouting it just sounds fake, (not saying it is fake)
I prefer a lady to more sort of moan and be breathless, lots of panting and sharp in takes of breath, maybe the odd swear word "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx"
awww hey don't be upset he's just made a thoughtless observation is all  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had a meet and we had what I thought was a very good sex session. .. but I've been told today I'm too quiet during sex.
This has slightly upset me as I don't orgasm very often but I do totally still enjoy myself.
Yours views would be great please as I've never had complaints before but now feel like perhaps I'm the only one who doesn't scream and shout lol ???"
People have preferences, but knowing the person you've been with has had fun is enough for others |
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If he wants you to act and fake it then it depends wether you are into that kind of thing I guess.
If you are not, then dont meet him again.
Personally I don't need to hear a woman screaming her head off to know she's having a good time. If I can feel it in her body, see it in her eyes and the shortness of her breath then all is well.
Not every responses the same. Maybe he wasn't pushing the right buttons 
Certainly nothing wrong with you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As long as you don't just lay there silent
I certainly wouldn't meet someone who did that !!!! Noises and movement means you enjoying it !! Else what's the pojnt |
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By *lfieWoman
over a year ago
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
He has probably been watching too much porn with all the fake shouting!
I think you have the right idea!"
Porn has a lot to answer for. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"I like some breathlessness some simpering moaning and lots of dirty talk 
I suck at dirty talk, I just get the giggles plus it sounds ridiculous in an Irish accent I think  "
Even better in an Irish accent more like! |
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I am very quiet.. However if my partner is paying attention he notices the change in my breathing, I start trembling, very soft moans and listens for me vocally.
I'm not a porn queen and won't start being noisy for some special effect for a man who is more interested in getting himself off than paying attention to me and him.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like some breathlessness some simpering moaning and lots of dirty talk
I suck at dirty talk, I just get the giggles plus it sounds ridiculous in an Irish accent I think
Even better in an Irish accent more like! "
Agreed |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This thread goes to prove how just the smallest ill thought out comment can have a negative effect on the recipient. Take note guys and girls"
Totally agree with this
I'm fairly new to this scene as I was in a couple on here before so my confidence has just took a fall ... thinking a club may be more up my street ... not sure  |
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx"
I think it's quite rude to critique a meet unless it's requested but at least he did it privately. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
I think it's quite rude to critique a meet unless it's requested but at least he did it privately."
 yes I guess that's true...he's not verified |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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sometimes im quiet and often not - sometimes things get too intense to utter a sound and thats horny as hell - both just looking at each other and sensing /knowing what youre both feeling - |
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
I think it's quite rude to critique a meet unless it's requested but at least he did it privately. yes I guess that's true...he's not verified "
I think you have to have quite strong self belief if you're going to do this kind of thing and don't allow anybody else's opinion of how you should be knock that.
It can be quite difficult to maintain in the face of all the threads proclaiming that men or women should be or look a certain way. If we all went with majority opinion on here all women would be hair free from the neck down, size 16 or above and love pronged oral sex and that just isn't so. In other words ignore, move on and continue being you. |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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"I like some breathlessness some simpering moaning and lots of dirty talk
I suck at dirty talk, I just get the giggles plus it sounds ridiculous in an Irish accent I think "
Can i test to make sure |
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"I hate all that screaming and shouting it just sounds fake, (not saying it is fake)
I prefer a lady to more sort of moan and be breathless, lots of panting and sharp in takes of breath, maybe the odd swear word "
Yup...that's me  |
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"I had a meet and we had what I thought was a very good sex session. .. but I've been told today I'm too quiet during sex.
This has slightly upset me as I don't orgasm very often but I do totally still enjoy myself.
Yours views would be great please as I've never had complaints before but now feel like perhaps I'm the only one who doesn't scream and shout lol ???"
Some guys like a sexually vocally woman it's just a preference nothing to be upset over
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx"
He's obviously got no class,takes himself too seriously and thinks too much of himself.
You probably have more about you then he does,keep on moving. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Silent is no good. I'm tempted to check for a pulse if things are too quiet
I like a bit of sighing and some elevated groaning at point of orgasm. I tend to make a bit of noise during the vinegar stroke
But too much noise can be off-putting. I'm worried the neighbours will hold up scorecards in the morning
I think some people have watched to many porn films and feel that everything sexual move needs an accompanying soundtrack
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate all that screaming and shouting it just sounds fake, (not saying it is fake)
I prefer a lady to more sort of moan and be breathless, lots of panting and sharp in takes of breath, maybe the odd swear word "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate all that screaming and shouting it just sounds fake, (not saying it is fake)
I prefer a lady to more sort of moan and be breathless, lots of panting and sharp in takes of breath, maybe the odd swear word
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The shouting seems like it's a performance for me. Which is unnecessary. I'd rather the lady to just be enjoying herself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate all that screaming and shouting it just sounds fake, (not saying it is fake)
I prefer a lady to more sort of moan and be breathless, lots of panting and sharp in takes of breath, maybe the odd swear word
The shouting seems like it's a performance for me. Which is unnecessary. I'd rather the lady to just be enjoying herself "
(but when you know someone who's relatively quiet and you get THEM to shout or squeal, that's fun ) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
He's obviously got no class,takes himself too seriously and thinks too much of himself.
You probably have more about you then he does,keep on moving."
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
He's obviously got no class,takes himself too seriously and thinks too much of himself.
You probably have more about you then he does,keep on moving."
Why is he that way? Liking a sexually vocal woman is nothing more than a preference, would you like to be told you have no class because someone doesn't agree with one of your preferences? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I wouldn't worry about it, if he hadn't said that he would probably have picked fault with something else, instead of just having the balls to say it was good but he didn't want to see you again. Just carry on as you are enjoying yourself |
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"I wouldn't worry about it, if he hadn't said that he would probably have picked fault with something else, instead of just having the balls to say it was good but he didn't want to see you again. Just carry on as you are enjoying yourself"
Why would he find fault elsewhere as an excuse? It could be a very honest reason for all you know, the only person that truly knows is him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was dating a guy and when the time came to us having sex he made zero noise. My first ever experience of silent sex. I asked him about it as I wasn't sure if he was enjoying himself.
He took offence when I didn't even say anything horrible.
I'm not one for porn star noises, but some noise even just a slight moan would be nice.
I'm a soft moaner with the odd "fuck" thrown in.
I wouldn't get upset by it everyone is different and as you haven't had any complaints before carry on as you are |
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"I wouldn't worry about it, if he hadn't said that he would probably have picked fault with something else, instead of just having the balls to say it was good but he didn't want to see you again. Just carry on as you are enjoying yourself
Why would he find fault elsewhere as an excuse? It could be a very honest reason for all you know, the only person that truly knows is him "
Why feel the need to give a reason? And why say something that would make someone feel self conscious while having sex? |
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"I wouldn't worry about it, if he hadn't said that he would probably have picked fault with something else, instead of just having the balls to say it was good but he didn't want to see you again. Just carry on as you are enjoying yourself
Why would he find fault elsewhere as an excuse? It could be a very honest reason for all you know, the only person that truly knows is him
Why feel the need to give a reason? And why say something that would make someone feel self conscious while having sex?"
Quite simply in the case of honesty, you can never know how anyone will react to what we say, it as upset the OP, whereas it's not something that would upset me, I see it as nothing more than a preference. That's the beauty of us all being different |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't worry about it, if he hadn't said that he would probably have picked fault with something else, instead of just having the balls to say it was good but he didn't want to see you again. Just carry on as you are enjoying yourself
Why would he find fault elsewhere as an excuse? It could be a very honest reason for all you know, the only person that truly knows is him
Why feel the need to give a reason? And why say something that would make someone feel self conscious while having sex?
Quite simply in the case of honesty, you can never know how anyone will react to what we say, it as upset the OP, whereas it's not something that would upset me, I see it as nothing more than a preference. That's the beauty of us all being different "
And I am sure that you would liike everyone to be honest with you about why they don't want to fuck you again eh? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Its all in the face if she looks like she has had fun and has a big satisfied smile is enough too much screaming is a turn off but like others have said the odd swear word is a turn on. |
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"I wouldn't worry about it, if he hadn't said that he would probably have picked fault with something else, instead of just having the balls to say it was good but he didn't want to see you again. Just carry on as you are enjoying yourself
Why would he find fault elsewhere as an excuse? It could be a very honest reason for all you know, the only person that truly knows is him
Why feel the need to give a reason? And why say something that would make someone feel self conscious while having sex?
Quite simply in the case of honesty, you can never know how anyone will react to what we say, it as upset the OP, whereas it's not something that would upset me, I see it as nothing more than a preference. That's the beauty of us all being different
And I am sure that you would liike everyone to be honest with you about why they don't want to fuck you again eh? "
I actually am it's why I don't have many verifications after telling them I don't want to meet them and why they don't usually like me for it very much |
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"I wouldn't worry about it, if he hadn't said that he would probably have picked fault with something else, instead of just having the balls to say it was good but he didn't want to see you again. Just carry on as you are enjoying yourself
Why would he find fault elsewhere as an excuse? It could be a very honest reason for all you know, the only person that truly knows is him
Why feel the need to give a reason? And why say something that would make someone feel self conscious while having sex?
Quite simply in the case of honesty, you can never know how anyone will react to what we say, it as upset the OP, whereas it's not something that would upset me, I see it as nothing more than a preference. That's the beauty of us all being different
And I am sure that you would liike everyone to be honest with you about why they don't want to fuck you again eh?
I actually am it's why I don't have many verifications after telling them I don't want to meet them and why they don't usually like me for it very much "
A lot of people say they appreciate honesty no matter how blunt, very few actually do |
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"I wouldn't worry about it, if he hadn't said that he would probably have picked fault with something else, instead of just having the balls to say it was good but he didn't want to see you again. Just carry on as you are enjoying yourself
Why would he find fault elsewhere as an excuse? It could be a very honest reason for all you know, the only person that truly knows is him
Why feel the need to give a reason? And why say something that would make someone feel self conscious while having sex?
Quite simply in the case of honesty, you can never know how anyone will react to what we say, it as upset the OP, whereas it's not something that would upset me, I see it as nothing more than a preference. That's the beauty of us all being different
And I am sure that you would liike everyone to be honest with you about why they don't want to fuck you again eh?
I actually am it's why I don't have many verifications after telling them I don't want to meet them and why they don't usually like me for it very much "
? Whats that got to do with it? |
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"I wouldn't worry about it, if he hadn't said that he would probably have picked fault with something else, instead of just having the balls to say it was good but he didn't want to see you again. Just carry on as you are enjoying yourself
Why would he find fault elsewhere as an excuse? It could be a very honest reason for all you know, the only person that truly knows is him
Why feel the need to give a reason? And why say something that would make someone feel self conscious while having sex?
Quite simply in the case of honesty, you can never know how anyone will react to what we say, it as upset the OP, whereas it's not something that would upset me, I see it as nothing more than a preference. That's the beauty of us all being different
And I am sure that you would liike everyone to be honest with you about why they don't want to fuck you again eh?
I actually am it's why I don't have many verifications after telling them I don't want to meet them and why they don't usually like me for it very much
? Whats that got to do with it?"
I miss read what you said to be Am I that honest with people, so to respond to what you did say, yea they could be brutally honest if they wanted to be I'd actually respect them more for it |
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"I wouldn't worry about it, if he hadn't said that he would probably have picked fault with something else, instead of just having the balls to say it was good but he didn't want to see you again. Just carry on as you are enjoying yourself
Why would he find fault elsewhere as an excuse? It could be a very honest reason for all you know, the only person that truly knows is him
Why feel the need to give a reason? And why say something that would make someone feel self conscious while having sex?
Quite simply in the case of honesty, you can never know how anyone will react to what we say, it as upset the OP, whereas it's not something that would upset me, I see it as nothing more than a preference. That's the beauty of us all being different
And I am sure that you would liike everyone to be honest with you about why they don't want to fuck you again eh?
I actually am it's why I don't have many verifications after telling them I don't want to meet them and why they don't usually like me for it very much
? Whats that got to do with it?
I miss read what you said to be Am I that honest with people, so to respond to what you did say, yea they could be brutally honest if they wanted to be I'd actually respect them more for it "
And feel better about yourself? Ok, fair enough |
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Why did he tell you you where to quiet, what brought the conversation round to it?
Did you message and ask for another meet or did he just send you a message stating you where to quiet.
It depends on context.
If someone messages and said thanks but I don't think where compatable because of bla bla then I'd be happy with it, |
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"I wouldn't worry about it, if he hadn't said that he would probably have picked fault with something else, instead of just having the balls to say it was good but he didn't want to see you again. Just carry on as you are enjoying yourself
Why would he find fault elsewhere as an excuse? It could be a very honest reason for all you know, the only person that truly knows is him
Why feel the need to give a reason? And why say something that would make someone feel self conscious while having sex?
Quite simply in the case of honesty, you can never know how anyone will react to what we say, it as upset the OP, whereas it's not something that would upset me, I see it as nothing more than a preference. That's the beauty of us all being different
And I am sure that you would liike everyone to be honest with you about why they don't want to fuck you again eh?
I actually am it's why I don't have many verifications after telling them I don't want to meet them and why they don't usually like me for it very much
? Whats that got to do with it?
I miss read what you said to be Am I that honest with people, so to respond to what you did say, yea they could be brutally honest if they wanted to be I'd actually respect them more for it
And feel better about yourself? Ok, fair enough"
Wouldn't bother me I'm not meeting them again so I don't need to care, do I? |
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"I wouldn't worry about it, if he hadn't said that he would probably have picked fault with something else, instead of just having the balls to say it was good but he didn't want to see you again. Just carry on as you are enjoying yourself
Why would he find fault elsewhere as an excuse? It could be a very honest reason for all you know, the only person that truly knows is him
Why feel the need to give a reason? And why say something that would make someone feel self conscious while having sex?
Quite simply in the case of honesty, you can never know how anyone will react to what we say, it as upset the OP, whereas it's not something that would upset me, I see it as nothing more than a preference. That's the beauty of us all being different
And I am sure that you would liike everyone to be honest with you about why they don't want to fuck you again eh?
I actually am it's why I don't have many verifications after telling them I don't want to meet them and why they don't usually like me for it very much
? Whats that got to do with it?
I miss read what you said to be Am I that honest with people, so to respond to what you did say, yea they could be brutally honest if they wanted to be I'd actually respect them more for it
And feel better about yourself? Ok, fair enough
Wouldn't bother me I'm not meeting them again so I don't need to care, do I? "
I'm not however saying that because I'd feel that way the OP doesn't have the right to feel the way she does over the issue |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"I had a meet and we had what I thought was a very good sex session. .. but I've been told today I'm too quiet during sex.
This has slightly upset me as I don't orgasm very often but I do totally still enjoy myself.
Yours views would be great please as I've never had complaints before but now feel like perhaps I'm the only one who doesn't scream and shout lol ???"
Controversial opinion coming up here ....as you asked for a opinion please don't take it the wrong way or let what I'm about to say upset you .
He just didn't want to see you again he just wasn't that into you .
That's what I think( sorry )
the sex was most likely good better than his right hand but the truth is he got what he wanted thought he had given you what you wanted and that was the end of that as far as he was concerned .
Now at this point I'm assuming you contacted him about another date so he made a excuse which he knew would piss you off just enough to guarantee you leaving him alone from that point on with out to much drama.
Sorry but as a man that's what I honestly think about this .
as a man if you not really into a woman your not going to bother after the first fuck that is the plain truth of it as I see it .
you then have only two options open to you ignore her or make up a excuse as to why your not into her that avoids saying I just don't really fancy you.
which after all is a hard thing to say to a woman after you've fuck her .
come on how many guys are going to say look I used you for a bunk up didn't really like you past the point of that maybe i'd get sex from you if I chatted you up sweet talked you now I've had that frill of the chase I'm not interested anymore .
Sorry said it would be controversial and I feel for you but we are all human and selfish to one degree or another .
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I don't want anybody that I'm not going to meet again to tell me where I went wrong this isn't Strictly Come Dancing. If someone didn't enjoy sex with me politely declining a further meet would be all I needed to know. In a similar vein if somebody did let me know that I didn't do something they would have enjoyed my response would be to ask them why they didn't say at the time.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why did he tell you you where to quiet, what brought the conversation round to it?
Did you message and ask for another meet or did he just send you a message stating you where to quiet.
It depends on context.
If someone messages and said thanks but I don't think where compatable because of bla bla then I'd be happy with it, "
Well last night he said he wanted to see me regularly. ..then this morning he came out with that |
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"Why did he tell you you where to quiet, what brought the conversation round to it?
Did you message and ask for another meet or did he just send you a message stating you where to quiet.
It depends on context.
If someone messages and said thanks but I don't think where compatable because of bla bla then I'd be happy with it,
Well last night he said he wanted to see me regularly. ..then this morning he came out with that "
Maybe he was trying to say that he does want to see you again but could you be more vocal next time as that's what he's looking for, if you can't then he's not interested |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Maybe he was just a little insecure about how much you enjoyed it and needs the noise to give him that reassurance that you're enjoying yourself?"
I did think that also but surely he could tell from my face that I did enjoy it.
As someone did point out perhaps it was he excuse not to see me again even though he had said he wanted to meet regularly before I left last night. ...
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"Why did he tell you you where to quiet, what brought the conversation round to it?
Did you message and ask for another meet or did he just send you a message stating you where to quiet.
It depends on context.
If someone messages and said thanks but I don't think where compatable because of bla bla then I'd be happy with it,
Well last night he said he wanted to see me regularly. ..then this morning he came out with that
Maybe he was trying to say that he does want to see you again but could you be more vocal next time as that's what he's looking for, if you can't then he's not interested"
Maybe. .. I feel like I failed the practical test at an interview...starting to think it's quite funny now actually...
My previous references are all excellent lol |
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"Maybe he was just a little insecure about how much you enjoyed it and needs the noise to give him that reassurance that you're enjoying yourself?
I did think that also but surely he could tell from my face that I did enjoy it.
As someone did point out perhaps it was he excuse not to see me again even though he had said he wanted to meet regularly before I left last night. ...
NEXT "
Not necessarily. I can not read expressions very well. Hence I tend to enquire how it was for someone unless it's obvious from how we interact in the cool down after sex.
That being said, a lot of noise is no guarantee of a good time as if it's fake to make someone happy, the person faking enjoys it less... Or at least, that's my experience of it |
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"I had a meet and we had what I thought was a very good sex session. .. but I've been told today I'm too quiet during sex.
This has slightly upset me as I don't orgasm very often but I do totally still enjoy myself.
Yours views would be great please as I've never had complaints before but now feel like perhaps I'm the only one who doesn't scream and shout lol ???"
Problem is these day's guy's expect every woman to be like a porn star and women expect guy's to be hung like one.
Reality is we are only human and all different.
Viva la difference. That's what I say
Besides all that wailing and screaming seems a bit OTT.
As long as you had fun don't stress. |
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
He's obviously got no class,takes himself too seriously and thinks too much of himself.
You probably have more about you then he does,keep on moving.
Why is he that way? Liking a sexually vocal woman is nothing more than a preference, would you like to be told you have no class because someone doesn't agree with one of your preferences? "
I don't believe he should have told OP,that's the point really. It's clearly damaged her confidence I believe. |
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"I had a meet and we had what I thought was a very good sex session. .. but I've been told today I'm too quiet during sex.
This has slightly upset me as I don't orgasm very often but I do totally still enjoy myself.
Yours views would be great please as I've never had complaints before but now feel like perhaps I'm the only one
who doesn't scream and shout lol ??? "
I personally love it when the girl is making minimal noise, I hate loud females lol |
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
He's obviously got no class,takes himself too seriously and thinks too much of himself.
You probably have more about you then he does,keep on moving.
Why is he that way? Liking a sexually vocal woman is nothing more than a preference, would you like to be told you have no class because someone doesn't agree with one of your preferences?
I don't believe he should have told OP,that's the point really. It's clearly damaged her confidence I believe."
Yeah he has...especially as I didn't just lay on my back for the whole session. .. |
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
He's obviously got no class,takes himself too seriously and thinks too much of himself.
You probably have more about you then he does,keep on moving.
Why is he that way? Liking a sexually vocal woman is nothing more than a preference, would you like to be told you have no class because someone doesn't agree with one of your preferences?
I don't believe he should have told OP,that's the point really. It's clearly damaged her confidence I believe.
Yeah he has...especially as I didn't just lay on my back for the whole session. .. "
Just because he has a dick, doesn't mean he has to be a dick. It is hard to block out these damages to confidence, but there's better people out there who will appreciate you as you are |
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"Why did he tell you you where to quiet, what brought the conversation round to it?
Did you message and ask for another meet or did he just send you a message stating you where to quiet.
It depends on context.
If someone messages and said thanks but I don't think where compatable because of bla bla then I'd be happy with it,
Well last night he said he wanted to see me regularly. ..then this morning he came out with that
Maybe he was trying to say that he does want to see you again but could you be more vocal next time as that's what he's looking for, if you can't then he's not interested
Maybe. .. I feel like I failed the practical test at an interview...starting to think it's quite funny now actually...
My previous references are all excellent lol "
I'm not sure why this has dented your confidence, you say all your other references are excellent yet you take to heart one person your not compatable with.
Also saying he wants to see you again while hour still there is different to saying it in the cold light of day..
Men and women say all kinds of funny stuff when they've just cum |
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
He's obviously got no class,takes himself too seriously and thinks too much of himself.
You probably have more about you then he does,keep on moving.
Why is he that way? Liking a sexually vocal woman is nothing more than a preference, would you like to be told you have no class because someone doesn't agree with one of your preferences?
I don't believe he should have told OP,that's the point really. It's clearly damaged her confidence I believe."
That's fair enough then, but you need to appreciate he didn't and couldn't know she would feel that way, you can argue that common sense should have told him to be more sensitive, but not everyone has common sense so they have a way of putting their foot in their mouths |
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Tbh personally i find screaming and shouters a little off putting maybe. Much prefer it when a lady emotes her pleasurer in other ways like squeesing/scratching you, deep breaths/gasping, small quieter moans and the thing that really does it for me is the quivering and rushing of breaths as she is about to come |
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Too quiet for him at that time, he said. Don't take it as a criticism of you, merely feedback about his expectations at the time, or in retrospect.
Possibly porn driven expectations?
It's better, imo, if sex isn't a performance like being on show, but a sensitive interaction between people. And this can mean communication at a physical and verbal level. If he didn't find out how to communicate at the time, then it's his problem and opportunity for future. Perhaps he just needs to adjust his expectations, so that partners don't feel like a performing seal for his enjoyment. |
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
He's obviously got no class,takes himself too seriously and thinks too much of himself.
You probably have more about you then he does,keep on moving.
Why is he that way? Liking a sexually vocal woman is nothing more than a preference, would you like to be told you have no class because someone doesn't agree with one of your preferences?
I don't believe he should have told OP,that's the point really. It's clearly damaged her confidence I believe.
That's fair enough then, but you need to appreciate he didn't and couldn't know she would feel that way, you can argue that common sense should have told him to be more sensitive, but not everyone has common sense so they have a way of putting their foot in their mouths "
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
He's obviously got no class,takes himself too seriously and thinks too much of himself.
You probably have more about you then he does,keep on moving.
Why is he that way? Liking a sexually vocal woman is nothing more than a preference, would you like to be told you have no class because someone doesn't agree with one of your preferences?
I don't believe he should have told OP,that's the point really. It's clearly damaged her confidence I believe.
Yeah he has...especially as I didn't just lay on my back for the whole session. ..
Just because he has a dick, doesn't mean he has to be a dick. It is hard to block out these damages to confidence, but there's better people out there who will appreciate you as you are"
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I'd like to think that it is more about knowing all the intricate subtle nuances of the wonderful female body that allows a man the sensation that what he is doing to that gorgeous sexy female form is all leading up to her having a great orgasm. I even know when linda and whoever is playing with gets her to that moment. Being vocal is purely being right for that individual. |
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
He's obviously got no class,takes himself too seriously and thinks too much of himself.
You probably have more about you then he does,keep on moving.
Why is he that way? Liking a sexually vocal woman is nothing more than a preference, would you like to be told you have no class because someone doesn't agree with one of your preferences?
I don't believe he should have told OP,that's the point really. It's clearly damaged her confidence I believe.
That's fair enough then, but you need to appreciate he didn't and couldn't know she would feel that way, you can argue that common sense should have told him to be more sensitive, but not everyone has common sense so they have a way of putting their foot in their mouths
Make your mind up "
I'd not changed my opinion I was merely saying he's arguing that the guy should have had more common sense. Not that I think he should of had it as I've made the fact it wouldn't knock my confidence to be told what the OP was |
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
He's obviously got no class,takes himself too seriously and thinks too much of himself.
You probably have more about you then he does,keep on moving.
Why is he that way? Liking a sexually vocal woman is nothing more than a preference, would you like to be told you have no class because someone doesn't agree with one of your preferences?
I don't believe he should have told OP,that's the point really. It's clearly damaged her confidence I believe.
Yeah he has...especially as I didn't just lay on my back for the whole session. ..
Just because he has a dick, doesn't mean he has to be a dick. It is hard to block out these damages to confidence, but there's better people out there who will appreciate you as you are"
He maybe didn't mean for it to sound like he was being a dick you've just all labelled him it regardless |
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I'm hoping he was kind how he told you, as others have said it's just a preference.
And if he is the only one to mention it then don't worry about it.
I'm the same as others have said...I need some sort of feedback to know I'm pleasuring the other person! Moans will do.
Otherwise a questionnaire would be useful! Hehe |
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
He's obviously got no class,takes himself too seriously and thinks too much of himself.
You probably have more about you then he does,keep on moving.
Why is he that way? Liking a sexually vocal woman is nothing more than a preference, would you like to be told you have no class because someone doesn't agree with one of your preferences?
I don't believe he should have told OP,that's the point really. It's clearly damaged her confidence I believe.
Yeah he has...especially as I didn't just lay on my back for the whole session. ..
Just because he has a dick, doesn't mean he has to be a dick. It is hard to block out these damages to confidence, but there's better people out there who will appreciate you as you are
He maybe didn't mean for it to sound like he was being a dick you've just all labelled him it regardless "
Yep. We have one version of events and as ever many people are using that one sided account to accuse him of all sorts.
The ladies confidence has been knocked but now restored, if he's reading this lets hope his confidence hasn't been knocked by what's being said about him because it's odds on that if he started a thread about it he'd be told to man up and get on with it.
As I said earlier at least he made his comments privately, he hasn't been afforded that courtesy. |
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
He's obviously got no class,takes himself too seriously and thinks too much of himself.
You probably have more about you then he does,keep on moving.
Why is he that way? Liking a sexually vocal woman is nothing more than a preference, would you like to be told you have no class because someone doesn't agree with one of your preferences?
I don't believe he should have told OP,that's the point really. It's clearly damaged her confidence I believe.
That's fair enough then, but you need to appreciate he didn't and couldn't know she would feel that way, you can argue that common sense should have told him to be more sensitive, but not everyone has common sense so they have a way of putting their foot in their mouths
Make your mind up
I'd not changed my opinion I was merely saying he's arguing that the guy should have had more common sense. Not that I think he should of had it as I've made the fact it wouldn't knock my confidence to be told what the OP was "
The guy never mentioned common sense though, you did. |
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
He's obviously got no class,takes himself too seriously and thinks too much of himself.
You probably have more about you then he does,keep on moving.
Why is he that way? Liking a sexually vocal woman is nothing more than a preference, would you like to be told you have no class because someone doesn't agree with one of your preferences?
I don't believe he should have told OP,that's the point really. It's clearly damaged her confidence I believe.
That's fair enough then, but you need to appreciate he didn't and couldn't know she would feel that way, you can argue that common sense should have told him to be more sensitive, but not everyone has common sense so they have a way of putting their foot in their mouths
Make your mind up
I'd not changed my opinion I was merely saying he's arguing that the guy should have had more common sense. Not that I think he should of had it as I've made the fact it wouldn't knock my confidence to be told what the OP was
The guy never mentioned common sense though, you did. "
That's true but I feel it was implied that's what he was saying |
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"I had a meet and we had what I thought was a very good sex session. .. but I've been told today I'm too quiet during sex.
This has slightly upset me as I don't orgasm very often but I do totally still enjoy myself.
Yours views would be great please as I've never had complaints before but now feel like perhaps I'm the only one who doesn't scream and shout lol ???"
I hate girls who are screaming and shouting. Just sounds fake. As long as it looks like the girls enjoying herself that's all that matters. You being quiet but enjoying yaself will be such a turn on for me. So don't worry about what other people say |
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
He's obviously got no class,takes himself too seriously and thinks too much of himself.
You probably have more about you then he does,keep on moving.
Why is he that way? Liking a sexually vocal woman is nothing more than a preference, would you like to be told you have no class because someone doesn't agree with one of your preferences?
I don't believe he should have told OP,that's the point really. It's clearly damaged her confidence I believe.
Yeah he has...especially as I didn't just lay on my back for the whole session. ..
Just because he has a dick, doesn't mean he has to be a dick. It is hard to block out these damages to confidence, but there's better people out there who will appreciate you as you are
He maybe didn't mean for it to sound like he was being a dick you've just all labelled him it regardless
Yep. We have one version of events and as ever many people are using that one sided account to accuse him of all sorts.
The ladies confidence has been knocked but now restored, if he's reading this lets hope his confidence hasn't been knocked by what's being said about him because it's odds on that if he started a thread about it he'd be told to man up and get on with it.
As I said earlier at least he made his comments privately, he hasn't been afforded that courtesy."
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
He's obviously got no class,takes himself too seriously and thinks too much of himself.
You probably have more about you then he does,keep on moving.
Why is he that way? Liking a sexually vocal woman is nothing more than a preference, would you like to be told you have no class because someone doesn't agree with one of your preferences?
I don't believe he should have told OP,that's the point really. It's clearly damaged her confidence I believe.
Yeah he has...especially as I didn't just lay on my back for the whole session. ..
Just because he has a dick, doesn't mean he has to be a dick. It is hard to block out these damages to confidence, but there's better people out there who will appreciate you as you are
He maybe didn't mean for it to sound like he was being a dick you've just all labelled him it regardless
Yep. We have one version of events and as ever many people are using that one sided account to accuse him of all sorts.
The ladies confidence has been knocked but now restored, if he's reading this lets hope his confidence hasn't been knocked by what's being said about him because it's odds on that if he started a thread about it he'd be told to man up and get on with it.
As I said earlier at least he made his comments privately, he hasn't been afforded that courtesy."
I have not named and shamed....I asked for people's views and advice as I'm still a newbie being single on here as was with a partner on here before ! |
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
He's obviously got no class,takes himself too seriously and thinks too much of himself.
You probably have more about you then he does,keep on moving.
Why is he that way? Liking a sexually vocal woman is nothing more than a preference, would you like to be told you have no class because someone doesn't agree with one of your preferences?
I don't believe he should have told OP,that's the point really. It's clearly damaged her confidence I believe.
That's fair enough then, but you need to appreciate he didn't and couldn't know she would feel that way, you can argue that common sense should have told him to be more sensitive, but not everyone has common sense so they have a way of putting their foot in their mouths
Make your mind up
I'd not changed my opinion I was merely saying he's arguing that the guy should have had more common sense. Not that I think he should of had it as I've made the fact it wouldn't knock my confidence to be told what the OP was
The guy never mentioned common sense though, you did.
That's true but I feel it was implied that's what he was saying"
Why was it? Ok if thats what you feel so maybe in your mind its common sense not to be insensitive after all? |
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Men like reassuring that you're enjoying yourself. Some women do without screaming the place down,I'm unfortunate that I can be very loud and get shushed. You can't please everyone so tell them you are quiet but you enjoyed it. I hate being told to talk during sex,nothing comes to mind if I'm told to do it. |
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
He's obviously got no class,takes himself too seriously and thinks too much of himself.
You probably have more about you then he does,keep on moving.
Why is he that way? Liking a sexually vocal woman is nothing more than a preference, would you like to be told you have no class because someone doesn't agree with one of your preferences?
I don't believe he should have told OP,that's the point really. It's clearly damaged her confidence I believe.
Yeah he has...especially as I didn't just lay on my back for the whole session. ..
Just because he has a dick, doesn't mean he has to be a dick. It is hard to block out these damages to confidence, but there's better people out there who will appreciate you as you are
He maybe didn't mean for it to sound like he was being a dick you've just all labelled him it regardless
Yep. We have one version of events and as ever many people are using that one sided account to accuse him of all sorts.
The ladies confidence has been knocked but now restored, if he's reading this lets hope his confidence hasn't been knocked by what's being said about him because it's odds on that if he started a thread about it he'd be told to man up and get on with it.
As I said earlier at least he made his comments privately, he hasn't been afforded that courtesy.
I have not named and shamed....I asked for people's views and advice as I'm still a newbie being single on here as was with a partner on here before !"
But he can recognise himself. The comments made by other people aren't your responsibility though but I do wish people would think before they make comments about others......as you've discovered. |
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It's not just during sex, I have a mate who'd hold court in the pub for half an hour, then go "is anyone else gonna speak?" And when put on the spot, none of us could think of a thing to say.
I love a screamer, lol, love the idea of the neighbours being able to hear (is that wrong?). |
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been thinking about this whilst ive ben out and about - and this says more about him than you - his insecurities probably - if you dont see him again at least you had a good time |
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"been thinking about this whilst ive ben out and about - and this says more about him than you - his insecurities probably - if you dont see him again at least you had a good time "
I did giggle that you was thinking about this while you was out n about...I hope I didn't distract you from what you was doing.
Thank you for your words xx |
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
He's obviously got no class,takes himself too seriously and thinks too much of himself.
You probably have more about you then he does,keep on moving.
Why is he that way? Liking a sexually vocal woman is nothing more than a preference, would you like to be told you have no class because someone doesn't agree with one of your preferences?
I don't believe he should have told OP,that's the point really. It's clearly damaged her confidence I believe.
That's fair enough then, but you need to appreciate he didn't and couldn't know she would feel that way, you can argue that common sense should have told him to be more sensitive, but not everyone has common sense so they have a way of putting their foot in their mouths
Make your mind up
I'd not changed my opinion I was merely saying he's arguing that the guy should have had more common sense. Not that I think he should of had it as I've made the fact it wouldn't knock my confidence to be told what the OP was
The guy never mentioned common sense though, you did.
That's true but I feel it was implied that's what he was saying
Why was it? Ok if thats what you feel so maybe in your mind its common sense not to be insensitive after all?"
No I still don't think he was being insensitive he's certainly being portrayed that way |
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
He's obviously got no class,takes himself too seriously and thinks too much of himself.
You probably have more about you then he does,keep on moving.
Why is he that way? Liking a sexually vocal woman is nothing more than a preference, would you like to be told you have no class because someone doesn't agree with one of your preferences?
I don't believe he should have told OP,that's the point really. It's clearly damaged her confidence I believe.
Yeah he has...especially as I didn't just lay on my back for the whole session. ..
Just because he has a dick, doesn't mean he has to be a dick. It is hard to block out these damages to confidence, but there's better people out there who will appreciate you as you are
He maybe didn't mean for it to sound like he was being a dick you've just all labelled him it regardless
Yep. We have one version of events and as ever many people are using that one sided account to accuse him of all sorts.
The ladies confidence has been knocked but now restored, if he's reading this lets hope his confidence hasn't been knocked by what's being said about him because it's odds on that if he started a thread about it he'd be told to man up and get on with it.
As I said earlier at least he made his comments privately, he hasn't been afforded that courtesy.
I have not named and shamed....I asked for people's views and advice as I'm still a newbie being single on here as was with a partner on here before !"
You don't need yo name and shame for him to read this and know it's about him, considering your username is showing |
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
He's obviously got no class,takes himself too seriously and thinks too much of himself.
You probably have more about you then he does,keep on moving.
Why is he that way? Liking a sexually vocal woman is nothing more than a preference, would you like to be told you have no class because someone doesn't agree with one of your preferences?
I don't believe he should have told OP,that's the point really. It's clearly damaged her confidence I believe.
That's fair enough then, but you need to appreciate he didn't and couldn't know she would feel that way, you can argue that common sense should have told him to be more sensitive, but not everyone has common sense so they have a way of putting their foot in their mouths
Make your mind up
I'd not changed my opinion I was merely saying he's arguing that the guy should have had more common sense. Not that I think he should of had it as I've made the fact it wouldn't knock my confidence to be told what the OP was
The guy never mentioned common sense though, you did.
That's true but I feel it was implied that's what he was saying
Why was it? Ok if thats what you feel so maybe in your mind its common sense not to be insensitive after all?
No I still don't think he was being insensitive he's certainly being portrayed that way "
But all the guy said was that he shouldn't have said anything to her. You are the only one who has mentioned common sense and being more sensitive and putting his foot in it. So that must have been what was going through your mind |
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
He's obviously got no class,takes himself too seriously and thinks too much of himself.
You probably have more about you then he does,keep on moving.
Why is he that way? Liking a sexually vocal woman is nothing more than a preference, would you like to be told you have no class because someone doesn't agree with one of your preferences?
I don't believe he should have told OP,that's the point really. It's clearly damaged her confidence I believe.
That's fair enough then, but you need to appreciate he didn't and couldn't know she would feel that way, you can argue that common sense should have told him to be more sensitive, but not everyone has common sense so they have a way of putting their foot in their mouths
Make your mind up
I'd not changed my opinion I was merely saying he's arguing that the guy should have had more common sense. Not that I think he should of had it as I've made the fact it wouldn't knock my confidence to be told what the OP was
The guy never mentioned common sense though, you did.
That's true but I feel it was implied that's what he was saying
Why was it? Ok if thats what you feel so maybe in your mind its common sense not to be insensitive after all?
No I still don't think he was being insensitive he's certainly being portrayed that way
But all the guy said was that he shouldn't have said anything to her. You are the only one who has mentioned common sense and being more sensitive and putting his foot in it. So that must have been what was going through your mind"
Why is it so hard for you to grasp I only said it as I thought is was implied. His opinion of common sense would differ to mine and others. Sorry you're having so much fun twisting everything I say but that says more about you than it does me, so cheerio |
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
He's obviously got no class,takes himself too seriously and thinks too much of himself.
You probably have more about you then he does,keep on moving.
Why is he that way? Liking a sexually vocal woman is nothing more than a preference, would you like to be told you have no class because someone doesn't agree with one of your preferences?
I don't believe he should have told OP,that's the point really. It's clearly damaged her confidence I believe.
That's fair enough then, but you need to appreciate he didn't and couldn't know she would feel that way, you can argue that common sense should have told him to be more sensitive, but not everyone has common sense so they have a way of putting their foot in their mouths
Make your mind up
I'd not changed my opinion I was merely saying he's arguing that the guy should have had more common sense. Not that I think he should of had it as I've made the fact it wouldn't knock my confidence to be told what the OP was
The guy never mentioned common sense though, you did.
That's true but I feel it was implied that's what he was saying
Why was it? Ok if thats what you feel so maybe in your mind its common sense not to be insensitive after all?
No I still don't think he was being insensitive he's certainly being portrayed that way
But all the guy said was that he shouldn't have said anything to her. You are the only one who has mentioned common sense and being more sensitive and putting his foot in it. So that must have been what was going through your mind
Why is it so hard for you to grasp I only said it as I thought is was implied. His opinion of common sense would differ to mine and others. Sorry you're having so much fun twisting everything I say but that says more about you than it does me, so cheerio "
Meant to add, if it wasn't implied in sure he can correct me for himself |
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Boys/girls. I'm at work lol. For me personally I think what he said was damaging to the OP. I think it's quite a cold thing to do,and if we read through all the comments again some agree and some don't.
That's the beauty of an active forum.....opinions.
This guy hasn't been damaged in any way,OP said she had a great time with him so he's done a good job.
OP has been upset on the other hand and I can see her point,she's Not auditioning to win the next Shagfactor.
It won't help OP by this guy saying she wasn't loud enough,she'll just ask questions of herself that really don't need answering.Behind that profile pic is a heart and soul,cherish it cos it's very real.
Oh and by the way OP i've noticed you've changed your profile pic and I'd like to let you know it's in the bank for when I get home |
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"I did enjoy myself and that's why I'm shocked that he's said I'm too quiet.....each to thier own but I would much rather be natural than try and get an Oscar for theb best screaming ...
First time anyone has ever complained so I guess that's why I'm upset over it xx
He's obviously got no class,takes himself too seriously and thinks too much of himself.
You probably have more about you then he does,keep on moving.
Why is he that way? Liking a sexually vocal woman is nothing more than a preference, would you like to be told you have no class because someone doesn't agree with one of your preferences?
I don't believe he should have told OP,that's the point really. It's clearly damaged her confidence I believe.
That's fair enough then, but you need to appreciate he didn't and couldn't know she would feel that way, you can argue that common sense should have told him to be more sensitive, but not everyone has common sense so they have a way of putting their foot in their mouths
Make your mind up
I'd not changed my opinion I was merely saying he's arguing that the guy should have had more common sense. Not that I think he should of had it as I've made the fact it wouldn't knock my confidence to be told what the OP was
The guy never mentioned common sense though, you did.
That's true but I feel it was implied that's what he was saying
Why was it? Ok if thats what you feel so maybe in your mind its common sense not to be insensitive after all?
No I still don't think he was being insensitive he's certainly being portrayed that way
But all the guy said was that he shouldn't have said anything to her. You are the only one who has mentioned common sense and being more sensitive and putting his foot in it. So that must have been what was going through your mind
Why is it so hard for you to grasp I only said it as I thought is was implied. His opinion of common sense would differ to mine and others. Sorry you're having so much fun twisting everything I say but that says more about you than it does me, so cheerio
Meant to add, if it wasn't implied in sure he can correct me for himself "
Maybe it was. And differs? I thought the clue to common sense was in the name.
And you think the guy who met the Op shouldnt have had common sense? Strange. But hey ho,
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OP you are not alone.
This reminds me of a meet we had a few years back where the lady was almost 'corpse' like. My man had to work a little harder as he wasn't being given any enjoyable signs. Although the lady said she had a great time it was very strange not to move or make a sound. We were advised it was all down to having young children at home and having to be quiet.
I wouldn't consider myself a screamer but I do tend to make my enjoyment known quite naturally.
We are all different. And we are not porn stars and actually I don't think any woman should be unnatural in her actions. Not all meets are going to create fireworks.
I would put my heels and lipstick on and move on.
Mrs xx |
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Funnily had a discussion with someone a few weeks ago about this , I always go by body movement and signs then vocal but then again a woman can fake both ...so unless she's honest to tell you ...you never know 100% ! Plus I would prefer a woman flat out tell me ...then i can work on brining to a genuine real Orgasm ! |
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You do it however you want to do it but for me, not a fan of anyone who goes deathly quiet during vanilla. Makes me feel like I'm servicing a corpse. Not fun.
I used to be quiet then realised I enjoyed it a lot more when I was a touch more breathy and vocal and let go. Not a screamer though.
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"Boys/girls. I'm at work lol. For me personally I think what he said was damaging to the OP. I think it's quite a cold thing to do,and if we read through all the comments again some agree and some don't.
That's the beauty of an active forum.....opinions.
This guy hasn't been damaged in any way,OP said she had a great time with him so he's done a good job.
OP has been upset on the other hand and I can see her point,she's Not auditioning to win the next Shagfactor.
It won't help OP by this guy saying she wasn't loud enough,she'll just ask questions of herself that really don't need answering.Behind that profile pic is a heart and soul,cherish it cos it's very real.
Oh and by the way OP i've noticed you've changed your profile pic and I'd like to let you know it's in the bank for when I get home "
Thank you .. I appreciate your view on this as yes I did not critise him I was asking views on the fact of noise in the bedroom etc x |
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over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
I am extremely quiet in the bedroom, but I assure you the bloke will know when I orgasm
Screamers can be very offputting when they're in a club, and all the blokes tend to crowd round, thus neglecting us quieter ladies. |
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