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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How many people are open about their swinging lifestyle when they go for a check up? I always feel like a naughty school kid and keep quiet (lie) when they ask about my activities!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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100% open and honest .
We go every six weeks and often say we have had 20 or more meets since last visit .
We say we enjoy rimming so get throat swabs every time . Got free hep a and hep b jabs .
And a free bag full of condoms every time  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"100% open and honest .
We go every six weeks and often say we have had 20 or more meets since last visit .
We say we enjoy rimming so get throat swabs every time . Got free hep a and hep b jabs .
And a free bag full of condoms every time "
Yeah, I always get the free condoms and lube!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are 100% honest and go every 6 weeks now. Used to go every 4 weeks when I was a regular gg but as we mostly play with less people now we feel every 6 weeks is sufficient. ..
There is no point being embarrassed or lying as they can't give you the right checks otherwise x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many people are open about their swinging lifestyle when they go for a check up? I always feel like a naughty school kid and keep quiet (lie) when they ask about my activities! "
I always tell them everything so that they can decide on the right tests to do. Not much point in going otherwise. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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There is no point being embarrassed or lying as they can't give you the right checks otherwise x "
I tell them all of the relevant information. Just don't mention swinging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is no point being embarrassed or lying as they can't give you the right checks otherwise x
I tell them all of the relevant information. Just don't mention swinging."
I do the same. Doesn't matter if I say I fucked 1 or 100 guys, they will give me the same tests. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is no point being embarrassed or lying as they can't give you the right checks otherwise x
I tell them all of the relevant information. Just don't mention swinging.
I do the same. Doesn't matter if I say I fucked 1 or 100 guys, they will give me the same tests. "
Mine give me more condoms if I'm honest and will give me a full check as opposed to a quick one.. |
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By *rmrsgyCouple
over a year ago
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"How many people are open about their swinging lifestyle when they go for a check up? I always feel like a naughty school kid and keep quiet (lie) when they ask about my activities! "
Love their face when you tell them you've played with others and your partner at the same time  |
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I'm delighted people have such a positive experience x
I have to say I've felt very humiated on one check up x
Was basically told off for playing with boys and girls x
Had a battery of tests - all in front of a group of Health students ..... And no free condoms ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm delighted people have such a positive experience x
I have to say I've felt very humiated on one check up x
Was basically told off for playing with boys and girls x
Had a battery of tests - all in front of a group of Health students ..... And no free condoms !"
Did you agree to the students being there? |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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There is no point being embarrassed or lying as they can't give you the right checks otherwise x
I tell them all of the relevant information. Just don't mention swinging.
I do the same. Doesn't matter if I say I fucked 1 or 100 guys, they will give me the same tests. "
I only got offered the hep B test once I fessed up to being a swinger. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is no point being embarrassed or lying as they can't give you the right checks otherwise x
I tell them all of the relevant information. Just don't mention swinging.
I do the same. Doesn't matter if I say I fucked 1 or 100 guys, they will give me the same tests.
I only got offered the hep B test once I fessed up to being a swinger."
Is that because you visit clubs? I can't see how saying you're a swinger or saying you meet lots of men regularly is different? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Once when I went I gave them a figure, but told them to check my website (no longer active) if they wanted an exact amount....  "
Lol !
On her second visit some years ago Sabrina did this , showed them on her phone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As others have said, much better to be honest and get the right tests done. Mind you, when I was asked the ages of my recent partners (25, 27, 30) I got a look of disbelief then she said "go girl" and we both burst out laughing! lol Was given extra condoms and lube on the strength of that  |
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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago
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I go every 12 weeks and they tell me off and say I should go 6 monthly. I told them of my lifestyle and that others go every 6 weeks also got hep jabs and my clinic won't give them. It's really frustrating me that my clinic seems to have a different outlook to everyone else. I only got level three tests because of a partner practising high risk behaviour so I demanded it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Totally honest.
No point lying about what I do or I could put myself and my playmates at risk because they missed something.
They are unshockable. In fact we have a bit of a laugh about my antics and they show a keen interest in where I go to play. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many people are open about their swinging lifestyle when they go for a check up? I always feel like a naughty school kid and keep quiet (lie) when they ask about my activities! "
There are 2 people in your life you never lie too......
Your lawyer and your doctor 
If either discloses your secrets. You can sue them and send them to jail. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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There is no point being embarrassed or lying as they can't give you the right checks otherwise x
I tell them all of the relevant information. Just don't mention swinging.
I do the same. Doesn't matter if I say I fucked 1 or 100 guys, they will give me the same tests.
I only got offered the hep B test once I fessed up to being a swinger.
Is that because you visit clubs? I can't see how saying you're a swinger or saying you meet lots of men regularly is different? "
They don't ask you to list them if you say you're a swinger. I got bored of lying and now just say 'loads' when they ask me how many guys I've had sex with in the previous 3 months. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"As others have said, much better to be honest and get the right tests done. Mind you, when I was asked the ages of my recent partners (25, 27, 30) I got a look of disbelief then she said "go girl" and we both burst out laughing! lol Was given extra condoms and lube on the strength of that "
One of the doctors who tested me asked about the local clubs. They know more than we give them credit for. |
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"How many people are open about their swinging lifestyle when they go for a check up? I always feel like a naughty school kid and keep quiet (lie) when they ask about my activities! "
I tell all (discreetly) unlike the noisy bloody university students all high fiving each other and grinning. I was the oldest there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is no point being embarrassed or lying as they can't give you the right checks otherwise x
I tell them all of the relevant information. Just don't mention swinging.
I do the same. Doesn't matter if I say I fucked 1 or 100 guys, they will give me the same tests.
I only got offered the hep B test once I fessed up to being a swinger.
Is that because you visit clubs? I can't see how saying you're a swinger or saying you meet lots of men regularly is different? "
I was offered it because I sleep with bisexual men. Which is why it's important to give the sexuality of your partners (and why it's important for people to be honest about their sexualities). |
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At the GUM clinic? Totally open, what's the point in going otherwise?
They've heard it all. When I first went, I was totally honest about my lifestyle. At the time I had a wife and two girlfriends - one of whom was also with my wife and we were considering becoming fluid bonded. I was regularly having sex with all three ladies as well as occasionally with others.
Honestly the nurse didn't bat an eyelid. She just wanted to know who I used condoms with, if I had anal with any of them, if I or any of my partners was sex worker or from certain parts of the world where hepatitis is rampant....then recommended various tests which I had.
Simples.
As for my GP, I don't think he knows but if it were relevant I would tell him. A medical professional cannot always make the correct diagnosis or recommend the right treatment if they don't know all the facts. |
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"I'm delighted people have such a positive experience x
I have to say I've felt very humiated on one check up x
Was basically told off for playing with boys and girls x
Had a battery of tests - all in front of a group of Health students ..... And no free condoms !
It's was strange - one moment I was speaking to the nurse / doctor - next it was like we have these students on placement- lets get you tested ! X
Did you agree to the students being there? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's best to be honest so they know the best tests for you
I don't go into full detail there's no need for that but I tell them I meet guys off the internet and use sex venues |
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"We tell them everything that is relevant ,they aren't judgemental in anyway give us full screening had the hep b vaccination and plenty of condoms given every time "
Did you get the rowdy undergraduates too?! |
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They have heard it all before ... its a bit like lying about how much you drink and smoke
Down to u in the end ....
They get paid to help you ...
If u don't want that help ... dont go to the clinic ... free up the time for someone who needs it .... simples |
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"I'm delighted people have such a positive experience x
I have to say I've felt very humiated on one check up x
Was basically told off for playing with boys and girls x
Had a battery of tests - all in front of a group of Health
students ..... And no free
condoms !"
Thats humiated for ya ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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100% honesty after all you want to get the correct screening tests and swabs done to check out everything I'm a nurse myself and we have heard it all before and not easily shocked, and we never judge anyone.clinic where I live runs twice a month by appointment only and unfortunately we don't hand out free condoms at the clinics or birth control pills like the good people in the uk clinics you've to see your own gp about that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many people are open about their swinging lifestyle when they go for a check up? I always feel like a naughty school kid and keep quiet (lie) when they ask about my activities!
There are 2 people in your life you never lie too......
Your lawyer and your doctor
If either discloses your secrets. You can sue them and send them to jail. "
.both of course can and are legally obligated to disclose your secrets if they will harm others though |
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"We tell them everything that is relevant ,they aren't judgemental in anyway give us full screening had the hep b vaccination and plenty of condoms given every time
Did you get the rowdy undergraduates too?! "
No Steve they save them for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Once i started swinging i told them everything and there is a difference to the things i got offered. I had the hep jabs done and get the full checks done not just swab ones if i want. Also mouth swabs and more than one bag of condoms,which is what they used to give me before.
Doll x |
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I was a bit hazy with the truth the first few times I went after I started swinging.
Then I had a particularly busy time and they asked who I had slept with since the last time and I had to come clean they offered me a throat swab and gave me loads of condoms.
It will be much easier to just give an estimate of numbers next time rather than wrack my brains for specific dates I have met people! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are always honest with the staff and I think they respect us more for being that way. We have had our hep B jabs and they swab every hole and take bloods. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like the dean street clinic all the swabs etc you want are done with the computer and then you do them yourself.
Just gotta answer the basic questions so they know what bloods to do for you
I will be on hep B booster vaccine number 6 soon :/
Seems it's just not taking for me only meant to take 3 |
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I think hubby got treated better than me so we tend to go together now.....although I got sent for bloods last time like he wouldn't tell them the truth in front of me....all a bit surreal in my opinion.
I guess it depends which nurse you see |
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I go every 6wks,got a free hep b jab, free condoms and got to know 2 of the nurses very well now, they always asking me questions lol
And one of receptionist used to b a mum at my son school!!! Lol
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think hubby got treated better than me so we tend to go together now.....although I got sent for bloods last time like he wouldn't tell them the truth in front of me....all a bit surreal in my opinion.
I guess it depends which nurse you see "
Medical staff are permanently on the watch for you being coerced into having certain things done. It's generally easier for them and you if you go on your own. |
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"I was a bit hazy with the truth the first few times I went after I started swinging.
Then I had a particularly busy time and they asked who I had slept with since the last time and I had to come clean they offered me a throat swab and gave me loads of condoms.
It will be much easier to just give an estimate of numbers next time rather than wrack my brains for specific dates I have met people!"
I jot dates down and names |
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"I was a bit hazy with the truth the first few times I went after I started swinging.
Then I had a particularly busy time and they asked who I had slept with since the last time and I had to come clean they offered me a throat swab and gave me loads of condoms.
It will be much easier to just give an estimate of numbers next time rather than wrack my brains for specific dates I have met people!
I jot dates down and names "
snap in my little pink book |
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"I was a bit hazy with the truth the first few times I went after I started swinging.
Then I had a particularly busy time and they asked who I had slept with since the last time and I had to come clean they offered me a throat swab and gave me loads of condoms.
It will be much easier to just give an estimate of numbers next time rather than wrack my brains for specific dates I have met people!
I jot dates down and names
snap in my little pink book"
I want a little pink book . I don't meet much though so I think it would be pretty empty |
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We go together and are 100% upfront. My Dr gave me a wry smile last time he asked how many partners. They don't judge, least we try and be resonsible and appreciate the risks as well as reducing chances of picking up and passing something on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As others have said, much better to be honest and get the right tests done. Mind you, when I was asked the ages of my recent partners (25, 27, 30) I got a look of disbelief then she said "go girl" and we both burst out laughing! lol Was given extra condoms and lube on the strength of that "
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"I was a bit hazy with the truth the first few times I went after I started swinging.
Then I had a particularly busy time and they asked who I had slept with since the last time and I had to come clean they offered me a throat swab and gave me loads of condoms.
It will be much easier to just give an estimate of numbers next time rather than wrack my brains for specific dates I have met people!
I jot dates down and names
snap in my little pink book
I want a little pink book . I don't meet much though so I think it would be pretty empty"
Oh I have a list and dates but I always forget to consult it before I go I do now put a note of the dates I go for checks though. I might create a spreadsheet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I tell them all of the relevant information. Just don't mention swinging."
Me too. I break it down how many weeks since last time, what kind of protection I used or not, and what type of physical and sexual contact I had, and so on.
But reading what someone posted above I'm almost jealous I have never been offered a throat swab or given a Hep B jab! Perhaps I should change what i tell them? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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But reading what someone posted above I'm almost jealous I have never been offered a throat swab or given a Hep B jab! Perhaps I should change what i tell them?"
I was thinking the same thing! Why the throat swab and Hep B jabs peeps? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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But reading what someone posted above I'm almost jealous I have never been offered a throat swab or given a Hep B jab! Perhaps I should change what i tell them?
I was thinking the same thing! Why the throat swab and Hep B jabs peeps?"
Tends to be more for bi/gay...I believe...I may be wrong
I told them I'd been with guys since I was last tested and they couldn't wait to get that first jab in me. Gotta go three more times now too
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By (user no longer on site)
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I was offered Hep B as I perform oral on guys. As the nurse pointed out, just because a guy says he is straight doesn't mean he is, especially as I was on a swingers site. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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But reading what someone posted above I'm almost jealous I have never been offered a throat swab or given a Hep B jab! Perhaps I should change what i tell them?
I was thinking the same thing! Why the throat swab and Hep B jabs peeps?"
Hep B, just in case. Throat swab because you can get chlamydia in your throat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was a bit hazy with the truth the first few times I went after I started swinging.
Then I had a particularly busy time and they asked who I had slept with since the last time and I had to come clean they offered me a throat swab and gave me loads of condoms.
It will be much easier to just give an estimate of numbers next time rather than wrack my brains for specific dates I have met people!
I jot dates down and names
snap in my little pink book
I want a little pink book . I don't meet much though so I think it would be pretty empty
Oh I have a list and dates but I always forget to consult it before I go I do now put a note of the dates I go for checks though. I might create a spreadsheet "
I have a spreadsheet, and before I go to the clinic I check in with my regular partners to see if they have had anyone high risk since their last 'all clear'. They keep their own spreadsheets too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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But reading what someone posted above I'm almost jealous I have never been offered a throat swab or given a Hep B jab! Perhaps I should change what i tell them?
I was thinking the same thing! Why the throat swab and Hep B jabs peeps?"
Oral sex, and sleeping with men who have sex with men. |
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By *BW100Couple
over a year ago
Suffolk/Norfolk border |
The clinic I go to is awful, they seperate men & women in different waiting rooms, they have female Indian doctors who all seem very shocked about a swinging lifestyle and the one I've seen a few times can't even say the words vaginal or anal, skirts round it & then chooses other words, it's laughable really but far from making you feel comfortable about going!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The clinic I go to is awful, they seperate men & women in different waiting rooms, they have female Indian doctors who all seem very shocked about a swinging lifestyle and the one I've seen a few times can't even say the words vaginal or anal, skirts round it & then chooses other words, it's laughable really but far from making you feel comfortable about going!! "
Hugs!! you defo get my sympathy for that, sounds extremely unlucky indeed! You'd think the clinic would be able to a little bit better than that.   |
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"The clinic I go to is awful, they seperate men & women in different waiting rooms, they have female Indian doctors who all seem very shocked about a swinging lifestyle and the one I've seen a few times can't even say the words vaginal or anal, skirts round it & then chooses other words, it's laughable really but far from making you feel comfortable about going!! "
Is that at the Paget? |
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Ive had some fun in these clinics, ive told them the truth throughout and been given advice and offered jabs, blood tests, swabs the lot. I love watching the medical students faces when i explain what i get up to!
And ive also spoken to a nurse, who asked if i go to one of the clubs up birmingham cuz she thinks she saw me there lol. Even they get up to it!! |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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"Ive had some fun in these clinics, ive told them the truth throughout and been given advice and offered jabs, blood tests, swabs the lot. I love watching the medical students faces when i explain what i get up to!
And ive also spoken to a nurse, who asked if i go to one of the clubs up birmingham cuz she thinks she saw me there lol. Even they get up to it!!"
Always tell everything but the GUM clinic nurse I know very well and I've slept with him a few times. Only thing I don't like is that you can hear what's being said in the next door room. |
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By *BW100Couple
over a year ago
Suffolk/Norfolk border |
"The clinic I go to is awful, they seperate men & women in different waiting rooms, they have female Indian doctors who all seem very shocked about a swinging lifestyle and the one I've seen a few times can't even say the words vaginal or anal, skirts round it & then chooses other words, it's laughable really but far from making you feel comfortable about going!!
Is that at the Paget?"
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