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Guilty Conscience?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hubby & I have been getting off over a certain guy that hit on me recently but he is not into the scene (as far as I know) nothing has happened with this guy and wondered if it morally right to play with him without him knowing that we swing (obviously hubby would not b there)
Yes I know there are plenty of guys on here to choose from but it is a turn on for us to play with a vanilla.
Were we live is a very small place therefore I don't want all and sundry to know our business that is why I wouldn't tell him... 
Should we have our fun???  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"does the guy know you are married.. if so and he goes into meeting you with his eyes open.. go for it.
if he doesn't, you shouldn't.
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Yes he knows am married |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"does the guy know you are married.. if so and he goes into meeting you with his eyes open.. go for it.
if he doesn't, you shouldn't.
Yes he knows am married "
then ENJOY  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's not mentioned so I'll assume he's not married or seeing anyone else either. Is that correct..?"
To be honest I am not sure - I know he has a teenage child I did not ask if he was married etc did not chat for very long |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"does the guy know you are married.. if so and he goes into meeting you with his eyes open.. go for it.
if he doesn't, you shouldn't.
Yes he knows am married
then ENJOY "
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"It's not mentioned so I'll assume he's not married or seeing anyone else either. Is that correct..?
To be honest I am not sure - I know he has a teenage child I did not ask if he was married etc did not chat for very long "
That would be the only thing on my mind... If it was me then I'd have no problems with the fact of him not knowing you're both swingers and thinking that you're simply having an affair with him, but if he had a partner who he was actually cheating on - as opposed to pretending to cheat on - then I think it becomes a lot less easy to swallow.
That's just my take on it. I know there are plenty of people on here who don't care about their meets' relationship status... I'm not being judgemental or anything, it's just that I'm not like that.
Hope that makes some sense. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's not mentioned so I'll assume he's not married or seeing anyone else either. Is that correct..?
To be honest I am not sure - I know he has a teenage child I did not ask if he was married etc did not chat for very long
That would be the only thing on my mind... If it was me then I'd have no problems with the fact of him not knowing you're both swingers and thinking that you're simply having an affair with him, but if he had a partner who he was actually cheating on - as opposed to pretending to cheat on - then I think it becomes a lot less easy to swallow.
That's just my take on it. I know there are plenty of people on here who don't care about their meets' relationship status... I'm not being judgemental or anything, it's just that I'm not like that.
Hope that makes some sense."
Yeh I see your point & maybe an idea to try to bring up the subject next time I see him  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I say go for it and have ur fun.
Only thing worrying me about it....is he wanting nsa with you?
Or are you going to have an awkward situation where he is going to fall for you, and think a full blown affair is on the cards??
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I say go for it and have ur fun.
Only thing worrying me about it....is he wanting nsa with you?
Or are you going to have an awkward situation where he is going to fall for you, and think a full blown affair is on the cards??
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Had not thought about that and I would say it is NSA before anything happened xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Does he know your husband knows? Not that it makes any difference I'm just curious. Quite exciting though! "
yes my hubby knows it turns him on a lot... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Does he know your husband knows? Not that it makes any difference I'm just curious. Quite exciting though!
yes my hubby knows it turns him on a lot... "
Lmao just re-read your post - no he does not know my hubby knows... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm tempted to say maybe you should tell him then he knows there is no chance of a full blown affair in that case....but then the naughty swinger in me says naah....just fuck him & have your fun lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does he know your husband knows? Not that it makes any difference I'm just curious. Quite exciting though!
yes my hubby knows it turns him on a lot...
Lmao just re-read your post - no he does not know my hubby knows... "
This could go tits up!
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Just remember.... some people flirt full-on with married people because they think they have the safety net of you saying no and just enjoy the flirting.
But if he's game, knows you are married and knows it's just nsa.... and you two are getting turned on by it... go for it. |
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I imagine your husband could have some real fun afterwards...
Imagine he bumps into the guy in the local pub or the corner shop. Your husband knows what happened, the other guy doesn't know that your hubby knows and your husband knows that the other guy doesn't know that he knows what happened - I think I got that round the right way.
If it was me I'd suddenly be really friendly with the guy, asking him all sorts of innocent questions... like when was he gonna find a nice girl and settle down? Or I'd invite him round to watch the football, saying that the wife will be there but that shouldn't bother him. It'd be even better if his job is something like a carpet fitter... I'd be asking him to pop round one day cause I'd got some stuff that needs laying in the bedroom. |
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one thing that worries me about this is the fact your youre worried about people knowing your business and that you swing ...what about that people find out you were (in their eyes ) cheating on youre hubby ?is that a worse thing to be gossiped about ???after all this guys single and free to do his own thing and as not a swinger not got one reason why hed not brag to his mates or anyone for that matter that hes slept with you . i know theres no garentees but at least if he was swinger to maybe hed want that aspect his private life kept private too. a single vanilla guys got absolutly nothing to loose with this situation ,you have .if you think its worth that risk then enjoy some hot steamy sex . personally id rather have equally streamy sex with a guy in the scene rather than play with fire with a vanilla but that is just my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I imagine your husband could have some real fun afterwards...
Imagine he bumps into the guy in the local pub or the corner shop. Your husband knows what happened, the other guy doesn't know that your hubby knows and your husband knows that the other guy doesn't know that he knows what happened - I think I got that round the right way.
If it was me I'd suddenly be really friendly with the guy, asking him all sorts of innocent questions... like when was he gonna find a nice girl and settle down? Or I'd invite him round to watch the football, saying that the wife will be there but that shouldn't bother him. It'd be even better if his job is something like a carpet fitter... I'd be asking him to pop round one day cause I'd got some stuff that needs laying in the bedroom."
lol mmm now that sounds like a lot of fun... and It just so happens that I would be in my bedroom getting changed when he "just happened to walk in" to see what needing laying... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"one thing that worries me about this is the fact your youre worried about people knowing your business and that you swing ...what about that people find out you were (in their eyes ) cheating on youre hubby ?is that a worse thing to be gossiped about ???after all this guys single and free to do his own thing and as not a swinger not got one reason why hed not brag to his mates or anyone for that matter that hes slept with you . i know theres no garentees but at least if he was swinger to maybe hed want that aspect his private life kept private too. a single vanilla guys got absolutly nothing to loose with this situation ,you have .if you think its worth that risk then enjoy some hot steamy sex . personally id rather have equally streamy sex with a guy in the scene rather than play with fire with a vanilla but that is just my opinion "
Yeh I see what your saying but none the less when I was chatting outside to him to be very honest I was picturing us going at it with his pants around his knee's and me sitting on it... that is the problem... lol
As far as gossip goes they only know one side of the story and that is their side at least it keeps them busy... lol |
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"yes they only know one side of the story its true .so whats difference if they know your a swinger then ?which your post states you didnt want folks to know ???"
That's a good point. When I was still with Mrs Carambar, towards the end of our relationship, we'd already agreed amongst ourselves to open it up. She pulled a bloke in the pub one night and went back to his... needless to say, the following morning he sent a text to all his mates saying he'd shagged her and how proud he was of doing it, yada yada yada. Because everyone knew we were married but didn't know about our "arrangement" she got labelled all sorts of things as a result, which was unfair because she wasn't doing anything that we hadn't discussed and agreed - but nobody else knew that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As everyone is having a laugh at his expense why not just paint twat across his head and have done with it ?
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Why who would be laughing?  it would only be us that knew and we'd be to busy fucking over it to find anything funny about it... |
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"As everyone is having a laugh at his expense why not just paint twat across his head and have done with it ?
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I don't see it as laughing at his expense... it's about whether he's made aware of the OP's choice of lifestyle, and the consensus seems to be that he doesn't need to know.
Neither scenario is "laughing at his expense". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If he's not fully in the know then he is the fall guy .....
He's not being told the husband knows so the situation is totally false. For him .....
But who cares about respecting others.....like I say ....... he's the twat in the game.
Not a particularly nice one as he doesn't seem to care about relationships .. but he's still in the dark. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Not a particularly nice one as he doesn't seem to care about relationships .. but he's still in the dark. "
Yeh fully agree with you there - I was quite shocked when he hit on me because of his profession (sounds silly I know...) he made it blatantly obvious and it turned me on..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How about you tell him "Look, I know you want sex with me, you know I want sex with you. My husband knows and if its just a one off shag is willing to turn a blind eye.. and lets face it neither of us are going to mention to anyone anyway, so what harm can come?"
Without blatantly telling him your lifestyle, all bases are covered!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Not a particularly nice one as he doesn't seem to care about relationships .. but he's still in the dark.
Yeh fully agree with you there - I was quite shocked when he hit on me because of his profession (sounds silly I know...) he made it blatantly obvious and it turned me on..
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Got to confess...... if it turned me on i'd go for it too. |
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