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Is this a normal request
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I dont normally play with couples but decided to do it as one of my tasks while my Master is away..
Now had lots of interest.. ( even with it having to be filmed and photos taken)
however, most couples want me to come over before for a drinkies and then assume I will be there for hours..
Now we regulary have 3sums the other way around.. ie me and 2 guys..and if that last an hour its a long session...
So is it normal to want a meet to last hours??? Even been asked to stop over twice today..
Katie. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some like quick play... some like hours of play... some like overnight fun... all pretty normal!
One thing you must be sure of is that you only play within your own boundaries and comfort zones.... I didn't need to tell you that xx |
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"I dont normally play with couples but decided to do it as one of my tasks while my Master is away..
Now had lots of interest.. ( even with it having to be filmed and photos taken)
however, most couples want me to come over before for a drinkies and then assume I will be there for hours..
Now we regulary have 3sums the other way around.. ie me and 2 guys..and if that last an hour its a long session...
So is it normal to want a meet to last hours??? Even been asked to stop over twice today..
Katie. x"
Our first meet was for six hours... I never know when to quit apparantly lol. I guess we are all different Katie. Mr S usually ends up kicking them out after a few hours. 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I just wondered if it was a difference for playing with a couple was all.. 
as I have only played with single guys for the past year.. and they are more than happy with social to see if we like one another..
Then the play session to be in, straight to it.. and bye and thanks very much after..
I was more wondering if it was just something that is different because its couples..
As I never do anything I am not happy with.. ( well unless its an order from Master lol )
Katie.x |
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"I just wondered if it was a difference for playing with a couple was all..
as I have only played with single guys for the past year.. and they are more than happy with social to see if we like one another..
Then the play session to be in, straight to it.. and bye and thanks very much after..
I was more wondering if it was just something that is different because its couples..
As I never do anything I am not happy with.. ( well unless its an order from Master lol )
Katie.x"
I think that couples are more likely to want to feel comfortable with you by taking a little get to know you time. (not all but some). We never play with anyone we dont know at all. Mr S is not comfortable with that. Single guys tend to be compliant (usually) to whatever a couple request and not so bothered about the social aspect if its not wanted. Yes, I think couples are different is my answer.
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Our meets last about 4 hours plus.
We don't just "rut". We like to have a chat, have a few drinks, take our time, and generally have a couple of sessions puctuated with drink, chocolates, and sexy fun chat.
For us THAT'S what we call a night!   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Our meets last about 4 hours plus.
We don't just "rut". We like to have a chat, have a few drinks, take our time, and generally have a couple of sessions puctuated with drink, chocolates, and sexy fun chat.
For us THAT'S what we call a night! "
I am permitted 2 hours for play sessions.. I always do a social before meeting anyone for play anyway.. but once it comes to play.. I hate the sitting around waiting.. I dont drink either..
Thinking that perhaps its my _iew on things that will make me very incompatible with couples..
Katie. x |
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Of cause its normal, same as wanting to walk in shag and go is normal. Different people do things different ways. What is not normal about someone wanting a drink first even if its not your thing.
For someone who wants exceptance for there "alternative" lifestyle you seem to find it worthy of putting a thread up if someone wants a drink first |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yer prolly getting mail from peeps into socialising as well as playing ..theres so much to do if its a bi meet s`well "
its to play with the lady as much as the guy.. but even so.. 2 hours would be plenty of time for everyone to get their fun.
I dont mind being social on social meets.. a playmeet is about playing..
Katie.x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yer prolly getting mail from peeps into socialising as well as playing ..theres so much to do if its a bi meet s`well
its to play with the lady as much as the guy.. but even so.. 2 hours would be plenty of time for everyone to get their fun.
I dont mind being social on social meets.. a playmeet is about playing..
Katie.x"
Lol ..yeah 2 hours sounds time enough eh ...tho we carry on way past that at times...time to clean up and refresh lol..
Guess theres lots of ways to skin a cat...we mee couples generally and its fairly normal to get offers to stay over ..have a party etc....
Bound to be a couple fer you ....we met a single bi fem, time was of the essence..and we jumped more or less into play..well thru the gals first glass of plonk....we found that kinda horny...somewhat outside of our normal vibe..
Wouldn`t worry about it ...theres deffo some couples that`l fit yer needs tehe |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some like quick play... some like hours of play... some like overnight fun... all pretty normal!
One thing you must be sure of is that you only play within your own boundaries and comfort zones.... I didn't need to tell you that xx"
*Nods in agreement*
Surprised you posted this Katie. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of cause its normal, same as wanting to walk in shag and go is normal. Different people do things different ways. What is not normal about someone wanting a drink first even if its not your thing.
For someone who wants exceptance for there "alternative" lifestyle you seem to find it worthy of putting a thread up if someone wants a drink first"
Agree...that's why this thread surprised me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Because I've never come across wanting a social before a play meet.. I mean a quick word before you go upstairs yes...
And I'm asking because its new to me... I do things differently and am asking to understand more.. was it just those couples.. is it just how it is... etc...
And I never expect acceptance.. my lifestyle and myself are who I am.. like it or hate it its me..
I like no strings fun.. I like in. Out.. quick chat while we all get changed etc and home..
I've not been or looked for couples before and want a better understanding..
Katie X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because I've never come across wanting a social before a play meet.. I mean a quick word before you go upstairs yes...
And I'm asking because its new to me... I do things differently and am asking to understand more.. was it just those couples.. is it just how it is... etc...
And I never expect acceptance.. my lifestyle and myself are who I am.. like it or hate it its me..
I like no strings fun.. I like in. Out.. quick chat while we all get changed etc and home..
I've not been or looked for couples before and want a better understanding..
Katie X "
I play differently from most, I would never meet a couple, not my thing but I know, just common sense and reading the forums that people do things differently: even my meets are different.
Therefore my surprise is you've asked if something as basic as length of meeting is "normal". Different strokes for different folks: do you really need to be told that? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm not talking a chat and drink before hand... it was more basically making a night of it..
I'm actually good friends with my playmates... but got asked over for dinner first.. and spend the evening before heading upstairs...
It was just that I'd been asked something similar by several couples now... and I refused because It's not for me... I thought the idea of the forum is to ask and discuss...
I know if we wanted a single bi female we wouldn't be sitting for hours talking. But diversity is key on here... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Sassy perhaps normal was not the Right word... I was more looking for insight as its new and different to me... as we tend evolve and try new things.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just tell the couples what yer after Katie....a good hard rogering with no frills please...
I`m sure some couples will love the thought....it was with us ...both ready to rock n roll....it was the anticipation of filthy sex, which she was gagging for..(evidenced by her pulling up her skirt and flashing her dripping puss..within a min of walking thru the door)that got our juices flowing..a bit like role play I guess!!
Some couples are very nervous...they take ages because they find it difficult to start...you`ll remove those inhibitions and well...yer know the rest..
Go fer it .. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you. I do always make it clear what I'm looking for... I guess I just need to find the Right ones....
I love to flirt and tease via text and email as a meet looms.... I just prefer to get straight to it And leave as soon after as I can...
Partly because after fun I'd not want to intrude as after we play that time after is the highlight...
Katie X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thats what we experienced....the gal was texting twice a day leading up to the meet...foreplay lol..
And if you said you wanted to leave straight after, with those reasons, we`d think that was cool and thoughtful...others will too! |
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Read this thread with interest, as we hadnt really given this much thought up until now.
When we did start to delve into what our "standard" meet was, we were flummoxed lol!
Shortest time for a meet, about half an hour at a guess, was with a friend, completely unplanned, one minute chatting, next minute kissing and then the girls were hard at it and it felt rude not to join in lol!
Longest time for a meet, about 12 hours, arranged to meet in a pub, chatted and had a few drinks, drove to our hotel, payed silly games with more chat, then the fun started and finally gave them a lift back after a late breakfast the next day!
Most "socialising" before the fun... about 4 hours, least "socialising", about 30 seconds lol!
I guess what I am trying to say is (apart from the fact we have reached the conclusion we are tarts!!) is that every meet is different, which for us is half the fun!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Our meets last about 4 hours plus.
We don't just "rut". We like to have a chat, have a few drinks, take our time, and generally have a couple of sessions puctuated with drink, chocolates, and sexy fun chat.
For us THAT'S what we call a night! "
SOUNDS VERY GOOD lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The meets we;very had last all night, last time we were still having fun at 7am the next morning. But we do like the social side so drinks, chatting and having a great time before anything sexy happens is very important to us x. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I play with couples be it male and female or 2 males, I expect it to go on much longer than an hour. Lets face it, one cannot explore 2 bodies in an hour  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When I play with couples be it male and female or 2 males, I expect it to go on much longer than an hour. Lets face it, one cannot explore 2 bodies in an hour "
LOl... I can take 8 men in that time.. but it is sure fucking to be fair... just sex no nice things.. I am permitted two hours for a meet with a couple. So should be plenty long enough. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"When I play with couples be it male and female or 2 males, I expect it to go on much longer than an hour. Lets face it, one cannot explore 2 bodies in an hour
LOl... I can take 8 men in that time.. but it is sure fucking to be fair... just sex no nice things.. I am permitted two hours for a meet with a couple. So should be plenty long enough. "
permitted 2 hours.. I kinda understand your master putting parameters on what you do... does this not show a disregard for the couple you are meeting.
obviously you will inform them at 1 hour and 59 min that they have 60 seconds left.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd agree with whoever above advised to specify what you want. Two hours for a meet sounds fine to us. We've had longer and shorter meets and they've all been good as we've gone with the flow. Good luck with your meet and let us know how it goes x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I do always let people know right at the start that I am always on limitations..
I mean when I play with single guys, they often dont even get to choose what they will do.. As if Master is directing on cam then he may say.."Stop, now do this.."
We do always make it clear.. in that I behave no differently to couples than single men.... First mail back checks they have read the little bits on my profile that state I am always on cam.. I always let people know how long I am available for too...
Thank you for the replies though.. it has made me feel a bit better about what I want.. and am sure that the right people will be out there.
And as to the comment on do I tell them when they have 1 min left.. I have actually before told a single guy he has 10 mins left....
Katie. x |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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Like a few have already posted, there is no "one size fits all" meet!
We tend to take the middle ground and make for about three to four hours max! What we have never understood is why couples arrange a meet and when the guests turn up, sit on webcam in a chat room till way gone midnight before that start to play! We won't meet later than 8pm and expect to have had our fun (sex or otherwise) by midnight. Any time after that, we would be sitting, cuddling, chatting and snogging.. More post play than foreplay
We also think that too many people are sucked in by the myth that foreplay should last hours! If it does, someone is doing something wrong! Perhaps that is why some meets last all night!!
(I will except parties from this... So many people, so little time...) |
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we didn't even think about time we just thought it will be over when it is over. I think thought patients will come with time for us.
we get a little ahead of our selves and go all in to the dirty act of foreplay and sex and sometimes a little lady loving (with any look from me (michelle) )
so when we read of meetings to go on hrs and hrs we were a little bit worried that we would be fast for some.
In the clubs though we are up and down from the play rooms and can meet a number of people on the way.
good look meeting couples they are as different as singles. |
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The difference with couples that are entertaining you in their own home is just that.. they see it as entertaining.. making an evening (or a night) of it.. its a bit like a dinner party of sorts.. even though it may be limited to mmf.. they may see you as the scumptious desert.. so will prefer drinks & chat as a prelude to the fun.. time will not be an issue to them.. assuming probably that you feel the same way.. though i am sure they would both understand and accept your time constraints so long as you have explained this up front.. ie. before the meet.. and made it clear how you would like the evening to progress.. that way couples who do not wish to meet on your terms can politely decline.. and you will not offend anybody.. everyone is happy.. whether meeting singles or couples i have always gone with the flow.. though i do tend to ask before any meet if there are any time constraints cos the last thing you want is someone visibly clock watching when you are (supposed to be) having fun.. if meeting katie as part of a couple i would have no problem with it myself but wouldn't like her springing it on me after she had arrived.. but 2 hours of beluga caviar should be enough for even the greediest fabbers surely.. lol.. |
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By *reyyaMan
over a year ago
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Couples...tsk...why can't they be like anyone else...why do some insist on all this rigmarole...probably because the couples themselves are not comfortable in their own skins in the swinging scene... |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"Couples...tsk...why can't they be like anyone else...why do some insist on all this rigmarole...probably because the couples themselves are not comfortable in their own skins in the swinging scene..."
'anyone else' as in who? the people who draw up at the door, start unzipping as they come up the path, drop them at the front door and shoot their whack before you get to the foot of the stairs...
and they have left the engine running the whole time..... |
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"Couples...tsk...why can't they be like anyone else...why do some insist on all this rigmarole...probably because the couples themselves are not comfortable in their own skins in the swinging scene..."
Because they play to their own rules....ie. what is comfortable for them?
How very dare they have their own preferences....damn their eyes! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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how long is a piece of string? We would not be into "timed" meets at all but do understand that sometimes peeps have other things in their life to get on with. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks to all..
I certainly would never meet someone without them being clear on my restraints.. same as Single guys know normally they have 45 mins.. The only person I dont limit my time with is Master..
I am always very clear about what I want.. I have actually since putting this thread have a few couples that love the control issue.. and am talking further with them..
Katie, with her Masters consent. |
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Firstly we are all different and that includes couples! People who enjoy the social side to swinging and like to get to know people they have sex with are just as comfortable with themselves and their life style as those who shoot and leave (some could argue more so)- reply to random post earlier! Everyone is free to post a question as it is indeed a good way to get the _iews of others who have different experiences from you. I know there are plenty of couples out there who do exactly what you are looking for and more that would be prepared to if you explained. Our meets have been very varied in time and social aspects. We are not stuck on one routine although rather enjoy social interaction first if there is time especially if it is a new friend (whom we have already met but not played with before). We have had whirlwind sexual rampages sometimes but must add that only with guys we know well. So, as usual I guess its horses for courses. Good luck with your new experiences Katie. I think you will find them interesting to say the least
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"Couples...tsk...why can't they be like anyone else...why do some insist on all this rigmarole...probably because the couples themselves are not comfortable in their own skins in the swinging scene..."
Sounds like you'd be better off having a wank than a meet!  |
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